u/Technical_Dirt_6126

Before saying therapy, not everyone can afford it. I just want to know from the people who lost, how did you cope? No matter how toxic they are, life surprises in ways. We never would have expected what comes and no one prepares us for that moment.

How did you deal with your toxic relatives? If parents are not transparent and financially irresponsible, if someone comes and starts fighting like your dad owe us (with/without proofs) how to deal.

I’ve learnt it early on that most of the people treat you well only when parents are around, whether you are young or grow up, their behaviour drastically changes in their absence or when they expire. Especially when a parent who’s been protecting from relatives expire everyone gets brutal.

The thing is, no matter how much you block them, avoid them and disregard them on other times, when your parent expire all those people come to see as per traditions and to be a part of rituals. How to deal??? That one moments fuks up sanity, you have no time to grieve, you are busy with rituals and responsibilities and then comes the mess with relatives who act extremely cold and do politics.

After everything, how to deal with grief? Only experiences and kind answers please. 🙏 Do not comment unnecessary hate and make it worse.

Please be kind 🙏
Before saying therapy, not everyone can afford it. I just want to know from the people who lost, how did you cope? No matter how toxic they are, life surprises in ways. We never would have expected what comes and no one prepares us for that moment.

How did you deal with your toxic relatives? If parents are not transparent and financially irresponsible, if someone comes and starts fighting like your dad owe us (with/without proofs) how to deal.

I’ve learnt it early on that most of the people treat you well only when parents are around, whether you are young or grow up, their behaviour drastically changes in their absence or when they expire. Especially when a parent who’s been protecting from relatives expire everyone gets brutal.

The thing is, no matter how much you block them, avoid them and disregard them on other times, when your parent expire all those people come to see as per traditions and to be a part of rituals. How to deal??? That one moments fuks up sanity, you have no time to grieve, you are busy with rituals and responsibilities and then comes the mess with relatives who act extremely cold and do politics.

After everything, how to deal with grief? Only experiences and kind answers please. 🙏 Do not comment unnecessary hate and make it worse.

Please be kind 🙏
Before saying therapy, not everyone can afford it. I just want to know from the people who lost, how did you cope? No matter how toxic they are, life surprises in ways.
We never would have expected what comes and no one prepares us for that moment.

How did you deal with your toxic relatives? If parents are not transparent and financially irresponsible, if someone comes and starts fighting like your dad owe us (with/ without proofs) how to deal.

I've learnt it early on that most of the people treat you well only when parents are around, whether you are young or grow up, their behaviour drastically changes in their absence or when they expire. Especially when a parent who's been protecting from relatives expire everyone gets brutal.

The thing is, no matter how much you block them, avoid them and disregard them on other times, when your parent expire all those people come to see as per traditions and to be a part of rituals. How to deal??? That one moments effs up sanity, you have no time to grieve, you are busy with rituals and responsibilities and then comes the mess with relatives who act extremely colo and do politics.

Also, cremate or bury? Do we have to pay for land if our tradition is about burying? Where to take n do that? Also, if you are a lone kid to the parents, how did you do everything by yourself?

After everything, how to deal with grief? Only experiences and kind answers please 🙏 Do not comment unnecessary hate and make it worse.

Please be kind🙏
Before saying therapy, not everyone can afford it. I just want to know from the people who lost, how did you cope? No matter how toxic they are, life surprises in ways.
We never would have expected what comes and no one prepares us for that moment.

How did you deal with your toxic relatives? If parents are not transparent and financially irresponsible, if someone comes and starts fighting like your dad owe us (with/ without proofs) how to deal.

I've learnt it early on that most of the people treat you well only when parents are around, whether you are young or grow up, their behaviour drastically changes in their absence or when they expire. Especially when a parent who's been protecting from relatives expire everyone gets brutal.

The thing is, no matter how much you block them, avoid them and disregard them on other times, when your parent expire all those people come to see as per traditions and to be a part of rituals. How to deal??? That one moments fuks up sanity, you have no time to grieve, you are busy with rituals and responsibilities and then comes the mess with relatives who act extremely colo and do politics.

After everything, how to deal with grief? Only experiences and kind answers please 🙏. Do not comment unnecessary hate and make it worse.

Please be kind 🙏
Before saying therapy, not everyone can afford it. I just want to know from the people who lost, how did you cope? No matter how toxic they are, life surprises in ways. We never would have expected what comes and no one prepares us for that moment.

How did you deal with your toxic relatives? If parents are not transparent and financially irresponsible, if someone comes and starts fighting like your dad owe us (with/without proofs) how to deal.

I’ve learnt it early on that most of the people treat you well only when parents are around, whether you are young or grow up, their behaviour drastically changes in their absence or when they expire. Especially when a parent who’s been protecting from relatives expire everyone gets brutal.

The thing is, no matter how much you block them, avoid them and disregard them on other times, when your parent expire all those people come to see as per traditions and to be a part of rituals. How to deal??? That one moments fuks up sanity, you have no time to grieve, you are busy with rituals and responsibilities and then comes the mess with relatives who act extremely cold and do politics.

After everything, how to deal with grief? Only experiences and kind answers please. 🙏 Do not comment unnecessary hate and make it worse.

My cousin Vikram (name changed) got married to a girl a few months ago, last November. She is trying to become an influencer and have like 10k followers for her dance and lip sync videos. Also she posts her family and friends on her stories. She’s a nice girl and they both fell in love and my cousin had to fight with his family to marry her, while her parents were kind of ok with it.

Also, backstory, she was dating my other (second) cousin and they broke up and she went for my first cousin and in 3 months of meeting they got engaged. That I found little weird but anyway, it’s up to them. Vikram is over the moon that finally he got to marry her and he keeps posting her on how strong she is and how inspired etc.

So basically she never posted him nor announced to anyone that she got married. It’s not that she doesn’t post people, she writes a big paragraphs for her friends and family.

Today, she posted something with a guy, which literally looked like a couple pic and wrote “Thank u so much being there - either it's good r bad, ur supporting me every time and ur my best crime partner.
And happily, I can share u anything without any fear.
Here's to many more adventures together! ❤️
Always yours, always here - your forever crime partner ❤️😍”, with I luv u sticker on photo.

His maasi msgd me seeing that pic saying if Vikram even matter to her and her IG just encourages male comments and followers and that’s why she is hiding on social media about marital status. Basically she posted things except for those which hints about her weddings or marital status. I was taking her side whenever people criticise her but today I was shocked when she shared those pics with this guy bestie and I’m not in a position to take her side further.

I’ve been feeling very depressed lately like I gave up on everything. I was a thin girl and I’ve gained a lot of weight as I shifted to a new city and started exploring food and no exercise and stuff. Now I’m unable to lose it. I’ve gained like 10 kgs in 18 months and when I checked my weight I was so depressed.

I tried to lose weight and I’m unable to keep up with consistency. I’m thinking a lot about food and cravings. All my medical test reposts are normal. I keep on diet for a while and then go back to eating out and snacking etc. it’s been so so hard that I closed myself inside a room and have been thinking like why am I existing and having such a shitty mindset.

My dresses size changed from S to M. I’ve gone from 63 kgs to 75kgs (two weeks ago) in 18 months and I’m scared to check my weight rn. Even to dress up I feel so ugly. My hands have all cellulite that makes me look all bulked up. I wanted to start walking but I’m highly demotivated n just sleep when time comes. I’m one useless piece of —— just living on this earth. 😭

I’ve been feeling very depressed lately like I gave up on everything. I was a thin girl and I’ve gained a lot of weight as I shifted to a new city and started exploring food and no exercise and stuff. Now I’m unable to lose it. I’ve gained like 10 kgs in 18 months and when I checked my weight I was so depressed.

I tried to lose weight and I’m unable to keep up with consistency. I’m thinking a lot about food and cravings. All my medical test reposts are normal. I keep on diet for a while and then go back to eating out and snacking etc. it’s been so so hard that I closed myself inside a room and have been thinking like why am I existing and having such a shitty mindset.

My dresses size changed from S to M. I’ve gone from 63 kgs to 75kgs (two weeks ago) in 18 months and I’m scared to check my weight rn. Even to dress up I feel so ugly. My hands have all cellulite that makes me look all bulked up. I wanted to start walking but I’m highly demotivated n just sleep when time comes. I’m one useless piece of —— just living on this earth. 😭

So, we shifted to a new society. A group of men in their 45-50 come and a couple of them moan a lot, like really really embarrassing bedroom kind of moaning which feel very weird.

In the previous gyms people make noises but never this strange or weird or personal. I see many people giggling and feeling uncomfortable but they never confront since he is a goon in the society. Like that uncle is elected president and he is very bad to people so no one dares to confront.

I live under the rock so I really don’t know if it’s normal. 😄

Hi, our house help has a very abusive and drunkard husband. He takes all her money and drinks all the time and abuses her and her children. She is a hard working woman and we really appreciates it. The thing is she takes too many leaves.

Every month they get 4 leaves in general. Besides she’s been talking almost half a month alternate month because once her husband was hospitalised, then her father expired, then her mother-in-law expired and then again her husband was hospitalised because of excessive drinking.

We understood that she’s going through very tough phases but it’s almost every alternate month. And other leaves are for their family gatherings and parties which doesn’t concern us. Recently in 9 months for the 4th time she again went on a 14 days long leave saying her husband is hospitalised and she was under a lot of distress. We understood that and went with a lot of food and snacks for her kids so that they don’t have to worry when she’s at hospital. She lives in a joint family but said no one takes care of kids.

Then yesterday without informing she just didn’t come. She wasn’t attending calls. Today she came back saying she already informed my husband (she didn’t) and he said ok. She was clearly taking advantage of us being considerate. Usually my husband takes care when she comes and he immediately drops me a msg (every-time) she says she’s going on leave. Probably she thought we would object if she informed prior and just went through blame game.

As much as I understand her problems, it’s been extremely inconvenient from the time we hired her and very uncertain. And we pay her 7k for sweeping, mopping and utensils cleaning as we live in a 3bhk duplex (good for two people). Whenever she doesn’t come we have to spend another 3k for hiring services. Whatever extra we give her and her kids are on us like we voluntarily give since she’s going through hardship.

It’s becoming more of inconvenience and when I confronted her she told our cook that we are ruthless and I’m mostly asleep when she comes and how would I know anything. (She was saying like my husband treats me well that he let’s me sleep but she has to work hard for her family, how would women like me know hardships of such people who has to earn for family). I don’t know if cook is cooking up stories but it hurt me.

We have been extremely considerate to her when other people fired her. But I’m conflicted if I should just fire her. Her husband is not well and if we fire it’s gonna be difficult for her right now. I’m conflicted.

One of my school friends visited me in 2024 November when I was staying in Bangalore. When she was leaving she didn’t bring any jacket so in emergency she asked me one on my bed, I said it’s my brother’s gift (he gave me his hoodie), but it was in the last minute as she was rushing I HAD to give her. Also, I made it clear to return it as soon as possible.

I kept nudging her, I had to leave the city and shift to another metro city due to my job. I sent her my address to send it to me. I asked her like 100 times I even scolded. She is just brushing it off like it’s nothing even after telling how important it is to me. I’m just hating the level of entitlement. It’s my mistake to give it to her after knowing the kind of person she is.

Recently one of my school friends met me and said the kind or rumours she spread on me. It’s breaking my heart that a friend from my childhood is doing all these out of jealousy. Idek why she is hateful towards me. I stood by her and even did as per my capacity when she had financial crisis. Even in school my father used to take care of her like a guardian. I’m not able to get over whatever she is up to.

Hi guys, I’m exploring some fashion advices for my guy who is 5,7”. Recently I discovered his style but I’m really not sure about the footwear. He wears white sneakers with most. But I’d like to explore some footwear and want to know if boots are fine wearing with corduroy pants.
I’m attaching images in comments since post is not allowing me. I want to know how can I style footwear for that combination and if the boots I share in images would look fine.