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Two days ago I’m tested positive for unplanned pregnancy (I’m married). The thing is, we never exclusively thought about kids. We are a carefree couple and my husband is very sweet and takes care of me very well. We have been the happiest. I never imagined or think about kids, but gradually when I see people having really hard time after having kids I started getting scared and my husband is on same page as me.

Now, suddenly we are clueless and had to cancel the trip we planned for next to next week since it’s positive. While we both are having mixed feelings, we realised from now on our lives are gonna revolve around the kid and started feeling anxious. Like I’ve been constantly crying and shivering in fear even in hospital that doctor asked if I’m married and fine with it. They scanned and it’s a very early pregnancy and it’s gonna take another a couple of weeks for scanning.

My husband and I started listing down the upcoming things like baby shower, our last trip as a couple, maternity photo shoot, then my sister’s wedding, and then delivery and then another trip before baby turns 6 months and honestly it’s been beyond overwhelming when I was listing out the things to buy to prepare for pregnancy and postpartum. I mean, the list is endless.

Sometimes I’m bursting out like am I gonna feel myself ever again? I’m so scared of labour pains and the whole procedure as I’m scared of even an injection. My husband is very supportive and he said whatever I say is the final call. I’m honestly felt nothing when I saw positive like how my cousin said she cried in tears for her test. Do I lack maternal instincts? I’m literally feeling nothing but sometimes just anxious. Is it normal? I’m clueless like is it only gonna get worse if I plan to have one?

Two days ago I’m tested positive for unplanned pregnancy (I’m married). The thing is, we never exclusively thought about kids. We are a carefree couple and my husband is very sweet and takes care of me very well. We have been the happiest. I never imagined or think about kids, but gradually when I see people having really hard time after having kids I started getting scared and my husband is on same page as me.

Now, suddenly we are clueless and had to cancel the trip we planned for next to next week since it’s positive. While we both are having mixed feelings, we realised from now on our lives are gonna revolve around the kid and started feeling anxious. Like I’ve been constantly crying and shivering in fear even in hospital that doctor asked if I’m married and fine with it. They scanned and it’s a very early pregnancy and it’s gonna take another a couple of weeks for scanning.

My husband and I started listing down the upcoming things like baby shower, our last trip as a couple, maternity photo shoot, then my sister’s wedding, and then delivery and then another trip before baby turns 6 months and honestly it’s been beyond overwhelming when I was listing out the things to buy to prepare for pregnancy and postpartum. I mean, the list is endless.

Sometimes I’m bursting out like am I gonna feel myself ever again? I’m so scared of labour pains and the whole procedure as I’m scared of even an injection. My husband is very supportive and he said whatever I say is the final call. I’m honestly felt nothing when I saw positive like how my cousin said she cried in tears for her test. Do I lack maternal instincts? I’m literally feeling nothing but sometimes just anxious. Is it normal? I’m clueless like is it only gonna get worse if I plan to have one.

Two days ago I’m tested positive for unplanned pregnancy (I’m married). The thing is, we never exclusively thought about kids. We are a carefree couple and my husband is very sweet and takes care of me very well. We have been the happiest. I never imagined or think about kids, but gradually when I see people having really hard time after having kids I started getting scared and my husband is on same page as me.

Now, suddenly we are clueless and had to cancel the trip we planned for next to next week since it’s positive. While we both are having mixed feelings, we realised from now on our lives are gonna revolve around the kid and started feeling anxious. Like I’ve been constantly crying and shivering in fear even in hospital that doctor asked if I’m married and fine with it. They scanned and it’s a very early pregnancy and it’s gonna take another a couple of weeks for scanning.

My husband and I started listing down the upcoming things like baby shower, our last trip as a couple, maternity photo shoot, then my sister’s wedding, and then delivery and then another trip before baby turns 6 months and honestly it’s been beyond overwhelming when I was listing out the things to buy to prepare for pregnancy and postpartum. I mean, the list is endless.

Sometimes I’m bursting out like am I gonna feel myself ever again? I’m so scared of labour pains and the whole procedure as I’m scared of even an injection. My husband is very supportive and he said whatever I say is the final call. I’m honestly felt nothing when I saw positive like how my cousin said she cried in tears for her test. Do I lack maternal instincts? I’m literally feeling nothing but sometimes just anxious. Is it normal? I’m clueless like is it only gonna get worse if I plan to have one?

Two days ago I’m tested positive for unplanned pregnancy (I’m married). The thing is, we never exclusively thought about kids. We are a carefree couple and my husband is very sweet and takes care of me very well. We have been the happiest. I never imagined or think about kids, but gradually when I see people having really hard time after having kids I started getting scared and my husband is on same page as me.

Now, suddenly we are clueless and had to cancel the trip we planned for next to next week since it’s positive. While we both are having mixed feelings, we realised from now on our lives are gonna revolve around the kid and started feeling anxious. Like I’ve been constantly crying and shivering in fear even in hospital that doctor asked if I’m married and fine with it. They scanned and it’s a very early pregnancy and it’s gonna take another a couple of weeks for scanning.

My husband and I started listing down the upcoming things like baby shower, our last trip as a couple, maternity photo shoot, then my sister’s wedding, and then delivery and then another trip before baby turns 6 months and honestly it’s been beyond overwhelming when I was listing out the things to buy to prepare for pregnancy and postpartum. I mean, the list is endless.

Sometimes I’m bursting out like am I gonna feel myself ever again? I’m so scared of labour pains and the whole procedure as I’m scared of even an injection. My husband is very supportive and he said whatever I say is the final call. I’m honestly felt nothing when I saw positive like how my cousin said she cried in tears for her test. Do I lack maternal instincts? I’m literally feeling nothing but sometimes just anxious. Is it normal? I’m clueless like is it only gonna get worse if I plan to have one?

Same as heading. Is it really useful or can we just manage with hot water?

Edit: Sorry for my absolute ignorance. I'm just tested positive n was just checking necessary things n remember someone saying it's useless or something.

So just wanted to make sure we make a check list of necessary things and exclude unnecessary ones. I have seen only my cousin from distance and haven’t been equipped with knowledge.
I’m just making a checklist of pregnancy n postpartum care. I just knew it is bottle clearer and as far as I know there was one feeding bottle when I visited my cousin and was wondering we needed a machine to clean that one bottle!!

Will do more research. Thank you!!!

Every other day I see posts from men looking for girls to hangout and what not, please introduce user flairs and ban them if they break the rules.

It became very often that some random men asking girls to hang out or go to movie and in comments people asking if it’s M or F and some posts are just men chatting here. Feels like this sub is losing its essence because of these people. Kindly look into it and please make it clear about the purpose of this sub 🙏

Dear moms,

I’m not a mom yet but curious about what you bought to put a sleeping baby.

I’ve seen my sister n cousins bought a crib for baby thinking about future, but baby doesn’t sleep in crib and all of them ended up co sleeping.

Also, there are high chances of baby’s hands/feet getting stuck in crib and they just jump out of it when they are big enough. Ultimately they ended up selling/giving away cribs n been co-sleeping with babies.

I saw a cradle which swings n with mosquito net, to put baby to sleep. I really liked it, but apparently we can use only till one n half n two years. Considering babies grow up super fast, is it worth buying?

Also, what bedding do you use for your babies n pros n cons of it. I’m really clueless and curious as well. Please educate me 🙏

Dear girls, idek what I’m feeling rn. Mixed feelings??? Idk!!! Half an hour ago I took the test and it showed positive. Two months ago I wasn’t even aware, when u took test n it showed positive and I had chemical preg..

Fast forward, it’s showing positive today and now it makes sense of why I was having nausea and other symptoms (it was unexpected).

I’m planning to take test in another 48 hours and then see a doctor. I HAVEN’T TOLD ANYONE YET 😄🥹

Idek how I’m gonna tell my husband. Like I’m still thinking like I want to surprise him than just going n informing causally (idk I’m not in my right mind right now 😃 so many thoughts, don’t know if it’s normal).

Please give ideas and when am I supposed to inform my close people like mom and best friends? Am I allowed to dance and exercise??

Please pardon me if I’m just blabbering some nonsense. Idk I just wanted some advices and share news here. Any suggestions? 😭

Hi, I heard about Toda village near Coonoor. When I check maps it’s showing only Toda temple which is near to Moddy’s Coonoor, but I’m still unsure about the village.

I’ve heard travellers and outsiders are not allowed but locals can give us tour by jeep. Also, I’m looking for something nice to visit like any hidden waterfalls or something with no crowed for a peaceful vacation.

Dear mods, I’m not able to find any info about Toda village. Please don’t remove my post 🙏

Today I had to go to some shop near JNTU, some shopping lane. While I was going, one man (nearly 50s) was standing on the side of the lane.

He looked at me and started making vulgar signs (something like showing tongue and licking kind of). I just froze for a while trying to process what just happened, meanwhile, my husband who was also with me saw it fortunately, went and held his collar, and he started saying in Telugu, “mimmalni kaadhu sir, naku pedaalu bagalevu anduku” blaw blaw blaw showing his lips (I’m not doing it at your sir, my lips aren’t well so I’m just doing so…).

Meanwhile I got back to my senses when he grabbed his collar, before my guy did anything I went n just hit him hard and said pora ikkadanunchi, chi n all, I pushed him away n moved on. It was so infuriating for both of us.

There was guy who was standing behind this harasser who was clueless, he asked n I just said he was showing his tongue n all. There were just some by-passers around n no crowd.

Ps: I didn’t slap him, I hit him on shoulder n pushed him away

Hi, I'm 30f, 5'7" and 74kgs.
I've thought of starting my fitness journey and just got 2kgs/5kgs dumbbells, kettlebells and basic homework out stuff. I'm very inconsistent.
One thing I have seen is, other people are lifting 5kgs dumbbells so easily where l'm at 2kgs dumbbells and when I try 5kgs it feels so heavy with one hand. And I go back to 2kgs ones. It feels concerning when I see others effortlessly doing bicep curls with 5kgs where I just can't.
Also, I had throat infection and felt weak yesterday, but I lifted 2kgs for exercise and I woke up with my shoulder and biceps hurting bad. I searched why n it showed when our body is fighting infection, it's advisable not to lift weights or do exercises. I wasn't aware and I strained my body.
How could I put up with this? Like once I get a gap I give up and to get back to exercise it takes a lot n lot of efforts for me.
What helped you to stay consistent and to switch to heavier weights?
Also, as I approached 30, I'm just anxious and scared for my health. I don't have any health issues and all my medical reports are normal. But I gained so much weight in past 2 years.

Hi, I’m 30f, 5’7” and 74kgs.
I’ve thought of starting my fitness journey and just got 2kgs/5kgs dumbbells, kettlebells and basic homework out stuff. I’m very inconsistent.

One thing I have seen is, other people are lifting 5kgs dumbbells so easily where I’m at 2kgs dumbbells and when I try 5kgs it feels so heavy with one hand. And I go back to 2kgs ones. It feels concerning when I see others effortlessly doing bicep curls with 5kgs where I just can’t.

Also, I had throat infection and felt weak yesterday, but I lifted 2kgs for exercise and I woke up with my shoulder and biceps hurting bad. I searched why n it showed when our body is fighting infection, it’s advisable not to lift weights or do exercises. I wasn’t aware and I strained my body.

How could I put up with this? Like once I get a gap I give up and to get back to exercise it takes a lot n lot of efforts for me.

What helped you to stay consistent and to switch to heavier weights?
Also, as I approached 30, I’m just anxious and scared for my health. I don’t have any health issues and all my medical reports are normal. But I gained so much weight in past 2 years.

My weight gain was because of age and my food habits, I go out n eat like crazy and no workout. Now I’m trying to control food and pick up workouts.

Dear girls, after Covid did anyone else’s cycle reduced from 5 days to 2-3 days? I came across a reel about this where a lot of girls commented under that post that it happened to them after Covid.

I get regular periods but cycle span reduced to 2-3 days and doctor said as long as we get every month it’s fine which is the case with me. Is anyone else facing the same?

Edit: To the people claiming it’s about age, I’ve come across teenagers n early 20s people claiming the same post Covid

Dear girls, after Covid did anyone else’s cycle reduced from 5 days to 2-3 days? I came across a reel about this where a lot of girls commented under that post that it happened to them after Covid.

I get regular periods but cycle span reduced to 2-3 days and doctor said as long as we get every month it’s fine which is the case with me. Is anyone else facing the same?

Edit: To the people claiming it’s about age, I’ve come across teenagers n early 20s people claiming the same post Covid. All my reports are normal (so as for other girls I know who is young through the same). Also it started in my mid 20s)

Dear girls who are saying it’s PMOS, it might be true for some people who are probably in late 30s but this is the case even with the people in 20s which is too early for menopause. I’m assuming it’s cause of vaccine as I heard many other side effects from others.

Please help me with the trip where I’m planning to visit Ooty in mid August. Is it safe to travel regarding monsoons?

Also, please recommend some tea estates to visit. Everywhere Moddy’s is mentioned. I’m planning to go there.

Is it recommended to stay in Ooty or Coonoor? My idea is a peaceful stay away from crowds and to visit hidden gems. If I stay in Coonoor, can I still have a walk in Ooty town at night?

Please help me with itinerary, dear Ooty people, for my peaceful stay 🙂

Hi, I have planned to visit Ooty and Munnar on a road trip from Telangana by car. I’ve been seeing landslides in Wayanad and it got me thinking if it’s safe to visit Ooty and Munnar in August as it’s monsoons.

Someone please guide me with it. Also, we are planning to skip famous tourist destinations and want to have a peaceful trip. It will be really helpful if someone could guide me with it 🙏

Hi, one of my school friends, we know each other for 25 years almost like from a very very young age. I’m a female and we studied together till our graduation and we had our ups and downs. I’m rarely in touch with her and we meet once in a couple of years maybe.

She says she doesn’t even think of me much except for I post my status and she reacts love to it now and then. From almost like college she’s been saying she sees me in her dreams sometimes vivid and sometimes random but I’m just there. She jokes like I’m her dream girl. Why does that happen? Even today she msgd me she saw me in her dreams and a couple of days ago the same happened.

Is it recommended to visit Ooty and Munnar in August first week?
Hi, I have planned to visit Ooty and Munnar on a road trip from Telangana by car. I've been seeing landslides in Wayanad and it got me thinking if it's safe to visit Ooty and Munnar in August as it's monsoons.
Someone please guide me with it. Also, we are planning to skip famous tourist destinations and want to have a peaceful trip. It will be really helpful if someone could guide me.

Is it recommended to visit Ooty and Munnar in August first week?
I have planned to visit Ooty and Munnar on a road trip from Telangana by car. I've been seeing landslides in Wayanad and it got me thinking if it's safe to visit Ooty and Munnar in August as it's monsoons.
Someone please guide me with it. Also, we are planning to skip famous tourist destinations and want to have a peaceful trip. It will be really helpful if someone could