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My girlfriend has a weird habit of saying tumhri g maar lungi , and I didn't like it at all bhout baar mana bhi Kiya still maani nhi and in a argument I also said ungli krti ho phir kehti ho g maar Li 😭 and I said it very sarcastically, she thinks I disrespected her
So,my brother in law is married to his wife for past 10years or more i guess,they have a kid and my brother in law have had his share of toxic/kinda risky relationships before marriage and then he got arranged marriage to his wife 10 years back
Recently this brother in law apparently did not come to the house for whole night and obviously wife has her doubts because he did not answer calls and somehow his parents got to know that he went to another city where he dated one of the students he taught before marriage when he worked as a professor(he is charming that way,looks good,but an asshole) and obviously his parents did not tell this to the wife and news travelled to us somehow and i eavesdropped my mothers conversation on phone but my mother and brother-in-law’s mother tried to cover it up saying that my brother in law is at our home that night
Wife kinda believed it ig and she came to our home few months later and casually asked my father if he is at our home that night,my father didn’t know what she was asking about but my mom covered it up
And then cut to few months later i heard that my brother in law thrashed his wife very hard whole day(idk why) and even threatened her parents too when asked about why he injured her
So,i waited for the correct time, few months later when she(wife) came to our home, she was talking about how loud his husband (my bil) snores,then i casually mentioned “oh,is it?idk,he never slept at our home right?
That was enough for her to connect the dots knowing his character and our parents wish to keep them together whatsoever
Now my mother kinda shouted at me saying why did you say that? And then again,she didn’t get super mad at me because she thinks i did this unknowingly,she didn’t see me eavesdropping their plan,she doesn’t know that i know the full story
But she gave me a whole lecture about how there will be another fight now because of me and i stopped fighting back with my mom because i realised there’s no point arguing with people who are only left with less than 10-15 years to live
My girlfriend 24/F and i 26/F have been together for a year and a couple months and we work together as well. Around month 3 i found her flirting with a coworker who is 33F with 2 children but i decided to stay. I created strict boundaries about her limiting contact with her and to keep it work related only. It was a struggle for a couple months bc the trust is broken. She didn’t have a problem with me going through her phone from time to time to ease my thoughts and fears and she was very open and didn’t care and told me to ask her any questions i was unsure about. She really did try and reassured me everyday. It was hard to let it go and we had a few more arguments involving that bc how can you claim to only want me if your attention turned so quick. 5 months later i felt that maybe we were in a better place in our trust because she was nonstop showing that her mistake wouldn’t ever happen again.
A little after my birthday, we have been together now for 10 months; i started to slowly fall into depression. My confidence was dwindling and i started being in my head more and overthinking about everything. Me and my mom stopped talking for a while which affected me and just made it worse. I struggle a bit mentally and it didn’t help that coming from a Hispanic home our culture struggles to admit that mental health is real so i would constantly question “are my feelings real? Am i just being dramatic? Etc..” and unfortunately it was taking a toll on our relationship because i wasn’t speaking up. I tried to act as normal as i can to try and pull myself out of it so i can be better for her but it just made her feel like i didn’t want to be in the relationship. My affection dwindled and i didn’t want to have sex as often. I wasn’t fully present and she doesn’t deserve that and how can i blame her when i didn’t communicate. It was like this for a couple months and i guess i realized it too late. She wanted to go on a break bc she feels like we’re more like roommates than partners and that felt like a bucket of ice water pouring on my face. She essentially wanted to be friends with benefits which threw me off bc why are you not wanting to hold the label of our relationship??? I was wondering if there was someone else and she told me multiple times there isn’t. I told her to give us one more chance. Give me at least a month to show her I’m serious about us and i opened up to her about my depression. She wanted time to think and came back and told me let’s give it a month. If the spark doesn’t come back we tried our best and that’s that. Her bringing up wanting to drop the relationship to be friends with benefits raised a bit of alarms in my head so the next morning while she was showering for work i decided to go through her phone and found her talking to her ex and her ex sending her provocative pictures and it felt like my heart was gutted. She got mad that i went through her phone which was also crazy because she’s not once had a problem with it and now all of a sudden it’s an issue???
Mind you her ex from what she told me was absolutely horrible. She didn’t care for my girlfriend’s sobriety and continued to take drugs infront of her. Never celebrated her sobriety. Has put hands on her and treated her like trash. She also worked with us so i met her and have almost gotten into fights with this person bc i was defending my girlfriend even before we were officially together. How can you allow that type of person back into your life ??? Why is it that when we’re in a rough patch you go look for attention elsewhere bc at this point you’ve cheated twice now after the first time you told me you don’t ever want to make me feel like that again. I do not blame her for feeling neglected that is 100% on me and will regret it for the rest of my life but i will not compete with another woman especially not an ex. She says that she wants to meet up with her to see if there’s anything there and it’s like what??? After a year+ of being with me you’re still unsure about your feelings for your ex??? AITAH for not understanding or even wanting that interaction to ever happen between them?? If she feels like there’s still something is she just going to come home and tell me “yeah i want to see where it goes with her I’m sorry” and I feel even more stupid for wanting to still stay. I’m scared that she won’t create a solid boundary with her ex if they decide to talk in person. What if they kiss or do more?? Her ex clearly sees that there’s still a crack in the door for her to wiggle back in.
I take full responsibility for my part in why our relationship is what it is now. I should’ve been an adult and spoke up about my depression and my struggle. It was never my intent to make her feel unwanted or that she’s just there. She got us permanent bracelets 2 months ago telling me we will work out our problems no matter what. Yet i feel like it was all a lie. I am not innocent in this at all i just didn’t expect it to be another cheating incident with her. How can i trust her again after this??? AITK????
I’m feeling incredibly shaken and honestly a bit depressed after an encounter yesterday.
Back in 2018, I matched with a guy on Tinder. We never had a real conversation, but we swapped info. I realized quickly he wasn't someone I wanted to know, so I blocked him on everything—phone, socials, the works. I haven't thought about him in years.
Fast forward to yesterday (July 2026). I was running errands in my neighborhood,when I got a call from a random number. It was him. He had spotted me in public, recognized me, and used a new number to bypass my blocks. He had the audacity to ask me on a date.
When I told him I am committed, he was incredibly rude about it.
I did some digging afterward and found his Instagram. He and his wife have a joint account where they post everything—from their wedding to their honeymoon in Thailand. It’s all "couple goals" and public displays of affection. Knowing that he is actively hunting down women from his past to ask for dates while maintaining this curated, happy marriage online makes my skin crawl.
So, AITK if I reach out to his wife and show her what her "so-called" husband is doing behind her back? Or should I just stay out of it to protect my own peace and safety?
TL;DR: A guy I blocked 8 years ago spotted me in public, called me from a burner number to ask me on a date, despite having been married since Dec 2025. I want to message his wife to expose him. Am I the kameena?
Pata hai aaj kya hua, So my ex left me after 4 years because he didn’t want to get married. He is a narcissist and has left me twice, make big promises, manipulates and gaslighted me into believing that he is going through trauma.
When I questioned him, why did he come back, was it only for physical intimacy? He said that- If I have problem I can do whatever I want….go to police or tell my parents, he doesn’t care.
So now, I have a lot of secrets of him from his workplace, he has done a lot of fraud, I know his manager, I have proofs. I can share those proofs to the HR, but it will impact his job and he might not be able to get another job.
Now, I am in Dilemma, should I reveal those to his company one more reason why I am thinking all this is that even after treating me like this and doing fraud with innocent people he is living his life, he has recently bought an Armani watch.
Im 25f,the day before yesterday, something happened that forced me to look at myself, my family, and my entire life.
There are three of us-two sisters and one brother-and I'm the eldest. Sometimes I joke that I'm the "defective piece" of the family, but lately it doesn't feel like a joke anymore.
Growing up, I was the golden child. I got good grades, teachers loved me, and my father's side of the family adored me. I spent my early childhood with my grandparents and my aunt, who practically raised me. My aunt had always been considered the "problem child" in the family—despite being given every opportunity, she struggled with relationships, fought with everyone around her, and eventually divorced before remarrying. For years, I heard comparisons between us, and today I fear I've become the person everyone always said I would.
My mother's experience in that joint family was very different from mine. She wasn't accepted or treated well by my father's family. As a child, I was too innocent to understand that. I would unknowingly tell my grandmother everything about my mother because I didn't realize the consequences. Looking back, I carry guilt for that.
When we moved to the city, it was just my parents, my siblings, my cousin, and me. My father worked away during the week, so my mother was left to manage everything. I was always a perfectionist. I wanted everything to be under control, and when it wasn't, I became angry. Somewhere along the way, anger became my default language.
My mother almost always defended my younger siblings during arguments. Whether I was right or wrong didn't seem to matter to me anymore. I felt she believed I was strong enough to handle everything because I'd always been the pampered eldest, while the younger two needed protection. That perception slowly turned into resentment. I grew up disliking my own mother, and our relationship became a cycle of arguments, shouting, and emotional distance.
When I was in 8th geade, I even raised my hand at her during an argument. I never hit her, but the fact that I reached that point still haunts me.
Now I'm 25. I've spent the last four years preparing for government exams, hoping that one day I'd become financially independent and leave this environment.
The day before yesterday, my younger brother kept teasing me as he often does. I teased him back. Things escalated. He became physically aggressive, grabbed and twisted my hands, and I fought back. When my mother came home, I told her what had happened. Before she even knew the full story, my cousin calmly said that I shouldn't be hitting my brother. The assumption was already made that I was the problem.
Something inside me snapped. I started shouting and abusing everyone because, in my mind, I already knew whose side would be taken.
Then something happened that I still can't process.
My 21-year-old younger brother hit me across the face.
My mother hit me too.
I was left with scratches and bruises, but what hurt more was realizing that I no longer feel safe in my own home.
Today, after the anger has settled, all I feel is shame.
I know I have made mistakes. I know the way I've treated my mother has been wrong at times. I had even started therapy because I genuinely wanted to heal our relationship. But now I don't know where to go from here.
I don't feel safe around my family anymore.
I don't feel safe around myself anymore.
I keep wondering whether I've really become the "defective piece" everyone compares me to.
I'm not writing this for sympathy or to blame anyone. I'm writing it because, for the first time in my life, I feel completely lost. I want to heal. I want to become someone I'm proud of. But today, I honestly don't know how and I have really become this detached adult who grew up for love and have become solekne who doesn't searches love now.
So recently, my college got over and now it's time to join a job. I graduated from a tier 1.5 college.
Due to my less gpa i got placed with a comparatively less package as compared to my friends. All my friends have a slightly better salary than me. It's like almost a 5k-20k difference between theirs and my salary.
Now I feel very weird ( maybe jealous ) about this feeling that everyone around me is doing better than me in terms of salary.
Am I being a jealous insecure person who feels like this?
( PS - It's not that I haven't tried to get a better job, I did actually try and even cracked one and even spend 4 months in the internship, but due to business constraints I wasn't offered PPO. The offer that they would have given was way better than every friend's current salary.)
I'm 24m, my 20yo brother who's chubby and never works out, drinks my whey protein everyday,
as a result, my protein is getting finished in 2x time. + I have a few supplements for collagen and multivitamins etc, wo bhi kha leta hai.
I workout everyday, 10-15k steps and I am trying to lose weight.
The thing that icks me is that his body dosn't need all this as he hasn't broken down his muscles by working out.
He's just chilling all day in his room, barely 2-3k steps a day. 0 workout and is getting more chubbier.
My mom would kill me if I were to say anything to him.
So to avoid that i bought unflavoured pea protein, which has the worst texture and taste, but I feel so bad for doing that, am i being petty? (ik pea protein is incomplete, me rice to khata thode thode methionine balance karne)
+ They order all types of junk food from Zomato everyday and make me eat that, if I don't my mom gets upset as if someone has done blackmagic on me 😭✌🏻
+ I have to drink regular milk tea with sugar which is our family tradition to have tea multiple times a day (easy 400-500 calories/day) I've seen my mom cry 😭 when i refuse to drink tea, and literally do that nazar utaro thing on me like bruhh
I really love my family but I want to live independently, i hope that i can earn money to to be able to afford to move out and live on my own in the near future.🕺🏻
-diva out 💅🏻
After my engagement both the families got into a fight and my husband’s relative told my husband leave that girl(without even thinking about my life afterwards) and we will search for any other match…. My husband was very sorry for what and how their family started the fight so we continued with the marriage later when I was pregnant the same asshole relative told some hideous things about me to my mother in law then my mother in law taunted me indirectly In a very ugly language
Now that Same relative’s daughter is getting married they got engaged shall I text her fiancé like she slept with almost 3 boys( I know I got nothing to do with body count… but it’s a big taboo in our family to have slept with others before the wedding… which will obviously lead into cancelling of the wedding) I get this sudden urges and also all the things that they kept doing to me was not at all normal I personally to the day think about what they did to me. It was very personal for me i spent days nights thinking about why they did that to me…. Because i was a girl not from their family? Or she is an outsider and we can treat how ever we want to? I wish he sees my messages and hopefully cancels the wedding
(After all the girl didn’t do any thing comments what if the girl too did something? She literally gossips about me to my own sister In law and my co sister…. She was the main culprit her parent told my mother in law about me when I was pregnant)
My wife and I had a child recently and the child is 10 months old, my wife had post partum complications due to which she had a full time maid and nanny ...
She set up a cute room for our baby and sleeps with the baby
She said the baby is a light sleeper and would wake up if my wife went to washroom or coughed or cleared throat...but she had to visit washroom multiple times
Due to this when she was freshly post partum...she would come to our room after the baby slept for 1-2 hours ... while the nanny remained in the baby room and also we monitored through live screen...and if the baby woke up she would go back to the baby
Soon our baby started sleeping 5-6 hours ..now she would come to me and my room after baby slept...with the nanny and turned on the monitor...she would watch the monitor every now and then ..but would go back to baby only when the baby woke up again and slept in our room for 5-6 hours ....i found it strange that the baby is sleeping there and she came to our room
Then now our baby is 11 months old and sleep 8+ hours at night
Now my wife sleeps some days with me full night and some days with baby .
If baby sleeps nicely then she will come in our room leaving the baby with the nanny and monitoring
She tells me that she still needs to go to washroom often and have habit of blabbering in sleep ...which startle the baby and the baby gets cranky
She is not breastfeeding either due to health related stuff
Her points are that -
Baby sleeps at 8 and we don't...we can't even whisper or talk or go to washroom with baby in same room cause baby will wake up
She wants a sleep training and routine for baby and thinks we should not change the room
She thinks it's fully safe cause nanny and continuous monitoring exist
She thinks she will wake the baby cause she would make noise unintentionally
My point is baby should sleep with us ...but she disagrees....I find it very strange ...but because I told her this so many times she started feeling I hate her presence in our room
Now she have started sleeping in another separate room and won't come back
This guy in my college asked me out we are friends for a while and he proposed me. He bought chocolates flowers earrings makeup and greeting card, which was a lovely gesture. Tbf i am not into him, i accepted his gifts but not his love. I took them cus i thought he would feel bad for getting rejected. Tbh i am not sure if this ok i really loved his gifts tho
My family is hindu and also heavily believe in astrology (Vastu Shastra, Patrika, numerology). I am 23M, and I have been telling them from a decade that I don't believe in astrology at all.
Whenever I start saying that I don't have faith in astrology and Hinduism, my mother gets sad and starts to cry. So, for her sake I have been wearing rings, doing rituals like visiting specific temple's on specific days, and what not.
Currently I am going through a bad phase emotionally, and now my family is like I have some issue in my patrika, which is the reason for my mental health issues. This needs to be corrected by doing a 3 day pooja in Nashik, Maharashtra.
They always say ultimately it's my decision, but whenever I say my opinion regarding religion and astrology, emotional blackmail starts from my mother and her side of relatives.
I believe that humans are so insignificantly small in this vast universe, that the constellations from the time and place of someone's birth can't tell their future, personality and behaviour. They always say that my future is already fixed by god and what not. They say they give me freedom.
Even though they hate my opinion and the girl I loved. My mother absolutely hated the girl I loved, just because she was north-eastern descent and had same views as me. Didn't even meet her, and already passed the judgement that she is bad.
I am not disrespecting any religion, but my parents gave me education. Education taught me to question these things, and I did. But didn't get satisfactory answers.
I 22F started talking to a guy , randomly ... And the vibe matched but we were flirting casually and this guy always gave me Casanova feelings to begin with lol and i was also enjoying talking to him..because after recently I got out of something I wanted a distraction and i already told him that we won't be serious right..and how I can't commit and he was also really cool guy.. which seemed like he also doesn't see anything..we usedto talk on calls the whole night lol..and full day texting and updating each other and things got intense..we started talking about intense emotional things too.. and he kinda started asking what r we..and then used to laugh ..that see how uncomfortable you get! Lol I was just testing or etc.. and suddenly I felt like it will never be over and we both have starting feeling things so better to cut all the strings and one day he kinda provoked me because of something and i was rude to him and I stopped taking to him and next day i realised and sent a text that I didn't like the way I talked yesterday I'm sorry take care and he didn't see and i called twice and he didn't pick up and since then it's been 20 days I didn't talk to him and we r in a no contact I've blocked him after waiting for few hours and AITK for abruptly cutting off the contact or smtg..because there's no future..and idk
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Me and her have planned to have a kid in frst year of marriage due to age factor....or start trying...
She have put forward a strict non negotiable that she will get pregnant and go through childbirth only when i ensure that she will have a very proper recovery....i agree with her but her demands around recovery sound unrealistic to me
She told me she wanna sleep with the baby and the nanny so nanny helps with the night duty and she can just supervise and sleep better....and if she feels like she needs sleep ...she will just leave the baby and nanny with camera monitoring and sleep better and supervise if needed or i anyone in family can take turns to supervise
She said she can look after the baby all the time but needs a live in nanny for 6 months to help with the baby ...she will take career break tho
She literally said she doesn't wanna wake up alone every night and hamper her recovery and want a nanny for full night duty so that she can sleep better if not full night but atleast sleep better
She wants the nanny to do the night time diaper changes and prepare milk (she cannot breastfeed for some other health issue) ..
I feel she is being unrealistic and missing out on attachment with the baby ....but she is adamant that for first 6 months nanny will do majority night durty so she gets better sleep
I cannot understand who leaves the baby with nanny at night just for sleep that too set up different rooms for her and baby ?......
I am just second feeling confused ..but i do love whe and she have been amazing with me
I (19F) broke up with my bf (21M) of almost 3 years right before starting a LDR (moving away for uni) with him because it concerned me that he is not as serious about his career as much I am.
Context: He and I were very sure about LDR and the future; we communicated about everything, and of course, it is still valid to have your fear as LDR is very difficult. He had his fears from his past relationships that distance is just not gonna work, but we assured each other many times and had gained a lot of trust for each other. Now my fear steps in, I knew for 2 years that he is not studying any UG courses, and yes, it took time to process that, as I feel in this economy basic education is necessary. But I let it go because he says he wants to have a offline business, which his family supports, so who was I to question anything? And then, a few months ago, I found out that he hasn't even completed his 12th (last year of high school), so yeahh it bothered me, and I kept looking for an explanation as "whyy??" (he did study his 12th but didn't actually complete it).
I am a person who not only dreams but also wants that life. I am an only child. I need to afford my parents, my life, a master's, dogs (that I wish to live with someday), travel, all this, and I just couldn't imagine my life actually with him now as I really think about it. What if the business doesn't turn out the way it's supposed to? There should be a second option, right? I did talk to him about trying to complete his 12th online and just take the exam, but he just doesn't tend to take me seriously and just gets upset.
After all this, I decided to break up. I went to his place to talk to him and end it. We talked, and I don't blame him for reacting the way he did; I mean, anyone would be shocked. At the end of the conversation, he asked to be clear if I still wanted to continue with this relationship. I just couldn't speak, but he needed a yes or no answer.
I said no.
Done.
Then he said, "I'll call my mum here, u owe her an explanation too" (I was close with his family). She came and had no idea why he and I were both crying. When he finally told her, she started crying too in shock. Asking me, "How could you do that to him?" "How could you just say no?" again and again and again. They didn't really understand my reason. Just saw the hatred in every single one of his family's eyes.
His family thinks I did very wrong (don't blame them)
My family thinks I did the right thing. Of course, it was hard, but it had to be done.
Now I don't know if I did the right thing or not. I know there is no going back, but I need to learn from this.
Was I wrong?
UPDATE: Just came to know about what his mother did when i came home after the breakup!!
His mother called my mum asking “Is there something wrong going on in your house?, \*my name\* came home angry today wanting to break up as she thinks she can’t do LDR”. My mum replied “I don’t know if anything is going on, she is just in her room” to that his mother said “Can u please figure out what happened to her and tell me about it”.
My mum had no idea about the breakup yet and she had to hear it from his mother! Omg! Then my mum just came to my room, saw the stuffs I gave him, back on my bed. She didn’t ask anything and just asked me to eat dinner and waited patiently for when I was ready to tell her about the break up.
I have a younger brother , and we've always had a pretty decent relationship. We weren't best friends, but we never had any major fights either. Growing up, I was always the "responsible" sibling while he was more outgoing and social.
A few months ago, he got engaged, and everyone in the family was really excited. I assumed I'd be one of his groomsmen because he's literally my only sibling. Instead, he chose five of his college friends. It stung, but I figured maybe he just wanted his closest friends there, so I didn't say anything.
A few weeks later, during a family dinner, one of his friends jokingly asked me if I was "still upset about getting rejected from the groomsmen team." I laughed it off and said I wasn't. Then he said, "Well, your brother said having you there would've ruined the vibe because you're too serious and awkward around people."
Everyone at the table went silent.
I honestly thought he was joking, but my brother didn't deny it. He just said something like, "I didn't mean it in a bad way. I just wanted people who'd match the energy."
I didn't argue at the dinner because our parents were there, but later I called him and asked if he really felt that way. He said yes, and that he didn't want to spend his wedding day worrying whether I'd "fit in" with his friends or participate in the dancing and drinking.
That really hurt. I've always shown up for him. I helped pay his coaching fees when he was preparing for exams because our parents were struggling financially at the time. I drove six hours to help him move cities when he got his first job. I've never asked for anything back.
I told him that if he genuinely saw me as someone who would "ruin the vibe" at his wedding, then I probably shouldn't attend at all. He called me dramatic and said I was making his wedding about myself.
Now my parents are furious with me. They say family is family, and that refusing to attend my own brother's wedding will create a permanent rift. My brother says I'm punishing him for being honest.
Some of my friends think I'm justified because it's not about being a groomsman, it's about learning that your own sibling is embarrassed by you. Others think I'm overreacting and should just attend as a guest.
So, am I the kameena?
Am I being unreasonable for feeling neglected during my boyfriend's bank training?
My boyfriend (21) and I (21 f) have been together for almost 8 years. He recently got selected for a bank job and was sent to Kochi for his induction and training from June 29 to July 3. He reached there on June 28, and he'll be joining his actual posting in another city of North india from July 6.
Before he left, everything between us was great. It was a sudden posting, so I even took medical leave from my college training to come back to our hometown and help him with shopping, documentation, packing, and everything else. I even filled out his registration form for the bank. We spent quality time together before he left, and his parents also requested that I be there for him emotionally since it was his first time going alone to another state.
The problem started after he reached Kochi.
His training runs from around 9:00 AM to 5:15 PM, and he gets back to the hotel around 6 PM. He usually calls me for 2-3 minutes, says he'll call later, but most of the time that call never happens. His explanation is that his roommates and the other trainees are always in the room talking and hanging out, so he doesn't get privacy. Apart from a good morning message, we barely text either.
I completely understand that he's busy, making new friends, and adjusting to a new environment. I genuinely don't want to be the clingy or selfish girlfriend who expects constant attention. But at the same time, I can't help feeling hurt because I feel like even 10 minutes of uninterrupted time isn't too much to ask after a whole day.
What hurts me more is that when I tell him I felt bad that he didn't call after saying he would, he simply says he was busy with the other boys and assumes I'll understand. He doesn't really acknowledge how it made me feel or apologize.
I don't want to make this week all about me because I know this is a huge milestone in his career, and I'm genuinely proud of him. But I also feel emotionally neglected after putting so much effort into supporting him before he left.
Am I expecting too much, or is it reasonable to want a little more communication and reassurance during a week like this? I'd really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who've gone through similar job training or long-distance situations.
I am sorry ots my first time asking for opinion..I refrain from doing so but it been very lonely for me.
I need some perspective on a situation that happened today between me (Peach), my boyfriend (Mango), and his father.
To give you some context: last year around June or July, my biological parents got into a massive argument over the phone with my boyfriend’s dad. Both sides were incredibly rude to each other. I honestly don't know who to believe because my parents are quite toxic—which is exactly why I am financially independent and no longer live with them. I later found out that my boyfriend's dad had actually called my parents after he had been drinking, but since I didn't hear the conversation with my own ears, I don't know the exact details. Despite this, both my boyfriend and his father blamed me for the entire fallout.
Cut to yesterday night: my boyfriend's dad told him, "If you want to marry, do not marry Peach."
Today, my boyfriend and I went shopping before heading over to his dad’s tattoo studio. During shopping, the mood was already ruined because whenever I asked for his opinion on something, he would reply rudely with, "Just get whatever you want, I don’t give a f***, I don’t care."
Once we got to the studio, it started raining heavily and the wind was blowing hard. My boyfriend has severe allergies, but he was sitting right by the open door playing Call of Duty. Out of genuine concern for his health, I asked him to move inside so his allergies wouldn't flare up. He snapped at me layout rudely, saying, "Just do whatever you want, look out for yourself (khud ka dekho)."
After that, he stopped playing his game and completely shut down, refusing to talk to me. I tried to keep things normal by chatting with his dad about how the business was going. At one point, I looked over at my boyfriend, and he snapped in a very aggressive tone, "Don’t look at me, bro." This deeply triggered and upset me.
Suddenly, he turned to his dad and said, "Why don't you tell her what you said to me last night?" His dad started smiling and tried to rewrite the story, claiming, "I didn’t say anything bad, I just told him not to rush into marriage and to think things through." But my boyfriend kept pushing, saying, "That’s not what you said. You claim you love her like a daughter, but now you don't have the guts to say what you actually told me? Say it, Dad." Finally, my boyfriend blurted out the truth: "My dad told me not to marry you, now or in the future, because of your family."
Even then, his dad tried to deflect, asking me, "Whom will you trust—me or Mango?"
I was completely disheartened. I didn’t choose the family I was born into. This argument happened over a year ago; there was absolutely no reason to bring it up again. What hurts the most is that I see his dad almost every day, we talk on the phone regularly, and I constantly help them manage their business and support them in any way I can. If he had such a massive issue with me, he could have told me directly instead of talking behind my back.
When I got visibly upset, his dad got angry at my boyfriend for revealing the conversation. My boyfriend then turned on me, saying, "This is exactly why I didn't want to tell you—because you're just going to cry, feel bad, and create a scene."
To avoid making a scene, I left the studio and walked outside. I cried alone in the pouring rain, and neither of them even bothered to come check on me. When I finally walked back inside, my boyfriend escalated things, saying, "You and your drama. Now my father is going to get drunk later and blame me because of you. I’ve had to sleep on the terrace so many times because of you." (For the record, I have never told his father to drink. I occasionally suggest he cut back for his health because he is getting older, but I always maintain my boundaries).
Eventually, his dad admitted to making the comment. He defended himself by saying he had even discussed the matter with his ex-wife (my boyfriend's mother, who cheated, divorced his dad, and treated my boyfriend terribly in the past, yet somehow gets a say in our relationship). He told me, "God sees my intentions; this wasn't said to hurt you. It was just a private talk between me and Mango."
To make matters worse, my boyfriend then tried to gaslight me by saying, "I was just joking about it at first, but you started crying and embarrassed us."
Feeling completely defeated, broken, and isolated, I actually ended up apologizing to both of them before leaving the studio and heading home. Am I really the bad guy here for being hurt?
I was so happy earlier today, I had gotten gifts for both my bf and his dad and I gave them and I was so happy because I love giving gifts to the people I love and care about and this is how I was treated
Used AI to frame it properly thankyou for whoever is reading this:)
TLDR - A year ago, my toxic parents and my boyfriend’s dad got into a bad phone argument. Even though I am financially independent and don't live with them, my boyfriend and his dad blamed me for the fallout.
Yesterday, his dad told him that he should never marry me because of my family. Today, after acting rude and distant all afternoon, my boyfriend intentionally forced his dad to admit this comment to my face. When I became heartbroken and started crying, they completely ignored my pain. Instead of comforting me, my boyfriend flipped the narrative, accusing me of creating "drama," blaming me for his dad's drinking habits, and gaslighting me until I felt so isolated that I actually ended up apologizing to them before leaving.
My friend, M 24. He’s ugly as fuck and working a 10 k job in a local firm, I am just friends with him for vibes and when I get bored, today we went to a college (that college looks hella expensive) where some program was going on, we went there because it was free entry with open for all, there was this girl (19 or 20) who was very attractive and way of his league, like she’s too good for her and even too good for anyone else as well, he told me he will go there and talk to her, I tried to warn her that she’s in a group and thing might escalate, he just said- shooter’s gonna shoot and he went there and I don’t know what he said and what magic he did, I was thinking he might get smacked today and they might beat the shit out of him, turn out in the next couple of hrs that girl came with us to his flat (1 BHK) and they locked the gate are doing tabad Tod make out (I could hear feeble noises and here I am sitting in the hall.
I am still wondering how did he pulled that because that guy is the perfect example of what one should not be.
I have been in an online situationship with a guy for the last 2-3 months. Both of us were lonely, so it was just a nice emotional support/someone to talk to. Both of us agreed from starting that it's just an online thing. We will go our separate ways if we find someone else as we are not each others type.
He wanted to gift me something as appreciation, and I said that IF you want to gift me something, THEN I want this kurti (1k not unreasonable prize). Instead, he showed me an earring he liked, I found them cute too, so I said okie.
Today, they arrived, and they are not the earrings. They are golden, where as the one I said yes to was silver, he changed it at the last minute because he thought it was better while knowing a very particular about my stuff.
So he wasted 700 rupees over me, over something I didn't even want or liked. The store doesn't have a return policy, so I am stuck with feeling like I am wrong for feeling pissed and should be grateful even though I never asked for any of it. And now I will just hear another one of my mom's "isske tho order he aate rehate hai".
HOW HARD IT IS TO LISTEN TO WHAT THE OTHER PERSON IS SAYING THEY WANT??
AMITK?
[I HAVE ALSO GIFTED HIM SOMETHING SO NO AM NOT A GOLD DIGGER LEACH, YES HE HAD GIFTED ME MORE SHIT, BECAUSE HE WANTED TO, I DIDN'T ASKED HIM TO DO ANYTHING FOR ME. WHATEVER HE DID, HE DID OUT OF HIS OWN WISH]