r/AmItheKameena

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Will try to keep it as short as i can.

Me and my gf have been dating since last 3 years. She is a good person, helpful with things and all. She has both male and female friends in a nutshell a decently social person too. Now we were discussing our pasts, i told her about mine and what have i done. She seemed fine with it then i asked her but she told me she only had one relationship of 2 years, but they had only kissed and nothing more. Not even makeout or french-kiss let alone sex. Now I have asked her couple of time that it doesn't matter to me if she has had anything. But she always goes like "oh i have been honest to you", "why do you ask me this again" , "i dont like this question" and will start crying.

When we started dating she used to follow her ex on insta (both normal and private/spam account) and so did he. Also i wasn't added to her private account till 2 months of dating. One fine day (around 1 yr into us dating) she posted some picture of her and he commented. I found this a bit odd and asked her if she's in contact with him(I'm a believer of no contact post breakups) , she said they are not in contact but casual hi hello if ever met. Like don't hate each other neither in contact. I expressed 2-3 times that I'm not comfortable with this, post that after almost 2-3 months she removed him which honestly made me feel not very good tbh as i had to tell her multiple times that I'm not comfortable.

Anyways post this things have been good, but i sometimes feel like I don't know her last relationship at all, feels like I'm unaware of her past, when I tell her this she tells me she had already told me everything as there was nothing. Idk tbh I'm confused. I do trust her but sometimes once in blue moon some part of my heart says she might be hiding something.

Also just fyi, she has never posted me on any of her socials even once lol

My (22,F) boyfriend threw accusations at me left & right that clubs are meant for hookups only and it shows what kind of mindset i have. So I am conflicted at this moment. Help me out.

I met my friend as a fresher at an IT company. She only approached me first and asked if i had found a place to stay as most freshers were from different regions. I was happy someone asked me to be their flatmate and instantly said yes to it.

After that, it was 6 to 7 years of being really close friends in the same city. We spent a lot of time together and there were few signs all along that she was selfish.. Like no time for the things i wanted to do but I would always be there for her hospital appointments or if she needs to go somewhere. But I never minded these things because I really thought of her as a family member..

Two years back, her parents got an arranged match and she got married. Even when she got engaged, I could clearly see that friendship was no longer her priority. She suddenly was writing all those cheesy lines and couple posts like he was the only one who ever was important and stuff. She had time for all that but no time to even call me and invite for her wedding, she just send the e-invite on WhatsApp.

I still let go of my ego and attended her wedding. Helped her throughout while she was getting ready with makeup or her meals, and also genuinely wished her well.

Post marriage, she was really busy. Late responses and call backs after 2-3 days. Slowly even that reduced. Only conversations happened when I pinged, and even that it was all about her life mostly. She ignored me multiple times when I messaged her and that really hurt me. Maybe it was not intentional to ignore and she was really busy maybe but truth is she did it.

So i realised her priorities are elsewhere and stopped talking. Yesterday, she called me out of nowhere after months. I said I don't want to talk and I said I was hurt the other few times when I was no longer treated like a close friend, and just a person of convenience. So i need time to forget and resume talking.

She started blaming me and accusing me. She's like she didn't know i stored all this poison for her in my mind. She said a lot of things, all pointing out how wrong I am but not once addressed the part where I was hurt because of her.

So i was done there. I said thanks for the lesson and bye. It doesn't matter now, and don't bother.

I feel light but somewhere also lost a friend who I have known for a decade now. So can't stop thinking if i did something wrong.

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My office group chat is active almost 24/7. Even after work hours, people keep sending messages, updates, memes, and random “quick questions.” It got to the point where my phone was buzzing late at night almost every day.

So I muted the group after office hours and now reply the next morning unless it’s something urgent. A coworker recently complained that I’m “unavailable” and not being a team player.

I still do my work properly, I just don’t want to be mentally connected to work all day. Is muting the chat unreasonable, or should people respect personal time more? AITK?

20F first time in ldr here.i didnt fight or even talk about this to him, and he is a great and affectionate guy. i think im being a bit too crazy.

he had unfollowed her few days back before going to the club and he went there for a college friend's party. now this girl i saw her stories and she was present there at the same day and she isnt even in his college and has no mutuals from my bf's college, i never asked my bf how does he know her and never mentioned her (but i had been stalking her profile for god knows what reason). my bf had video called me when he was drunk that day from the club's washroom and also told me how much he loved me and he drunk called me for the first time like this, is this all too fishy or im just overthinking, ive always trusted him but this time i feel a bit off. also that girl goes to clubs pretty often is this all just a coincidence, because i dont think so but i deal with massive anxiety and paranoia as ive been cheated on before as well, i know i shouldnt be comparing my past with present and im trying not to, but sometimes i cant help it, so i just need some opinions on this.

I know my friend from school days, thats like 25 years now. We have been very tight, stood by each other through many things. Over the years he has helped me few times with some problems, like one time I got bullied when I joined the Engineering college and in a scuffle 3 guys beat me, me friend got to know about that and 2 days later he took 10 guys and beat the living shit out of those guys, this was in 2008. Many a times he had come to airport to pick me up at 3AM and drop me at odd hours. Sometimes when I wasn't in the city he would visit my home to check on my parents. Likewise I have stood for him at each time, when his mom and later his dad passed away, I was the first one to reach his home and take care of everything while he was mourning. I helped him when he was down with covid and took all risks at that time to get oxygen cylinder for him.

Over the years I have lent him so much money that I can't even remember. 2 years ago, I bought a new bike and wasn't using my old bike anymore so he asked to borrow it for few days but haven't returned it yet. Since I wasn't going to use my old bike anymore, I never asked him back and he hasn't given a single penny for that either. Its gotten to the point that my parents and wife hate that aspect of him.

So 2 days ago his brother met with an accident and was in the hospital. My friend called me and asked for 40k, saying that his brother doesn't have insurance. I didn't think about it and sent 20K immediately. But since then he has been calling me and asking me to send the rest 20K. He promises to return the 40K in few days but based on his history I know he will not. I'm fine with loosing that 40K but my wife is totally against it and we have few financial commitments too. Its not like my friend doesn't have money, he has saved up to buy a car in the first week of June. My wife's argument is why does he get to save money to buy a car whereas we get to fund their medical expenses. Which is a fair point.

So my friend kept calling me despite me saying that I don't have money. At one point I also got frustrated and asked him that he could break his savings for the car as his brothers treatment is more important than the car and its not like 20K is going to set him back by many months. This kind of got escalated in a minor disappointment from his side and he started saying that I'm a selfish person to which I rebutted saying he shouldn't be the one talking about it. He cut the call and then sent a long voice message saying that if it weren't for him I would have been bullied all through the college and would have lead a miserable life. Don't know but that stuck a nerve and I just responded saying thanks for that. He then sent another voice message saying that I'm a thankless person. I also got frustrated and sent a voice message saying how much of a selfish person he has been for never considering things from my point of view and always borrowed money and never returned back. I know I shouldn't have but in a moment of frustration it got out. He said he never wants to talk to me ever. Now he isn't picking my calls since then. And since he is my only close friend I couldn't get it out of my head either. AITK for behaving that way?

My mom has three children: two daughters and one son. Recently, my brother, my mom, and I were casually joking that since his exams didn’t go too well, maybe he should just marry a rich family friend and move in with her parents.

My mom immediately said, “How can I send my son away to someone else’s house? I only have one son.” (“Ek hi toh beta hai mera.”)

What hurt me is that she never reacted this way when my sister and I got married and left home. There was never any sadness or resistance about us leaving. But the idea of her son moving away was suddenly unacceptable.

That comment genuinely stung. It made me wonder if she subconsciously sees her daughters as “less her children” than her son. We used to be extremely close and talked every day, but after that conversation, I just haven’t felt the same. I’ve reduced our calls to once a week, pretending I’m busy because I don’t know how to explain why I’m hurt.

Am I overreacting for being this affected by one comment?

I’m visiting my brother’s place with one of my close relative (maternal sis-in-law) and her son. While leaving the house, my uncle (her fil) gave her 3000/- in cash to spend on whatever. Now during our outing (we were hopping places, mostly temples), she wanted to buy some cookies but said she forgot to carry her wallet in her sling bag and asked me to pay for it saying she will return when we reach home. I said okay, now while I was paying for 4-5 packets of cookies, she said to buy some chocolates for her son too. After this, she again said to give her some change because her son wants something. I gave her some change but was pissed atp because who doesn’t even keep 50-100 change in her bag while travelling.

After this, I decided to just leave my purse in the car. She noticed this and asked my sis-in-law (she is 3 months pregnant, was not carrying any bag, only her phone) to pay for something via UPI. Everything done. Now, after we came back home, she started acting weird and even after a whole day passed, didn’t once mention about returning the money or even thank me (I won’t even take it from her considering it as a gift but at least I expected her to ask me once or at least thank me. Also I paid for her and her son’s tickets as well (my uncle gave her the money and asked her to give me the ticket’s amount but she never gave me). I’m really pissed off with her behaviour and have decided to never travel anywhere with her again. AITK for thinking like this considering she is my guest?

UPDATE- I got the money back (only of the cookies though, not the ticket prices). I’m happy though 🙃

I’ve had the same bestfriend since the 6th grade and we’re in our early 20s now.

We’ve both always been single but I’ve made peace with the fact that when a guy has to come, he’ll come but with her, she’s actively complaining about not having a bf, how her younger sister is set to be engaged so she feels even more weird, how she’s so lonely etc

So I told her go get on dating apps because clearly nothing else was working for.

For 2 whole weeks, I had to give her pep talk to even get on the apps because she was worried about a gazzilion reasons including how someone from her society might find her, how she could be judged… i had to sit with her and motivate her to live her life and not care.

Then she finally made an account. She’s been constantly contacting me about it ever since. I get a call at 9 AM like “should I tell him my actual college’s name because what if he stalks me and ruins my life?” and that goes on for 30 minutes. Then she sends screenshots of conversation with every guy and is like what do I say? Calls me when I’m in the middle of my internship to ask is it okay I let this pick me up from my hostel? Should I do this / do that? And I’ve to talk to her for hours about it

It got so exhausting for me and perhaps for the first time, I left her on delivered and watched the phone right without answering… it’s been 2 days but idk if I’m being the kamina? Because girls do share a lot of things with each other and ignoring a close friend is bad

Me (19F) and my (22M) boyfriend have been having recurring fights over social media boundaries and I genuinely can’t tell anymore if I’m being insensitive or if I’m getting tired of constantly managing his emotions.

The most recent issue happened because I made a somewhat thirsty/jokey comment under a random influencer’s post. To me it was unserious internet humor not actual flirting (obv) cuz i post quirky shi ALL THE TIME!! but he screenshotted it and sent it to me clearly upset. I deleted it immediately.

He also gets jealous over things that feel really normal to me. A few days ago we had a huge fight because I posted a completely normal picture with one of my guy friends on my Instagram story. There was nothing flirty about it at all but he accused me of posting it intentionally to make him jealous or upset. I apologized anyway because I didn’t want the fight to escalate. After that fight I got him flowers, cheesecake, and a stuffed toy because I felt guilty and wanted to make things better. Meanwhile now he’s ignoring my calls/texts over this influencer comment situation and honestly I’m starting to feel emotionally drained.

He has stated MULTIPLE times how he’s annoyed i have a life outside him “jokingly” whenever we hangout…

I understand that repeated behavior can hurt someone even if I don’t mean it seriously. At the same time, I’m getting frustrated because I feel like I’m constantly reassuring him apologizing, overexplaining and trying to calm his insecurities down. It’s starting to feel like I have to monitor every small thing I do so he doesn’t get upset.

19f here almost 20. My cousin sis 29f has baby 13 months old. If i am being very frank, i do not like him. Not the baby himself, but the duties and i have never found babies cute. First off i dont understand why the fuck should i look after him ?? He is not my kid right? Imo babies are attention seekers who need entertainment all of the times , why should i entertain your baby?? Please have kids only if you are aware of the duties that come along, yes its indeed a tiring job but i dont owe you shit. I am not responsible for your shit. Today that baby was grabbing my phone, i pulled my phone and said no. Mom comes and says nobody is there to entertain him looking at me and says i was rude? What the fuck does this woman think ? What should i do? Let him eat my phone? And entertain him? I think she is so entitled aitk. i generally dont like to interact with him and i have never found him cute tbh.

I’m a 20-year-old girl who used to be a topper academically, but I was forced into a profession my parents wanted rather than one I chose for myself. Over time, I started failing in it, and it completely shattered my confidence and sense of identity. A few months ago, I survived a suicide attempt because education was the only thing that ever made me feel capable or hopeful, and once that pillar collapsed, I felt trapped in a toxic household with no way out.

My family environment has always been emotionally draining. “Family time” often feels like everyone ganging up on me, criticizing or mocking me, and even family trips become stressful rather than comforting. Since my attempt, I’ve been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts daily. Even simple things like getting out of bed or pretending to function normally feel exhausting. I constantly have to fight internally just to keep myself alive.

Lately, my parents have been heavily criticizing me for not doing enough chores around the house. Both my parents work full-time, and we already have a maid who washes the vessels and handles most cleaning. The chores I usually do involve cleaning up the kitchen after meals, organizing leftovers into containers, putting them in the fridge, and setting things up for later use. Meanwhile, my 17-year-old brother does almost nothing. He leaves his plates behind, spends most of his time roaming around the house, watching shows, or pretending to study, and only occasionally helps if my father specifically yells at him. Yet I’m the one constantly being blamed because I’m older and because I’m a girl.

What hurts more is that my mental health struggles are dismissed as “drama” or laziness. I was never given proper psychological help because my parents believe I’m faking my depression, and after years of being gaslit, I’ve started doubting my own reality and feelings too. When I get yelled at over chores, it genuinely worsens my suicidal thoughts. I’m not trying to weaponize depression to avoid responsibilities, I know everyone has duties, but I’m already struggling to survive mentally while also trying to study and rebuild my life.

My parents are financially stable enough to hire extra help if needed, but they refuse because they want to save money for my future dowry, something I never even asked for. Ironically, they also use that against me and imply that I’m a burden who “eats for free.”

At this point, I genuinely can’t tell whether I’m in the wrong anymore. I’ve been emotionally manipulated and invalidated for so long that I’ve lost confidence in my own judgment. I want an honest perspective: am I actually being unreasonable, or am I reacting like someone who is severely burnt out, depressed, and emotionally overwhelmed? And if I am handling things badly, how can I cope with this situation in a healthier way?

Whenever we go out - dinners, concerts, cafés, even simple hangouts one of my friends records literally everything for social media. Half the time conversations get interrupted because we have to retake videos or wait for photos before eating.

Recently I told them I’d rather just enjoy the moment instead of turning every outing into content creation. They got offended and said I’m being boring and unsupportive.

I’m fine with a few pictures, but constantly filming everything gets exhausting. Was I being difficult, or are people too obsessed with documenting every second now? AITK?

I’m in a close friend group with 2 other guys. Recently, two of us got into relationships, while the third is still single.

Ever since I started dating my girlfriend, my friends have made it clear they don’t like her. Their main complaint is that I “don’t spend enough time with them anymore.” Before my relationship, I used to hang out with them almost daily. Now I still see them around twice a week, but apparently that’s not enough for them.

They also say I’ve “changed,” but honestly the changes are mostly positive. I got more focused, found a stable job, and started taking my future more seriously.

One incident especially bothered me. One of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend came with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and laughing at her answer. Meanwhile, he’s unemployed and financially dependent on his parents.

Despite all this, my girlfriend has never fought with them or disrespected them. She simply keeps her distance now.

They’ve also made passive-aggressive comments whenever I spend time with her. At one point, while I was literally on a trip with them, they were taunting me for planning another trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them has a birthday party this weekend. He invited me, the other friend, and the other friend’s girlfriend. The issue is that I already had plans booked with my girlfriend a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I told them I wouldn’t be able to come because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the party.

AITAH for refusing to cancel my plans? And WIBTA if I told them their behavior toward my girlfriend is a big reason I’ve been distancing myself?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

I come from a very middle-class background, and for a long time, I was jobless.

During that phase, I stayed at home and helped take care of my senior citizen parents. Both of them have health issues, and while I will not go into too many details, they do need support with medicines, appointments, day-to-day things, and emotional support.

Because I was unemployed, I was around them almost all the time. I could take them to doctors, help with small things at home, and generally be available whenever needed.

Now, after a long and difficult phase, I finally got a job. But the job is in a different city, so I will have to move out.

And honestly, I feel extremely guilty.

On one hand, I know I need this job. I need to become financially stable. I need to build my career. Coming from a middle-class family, I cannot afford to stay jobless forever or reject opportunities easily.

But on the other hand, I keep feeling like I am abandoning my parents when they need me the most. They are ageing, their health is not great, and emotionally also, I know my presence matters to them.

I am trying to arrange things before I leave, like medicine routines, doctor contacts, emergency support, and relatives/neighbours who can check in if needed. I will also keep sending money and visit whenever possible. But still, it feels like I am choosing my career over my duty as a son.

I am not moving out for fun, parties, or freedom. I am moving because I finally got a job after being jobless for a long time. But the guilt is eating me from inside.

So, AITK for moving to another city for work when my ailing senior citizen parents need me?

So basically there is a guy we meet in college he is a senior of mine. Around Feb he said he likes at first I told him all this is new for me I need time.And uss time pe mai nahi chahte the kise ko pata lage but that guy was being so obvious around people like he would stare at me whenever I was with my friends.After a point I felt that we were not connecting and honestly I realised I was not ready for the relationship. I told him my reasons and he said that it's okay ke uske feelings hai we can continue being friends still he was being so clingy. I tried conveying to him hundreds of times and still he would go to my friends to tell them that ke mai wait karta ho voh baat karne nahi aate. I was ready to talk to him in a friendly manner but he would send texts like aap aaj ache lag rahe the aap sundar lag rahe the and all that flirty shit.

It was draining me to talk to him so I decided to convey through my friend that someone from my family saw the texts because agar mai jaate voh guilt trip kar deta hai last time he said he couldn't meet his family because me like hello maine kya kiya.

Thank you if you have read my kahani till here 🙏🏻

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Its been 1 and half years since we have known each other. And yes, we met here on this subreddit AITK.

Long story short, I made a post previously through which we met. Our vibes matched instantly. It felt like we knew each other since forever. We talked everyday after that.

I was struggling that time. I had toxic friends, I was struggling academically, life felt suffocating… and whenever we used to talk, I used to feel safe and calm. He was going through some issues too. He had serious OCD related anxiety.

Usually I never talk to online friends for this long, but then we got attached. He used to say things like how we will end up together, marry someday, how we are meant to be etc.

We met in Aug 2025. He travelled 600 kms and I travelled 400 kms to meet him in Mumbai. I really fell for him.

But then my mom came to know that I met someone online and she asked me to stop talking to him. That was our on and off phase. But he kept convincing me how this can work out and everything. So eventually I went against my mom too and we started dating on 18 Sept.

The time we initially met, he told me that he used to flirt with some girl whom he also met on Reddit. And according to him it was nothing serious. They had some mutual understanding that they would stop talking if either of them started dating someone.

I agreed. But they still used to talk and we had multiple fights because of her, because he used to hide it from me a few times.

After around 8 months of dating, while he was showing me chats through screen recording, I saw texts where the girl was calling him baby, babu, saying I love you etc.

I completely lost it. I called him a cheater and everything. He later explained that those chats were before we officially started dating, during our on and off phase. He said he never said I love you back to her or anything.

But I was not able to process all this because during that same phase he was still trying to convince me to trust him and date him. He could have stopped her, yet he didn’t.

Still I gave him another chance and asked him to block the girl

Again after few days things got messed up. I broke up. But I was still attached to him so I kept texting him again and again 🤡.

Then later we talked again and ended the call saying I love you to each other.

And after few days again I found out that he had unblocked her and wished her happy birthday.

He cried and said sorry. He said “he didn’t know what he was doing”.

Now he doesn’t call or talk to me anymore. And idk why I have no self respect that I keep going back to him.

All I needed since the beginning was emotional support.

I have cried so much during some fights that my head, hands and feet literally went numb.

Call me stupid, but I really got manipulated by all the flowers, gifts, handwritten letters, long msgs and the way he used to handle my anger issues.

I genuinely thought I had found the right person for me.

Now its nothing. No efforts, no calls, no convincing. Just silence.

And whenever I try talking to him now, he starts talking about his own life problems and how he is mentally exhausted and has no energy left to convince me anymore.

Just wanted to share my story on the same subreddit where we initially met.

I (24F) dating my 24M bf since 4 years. We are dating to marry and our families know about us.

He says he puts me on the same level as his family members but I just feel the difference all the time. He never talk to me in front of them like if someone comes up to talk to him when I’m on the call he never tell them that I’m talking to my gf and we can talk later. Like we are in ldr and he lives with his family we talk like 1-2 hrs a day and if someone calls him and comes up to talk to him he expects me to wait but don’t ask others to wait.

When he came to meet me, his sister called him, he talked to her even though we were going somewhere and he was driving he couldn’t tell her that he is driving and will talk later whereas if it would have been me he would have told me that he will call me after some time.

On my birthday he gifted me AirPods and on his sister’s birthday too he gifted her AirPods. But the difference is that he gifted her the latest one and the expensive one and when it came to me he bought the cheapest one. Also he doesn’t even have good relation with his sister, he always cribs how she doesn’t give a fuck about him whereas he cares for her a lot

Are these red flags or I’m just thinking too much because he says that he loves me the most and everything.

These 3 days have been such a hell for me I can't even explain, So I have a friend let's name her X and other Y ,so X been in the same college as mine and we are in a hostel we have been friends since the 1st day we moved to this clg, in the first sem everything felt like a dream had 1more best friend & it felt like it would be same till the end...

But like everyone we had our Lil fights and misunderstandings ( not always Lil tho) but the thing was we always tried to sort it out and communicate except for X she never ever admites her mistakes whatsoever and lies multiple times .whenever I and my friend tried to confront her, she would say thats how she is, and she's always been this difficult because she has been through really bad times because of her father death

Now the thing is this went on for a really really long time, and she was difficult to handle day by day, everything depended on her mood if she was happy every one would be if she wasn't she would do things to make others feel bad, ( she's toxic ig) we had a joint insta id where we would post all our pics nd reels ( very pvt too ) we had taken a room together in 2nd yr and would post eachother funny pics some of them when we were sleeping, were in bra and shorts etc, it was clear that things like that would only be between us 3 but it wasn't she would show my pics to her guy friends and seniors even after me repeatedly saying no, she would talk about how my boobs shape and other such pvt. Things . I tried talking to her calmly sometimes with anger the answer i would get would be - if I take photos i would show them to the world otherwise I won't take any photos and I'll be off from the id , I tried explaining her that I have no problem with her taking pic but withe her showing to others and told her not to be extremely black and white, the answer get would be - my life is black and white that's how I am, she is a gaslight final boss, doesn't like when others do better than her and would do anything to get attention

I tried to distance myself from her, i never wanted to take room with her in 2nd year but Y really wanted to, i tried explaining her it would only ruin my friendship but had taken due to FOMO and also because she was a nice roommate of not a friend

3 days back I was talking to X, X & Y had a Lil argument on something and X was telling me about it I told her she should be more careful about it, and she was agreeing...I then told her that again had shown my pic to another girl ( she had stopped doing that so it was a bit of a improvement) she became a Lil hyper and said it was by mistake and she was showing something else

Now I very calmly said that it has happened a lot of time, she changed the topic and said she has too read a lot of things from our chat me & Y and I had written this exact line ( X apne papa ka rr karti hai ) now I know I should have never used those words and it was really wrong of me to do that but I was factually correct

I tried explaining her i didn't meant to disrespect her father in anyway and I used the wrong words but she used her father as an excuse

Now again not a really good combination of words but the thing is am tired of her explaining this with patience and calm she was already shouting at me which made me not think twice before saying this

Later that night I removed X from insta id changed the password and everything, when she got to know she made me remove all her pics...and Y was furious at me for doing that claiming it was our id for 3 of us ( i didn't really had a choice I can't keep my photos with her , although I do agree i should have removed myself and my pics...)

Everyone is throwing shit at me for what I said to her , and I did say sorry for my choice of words but not for what I said

I feel really depressed with what happened and how everyone feels am a pathetic person, but never ready to know how much I tried talking to her sorting things out

So please let me know if I was really wrong here with what I did and what should I do next because am really clueless and don't know who to talk about this without judgement

My boyfriend’s birthday is today and I really wanted to be the first person to wish him at 12. I was already on call with him before midnight and had even written something heartfelt that I wanted to read to him which I told him about.

But literally one minute before 12 he suddenly said his friend was calling and kept telling me to wish fast because he wanted to pick up her call. I felt really bad because I wasn’t even getting a proper moment with him. I just wanted a few minutes of his attention.

When I later told him it hurt my feelings he explained that this was a friend of 15 years calling him and she calls him every year and that he just wanted to get done with all the birthday wishes quickly. He also said that after talking to he came back to me and asked what I had written for him.

Now I’m confused whether I’m overreacting because technically he did come back and wanted to listen later or whether my feelings are valid because the moment itself felt rushed and unimportant. AITK for feeling hurt over this?