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It’s my husband’s first birthday after marriage everyone was celebrating his birthday for the first time in “years”cause it’s first birthday after his wedding

So it’s time to cut the cake and I was happily singing happy birthday then he cut his cake and I was standing next to him but the first bite goes to his “sister” (mother okay I can understand cause she gave him birth but she was absent at that time,but sister????) the second hand embarrassment I went through was insane…… ( his sister is like no matter who comes into our lives we are sister and brother first)

After everything is done I asked him privately why didn’t you think of me for first bite? I felt very ugly everyone would think that I would come second like I’m not your first priority ( indirectly you wouldn’t like me as much to put that first bite)

Then he was like I know that I love you we both knows how much we love , why should everyone know? Why should I showcase in front of everyone? Why would you think about others?
I was like then why showcase your sister and brother love in front of everyone? Why did your sister feelings come first? I want to know I’m I wrong here? And how to put it in a one good sentence to tell him I’m genuinely hurt here without making it all about Me?

My mil’s sister supports my co sister so much that she whenever gets a chance praises her compare me with her and I feel so bad ( my husband knows everything and still talk to her like nothing happened) I cry still of no use… his cousin(my mil’s sister’s daughter) comes home will not even greet me despite me talking to her and he still helps her with job search and all
How to cope up with these situations

I ducking hate my husband’s mentality… he is coward..dumb I don’t know how to express the anger I’m going through
He in-front of his family behaves like I’m not his number one priority whenever there is something wrong about his actions that I don’t like he be like we both know who is my number one priority then why should everyone know about it? For example (After marriage my husband’s birthday came up and everyone made it a celebration…. So we were all on terrace cutting cake and the first bite goes to his sister… I was shocked as hell and when all is done I asked him why you didn’t give me the first bite… then I told him everyone would think that you don’t love me as much….. then his answer is we both knows who I love first then why should everyone’s opinion matters) this rage baited me so much to this day i think about this shit
His mother and sister treats him like shit uses him for only his money and they control so much(the minute anything is going out of their hands they argue/shout on top of their lungs) they are witches he knows everything about them still he listens everything they tell him to do… and he be nice to them even though they only use him as a puppet
Recently my mil sil and my mother in law’s sister they all came home to argue with me because how I wasn’t being controlled by mil and sil….. my husband a spineless idiot sat through the whole argument when I was being questioned and blaming me with lies(even he knows her sister is lying) but kept his mouth shut I died that day knowing why I’m being treated like this… then I went to my moms place came back 10 days later then he decided we go to a different city to live(we live with in laws) because he didn’t like how they blamed me and also hownthey blamed him…. This even rage baited and also made me happy(that I can live separately) why can’t this spineless man speak up???????? Why should we go to a different city? How do deal with this situations? I like my husband a lot but experiencing shit like this makes me hate him a little by little day by day

After my engagement both the families got into a fight and my husband’s relative told my husband leave that girl(without even thinking about my life afterwards) and we will search for any other match…. My husband was very sorry for what and how their family started the fight so we continued with the marriage later when I was pregnant the same asshole relative told some hideous things about me to my mother in law then my mother in law taunted me indirectly In a very ugly language
Now that Same relative’s daughter is getting married they got engaged shall I text her fiancé like she slept with almost 3 boys( I know I got nothing to do with body count… but it’s a big taboo in our family to have slept with others before the wedding… which will obviously lead into cancelling of the wedding) I get this sudden urges and also all the things that they kept doing to me was not at all normal I personally to the day think about what they did to me. It was very personal for me i spent days nights thinking about why they did that to me…. Because i was a girl not from their family? Or she is an outsider and we can treat how ever we want to? I wish he sees my messages and hopefully cancels the wedding
(After all the girl didn’t do any thing comments what if the girl too did something? She literally gossips about me to my own sister In law and my co sister…. She was the main culprit her parent told my mother in law about me when I was pregnant)

Have around 50 lakhs where to invest(land) in Hyderabad.
Future purpose kosam can wait 5 years manchiga click avthadhi ante.
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My husband talks to his female colleague closely…..
Work from job ey naaku vinpisthadhi call but naaku chaala badha ga untadhi thanatho ala navvukuntu matladuthunte… they talk not only about work but everything…. Edhi normal ah ledha nen yekva alochisthunnana?

When I try telling him anything like don’t talk to them I don’t like it he will do it without telling me

Any couple who are really considering one and done with their kids? How is your life going….. would you consider another kid in the future or stick to one exclusively?