r/ask_Bondha

Andaru epudo okapudu oka account delete CHESI, malli create chese untaru.

So what made you delete that old account.

My reason: Nen kotha lo teilka real name tho userid create chesa, so deleted it.

( I made a post regarding the same yesterday and deleted it soon, as I realised I'd structured it in a way it's getting more black/white response. So i thought i would give a better picture for more thought through judgements)

My sister is getting married next month through an AM setup.While he didn't tick every box we initially had in mind( a own house, a relatively high paying job and assets) he and the family seemed progressive, kind and respectful and my sister really values those aspects more than anything, so we decided to side them aside and went ahead with the match. We had decided on dowry (a major of portion which is gold and the rest is cash). But , after the engagement their demands are only getting slightly annyoing ( they asked us 50/50 in marriage which we denyed upfront (mind you this iss after engagement), and in a recent event where my mom visited the mother and their relative imposed a whole of "traditions and customs" we should follow and it's conveyed in a pretty demeaning manner. We already went over but board with our budget and the mother is still expecting us to go a little further and one of their relative even made a crass comment saying " aadapilla ammailu pelli annaka, appu aina cheyalisi vasthadi budget ki minchi velatam common eh " and some more. So, my mom agreed to a part of their demands and called it a day and returned.

When my mother discussed this with us, we asked mom to make it clear that we don't tolerate this shii and they're free call off the engagement. Cut short the mother apologised and half heartedly promised that she wouldn't make any demands and that whatever demands she made were only because she didn't know any better and were mostly influenced by the relatives.

And the same thing was discussed with the guy. And he's saying he has no idea regarding any such ask and that's not even the problem. He says few things like " Avanni manaku enduku pedha valu chooskuntaru", " natho emaina problem unte chepu, valandaru mana madhyalo enduku, vaalu 3rd persons", "na vala niku future problem rakunda unde promise nen istha" even though he agrees that whatever they've said was wrong but wouldn't try to talk to his mother "he says pedha valaki chepina ardam kavu"

I understand at times it gets exhausting to have a talk with our parents but i feel like one should atleast try to put some sense in to them before dismissing it. I'm getting little icked about this behaviour, although it's sorted for now. I'd like any heads up from the married woman on what to be prepared for and expect after marriage & if this is how it's going to be?

It seems on surface MIL does like my sister and be real sweet with her but this katnalu and saangyalu are getting the best of us.

Headphones comfortable untaya? And kinda padataya mati matiki?

What is the best headphones budget under 3-5k

Nenu koncham tension ekkuva feel avtha, even for small things... Like ippudu badminton or table tenis lanti games lo kuda pressure situations lo and end points vunnapudu chala stress aipotha... hands shiver avthai... heart beat pe Nenem tournaments aadanu just casualga frnds tho aadutha... adi kuda chala tense aipothuna... naku chinnapatnunchi koncham ilage vundedi kani emadya 6 months nunchi regularga games aaduthuna... so koncham ekkuva notice chesthuna... deeni valla game mida impact padthadi... 50% of the time comfortable margin vunna kuda end lo oodipothuna... Even work lo kuda pressure times lo ilane avthadi but adi physical activity kaadu kada so it didn't matter much... how to control this?

Nenu oka software employee ni. Usual ga naa work nenu chesukuntu untanu. Recent ga oka colleague ki oka task lo konchem help kavali ante help chesanu. Athanu naakante 4 years senior, multiple projects handle chestunnadu. “Manage cheyalekapothunna, konchem support cheyyi” annadu kabatti konni tasks lo help chesanu.

Last ki, “Task ni batti neeku pay chestha. Side income kuda vasthundi. Company lo evariki teliyakunda cheddam” annadu. Nenu kuda okkasari anukoni help chesanu.

Kani appati nunchi situation complete ga maaripoyindi. Night 11 PM ki, morning 7 AM ki calls chesi “Oka task undi, help cheyyava?” ani adugutunnadu. Nenu naa work complete chesi almost 12 AM ki padukunta, morning 8 varaku rest teesukunta. Dabbulu isthunnadu kabatti eppudu padithe appudu call cheyyachu anukuntunnademo.
Weekends kuda vadalatledu. Naaku personal works unnayi, kudharadhu ani cheppina “Enti aa works?” ani question chestu visikisthunnadu.

Last ki nenu clear ga cheppanu: “Nenu inka help cheyalenu. Ippativaraku help chesina tasks ki kuda money vaddu. Naaku mental peace kavali.” Ani. Aina kuda aapaledu.

Phone lift cheyyadam manesanu. Office lo kuda hi-bye varake limit chesanu. Ippudu unknown numbers nunchi call chesi kuda visikisthunnadu.
Ilanti situation lo em cheyyali? Meeru em suggest chestharu?

I am not liking my IT job ( 2YOE). So, I'm thinking about "what's next".... lately seeing NRI's ( mostly US and UK , also I work with them) on youtube and instagram, I'm realising that maybe their environment makes them more mature, I'm liking their habits and thought process. One more reason is I want to travel to different countries...I think due to rupees depreciation, It would be difficult to travel to different countries. Also, I want to learn more... because It's better to study as much as we want early.

But I don't have any people in my family/friend circle who went abroad. But all the people I know who moved abroad, moved with some company ( friends or relatives). I'm thinking if I can survive not knowing anyone at least in the initial stages. ( I'm a girl if that matters)

But unfortunately, I never considered moving abroad till now. So, I don't have any research papers or a good GPA ( ~8.3).

I'm not very social and mostly prefer our food, traditions.

So share your perspective, experience on this, if I want to do MS next year, by when should I decide and start the process.

Also, share any good resources to know about how to filter a country, university for MS etc...

I'm from Rajahmundry, and near my grandmother's house there's a very traditional Brahmin priest (pujari) family. I recently heard that there was a wedding in their house. Apparently, they don't invite outsiders or even let the neighbours know, but people usually find out through house helps.

From what I was told, the groom was around 15–16 years old, and the bride was under 10 and hadn't even reached puberty yet. My mother also said that this family has a practice of marrying all their grandchildren at a very young age—girls before puberty and boys when they're around 14–17.

I was honestly shocked to hear this. I know my own grandparents were married at a young age too, but that was almost 80–90 years ago. It's disturbing to think that in 2026, child marriages might still be happening in some places.

Has anyone else heard of or come across similar incidents in their area?

Hi guys

Currently I am going to the gym 4 days a week

Two days upper and two days lower(same excercises every time)

Please review and tell me if I need to change anything

Upper

Chest

Inclined chest press - machine

Bench press

Back

Lat pull down

Seated row

Shoulders

Shoulder press

Lateral raises

Biceps

Biceps curl machine

Triceps

Rope cable overhead

Legs

Legcurl

Leg press

Leg extension

Squats

Calf raises

Till now , these are the type of girls mostly get attracted to me or like me in general , like bossy type or wanna be leader type of girls,short tempered kind off, inshort fire type pokemon kind of energy..why?🥀

Like my chances of getting a girlfriend is increased to 10x times when I look in this category.

Hello all,

I am in the process of job switch. Got two offers. One is in a witch company working for a client. 70% hike from current ctc with the 15% variable. Location is same city.

The other is a position in internal team for a company. 50% hike from current CTC all is fixed no variable. Need to relocate to other city.

Which position to choose if relocation is not a big factor. Career growth and learning is more important.

Thanks.

Introverts, what do you do when you get horny? 👀

Two wheeler ki

So thing enti ante, oka person ninnu shit laga treat chesi oka gaddi pusaki unnantha value kuda niku ledhu ani cheppi vellipoyaka, nii pani lo nv unnappudu sudden ga call chesi asalu em kaledhu annattu behave chesthu aa person ki help regarding carrer kavali ani malli nii life lo ki osthe, nuvvu help chesthava or odhu ra babu ani paaripothava? and okavela paaripothe adhi correct a na?

Iam 22M single and unemployed, so maa friends andharu 1 day trip plan chesthunnaru aa trip ki velli oche dhaarilo oka redlight area ki veldham ani plan chesaru iam virgin never had sex before. Naaku vellali ani oka vaipu undhi itu pakka financial problems kuda unnai parents chesina appulu kuda teerchali nenu. So iam really confused ,

Aa tour ki velladam necessary aa? Ledha career meedha focus cheyyadam important aa ?

Na place lo unte meeru em chestharu?

Manchi book emaina suggest cheyyandi friends!!

Genre edhaina parledhu as long as it keeps you hooked..

Recently I was scrolling through insta. Okadu train ekki Vijayawada to Chennai train lo veltunnadu.Vadi youtube open chesi chuste those train videos have And daaniki 1m views,2m views unnai. I was like who watches this. Vadi pani train ekkadam, station boards video tiyyadam, aa station gurinchi cheppadam 🙏 (I'm not degrading his job or work) and recording of passing trains. And aa journey lo vadu em tinnado chupinchadam. How many days that will continue?

Job chese vallu, do you feel manam kuda ila content create cheste aipotundi, can't handle this work stress ani 😂😂

Hello prndsssss... ayithe I met this guy through some mutual friend , and konni rojulu baane matladina tarvatha he started he is doing some business and was telling that this has lot of potential antu..baane hype icchadu, crores lo revenue , dantla vellaki commission anta .. manchi manchi examples aa icchadu ..

like coke actual price manufacturing daggara 4 rupees kani kani anni marekting , ads and tax ayyaka comes to 20

we skip that and we make the profit out of it antu... literally vere level convicing matalu

and avaru senior ni kaluvu he will give more idea annadu .. daamn vadiki hype ichharu ..nen avadu 30-40s untadu chusthe na kanna chinna , nak telsinave chptundu...apatike ardam ayyindi edi some cult types ..members ni join cheypiyali ade main revenue amo ..mighatada vere undadhu emo ani.. and baane trips esa eee businesss ne iga baaga chesi job manesi ide chestha ... vere seniors ilane chustunnaru ani baane dap esadu

intha chpinaka nak ayithe inka doubt ..some kind of off kodtundi naku

me ela amaina ayyinda friends ?

please share your expereinces

I'm M thinking to start book reading..can u guys suggest me some books for beginner .

Tryn to make it as a habit ..M ani mentioned cuz ey type genre book suggestion ki idea untadi ani ..🙃