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Why is it that men are okay when women say that they want virgin husband but women flare up when men say that they want virgin wife?

Went to my friend's place today vellina kasepatiki his gf called him. Inka modalaindi penta, almost for the next three hours vagutane unnadu without a break 😭 asalu entha opika etla ostadi 😭🙏

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I have my exam coming up in a month and lately it’s getting really bad. I randomly feel like puking or throw up in the middle of the night. I don’t feel like disturbing my friends or parents, so I just sit alone with my thoughts, and when I’m alone, I start getting su*c*dal thoughts.

I’m taking medication for anxiety, but it still feels like it’s getting worse as my exam gets closer. Please help.

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Hi we are right now I am 27 [M] my gf is 22 [F]. I am belongs to OC community and she is belongs to BC community. I don't have any problem with her community.

We are Telugu Guys from Andhra Pradesh. I am in Hyderabad searching for IT Job. She was in Ahemdabad. She went to Ahmedabad for studies.

I will tell what was happened and happening on time line basis. Like chronological order..

18. 12. 2022 - We met first time on Instagram. She said I am MBBS student Right now I am In Ahmedabad my age is 21. We share some information on conversations.

We made calls and chatted for around 6 months. It's kind of long distance relationship..

31.5.2023 - she had summer holidays. Thats why she is going to her Home town. On the way, she came to Hyderabad. We spend around 2 days in Hyderabad. Then she went to Her home town.

17. 6.2023- she is return back to her college. On the way she came to Hyderabad. She bought UPSC books to prepare for UPSC exams. Together We stayed around 1 week in Hyderabad. Then she went to college.

15.10. 2023- she again came to Hyderabad. We stayed and spend some time in Hyderabad. Then she went to Ahemdabad.

Her parents didn't know about her Hyderabad trips.

18.12.2023 - on this date, she was in Ahemdabad and she said to me a fact she was engaged to another man Ravi that Engagment was happened in May 2022. She said like my parents were forced me that's why I said ok to Engagment but I never liked Ravi. I don't have interest on him. Even He didn't have Job or income source at that Engagment time. By the time Ravi age around 28[M]. She is 18[M]. Now he is 32[M], she is 22[F]. They both belongs to same village.

She said some other things to me.

I am not a MBBS student. I am B.SC degree student.

Her parents doesn't know about her education clearly.

In June 2022 - I(she) said to my parents like i got a MBBS admission in Ahmedabad. Thats why I am going to pursue my studies in Ahemdabad. She convinced her parents. So then her parents joined her in Ahemdabad college. At the time of admission She said her problem to that addmissioner and managed there. Her parents believes like our daughter pursuing MBBS but actually she is studying B.SC Degree.

I asked her about all these things on 18.12.2023... She said like If I stay in my home Town, definitely our parents are going to marry me off to him. Thats why I came out from home to avoid marriage. To stay far away from home i( she) said i got an MBBS admission in Ahmedabad. She said Ravi got a private job His salary would be like 15k or 16k in 2022.

October 2024 - in October 2024, she got a Credit card from a bank. We used it for our personal expenses.

2024 - she came to Hyderabad multiple times. We traveled and satyed together. But her parents didn't know about her travellings or college Leaves.

I (me) attended to multiple interviews but I didn't get a job in IT sector. Then I changed my mind and got a job in sales department. 5 months i did the job. After i resigned to it.

Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once or twice in a month he had conversation with my GF.

This year, too, has passed away. College holiday time, she went to her home town multiple times.. there her relatives and village neighbours asked her or her parents about marriage. They( her parents ) said like after completion of Her education they gonne Marry to her with Ravi.

February 2025 - she came to Hyderabad. We stayed around 1 week in Hyderabad. Then she went back to her college.in this month One strange and import thing was happened this month. My Gf's grandfather made an allegation on Her mother(mf gf mom) & Ravi( my Gf s fiance) like my gf mother has affair with Ravi. I don't know why he (mf GF grandfather) made that allegation on them. It's spread in her village.No major conflict took place at that time. After this issue happened, still marriage was not cancelled.

April 2025 - Her grand mother was died.

May 2025 - Her final year exams were completed. But she stayed in college till June ending.

June 2025 - we had discussion related what is next. She said I stay here (ahemdabad ) only.then i asked her what would you do over there after completion of education. Then I said another thing. Come to Hyderabad learn a skill ( in coaching institute), then we will search for a Job in IT sector.

July 2025 - she came to Hyderabad joined in PG. I am staying with my friends in our flat. We both are not living together. We stayed separately. Her parents didn't know about she was moved to Hyderabad. Her parents thought that she is in Ahmedabad. In July we ( me, my GF) went to Munnar trip. Then we came back from trip.

August 2025 - After that she never join in any institute to learn skill. So then she tried for non IT jobs. After 2 or 3 interview attempts, she said like i don't like this environment. So I don't have interest to do this kind of jobs. Then I asked her what would gonna do. She said like i will prepare for UPSC exams.

September 2025 - So then I suggested her.. ok do one thing. My friend's sister is preparing for UPSC exams in Hyderabad. I said to her(my Gf) like i will talk to my friend, so you(my gf) have to meet her(my frnd sister) and have conversation, stay for few weeks or months with her And observe things like about syllabus, prepration, exams etc. what was happened, she(my gf) never met her didn't get anything from her( my frnd sister) about UPSC. I suggested her another thing, go to near study room.. there prepare for UPSC. But She did nothing related to UPSC.

2025 - This year, too, has passed away. Ravi knows about her ( my Gf) education like she is not studying MBBS, she is pursuing B.SC. but he(Ravi) never tells to her(my gf) parents. He(Ravi) never build a communication or relationship with my GF. Ravi often talks to my GF. May be once in a month he had conversation with my GF in mobile calls.

April 2026 - My Gf went to her home town. She stayed around 1 month over there. In this month her parents told to her (my gf), Next March 2027, we will get you and Ravi married. One day, Ravi andy My Gf went to outside for casual talk. There she said NO to Ravi , I(my Gf) am not gonna marry you. Till now he(Ravi) never responded on the marriage topic.

May 2026 - my gf came back to Hyderabad. We had conversation and discussions. Now she wants to move to Delhi for UPSC exams preparation. Till now she never prepared for UPSC EXAMS. Not even single book was completed or revised.

Till now her parents believe she(my Gf) is studying MBBS. After completion of MBBS, she is going to prepare for NEET- PG exam. She is going to take money for NEET-PG coaching from her parents but actually she is going to prepare for UPSC.

I said to her don't make mistakes one after another. Go and tell to your parents about what was happened. But she never wants to tell to her parents.

She(my gf) said I will marry you(me) only Not Ravi. But she asks me like i need some time to marry you. I will prepare for UPSC. If I select or got a job in UPSC, then it is easy thing to convince my parents to marry you(me). She said, Right now I don't want marriage.

Right now..

I am planning to establish a business. Still I am struggling. I don't have Job. I don't have income source.

Some what my Gfs financial condition is better than me. She is financially stronger than me.

So

Now what options do I have right now. What would I do now.

Give me suggestion.

Note - Respect ladies and women.plz Don't abuse anyone.plz Don't make vulgar comments.

okay i started dating my boyfriend when i was in final year of my btech. both of us weren't earning appudu, so all the bills were majorly split or if its a small amount any one of us would pay. now i got into an internship, hes still unemployed. and he started depending on me for everythinggg. i think twice to buy oka expensive lipbalm for my self. but he made it my responsibility to look after his expenses. all the dates are on me. last ki i have to pay for his cigarettes also. like it doesnt mean i don't love him, but depending on me for everything feels lil weird, he goes on trips with his boys, buys expensive shoes and all with his (or maybe his parents) money. atlantappud why should i pay for all the dates anipisthundi. should i confront, or just keep ignoring this. i just want a different perspective on this anthey.

appatlo i watched dark season 1 and alanti shows kosam vethikina, i didn’t find any but i found stranger things. I found love death robots and dark mirror from that search. Ippudu chaala years aitundhi ee gap lo emaina manchi tv shows vachinaya ?

I need a skincare routine buddy. There are so many products from so many companies in the market. The whole thing is very confusing.

Some guidance would really help me

Backstory : Interned for a fintech startup and then got fte worked for four months and now got laid off about 2 months In the past two months i learned more spring ,redis,docker,aws-rds,deployments and CI/CD and done a good project in backend for employee managment and stuff which is a hackathon problem my background is in node. So on campus i only have infosys for around 3.6 lpa but my prev comp was around 11lpa and remote. infosys may call next month idk im not getting any replies all rejection mails. Life seems depressing and I am loosing hope. Thankfully and obvi I am not sole earner.But if i join info my salary goes down and when i shift I cant ask for more salary right?This isnt even about salary infosys is not good for exponential growth I am open to work as and intern too at a good startup solving a good problem .All my frnds are working and earning well all above 15lpa at good startups .Im stuck and depressed with the layoffs happening all across the world i question my future and carrerr.

I am thinking to focus on SpringAI stuff build an mcp which is about calling api and managing vector db which is kind of easy but idk.

Im 21y open to work in any where india or remote a good full stack dev.If you are hiring or looking for interns/jr devs or developer who takes ownership of product. Im up here

This sounds so despo -> ikr 

Have around 50 lakhs where to invest(land) in Hyderabad.
Future purpose kosam can wait 5 years manchiga click avthadhi ante.
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