r/ask_Bondha

So I’m a 22F graduated a while ago and internship chestuna in vizag, summer intake ki I’m planning to go to germany for my masters. Now there is this guy I love he’s 26 and hyd lo job chestunadu…. Nenu clg 2nd yr lo unapudu through mutuals i met this guy and love ayindi apudu naku abroad plans em levu just near graduation I’ve decided i wanted to go.

Kurchopeti matlada a while ago, he said he would also try to come but emo he dropped tanaki workout avadu and he has good job in hyd ani. My family on the other hand has overachievers, my mom herself has a phd and my dad said ne phd ayidaka Pelli cheyanu ani, coming to cousins inka okadu IIT, okadu US, Uk ila unaru…. My dad is keen to send me to Us or uk but i chose Germany mainly cause i loved the regenerative bio program they offer. And cost takuva in a public uni na profile solid ga undi so i can get in…. Oka 20 lakhs eh kabati financial burden undadu naku and I don’t have to depend on anyone for that money.
I want to go because na stream ki ikada pedha opportunities levu and e jobs naku set ayela kanipinchatledu, i wanna pursue research. Idi India lo kuda cheyochu but ikada bachelors ayaka Ela untai ela padathulu ani ardham ayipoyindi, naku set avale.

Nenu convince cheyadaniki try chesa bf ni that i will comeback after 2 years, and try for a good phd position here ani but elaka evad ostadu bokka ani tana feeling, which is justified because there will be many factors anukunadi exact anukunatu ayipodu kada and max 3 years anukuna apatiki naku 29 intlo Pelli pressure antunadu, which is also true.

If I go now he’s saying how it’s gonna end ani and I don’t wanna loose him anytime now, i really love him but idi sacrifice chesi ikada undipodama ante naku
Ipudey regret feel ochestundi ila velali ante guilt. I wanna somehow make it work just don’t know how given this situation… em cheyanu?

Same as title

General ga ekada chusina mens breakup stories ey chusthunam (at least nenu) men em chestharo telusu vala mind set koncham idea untadhi.

Kani women mindset, vallu ela deal chestharu e situation ni especially breakup abbayi chepthey for some x reason.

I know e question koncham odd ga anipinchochu kani naku kastha telusukovali ani undhi..

Vilaithey mi story o or miku telisina valavo kastha cheppandi guys

Please be polite kastha manasem bagaley harsh comments odhu guys.

Thanks In Advance.

Recently I am hearing this a lot from my friends that they don’t want to have kids

Some of my friends reason :

putti em chesam bhaada padatam thappa malli vallaki enduku ani

manam ela bathukuthamo Thelidhu malli vallu enduku ani

I don’t want to go through that pain and suffering

Inka chaala chepparu

What’s your opinion?

Enti ante

Ippudu naku crush unte, i will act full non chalant entha ante naku interest ey ledu vala paina. Edo I'm cool and I don't give a f about their existence anattu unta outer feeling.

But inner feelings are like waiting for them, screaming internally if there's eye contact, butterflies, nervous-ness etc..

Idk why I do that like i feel it's embarrassing to let my feelings be exposed

Nen konchem ammayiltho no contact lo perigina manishini slowly becoming normal in society edho casual ga akkadakkada matladuthunna.

But I noticed mellaga at some point they feel safe enough to open up about past trauma and I'm there for them or I try to be.

Asalu idhi anukuntunnandhuke sigguga undhi kaani.

Am I that safe of a guy? Ante it's not that i dislike being the safe guy but naaku konchem insecure feel osthundhi, nen brother la, odharpuki thappa panikirana..

Ante deepest darkest stuff naaku cheppukuntunnaru, do they just see me as a harmless brother who comforts them.

Alanti brother ga vandha mandhikaina ok but nen pursue chedham anukunna ammailtho kuda idhe jaruguthundhi.

Valla badha cheptharu, boyfriend godavalu, sexual abuse, creepy men, rape and after that I cannot bring myself to think of them sexually cause antha badha cheppukunnaka nen kuda creep la behave chesthunna emo ani complete egg shells medha nadustha valla mundhu, istam unna champeskunta endhukule safe ani feel ayyi badha cheppukunte love givvu anukuntaru ani.

Idhantha ippudu endhuku chepthunna ante.

Mellaga daridramaina alochanalu osthunnai avi aapadanike, Elanti alochanalu ante "should I start becoming uncaring or rude or stop being the nice and open book safe guy so that woman atleast think of me as a romantic option instead of just a brother?"

Nannu nenu marchukune mundhu I need to know some other perspective than whatever is on my mind right now.

TLDR: becoming the safe space guy who can listen to their worries for every woman I try to pursue. Should I stop being the nice and understanding guy to make woman atleast see me as a romantic option instead of just as a harmless guy they can open up to?

So, let's assume you fell in love with a person and hopefully for the heart. But we can't deny looks play a role, so from the initial time or eventually you fell in love with the way they look as well. So one day they decide to change a lot of features in their face with plastic/cosmetic surgery, ofcourse you can't deny (you won't in this assumption) because their body their rules.

Now, after they heal completely and start looking different than the person you fell in love with, do you think you'd still be able to love them the same? They love themselves and how they look and their heart, acts and behaviour remain the same but they don't look like the one you fell in love with. Whichever answer it is, can you elaborate, please?

Hehe, TIA.

Partners ni choose cheskune chaala stories lo, Nenu observe chesina and vinna chala cases lo usually women earn more than a man, love marriages lo especially. Even if the woman earns less, ameki pakka aasthulu untunnay or well settled rich family backup untundi.

Abbailu partners ni choose cheskunepudu , either ekuva sampadinche partners ni or rich affluent vallane choose cheskuntunnaru anipinchindi, majority love stories lo abbay 20k earn chesina ammay 50-80k earn chestu untundi…

Is there a pattern or a secured move?? Rich abbailu epudu valla kanna takkuva aasthi or takkuva earn chese ammailni cheskunattu chudaledu.. kontamandi undochu but the percentage is far less than the other case anipinchindi.

Arranged marriages lo ite chaala calculations untay, it’s like a transactional system ipoindi anukondi but love lo kuda chustunna…

Need to get a one and the same certificate for my visa process. Pani ayyi savatledu

Please, anyone with any connection or contacts?