How do they two coexist? I once asked a similar question, but I'm a little more direct in this one. I hope to understand the 'why'. TIA.
A flair to put 'wholesome' posts might be good?
'Inspiration' is suitable till an extent, but I believe this is beyond that.
From Indian Express dated 08102026.
Aah vishyam chepthe ardham kaadh pakodilaki. Andar mallochi 'hey its a joke, its not that serious' ani anesthar edo they would forever be capable of 'dividing' a joke from their actual POV on life.
Anyway from Indian Express dated 07102026.
From Times of India dated 06102026.
ఏం లేదండి మీ ఉత్సుకతను చూసి, సబ్ లో వస్తున్న వివిధ పోస్టులను సాదరంగా ఆహ్వానించడానికి కొన్ని కొత్త కొత్త ట్యాగ్ లను తీసుకొచ్చాం. అవి ఏంటి, ఎలా వాడాలి వంటి విషయాలను ఈ పోస్ట్ ద్వారా తెలియచేస్తున్నాం. మీకువన్ని నచ్చుతాయని, వాటిని బహు బాగా వినియోగిస్తారని ఆశిస్తున్నాం.
భాషా లో ఎక్కడైనా పొరపాట్లు పొర్లి ఉంటే క్షమించండి. వి ట్రైడ్ ఆర్ బెస్ట్.
Doll houses are cute. Everything is very tiny in it and as humans we get this irresistible urge to hold, play and sometimes gobble them up. I get that a lot with cats now. I used to get that with my barbie's shoes. It is a princess barbie with golden shoes. I've always wanted them for me too. I also wanted a huge barbie house for all my seven barbies. I never got one tho.
The earliest of civilizations had toys too- mini sized kitchen tools, the same kind we see in present day, just different material. I do not know when it's taught to us as we age, but somehow we see everyone casually choosing tiny cars for boys and tiny kitchen sets for girls, as gifts.
We gender colours, clothes, toys at a very young age - probably subconsciously, that those children end up picking them. I barely remember seeing any boys, back when I was a child or now, playing with dollhouses, maybe that's only a case in my little circle.
I believe when we are introducing children to the lens of separation early on in life, we are perpetuating and deepening the gender roles. We are inculcating the idea of dressing up, cleaning, cooking, housekeeping, having babies, taking care of babies even at a miniature scale, as something specific, almost a responsibility of the dolls, usually female dolls. Girls. Womanhood.
Not to forget the surveillance these dollhouses come with. A dollhouse is essentially a domestic space made to expose the inhabitant to the observer. One can always look at all spaces at a time and see what the 'dolls' are doing. Do you know how it's translating into adult life? Ever heard anything on such lines?
So a dollhouse isn't just about domesticity and gender roles, but also about ownership, control and agency.
Now I can't conclude by saying to give gender neutral toys to children or add an 'appropriate' filter for every toy they touch, it is not so easy. Perhaps what is easy is to have the children develop their own agencies, initially in the 'dollhouses', later in their own houses.
I still want a dollhouse though. Maybe when I grow older and can afford it, I'll build it all by myself. I'll also decide what happens inside.
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Everything I wrote above is an artisitic expression of what I already know, heard or read.
October 3rs - Prompt 'Miniature' for the Inktober 2026. Traditionally Inktober is for drawing with ink on paper, this time I would like to see if I can carve out good or decent write ups that would align with my view of life which includes feminism.
Also, I like this woman a lot.
There's this woman I know, when my friend - his son asked her what is a dream she's looking forward to, she replied - నాకు మీ నాన్నంటే చాలా మర్యాద. ఆయన చాలా కాలం చాలా కష్టపడి నన్ను మిమ్మల్ని చూసుకున్నాడు. నాకన్న ముందు ఆయనే చనిపోతారనుకుంటున్నా. ఆయన చివరి వరకు ఆయనతో ఉండి, ఆయన వెళ్ళిపోయాక, ఒక రెండు సంవత్సరాలపాటు ప్రశాంతంగా బ్రతకాలనుకుంటున్నా, నాకోసం నేను కాఫీ పెట్టుకుని, నాకు నచ్చింది నేను చేసుకుని చనిపోవాలని నా కోరిక.
That entire thing made me cry. I've noticed this in the మిథునం movie and in a lot of other elderly people, many women want and wish their husbands die before for one - those men are incapable of taking care of themselves, two - it'll allow them just atleast a week or even a moment of peace in the way they want.
People don't understand, but domestic work is physically and mentally very taxing when there is only one person doing it all.
And the aunt, she is battling a terminal illness right now, and WON'T survive. We all are just waiting for the day to arrive. She'll be the first to leave between the couple.
So, let's assume you fell in love with a person and hopefully for the heart. But we can't deny looks play a role, so from the initial time or eventually you fell in love with the way they look as well. So one day they decide to change a lot of features in their face with plastic/cosmetic surgery, ofcourse you can't deny (you won't in this assumption) because their body their rules.
Now, after they heal completely and start looking different than the person you fell in love with, do you think you'd still be able to love them the same? They love themselves and how they look and their heart, acts and behaviour remain the same but they don't look like the one you fell in love with. Whichever answer it is, can you elaborate, please?
Hehe, TIA.
It was the 'multi purpose room' and we all, a bunch of students from bachelors to doctoral programmes - male and female both, were there to practice for an upcoming cultural event in the institute. We were running the final decided setlist in the order to see how much time we would need to dedicate for each performance.
The session starts.
Eka dantaya, vakrathundaya, gowri namahaya deemahi - was sung by three PhD female students in a very melodious tone. Very pleasing to hear.
Once they finished, I raised my hand and asked, 'why are we having a prayer song in an event held in an educational institution which is supposed to be religiously neutral?' There was silence in the room, until one PhD student, a male, put forth his opinion in support of me. 'What she asked was fair, why are we praying to Ganesh in a college event?'. The answer I got from the ones I questioned was if I have other suggestions for which I replied, I don't but I know ekadantaya isn't a song that you should support in a college. Since I gave no suggestion the performance on the final day had the same salutation song as the 'prayer song' and my name nowhere, I chose not to participate in an event whose collective character, in my POV, had been decided according the the religious preferences of a few people. What bothered me even more was that this was happening within a publicly funded academic institution, where institutional practices ought to be very careful about representing students with different beliefs, or simply none.
It has been years and I still stand by my the then decision. Why do we need religion and rituals in places of research and academia?
Constitution provides us freedom of conscience and the freedom to profess, practice and propagate religion as fundamental rights - articles 25-28. Educational institutions of our country fall under the same purview depending on who they are funded and managed by. When the constitution was first adopted it didn't carry the word 'secular', it was only in 1976, via 42nd CAA the preamble was amended to add 'secular' into it, along with few other words. But India was secular even before this amendment, because of articles 25-28.
If we all are so proud of the 'unity in diversity' of our country, why do we treat the rituals and traditions of one particular religion as if they constitute the common cultural default for all? Why do we need a priest to come and chant mantras when we lay a foundation stone for a new 'scientific project'? Why do the scientists take rocket models and do 'archana' and follow 'muhurtam' for launch? A leader's or a scientist's personal faith is entirely their own, but when that faith becomes part of an institutional ceremony, the question is whose belief is the institution expressing?
If article 51A tells us to increase scientific temper, why are we still painting (read staining) colours of religion in the name of rituals and customs to the 'knowledge temples'?
I personally feel it is high time we learn to separate faith from science, not by asking people to abandon the beliefs but by refusing to make them the default of the institutions that are devoted to inquiry.
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Article from The Hindu, dated 30092026 and the write up is by talukula tarajuvva :)
The Hindu dated 25092026
The latter does nothing but instigate body image issues in humans. I wonder how she would react if someone were to record her child with those glasses.
The former doesn't even do justice to her job which also ironically garnered her the high fanbase among teens and young adults, girls more than boys. I wonder how she would react if fans wearing the cute pet charms record her.
Funny how their privacy falls under the rights to privacy but their morals in 'grey'.
In the light of recent news from Kerala's A P Aboobakar Musaliyar's statement on not allowing women into public spaces.
Highlighted way too much, was totally engrossed.
The Hindu, dated 22092026.
I absolutely loved this article. Simple yet significant. Thought you'd appreciate it. Posting here as it is an inclusive and intersectional space.
From ToI dated 20092026.
Downvoting me won't make me understand your opinion other than the disagreement, so would rather have you type your thoughts out.
There was a post on this very sub where the author mentioned 'many' angles for the cause of oversexualisation of actresses. The many angles were - Directors, Media and Public. Good. I agree. But what about the actresses themselves?
Before we proceed further into my thoughts, I'd like to say I'm all in for women cashing out men's lust, because grown men make those choices consciously, to spend money where their priorities lie. So I'm all in for it. But to pretend like some actresses/artists do not sexualize themselves for PROBABLE opportunities and money, is it not being biased? Again, I'm not saying wrong, I am not morally policing, I am asking, how come we can call everyone a reason for oversexualisation and not some women who actively do it.
For example. Recent NOVIG advertisements ft. Sydney. Or Peddi ft. Jhanvi. People CAN defend Jhanvi saying language barriers and not understanding the shoots or not having a voice. I do too. I even blame Ram Charan. But don't you think sexualisation requires no speech language? It is costumes and gestures too. And Jhanvi has almost similar costumes in many movies. Before becoming the Rudramadevi and Bhagamathi, Anushka was a glamour 'doll' too and up until recent Samantha and Kajal were 'eye candies' and 'flower pots' in movies. If a director sexualises a child like Hansika in Desa Mudhuru it's the crew, director and even the parents to be held responsible. But if the adult/major (age wise) actresses themselves are dancing in item numbers with oversexualising lyrics and costumes, shouldn't we also acknowledge them as responsible?
If it boils down to 'their body, their choice' then why is there so much outrage on the NOVIG ad? The ad isn't just demeaning sports but also encouraging gambling - which affects men seriously, enough to push them to suicide. I saw no feminists and unfortunately male rights activists speak of it (or maybe my algorithm issue).
I've asked too many questions. But my main question is - why do we not acknowledge women (not all, some who do it) also as a factor/angle which over sexualises themselves?
Chapatilu/rotilu appadaalalaa osthnai nak 😭
Tharast posht anukunochunteh hehe sori.
Ma amma gym la join aindi. Her cover drive is to encourage me into the gym, whateva miss mother. She hated the gym so much and she even lashed out on me one day for asking her to lift weights. Nak ma parents meedha peddha peddha aasallev. I want them to be always independent - physically, to never rely on me or my siblings to look after them, and to never get bedridden and die a less painful death. By genetics ee pillaliddarki (amma naanna) manchi health ae undi, untadi kooda. So strength training ani saavagoduthuteh motthaniki amma caved in.
Naanna venukabaddadu. Join avvadanta.
So ha, the woman who lashed out at me, suddenly started joining me in. Anni muscles loh anni variations chesthundi 3-5 kgs range loh rn. Even eats protein and fiber manchiga.
I feel konchem relaxed.
The major reason for her to actually start is fear of death. Konni incidents upclose chusam leh last three months loh, in our immediate circles.
So na ee tala toka leni post tho nen cheppochedentanteh..expose your parents and try talking them into a healthier lifestyle. But I also understand the difficulty in speaking to them of it. Peddhaalani samskarinchadam isn't easy. At the same time, if you're a parent, be as healthy as you can so you won't become a burden - physically, neither to yourself not your children ever.
Extra info - Gym la memiddaram lilliputs laga tirugutam aah moolaki ee moolaki and we keep flexing the non existent biceps to eo. Eeroj ma amma alane bicep curls chesthunteh I said abba amma chokka chirigipothundi needi chethul daggara ani, anthe FLATTT (venu madhav meme laaga).
Ktnxbye.
Oh ha. The pretty girl in gym, eeroj ma amma bhi poyyi cheppindi, you look like a doll ani 🤭 She is a doll fr!
Real bye.
I posted something this almost evening and before hitting the post button, I in fact had a lot of thoughts to put. I typed only to backspace it all, endukanteh I was comparing religions in it.
But one comment made me rethink. You know what, we need to compare society on many levels and religion is one big aspect we need to never overlook. A guy commented saying something like - we're at least better than Pakistan ani. I don't know if he did it on the basis of religion or just the usual India - Pakistan banter, but because of my prejudices, I couldn't help but wonder if it was cause of religion.
Now we'll see. We are 131st from top and 15th from the bottom. Terrible already. And the 14 countries below us, are from Africa, West Asia or Oceania. And 2 of the 14 have Christianity as the majority and the rest Islam. Now it is easy to rile guns up at Islam and say, 'Ah! There you go, the most oppressive religion' (I disagree, it is one of the most oppressive religions, not the only one). But, Bangladesh(79th) is doing better than India. Nepal(120th), constitutionally secular but predominantly Hindu country also does better than Pakistan. Top countries are European with Christianity in dominance. So religion is not just the only facet holding people back.
Many gulf nations have their major income from oil production and export, which traditionally employ men cause the labour participation much lower for women than men, aiding the existing religious notions which consider women as the secondary citizens.
In desi countries - India and Pakistan, are fond of boy children so the family's parampara keeps going on, which again stem from the way our system has been patriarchal for millennia now. The participation of women is skewed in all places public and private too, unfortunately.
So my point is, while we usually look at one religion as a bigger monster than the others, it's time we realise all of them are equally terrible, for all genders. And while we get so happy about Pakistan doing worse than India isn't even a front runner to feel proud.
Else, you can just ignore all global indices for you may assume they're fake and are controlled by Europe which our government says usually 🤭
I also understand the post doesn't have a seamless flow from one point to another. I would edit it further if I find time, if not, I hope you understand what I was trying to say :)
Proud moment. Score increased and rank retained.
The Hindu - 17092026