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I don't even know what to write. My baby fell from the bed today. She woke up around 3'0 clock in the night to feed. I breastfeed her in the lying position at night. Usually I put her on the left side of the bed since the bed is placed against the wall on that side but I put her on the right side so that I could breastfeed her from right side. After feeding she fell asleep. We have a tent type mosquito net that can be strapped to the bed. I put a pillow on her right side so she wouldn't fall even if she rolls. Usually I am very aware of her even when I am asleep but this time I was really tired and didn't realise when she slid down the bed past the pillow I placed and fell through the mosquito net onto the floor. I woke up to her loud screaming and I can't even describe the panic I felt seeing her on the floor. Took her to the ER right away. She is out okay, thankfully, no bleeding, swelling, no signs of concussion, vomiting or change in pupils. She is active and feeding well.

I am distressed and the guilt is eating me alive because this was avoidable. Every appointment, her paediatrician specifically tells to not leave her unattended on the bed since he sees lots of cases in the ER everyday. We had finally ordered bed rails but they haven't reached yet so I thought I managed this far I can manage till it arrives. What broke me was how I was treated by the other people. My BIL asked me "can't you take care of the baby properly?". He got mad at my husband too. I have all this pain and anxiety inside and I just want to let it out.

Hello lovely ladies,
I am currently 6 months postpartum with my second baby, and I’m writing this because I just need to share my heart. Before we even tried for this pregnancy, I thought I knew exactly what to expect. I thought I was entering this chapter fully aware. But the truth is, it has been such a heartbreakingly hard journey.
Lately, I’ve felt like I’m constantly fighting with my husband. The loneliness has been heavy, suffocating even, despite him being right there in the room with me. I’ve found myself crying, screaming, and breaking down over the smallest things. To make everything so much heavier, I fell at 3 months postpartum and tore a ligament. Being physically broken while trying to care for two babies completely shattered my mental state.
A few days ago, I hit my absolute rock bottom. I felt like a monster in my own home. My mother in law was staying with us, and her other grandkids from my husband's sister, who lives 20 minutes away, were constantly over because both their parents work. The house was so loud, so chaotic, and I just couldn't breathe anymore. Out of pure desperation for my own sanity, I gave my husband an ultimatum. I needed a 2 day break. I asked him to send his mom to his sister’s house for just 48 hours. It was messy, it was awkward, and he practically had to hustle her out the door while everyone was left confused. I felt terrible, but I was drowning.
But during those two days of quiet, something beautiful shifted.
For months, I had been hiding away, cooped up inside the four walls of my bedroom. With the house finally quiet, I stepped out into the living room. My husband, our two babies, and I decided to do something different, we all slept out in the hall together. We crammed ourselves into the space, accommodated each other, and just set up camp on the floor.
Since that night, the living room has become our sacred resting place. And almost instantly, the heavy fog around my chest began to lift. My stress levels dropped drastically.
I know this might sound so silly or chaotic, but it made me realize how deeply our surroundings affect our broken hearts. When you are trapped inside a bedroom, your mind traps you in your darkest thoughts. Stepping out into a wider, more open space literally gave my soul room to breathe again. The vastness of the room is what is keeping me sane right now.
I wanted to share this because postpartum mind games are so real. If you are feeling suffocated, trapped, or overwhelmed in your bedroom right now, please try to change your environment. Even just moving to the living room floor might give you the air you need to breathe. Sending so much love to every mom out there who is secretly fighting a battle in her own home. You are not alone. ❤️

Exactly as the title says, please share toys recommendations for 3 to 6 months old.

Vaccination in private hospital costs 10k. In Govt hospital it's free. People say that Vaccination in Govt hospital triggers fever for 3 days. But vaccination in private hospitals doesn't not cause fever. Is this true?. Our new born is 35 days old. Due for vaccination on 45th day. Where did you vaccinate your baby? Was there any fever or any consequences after vaccination?

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9 hours - 20k. Helps with a few other household things as well if free. A very reliable lady in her late 40s. Not very experienced, but quick learner. She is a good company for our elderly grandmother as well.

Live in - 30k salary + 6k agency charges. Late 20s, 6-7 years of experience. But able to keep up with my active toddlers.

FTM here with the sweetest 2.5 week old. I had an emergency LSCS due to reduced fetal movement. Since her birth, baby has been a loud cryer, and even earned herself a reputation during our stay at the hospital. Initially we chalked it down to hunger because I didn’t have adequate secretion. We fixed this issue through diet and other interventions, but still had problems with feeding the baby because it took me a while to learn how to.

As of the past week, baby is feeding relatively well, but often gets fussy and it seems to be due to trapped gas. We burp her for 15-20 minutes after each feed, and do the gas release exercises (bicycle kicks, happy baby rocking, etc) every time we feel like her stomach is taut. We barely get a burp out of her despite the effort. We’ve tried home remedies like applying hing paste on her stomach, but I’m not sure it’s doing much either. We went into the ER last week because baby was inconsolable for more than 24h, but they just gave her paracetamol drops for the crying and asked us to keep burping her after feeds and sent us back on our way.

Another thing is she just about hit her birth weight at 16 days, and the doctor and LC have advised me to supplement feeds with expressed/pumped milk that she straight out refuses. They identified a problem with her latch, but I’ve noticed her latch is bad when she’s in pain, and on the rare occasion she’s happy and not suffering, she latches well and we have fairly smooth feeds.

I’m sure this is a common problem and one you’re just expected to weather for the first few months of birth, but is there something that makes it easier? It’s difficult watching baby in distress and not being able to do much.

I m FTM, LO is 21 days old. I have painful nipples n it hurts even when i m not nursing. I also pump milk and its not from engorged breasts. I also donot have cracked nipple plus i am using nipcare. No help on paining seen. Kindly advise 😭