r/menswear

Where can I buy decent quality white T-shirts? Ideally 100% cotton. Anything tried before is thin and a bit see-through, or quickly loses shape when worn & washed a few times.

Basically what the title says.

All my life I've never worn underwear that didn't ride up my leg. I've tried loose boxers, boxer briefs that sit snug to my thighs, etc. They all eventually ride up my thighs, even if I walk for a little bit, so I constantly have to awkwardly pull them down mid walk/run. Won't try briefs because my thick thighs will instantly start to chafe with even slight amount of heat/moisture.

The problem is that now that I'm in the military I'm running a lot more and out in the field more, so on any sort of movement I'm constantly either pulling my boxers down or just raw dogging it and letting it chafe. I've tried a lot of underwear but mostly from Walmart/Target so nothing high end. At this point I don't mind shelling out for something I can just forget about.

The only thing that's worked are the spandex liners for my army PT shorts, but I thought I'd ask here before resigning myself to only wearing compression shorts from now on.

I'd also appreciate how to size underwear, I usually go slightly bigger than the waist measurement I wear but even that sometimes compresses my legs during movements like squatting. My waist is 32'-34' and my thighs are 25'.

I’m trying to better understand how men deal with clothing choices when they want to look a bit better, more grown-up, or more put-together, without suddenly feeling like a different person.

I’m interested in how you actually make decisions about what feels right for you.

A few things I’m curious about:

- Was there a moment where you started thinking more consciously about how you dress? New job, dating, getting older, becoming more visible at work, social events, something else?
- Can you remember a recent situation where you weren’t sure if what you wore was right?
- What feels hardest: knowing what fits your body, knowing what fits the situation, combining items, buying better clothes, or avoiding looking like you’re trying too hard?
- Are you more worried about looking underdressed, overdressed, boring, too flashy, too young, too old, or like a “fashion guy”?
- What do you currently do when you feel like you need better clothes?
- What kind of clothing advice feels useful to you, and what kind feels too generic or unrealistic?

I’d really appreciate concrete examples rather than general opinions, especially moments where your clothes didn’t match how you wanted to come across.

Also open to short DMs if anyone is willing to share more detail.