Hey guys,

Never thought I’d be posting something like this but I need some genuine help because I’m clueless

It’s been 4 months since me and my ex have broken up, I made the move to break up with her because she was extremely toxic

We met through bumble, everything was going fine she made the first move, but things started going downhill very quick

She started getting very toxic, very manipulative and would gaslight me into thinking I’m wrong in every argument, on top of that she was very abusive

She would publicly assault me and would beat me when we were in together and even burn me at times with her appliances

After the breakup I kept my calm and didn’t text her even ONCE, she kept spamming me for 2 days and moved on with some other dude

But it doesn’t stop there, she adds all my friends to her private account and starts posting screenshots of our private chats (with me and her) as well as every single picture we’ve taken (including nsfw pics)

My friends tell me about this issue and I quickly ask them to block her off, she instead adds their girlfriends to the account and starts shit posting about everyone from the friend group

Luckily the my friends’ girlfriends on her account side and support me, because they understood from the beginning she’s been an attention seeker and her accusations and lies don’t match up to the events.

But now I fear she’s gonna destroy my future if she keeps doing this even after several months of our breakup

What do I do?

I spoke to female friends of mine, I asked them if I should take legal action against her, all of them were against it because my ex is a psychopath who’s gonna go to the level of r**e allegations.

Worst part about this whole thing is I’m a foreign citizen living in India and I’m just 20 and she’s moved abroad now

I’m genuinely confused please help me out.

TLDR : Ex is leaking private information, need help.

Every generation gets criticized, but we've normalized some genuinely positive things too.

What's one change you think Gen Z got right?

So I have got no friends all are busy and lives far away and now we are not in contact but I feel so bored and want to go out but don’t know how .
I feel awkward roaming alone and don’t know where to go but I want to go out
So people who hangout alone or travel alone could you please guide me how to have fun alone and not get bored .
And is it worth it .

I've been seeing a lot of posts over the past few weeks about how we haven't qualified for the FIFA World Cup, how our Olympic medal tally is so low, etc. Here's my opinion on this.

The reason we don't do well in sports is our education system. It is fundamentally incompatible with sports. Our system is designed in such a way that it leaves little to no time for pursuing anything other than academics.

Because of the extreme pressure and high-stakes exams like the 10th and 12th board exams, entrance tests, etc., students spend a significant chunk of their time studying. When I was in school, I'd spend eight hours at school, then three to four hours in tuition or coaching, and then come back home and study for even more hours. Add sleeping hours on top of that, and you have virtually no time for anything else.

This isn't the case in many Western countries. Students there often work part-time jobs or pursue their hobbies alongside school. In fact, sporting achievements are considered during admissions to top universities like the Ivy League. This, in turn, fosters a system where a student's holistic development is prioritized over mere grades.

We usually get free time only after 12th, by which time we are almost like 18, but most professional athletes start training much earlier, like at 11 or 12.

This is a bitter truth, but it is what it is.

Which degree and what's ur age ? Kya kar rahe sab

** it just me, or do other guys experience this too? 🤔🚇**

I travel by metro almost every day, and I'm a guy. Over the years, I've had quite a few situations that have genuinely confused me.

When I'm sitting next to a woman, sometimes our legs touch. At first I always assume it's because the seats are cramped or the train is crowded, so I move my leg a little to create some space. But every now and then, after I move, her leg ends up touching mine again. Sometimes it even happens more than once, and we end up having that leg-to-leg contact for several minutes without either of us moving away. That's the part that confuses me the most.

This has happened with women from different age groups—school students, college girls, and office workers. Because it's happened so many times, I honestly don't know what to think anymore. Maybe it's all accidental, maybe I'm overthinking it, or maybe in some cases it isn't.

One incident really stood out. I was standing in the metro next to a woman wearing a mask, and it felt like she brushed against or reached toward my thigh a couple of times. It happened so quickly that I couldn't figure out what was going on. I even wondered if it was some kind of distraction for pickpocketing, but I honestly have no idea.

I'm not accusing anyone or saying every bit of contact is intentional. Crowded metros naturally lead to accidental touching. I'm just curious because this has happened to me quite a few times.

**Guys:** Has this happened to you too?

**Girls:** Is repeated leg contact that lasts for a while usually just something people don't notice in a crowded metro, or is there another explanation? I'd genuinely like to hear your perspective because I'm not sure if I'm overthinking these situations. 🙂

dk if this is the right place to post this or not. I'm 18 rn and preparing for an entrance exam. I asked my parents to enroll me some coaching to which they said it was too costly and then I had to do online coaching. After this I asked them for some books, to which they said it's too costly(3,999).

But after this they purchased a mattress for themselves (15,999) and when I asked them if they could get me one too they said it's too costly, the one for my bed costs 5,999. And their now mattress is much more softer than mine. I have calcium deficiency and my mattress is rock hard. Every night I couldn't sleep and my backbone and whole body hurts I never get proper rest. I asked them if I can share their room, they said no. Now they are buying a mattress for my sisters' room and they don't even sleep in another room rn as they are very young.

After this incident my parents are also buying an ac(30k). When I asked them one for me they said they don't have enough money but again they are thinking of buying one for my sisters even tho their room is attached to my parents so if my parents turn on their ac the next room will get cool too. I on the other hand live on the complete other side of house with only a water cooler to which my mother always tells me to turn off because I'm increasing the bill. I said to them it's like 40° rn how can I survive without cooler to which she said I'm an ungrateful brat.

Almost always when it's my turn, their money vanishes. Doesn't matter if I had to buy clothes, if it's for my studies, my birthday. Every single time

I hate my life I wanna cry I wanna shout and scream at them how they don't love me. I want parents who love me. My friends mother care more about me than my own mother. I have endometriosis but my mom says I'm playing games because it doesn't hurt that much. No one goes with me to hospitals I always go alone. I'm always alone. I don't like to be alone. They say my voice is like a man. They say the moles on my face look ugly and that I'm too thin. I want to be loved. My heart aches for father's love and mother's care. I want to study too but no one buys me books or tests or anything how am I supposed to compete if no one helps me in any way.

Turns out life after exams is not all sunshine and rainbows 😔 and I'm lowk sick of going out.

I would love some recs of skills or ideas to improve myself that does not include frequent travelling or learning a language (I'm already learning one rn).18f btw so don't give absurd ideas please😭.

Thanks!

Before going out with a stranger, what you need to know/verify about a man/lady?

So recently, my college got over and now it's time to join a job. I graduated from a tier 1.5 college.

Due to my less gpa i got placed with a comparatively less package as compared to my friends. All my friends have a slightly better salary than me. It's like almost a 5k-20k difference between theirs and my salary.

Now I feel very weird ( maybe jealous ) about this feeling that everyone around me is doing better than me in terms of salary.

Am I being a jealous insecure person who feels like this?

( PS - It's not that I haven't tried to get a better job, I did actually try and even cracked one and even spend 4 months in the internship, but due to business constraints I wasn't offered PPO. The offer that they would have given was way better than every friend's current salary.)

Is it a good sign to involve siblings, cousins and even parents in a relationship of a year. Involve as in staying touch in social media, introducing them. I saw it in one of my distant friend's case and I was wondering if this doesn't work out, a lot of people will get invloved in this mess. Also from the boy's side, it felt like a sign of desperation and hurrying it to secure. Also it is an interfaith relationship.

What an amazing feeling it is to sleep like this! Just Wowwww! What are your experiences?

Once in 10th during the farewell nd stuff, there ws this girl who had crazy nicknames for me idk why, she ws taller than me but still she would come correct my blazer my tie like a mother lol, my freinds grp teased me fr tht but deep down i somehow developed feelings fr her, so what happened ws it ws me, she and her bestfreind in a room, they both were practicing for thier performance, I ws there jus scrolling nd kind of a judge... then her bestfreind went to a restroom, I nd her were alone i wsnt comfy dunno why so I ws trying to get out she grabbed my hand nd pulled me to a corner I nd her stood there staring at each other for about 10 mins nd nthg more, I still remember those eyes perfectly every hair that I could analyse on that face its etched now on a part of my brain damn, her friend disturbed us damn smhw we lost connect after our boards and still we hvnt talked fr years Ahhhh tht ws a crazy memory, the confession part is my bestfreind had a huge crush on her so I didnt make any move or stuff haha next I had a terrible breakup Lol

So I'm staying in a PG working as a video editor. So it's 3:26 am right now and these kannada people came to my room (3-sharing) and started ringing bells. So i woke up about to open the door and he suddenly opened it without permission n' he said nothing ne just started turning on and off the lights like it's a DJ party. And then he said to me don't lock the door. I said no it was not locked suddenly this Kannadiga pundachimon started shouting (obviously he's drank)

Also he have like around 5-6 people with him. They all started yapping n' shouting in kannada. Of course I don't know kannada. Just a little bit (only been here for 3 months) I know yestu, anna onth compact kode. Yeah so they knew I don't know sht about kannada and these little baasssterds started shouting, showing cinema style threatening. Why are these people like this? Isn't shame to be like this ? Or is this pride to born in banglore?

Imagine getting to others room and showing these kindo behaviour! Also they're too loud! Also drinking!

I've family. I've a girlfriend. I've friends. I've responsibilities. I've people depending on me.

If I don't have these relations. ONLY IF

I would've surely beaten this person to death (obviously not)

But it's sad man! Like I'm helpless. What can I do? Really! Nothing

If I called the police they'll be on their side too! Imagine living like this

Anyone as gunda/don in kannada? Please help me!

Can anybody explain what is it like for a young adult to move to a bigger city alone for college after living in a relatively conservative place with conservative parents

I’m a 2003-born, 23F from a tier 1 Indian city, and I feel so ancient for having never experienced romance before...

Especially after seeing all the dating and relationship posts everywhere. 😭

People also refuse to believe me when I tell them I’ve never really been into romance before, so it’s surprisingly hard to find people who can relate.

Even though I feel significantly more mentally mature now, the idea of stepping into the dating world still feels super scary.

I’ll probably skip dating apps altogether and try to meet people organically because dating apps just seem so fake and superficial to me.

Girlies in my shoes do y’all feel scared especially because of how much our society likes to age out women and feel like the clock is ticking? 🥹

Bored ! Please suggest some good movies ...

Ofcourse we all want a person with a kind heart, who's well spoken, helps others, lives with dignity and we all look for this quality in our potential partners.

But I find Kindness not only a quality of character, but also sexually attractive. Like I get turned on by it.

And it happens a lot to me. I saw someone helping a small girl perform who was very reluctant to do that but this gesture helped her a lot.

Even though this person who helped her wasn't that conventionally attractive but this act made me attracted towards this person.

To sum up, when I say sexually, I mean that they might not be conventionally attractive sexually but their kind personality is enough to make them attractive for me. Does this make sense?

Does anyone of you feel similar?