r/AajMereSaathYeHua

I'll start from the beginning. I met a girl on Reddit, and we had great conversations about random things. Eventually, we exchanged Snapchats—she was actually the one who suggested it. From there, we started texting every few days. Most of the time when she reached out, she was sad, crying, or dealing with anxiety.

Out of nowhere, her Instagram profile popped up in my feed. I knew it was her because I had already seen her face from the Snaps she sent. When I brought it up, she said something like, "You know that's me, so follow!"

She had an ex-boyfriend whom she broke up with around six or seven months ago. More recently, she had a guy best friend she had fallen in love with, but he was toxic and ended things between them—even though she still wanted to be with him. Because of that, she often texted me about him, venting about toxic incidents while still missing him. She even had panic attacks during that phase, and we'd have late-night talks working through it.

Finally, she blocked him. After doing that, she seems genuinely happy now.

The thing is, I feel like she won’t talk to me anymore now that she's healed, even though this was the lowest point of her life. I really want to stay good friends with her and don't want to grow distant, but I have a feeling that’s about to happen. Am I cooked? (By the way, she’s gorgeous and gets hit on by people every day.)

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Today I had a fight with my mom over something that honestly left me really confused.

She told me that she and my dad would get some legal documents made through court saying that both me and my brother would have to give them half of whatever we earn.

I immediately asked, “But why?”

I told her that I also have a life ahead of me. If I get married, I'll have my own family, children, their education, expenses, etc. Why should I be legally obligated to give half of my salary to my parents every month?

She replied, “Your children's father will educate them. You didn't have them alone.”

😭😭😭

I said, “Then he will have parents too, right? Shouldn't he also be responsible for taking care of his own parents?"

I told her that I'm absolutely willing to support my parents. If they genuinely need financial help, I will always help them. They're my parents, after all. But I don't think my entire financial life should be decided in advance, especially after marriage. I'd rather contribute when and how much I realistically can, depending on my own family's needs and my parents' needs.

The thing is, I already work and most of my salary currently goes toward household expenses. Despite that, my parents seem to expect that even after I get married, I should continue financially supporting them.

Whenever I try to explain that after marriage I'll have a separate family too, my mom gets upset and says, “Aaj kal ke bacche aise hi hote hain.”????🥲🥲🥲

I don't understand this mindset. To me, marriage doesn't mean abandoning your parents, but it also doesn't mean that your parents automatically become financially dependent on you for the rest of their lives.

I would happily take care of my parents if they needed me. But I don't think “you must give us 50% of your salary” is the same thing as taking care of your parents.

So, am I being selfish here? Is my mom's expectation reasonable, or am I looking at this completely wrong?

Waited from the morning. Initially she said:

1. Abhi pg valo ne pg saaf nahi kia hai

2. Room mate bahar nahi ja rahi, so I can't bring you in

3. Pg mai aaj light nahi aa rahi. Koi wire/yaar bahar took gya hai

4. Hair treatment ke liye Geetanjali ja rahi

5. kal se office early hai: by 7 am I have to be in office. So will sleep early.

If you have pets at home and if you are feeding them non vegetarian foods, i highly recommend you give them fresh chicken feet (without nails) as they are superb treats and are considered to be the ultimate super treats for joints health. Look how happy the adopted indie is in the picture ❤️🦋

I LOVE going on solo dates now, but my first one? Absolutely terrifying. 😭
I remember sitting there thinking of a million different scenarios. What if people think I’m lonely? What if everyone is staring at me? What am I even supposed to do sitting alone? I was genuinely so awkward and nervous.
So naturally, I decided the best way to deal with my anxiety was to pick a ridiculously fancy place, dress up, get ready like I was going on an actual date… and just go.
The first few minutes were definitely awkward. I was hyper-aware of myself, looking around and wondering if I looked weird sitting there alone. But then something just clicked.
I started enjoying my own company. I ordered some amazing food, took my sweet time, actually enjoyed the atmosphere, and realized… wait, this is actually FUN??
Nobody cared that I was alone. Nobody was judging me. And even if someone did notice, who cares?
That one awkward little dinner completely changed my perspective. Since then, I’ve gone on multiple solo dates and honestly, they’re some of my favourite dates.
10/10 would recommend taking yourself out. Dress up. Go somewhere nice. Order the good food. Sit there and romanticize your own life a little.
Turns out you don’t always need someone else to have a good time. Sometimes the date is just you❤️

Check out the Part 1 for context here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AajMereSaathYeHua/s/8zX6NdVis4
 
TLDR is at the end but will only make sense if you have context from Part1.
 
So after the wedding was done, now it was turn of groom's side to throw the dinner reception where mostly the groom's side of relatives are present. We obviously invite the bride's side too but usually only a handful of people come, which is also mostly bridesmaids(saalis). 
So, from the bride's side the OG saali came with 2-3 other saalis and 4-5 boys who looked to be between 20-30yrs of age. Out of those boys, 2-3 came already drunk to the event.
 
So almost at the beginning of the event, when the newlyweds were sitting on the stage and people were coming and getting their pictures clicked, those boys were having some arguments with the photographer when it was their turn to get their pictures clicked. Don't know what the exact issue was but my cousin (the groom) clocked that and did not react on it at the moment.
 
Now fast forward to a little later in the night when the relatives who lived far away or the non-close people left after eating and only the close family members remained, we started dancing to the DJ and on one corner of the dancing stage, those 3 drunk boys were also grooving.
Now obviously anyone can tell they are drunk by the way they were moving but we didn't mind as it is a celebratory function and not everyone will be sober. As long as they are not creating any scene, it is all good. But a scene they did create after all.
 
We were about 15-20 people of the family dancing in a circle both ladies and gents mix. One of them drunk boy got up to the DJ and told him to play a song which we later found out was not so family friendly. 
The DJ obviously refused coz ladies might get uncomfortable by that and called one of our cousins and told him that this drunk guy is asking so and so song to be played.
My cousin told them that we have ladies here as well so don't ask such songs to be played, and he is a little hothead so he also told them that you guys are obviously very drunk so wrap it up and get away from here.
 
Instead of understanding gravity of the situation (they were 3 and we were 10-15 hatte katte boys), the one who was the most drunk started showing slight aggression towards my cousin as if he will charge on him and also kept saying to my cousin - how did you say that to me to go away from here.
An argument started between my cousin and that drunk guy, DJ stopped playing and the family started gathering around. The one who was less drunk (lets call him L) looked sensible and knew they do not stand a chance, so he started grabbing the more drunk guy (lets call him M) to take him away. 
I told him L to take M with him and get lost from here. This is a family event; we don't want any nuisance. M was still trying to get free from L's grip and charge on my cousin. He had lost all his senses it seemed. 
 
Anyways, they went away to the parking lot that was behind the main hall where everybody was gathering now and the road led from parking lot to main hall to the exit. 
As he was going away, he still was looking back again and agin as if he were really gonna do something bad to my cousin. 
As they went away, the entire family gathering to discuss what just happened. We knew he was too drunk, so there was no point arguing and stretching this thing, it's better if they go away for now and we'll handle this thing later next day. We were nonchalant.
 
In the parking lot, someone from the venue told us later, that first of all, M did not want to go away without a fight and wanted to come back to the main hall. But then got inside the car and sat at the driver seat with the intent so ramming the car itself onto us since the exit was from where we were standing.
But later L shifted M on the passenger seat and started driving the car away. The car stopped just before the exit and where we all were standing and M was shouting slurs at my cousins. Now my cousins also started moving towards the car and saying mild slurs, coz family was there.
I don't know why the driver stopped the car and was not moving away anymore. Maybe his ego got hurt too. Anyways, since they had made up their mind and were not going away, I told my cousin- okay they really wanna do this then let's do this. Get them out of the car.
My cousin is really strong and wears a kada (steel bracelet). He held that in his hand and threw a couple punches on the driver side window and shattered its glass. Unlocked the car and flicked open the driver's door to drag the driver out.
 
As this was going on at one end, on the other side of the car, the groom came running as he saw a crowd gathered around a car when he was coming out of the washroom. He was already annoyed at the boys due to the Photographer incident, so he straight up opened the passenger door now that the car was unlocked and held M by his collar. This scared him and he also stopped cussing now. This all was happening really fast.
Now from the driver's side, my cousin's mom stopped him from escalating this further and from the passenger side, the new bride stopped the groom. L and M both closed their door and skedaddled away.
 
After we rolled away, more people from our family came there, who were away probably drinking in hiding. They asked us what happened and were all like- find out whose car was this, how can they just cause nuisance at our family event. Not gonna let this slide and have to do something about it now.
The hothead cousin told his mother she shouldn't have stopped him and he was like- we now gonna beat them tonight itself.
 
As this was going on, the leftover people from bride side were also shook. The OG saali started crying and was like- we don't know what happened to them, they are not like this. We'll talk to them; you guys please don't do anything rash.
Not gonna lie, watching her cry was a little satisfying for us all cousins considering what she did on the wedding day. Karma is a bitch moment for her.
 
Anyways, long story short, the groom's father said it's fine and that they were from bride's side and not some strangers so let this go. Let's not ruin our night over such a thing, we talk to them later. Nobody is going to beat anybody. So, in the spirit of wedding celebrations and to not let some drunk idiots ruin our event, we let that go, sat at the roundtable, enjoyed yum yum food and went home.
 
How was the tea. Let me know your thoughts or questions. Thanks for reading!

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TL;DR: A few drunk guys from the bride’s side picked a fight at the reception, got aggressive, and allegedly tried to use their car to intimidate the groom’s family. Things nearly turned violent, with a car window getting smashed, but everyone was stopped before it escalated further. Groom’s dad ultimately told everyone to let it go.

I was thinking...if I should also start ranting or maybe just random shit posting on Reddit too.

For starters....

I started my corporate journey 2 months ago, and on the 2nd day, my manager was asked if she had brought her daughter today. Because I'm quite short and, of course, look young.

They thought I was her daughter

And this happened 3 times😭

Today, I went to watch drishyam movie. I bought a recliner seat, with the perfect view. Then this family comes, one couple with three little kids of around 5-6 year old, their one more relative sitting adjacent to me. Are yar jo mood li aise- taise ki hai na inhone bhai. Chalti movie k beech mein status dekh rahe hai with full volume, attending calls after calls and talking on phone very loudly. Fer unke bache, kabhi age daudh rahe haii kabhi idher ja rahe hai kabhi udhar and munching pizzas, burgers and popcorns throughout the movie. Kahi baar to movie k dilouge bhi acchi Tarah se sun nahi paya. Please request hai yaar, if anybody goes to watch a movie, please have some attiquetes. Baki movie acchi thi.

Mujhe ek sapna aaya (subah 6 bje) jisme m aur mera bhai kisi hotel m ruke hue the for some sort of function.

Udhar rooms kam the, mne aur mere bhai ne ek ek room le liya, fir ladkiyan aa gyi, unke paas room nhi tha. Ek ldki mere bhai k room m chli gyi, fir un dono ne gucham guchi ki.

Fir ek ladki ne mere room m bhi entry maari, lekin mere paas cndom nhi tha. M mere bhai k paas c*ndom lene gya. Usne mujhe c*ndom de to diya, lekin vo ladki kahi aur chli gyi.

Fir mere room m mere g*ndu dost aa gye, unhe bhagaya. Fir ek ladki aayi lekin uske saath bhi bt ho gyi I dont remember. Us time k around sabko neend aa rhi thi, to ese hi thodi BT rahi us time, idhar udhar bhagam bhag ho rhi thi for some reason, mne dekha ki mere bhai ke kamre m 3 ladkiyo ne check in kiya hua hai. Aur vo teeno gucham guchi kar rhe hai. Aur mera bhai so rha hai side me like (he doesn't care, usey sona hai).

(Is paragraph m aur bhi kaafi kuch hua tha lekin utna detail yaad nhi, is paragraph k alawa sab accurate hai).

Fir mne dekha kisi ne mere video game ki cassette aur tod di (mere paas to koi casette hai bhi nhi) 🤡🥀

Aaj mere sath ye hua