r/FemcelHub_

This question seems stupid but it’s a real one I have cuz I be seeing people who look normal (atleast better looking than me) call themselves femcels, which I’m genuinely curious by.

By definition, a femcel is someone who can’t get into a relationship right? Surely there could be features besides looks that prevent someone from being in a relationship.

Btw I didn’t wanna be rude!! I was just asking

I tried to stop posting here because I’m not even well liked here but idk anymore I need somewhere to vent. i genuinely feel so desperate to feel love i’ve begged for my groomer (I’m 18 and he’s 28) to be my boyfriend multiple times (he ended up rejecting me like all the other guys i like because of “my mental problems” im not even mentally unwell, I just get sad sometimes). I guess that makes me a fakecel because some femcels can’t even get groomed so I feel lucky i can experience this kind of attention but i still feel so lonely. I feel like my friends don’t care about me anymore, they are beautiful and talented and have built such fulfilling lives for themselves and there is no more room in their lives for me; i try to message them several times and they leave me on read/delivered. I stopped venting to them, or saying any negative things to them and only ask them questions about their lives because I don’t want them to feel exhausted by me, but they take ages to respond to me anyways but i just know they’d text their crush or boyfriend immediately. I wish they would vent to me or something so I can be there for them and feel deep emotional intimacy with them again. I feel so upset that once you become an adult, people start prioritising their partners more and friends become an afterthought because i’m going to be left with nobody whilst everyone builds their lives with their partners together. all i want is comfort and to cry in someone’s arms my bed feels so big at night. But despite all of this Indont even feel capable of experiencing romantic love anymore because whenever I find a guy attractive i think about all the times I’ve been rejected and how he probably has a girlfriend more beautiful than me and don’t feel attracted to him anymore, which I guess is good because it means I won’t be heartbroken again because i think I’ll go crazy jf i have another rrejection. I try to focus on myself, and the whole self care productivity schick works well for a day or two before it comr crashing down and im crying every night at 3am and trying to hug myself and run my fingers through my hair becauss i want to be comforted so badly and idk what’s wrong with me so idk what to say to a therapist i feel too embarrassed to tell a therapist that im sad because i have no boyfriend so I deal with this all alone

simply because i know i’ll never have children, even though i desperately want them. so it hurts to see children being so cute and adorable and not immediately imagining my kid potentially being that way then the realization hitting my like a brick wall — i will literally never have children. lmao.

I‘m 21F and never been in a romantic relationship with a guy, but when I was 12 I was basically coerced into having sex by boys the same age. This was before I even started having my period. So do I count as a femcel when i‘ve technically had sex but fail to „attract“ men ever since. lol

You’re the practice. The thing in between moids and true love. If you aren’t beautiful, you’ll never be taken seriously as a love interest. Just the way up.

Literally go outside and look around. You never see a moid end up with a sub 5 or even average girl. If you aren’t at least HTB, you’ll be at most practice, even if you do get lucky enough to be asked out. If you ever find someone who you think likes you back and wants to hang out with you or whatever, they will just lead you on while waiting for their dream girl. It doesn’t matter who you are or what your personality is, you will never be who they want.

I am not conventionally attractive. Never have been. My face is uneven, I have a big forehead, big ears, recessed, etc. I have never been anyone’s crush. The two times someone has shown interest in me (and it wasn’t a joke) they’ve never actually wanted to date. They’ll flirt with me until they find a girlfriend. I was just practice. My life is a joke and I’ll be alone forever. Fuck moids and their hypergamy.

See I was butt ugly. Like super butt ugly. Overweight, acne, no hair (buzzed my head), hyperpigmentation all over my body (I'm not kidding just imagine cheetah spots but ugly), shrimp like posture.

When I was butt ugly, stacies and men both would talk to me but keep me at a distance.

Then I started swimming for funsies and things got a lil better. Lost weight, hair grew, hyperpigmentation started fading, posture improved.

When I improved physically, stacies would give me backhanded compliments. Question me why I was wearing a particular outfit even though her other stacy friends would wear the same kind of outfit but she never questioned them on their personal choices. Say "oh you finally turned into a girl from a boy" in front of everyone and laugh in my face. Men during this time obv became nicer as expected.

I went into a depressive phase again recently and turned into an acne prone hyperpigmented buzzed haired fat pig again. And now the same stacies are nicer to me for some reason and always wanna hangout with me. They keep wanting me to tag along as their lackey or their DUFF (designated ugly fat friend). They even mock my voice in class because it doesn't match my appearance now. Men well they stopped approaching me romantically but still talk to me as if I'm human.

As worthless we are deemed by others, some men will still want to extract resources from us sliding into dms, using us as therapists, attention, stalking this sub to jerk off. We aren't romantically desirable but our energy is wanted, we are disrespected and stolen from. Wanted as punching bags or background assets to highlight others.

Because they live in this void, in order to cope they need to believe EVERYTHING in the world is made to serve them. Women have to be made for me (make my junk hard). Objectify women because men themselves don't relate to the human experience, project that onto women to cope. Men will use you to maladaptive daydream. Around you, they talk louder with their boyfriends, cough, clear throat, fart, stomp. Men live in a void, and need this audience to prove their existence is real. They are the void, see who are destroying the planet? Didn't start with women.

Non femcels are wanted in the role of a "girlfriend", get paid from the relationship with reciprocated attention/romance from the male. Then he wants to merge himself with the girl/woman because, still, he doesn't exist. Their dicks will never help them ground themselves onto reality like they believe. Reliant on their dick to assess reality, what doesn't give him a boner must be destroyed. Never having developed a heart or the mind, no amount of violence or intensity of an orgasm will make them feel alive. Men are dead, so they kill.

all of you here are so beautiful as people. men can never seem to comprehend this -- their perception stops at the physical. being disgusting, being ugly is beautiful to me. i appreciate the character it takes to oppose the ever-demanding beauty standard, regardless of intention. i love you at a level that a moid cannot understand. i despise them. you are such a beautiful human and deserve celebration at every level. you are sexy, you are romantically attractive, i treasure you as a human. beautiful is all-encompassing. i love every fat roll, every cellulite mark. i love every inch of your body, and all of your self.

I met a girl at a party at my place who had a boyfriend but was in an open relationship and we had chemistry I thought and SPOILER NO she wanted someone to be pretty next to someone ugly (me) to flirt with a moid… I love women but can we stop backstabbing each other

Serial killers and other famous criminals get so many love letters in prison. I've seen men who were convicted for literally killing or severely abusing their former partners and STILL managed to find a new one once they were out of prison (my country doesn't have life sentences nor the death penalty). The most toxic, abusive jerks somehow still seem to be able to find some poor woman to abuse and manipulate.

Meanwhile, women get abandoned after decades of marriage for getting cancer or some shit. I've heard so many stories of women sticking by their husbands through the worst stuff imaginable - addiction, disease, poverty -, only to be left for the stupidest reasons. Women who financially supported their struggling husbands and helped them follow their ambitions, only to be swapped for random girls once the men were in a better financial situation and possibly had higher status/better looks.

Women complain all the time about men being menchildren and not pulling their own weight with household chores, childcare and whatnot, but, if we hear so much about that, it's because these men still manage to get and stay in relationships, in spite of their total lack of effort. It's so much less common to hear men complaining about women like that - yes, part of that is probably because those are still culturally considered to be women's roles, but I have no doubt very few men would be willing to sacrifice like that for a woman, regardless of any "feelings", and most would have ditched her ass so fast. (Don't compare that to being a "breadwinner", because a) that's less soul sucking than 24/7 household management; b) money and a career are often an ego boost and a central element of identity for the man; c) that inequality often persists even when both work; d) most men can't afford to do that nowadays anyway.)

I see so many women on this website complaining about their partners not being affectionate if they don't want sex (but always feeling entitled to sex), while the common complaint for men is basically just lack of sex, either in or outside of a relationship. Sex sex sex sex; it's like many of them are incapable of having any feelings for a woman outside of wanting to stick their penises inside a vagina without much consideration of the person they're getting inside of, and they might be willing to put up with a relationship and her personality if she provides frequent sex plus other services.

Yes, I know it happens the other way around too, women can also be abusive, commit DV, leave their partners for unfair reasons etc., but for the more "measurable" stuff - like incidence of DV or likelihood of sick partners being abandoned - there are actual statistics that show it's a lot more likely to be done by men to women. I'm honestly too depressed and sleep deprived right now to be bothered to look up references for horrible stuff I've already seen too many times, but that means you don't have to believe me, just look it up for yourself if you think I'm bullshitting - and prove me wrong if you can, please, I'd fucking love to be wrong.

The only asshole behavior that seems to be more common with women than men is gold digging, but, then again, a) society has traditionally been structured in a way that made it a lot harder for a woman to make it on her own, even though that gap is closing (not closed); b) honestly, knowing what I know now, I can't fault straight women for realizing they won't get an affectionate, equal partnership, and at least trying to get something out of dating and marriage - just like men themselves almost always choose based on practical considerations and their own best interests.

The worst part is that rational awareness of these things doesn't take away my innate desire for romantic and erotic companionship - just like wanting to die doesn't eliminate the survival instinct (or we wouldn't have so many suicidal people who never attempted), or wanting to starve doesn't eliminate hunger and the biological drive to eat (or every anorexic would become extremely underweight, and eventually die, in the absence of forced intervention).

A few years of learning and thinking can't undo evolutionary history and a lifetime of social conditioning. Even if I understand it's extremely unlikely, I yearn for romantic intimacy, being valued and held, having someone who chooses to stay, and experiencing sensuality WITH LOVE (though I'm coming to resent sex, because of the detached and objectified way it's seen and treated in society, especially by men). I've been trying so much to change myself, but I always end up failing, because it seems like such a core part of me; deep down, it's what I've always craved, one of the very few things I've ever wanted or given a shit about. It feels like attempting gay conversion therapy on myself, or some idiotic shit like that.

And, at this point, I'm too broken and damaged to even have that 0.01% chance of a fairytale. I'm unfit for a loving relationship now, if I ever wasn't. I'm actually afraid of any man who would see me for what I am and still be interested in me, because they're probably dangerous and trying to take advantage of my fragility somehow. It's fucking depressing. I see no reason to bother with anything anymore, since I won't ever experience reciprocal love, because I'm weird, not particularly pretty or hot, and have mental issues, low energy and poor executive skills (= bad at housework). Trying to care about other stuff is like trying to focus on reading with a throbbing headache, or like trying to sleep when you need to pee so much it hurts.

Thanks for coming to my psych ward. I hope I get my period soon so I can be numb again, and able to sleep.

Whenever an xy chromo says a woman is a “hoe” I don’t believe them at all. These disgusting creatures will call a woman that for quite literally anything, even if she rejects their sexual advances. They know that they can weaponize these words against women and hurt their social reputation. They even lie about having sexual relationships with women so they can look “cool.” Also even if a woman is promiscuous Idgaf bc ik a male would never be held to the same standards, in fact he would get praised. The real sluts and whores are males, they’re quite literally wild animals who only think about sex. I’m not sure how they’re classified as human beings.