r/PrincessFeminism

Girlies, let's normalize never replying to the chronically online Reddit guys.

No replies. No explanations. No pity responses.

Let them keep refreshing their inbox, camping in every comment section the second a woman posts, and convincing themselves they're one witty comment away from becoming the main character.

It's genuinely fascinating. Some are unemployed with unlimited free time. Some have impressive careers, high-paying jobs, and packed LinkedIn profiles. Yet the moment an "F" appears on Reddit, they're united by one shared mission: dropping everything to chase a stranger's attention.

Don't ruin the experience for them.

Post what you want. Disappear. Leave the DMs to collect dust.

If someone's daily routine revolves around waiting for a random woman on Reddit to reply, they've already got enough on their plate.

We'll find emotionally mature men in real life. They can keep competing for the Olympic gold medal in refreshing Reddit notifications.

One of the things I've noticed reading incel and "transmaxxing" communities is that a surprising amount of what gets described doesn't sound like simple hatred of women so much as alienation from masculinity and, in some cases, a hidden desire for femininity.

A huge amount of incel rhetoric revolves around some variation of:

"Women get to be beautiful."

"Women get to be desired."

"Women get to express emotion."

"Women get to be vulnerable."

"Women get to receive affection."

"Women get to choose partners."

"Women get to be socially supported."

"Women get to escape the pressures placed on men."

Now, obviously, these beliefs are often wildly detached from women's actual lived experiences. They are fantasies about womanhood, not descriptions of womanhood—specifically, a version of womanhood constructed through a masculine lens.

But fantasies still tell us something.

Because what many of these men seem to be expressing is not simply sexual frustration. They're expressing a profound dissatisfaction with the male social role they have been given.

The picture they paint of womanhood is almost entirely fantasy. Most women would not recognize themselves in it. But what these men are often describing isn't really women's lives. They're describing a life they wish they had. This is especially true when they talk about beauty, desirability, and social value.

In that sense, a lot of red pill ideology reads less like simple hatred and more like resentful envy: "you have something I believe I am denied or desire."

Red pill ideology insists that masculinity means dominance, emotional restriction, status competition, sexual conquest, and the rejection of anything coded as feminine. Men who cannot comfortably inhabit that role often end up feeling like failures.

Instead of questioning the role itself, they externalize that pain. Women become objects of resentment because women are imagined as possessing everything these men feel forbidden from having: beauty, desirability, emotional expression, vulnerability, social support, and freedom from certain masculine expectations.

That doesn't excuse the misogyny. If anything, it makes it more revealing.

The men who spend enormous amounts of time obsessing over female beauty, female desirability, female social power, female emotional expression, and female sexual freedom may be telling us something important about themselves.

I don't think this means most incels are secretly trans. They aren't.

It is, however, true that gender dysphoria and gender incongruence do not exist in only one form.

The most familiar experience of dysphoria is bodily: a person's physical characteristics do not align with their internal sense of self. This can range from simply wanting to present differently to wanting significant medical transition.

But there is also social dysphoria: distress arising from the expectations, roles, and assumptions placed on someone because of how they are perceived.

Someone may be largely comfortable with their body while still feeling profoundly alienated by the social role associated with that body. For some people, changing their presentation, name, pronouns, or social identity is enough to resolve that tension. Others pursue medical transition. Others settle somewhere in the middle, often embracing androgyny or non-binary identities.

This is one reason non-binary identities and they/them pronouns have become more visible. Human experiences of gender are often more complex than a simple binary model allows for.

So I do think some people who eventually transition emerge from these communities because what they were actually experiencing was a conflict with masculinity itself. Their hostility toward women was, at least in part, hostility toward aspects of themselves they had been taught to suppress.

More broadly, I think many men—not just trans people—would benefit from asking a simple question:

Which parts of masculinity genuinely feel authentic to me, and which parts am I performatively inhabiting because I was told that's what a man is supposed to be?

Because when someone spends enormous amounts of energy policing femininity, condemning vulnerability, obsessing over dominance, and fearing anything perceived as submissive, that often tells us less about women and more about that person's own unresolved relationship with gender.

Sometimes hatred is just hatred.

But sometimes hatred is also envy wearing armor.

everytime i see a man roll his eyes n say “gender wars hur hur im so above this bc its just ego battles hur hur” im astounded at the privilege u have to be so fucking stupid

genuinely wish i could just turn around on a tuesday n say racism? ohhh i know those ego battles pfft im above that, i dont listen to ppl that fight ego battles 😇

u just highlighted the privilege u have to be ignorant in the fkn first place, the fact u have no idea of the reality here n reduce it to simple ego games what the actual fuk, as in the group that has been oppressed since the literal dawn of fkn time & r still fighting to this day have only been doing this for a powertrip? all the things feminism stands for u think has the SAME weight n direction as watever bullshit misogynistic talking points they use to argue against it? yea makes sense right, looking at the world,

women complain men committing violent crimes left right n centre, pdfs literally exist, entire epstein shit exists, incels exist, patriarchy tht affects men too exists, rapidly decreasing basic safety of existing on a planet we were born on exists n only gets worse

ehhh

men complain he doesnt hav …sex..
or woman r allowed to CHOOSE their partners now??? hypergamy grrrr stop this at once.
or ugh this feminism thing is getting too far, these women hate us for no reason!!! men r always safe and good :D women r brainwashed and evil…being hateful is wrong! they dont take accountability for being hateful!

yea must be same thing dude ugh stupid gender wars!!1!1!

u see the state of the world, u see women pushing for change and u cant connect the dots?
u see the crimes, but u justify the reasoning behind it, shift blame to victims, n protect evil because it comes from the same ‘team’ as u.
u r the one fighting for ego
ur above it but ull defend it
u rly think the only possible reason womens collective rage cld exist is to make u feel bad?
then turn around n complain abt the same system affecting u n the reason u find is simply womens freedom itself
u get so close to understanding class consciousness then very quickly give up into “well must be the immigrants or, god knows what theyre complaining abt”
u dance around in the luxury of ur unrefined perception
these r the men we r surrounded by
the men u defend as protectors
u refuse to hear us for centuries then remain confused to where on earth this disdain came from
whilst demanding respect for this supposed intellect
n if we refuse to white lie for u we risk abuse or literal death bc normative male alexithymia another blow from the same system.
u r cowards, bound by ridiculously fragile egos, stuck in the comfort of complaining abt the flavours of our resilience
feels like playing a game w someone who cheats n smiles at u after,
but tbf whats all this compared to not getting ur dick wet am i right

last post gave me a ban since reddit no likey mean feminist, so let me rephrase it nicely!!!

sooo got my period this morning, scrolling thru this chernobyl app before i even got out of bed, seeing casual csam (filled w comments obviously, also not taken down), men arguing about how younger women (18 obviously) isn’t predatory to go after bc “biologyyyy” 🙈, misogynists shaming “false allegations”😻, msgs on this acc from men claiming to agree w me (just to ask my asl and if im kinky lmfao?), hundreds of disgusting predatory shameless msgs on my main account from old gross pdfmen (posted a pic to a NON NSFW sub bc i wanted friends) and then ofc to top it off, the number of random incel subs that get recommended to me out of nowhere, 😺😺😺with just blatant misogyny and incel(ism?) in all directions (always blaming feminism for what the patriarchy/or literally they directly hav caused, and then doing the whole “women vs taking accountability” the fkn irony)

decide to close reddit and open instagram (to prove to myself it was my choice of app, obviously not) just to watch sum silly reels of stuff completely unrelated yet always filled with blackpill/redpill brainwashed commenters. closed that app and hugged my dog

just a normal day of being a woman on social media, and ik how algorithms work but i genuinely dont interact with these posts or comments, i report/block/mute or “why am i seeing this” on everything i can, where men exist this will persist

and my acc can get banned for complaining abt this, but the literal substance im complaining abt is no probbb for reddit. does anyone else feel like they’re losing they’re actual fkn minds i genuinely wna wear a shirt that reps my disgust here but at the same time dont want to risk getting slimed out by sum undercover elliot rodger

i need women around me desperately i cannot believe this is reality

Every year I wake up on Father’s Day and feel melancholy. Father’s Day makes me feel awful.

For the record, I don’t have an abusive father. I have a dad who tries. He’s not perfect and I (usually) don’t expect him to be.

I think my depression/anxiety comes from the idea that *all* dads can take Father’s Day as an affirmation they’re doing a good job. The worst dad out there can celebrate Father’s Day and feel good about their awfulness.

It just feels like a free attaboy for too many dads. I hate that, and frankly I don’t trust men enough to give them a broad categorical free attaboy.