I never know what to say during sex 😭 I want to be more vocal but I genuinely don’t know what guys actually like hearing or when to say things without it sounding forced or awkward.
What do you actually like hearing from a girl? I need examples because my mind just goes blank lol
Long story short, I’m (f43) in my 40s and for all
Intents and purposes I’m a virgin (I mean in terms of experience and exploration sexually, I know I’m not an actual virgin).
I have only ever been with my ex husband (turned out he is gay, go figure), and for better part of a decade the bedroom was a dead zone and over the last 3 years there was no sex at all… and even early on things were extreme vanilla.
We’ve been divorced for just about a year, and now I’m ready to try to date again… but I feel like a literally 40 years old virgin, and I can’t imagine someone would want to take the time to take baby steps with a 43 year old women. I just figure it’s a headache that men wouldn’t want to deal with (I know a lot of you guys don’t want somebody that’s like been with a bunch of people).
I don’t know… just wondering if there’s any advice or viewpoints of how to break this to someone, and what advice on how to potentially be with someone and not be a mood killer bc I might be a little slow to come out of my shell.
This is a genuine question and I don’t need any sympathy, just an honest answer. Few months ago, I (21F) was involved in a very serious motorcycle accident and I was left with a big incision scar in the middle of my torso. It starts below my boobs all the way down to my belly button. I also have two very big and noticeable incisions on my arm and a smaller one on my foot.
I’ve recently started getting back on my own two feet and I can’t help but wonder, do men find this repulsive? Would this scare you if the girl you’re dating showed you? Would it make you feel uncomfortable during intercourse? Any comments?
Thinking about it, I’ve had one guy approach me in the last 6 months, and he was much older…
I can’t remember the last time a guy my own age (24) has interacted with me without me saying something to him! 😂
My boyfriend posts everything we do. But never me. He said it's because he doesn't want anyone all up on his business. He also posts on his account in which he has friends and old female friends. They would leave comments on his video, and he would respond. I know that deep insider, he wants to talk to these girls, because they are platonic friends. But now I feel like I cannot trust him anymore. I always allow these things, I never complain. I complained once and he defended himself that they are just friends. I get it. But to be honest, should I settle for something like this.
I’ve heard mixed answers on this subject, including from traditional/protective men.
Edit: So I got a few comments saying this was too long so here is a shorter version. The longer one might be in the comments if anyone is interested.
So my (26M) girlfriend (23F) broke up with me in January after dating for over a year in a long distance relationship. We continued to still talk almost daily since then and have even visited each other’s cities since(currently planning on spending new years together).
However I have now decided that this arrangement isn’t really working for me and it’s time for me to walk away. If I don’t initiate contact with her at certain times then I literally would not hear from her. We would go from daily talking to no word for days when I don’t put in that initial effort. Currently going through one of those and decided not to text her anymore. Do I go through with that and end things that way or man up and let her know officially?
I recognize that this is bit chaotic and lacking a lot of context but I’ll be in the comments to answer any questions and fill any gaps!