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Is it normal for the man to initiate all or most calls/texts at the beginning stages?

I am not talking about planning or leading dates. But just regular communication to get know each other. Does it bother you if she never or hardly initiates calls/texts at the beginning? I feel like if I am usually the one to reach out to her it starts to feel like I am bothering her and she isn't much interested.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 day ago

Is it normal for the man to initiate all or most calls/texts at the beginning stages?

I am not talking about planning or leading dates. But just regular communication to get know each other. Does it bother you if she never or hardly initiates calls/texts at the beginning? I feel like if I am usually the one to reach out to her it starts to feel like I am bothering her and she isn't much interested.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 day ago
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Can a woman mention her boyfriend yet still want to go out with you romantically?

I know usually women will mention her bf as a boundary or soft rejection. But can there be cases where she mentions her boyfriend yet she wants to test your reaction and still wants to go out on dates with you anyway (i.e. testing the waters/affair)? Does that actually happen?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 3 days ago

When a lady responds "I guess it will be fun" to a 3rd date, should I not bother going?

I feel it comes off as lukewarm and something you say to a dentist appointment.

The "guess" part sounds intentional. She didn't have to use that word.

And she's kinda long distance as she lives 1 hour away.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 18 days ago

Work relationships and affairs. How common are they?

How common is it for dentist and hygienist/assistant/other staff to have a romantic relationship? Or dental instructors and students? Especially affairs.

Ever come across something like this in your career? I couldn't work in that atmosphere. Just seems rife with drama especially affairs, lol.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 18 days ago

Is it risky for a bf to move into his gf's father's rental property? Both the gf and bf living together in the property.

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Assuming the relationship is long term of a few years. Would you do it? Or does it create an uneasy power dynamic? My concern is the bf would not be on neutral territory. I would prepare for it to be held over his head by her family at all times and by her during any argument. I think the gf's father would have major power over the bf in this arrangement.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 19 days ago
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Is it risky for a bf to move into his gf's father's rental property? Both the gf and bf living together in the property.

Assuming the relationship is long term of a few years. Would you do it? Or does it create an uneasy power dynamic? My concern is the bf would not be on neutral territory. I would prepare for it to be held over his head by her family at all times and by her during any argument. I think the gf's father would have major power over the bf in this arrangement.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 19 days ago

Is it risky for a bf to move into his gf's father's rental property? Both the gf and bf living together in the property.

Assuming the relationship is long term of a few years. Would you do it? Or does it create an uneasy power dynamic? My concern is the bf would not be on neutral territory. I would prepare for it to be held over his head by her family at all times and by her during any argument. I think the gf's father would have major power over the bf in this arrangement.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 19 days ago

Is it risky for a bf to move into his gf's father's rental property?

Both the gf and bf living together. Assuming the relationship is long term of a few years. Would you do it? Or does it create an uneasy power dynamic?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 19 days ago

How do introverts meet in Nanaimo?

What kinds of activities for someone who is late 30s introverted male? I'm bored, lol. I want to try to break out of my shell and meet new people.

Not sure if it's relevant but I work as a healthcare professional and own my own business. I'm doing well professionally but struggling socially.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 23 days ago

Am I crazy for considering an arranged marriage in India as a westerner?

38M born and raised in Canada. Dentist. I have my own house, own dental practice and practice in a small city in BC, Canada. Born and raised here my whole life. I grew up in an Indian family.

I am getting burnt out from the dating scene and dating apps. It's not worth it and it is mentally exhausting. What makes it worse is I am an introvert and it is not natural of me to go out and socialize with people.

My mom has been pressuring me to get married in India. She said they have a relative there that knows women there that are ready. But my concerns are compatibility and cultural issues. I don't know any Hindi or Punjabi either.

Am I crazy to consider going down this route? Can it work out? I am feeling sad because I am getting older now.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 24 days ago
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She agrees to 2nd date but didn't answer my last text.

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I had a first date which I thought went well. The late afternoon after the 1st date, I asked her if she wanted to hang out again for 2nd date. She responded: "It was great seeing you too! i would like to do that for sure 👌" which I responded that's great. She is also away for vacation all next week starting tomorrow and packing this evening. I also mentioned and asked about her cool tattoo which she talked about on the date but I got no response from her yet. I sent that text around 5pm and it's now been 24 hours and she's likely on vacation now.

I didn't schedule anything definitive yet as I am not 100% sure of my schedule next week yet as that's too far away. So I thought about reaching out to her again once she gets back from her trip to schedule a more definitve time/date for 2nd date.

Am I overthinking this that she didn't respond to the tattoo comment/question even though she agreed to a 2nd date? Is she not interested or just being polite by agreeing to 2nd date?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 26 days ago

She agrees to 2nd date but didn't answer my last text.

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I had a first date which I thought went well. The late afternoon after the 1st date, I asked her if she wanted to hang out again for 2nd date. She responded: "It was great seeing you too! i would like to do that for sure 👌" which I responded that's great. She is also away for vacation all next week starting tomorrow and packing this evening. I also mentioned and asked about her cool tattoo which she talked about on the date but I got no response from her yet. I sent that text around 5pm and it's now been 24 hours and she's likely on vacation now.

I didn't schedule anything definitive yet as I am not 100% sure of my schedule next week yet as that's too far away. So I thought about reaching out to her again once she gets back from her trip to schedule a more definitve time/date for 2nd date.

Am I overthinking this that she didn't respond to the tattoo comment/question even though she agreed to a 2nd date? Is she not interested or just being polite by agreeing to 2nd date?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 26 days ago

She agrees to 2nd date but didn't answer my last text.

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I had a first date which I thought went well. The late afternoon after the 1st date, I asked her if she wanted to hang out again for 2nd date. She responded: "It was great seeing you too! i would like to do that for sure 👌" which I responded that's great. She is also away for vacation all next week starting tomorrow and packing this evening. I also mentioned and asked about her cool tattoo which she talked about on the date but I got no response from her yet. I sent that text around 5pm and it's now been 24 hours and she's likely on vacation now.

I didn't schedule anything definitive yet as I am not 100% sure of my schedule next week yet as that's too far away. So I thought about reaching out to her again once she gets back from her trip to schedule a more definitve time/date for 2nd date.

Am I overthinking this that she didn't respond to the tattoo comment/question even though she agreed to a 2nd date? Is she not interested or just being polite by agreeing to 2nd date?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 26 days ago

She agrees to 2nd date but didn't answer my last text.

I had a first date which I thought went well. The late afternoon after the 1st date, I asked her if she wanted to hang out again for 2nd date. She responded: "It was great seeing you too! i would like to do that for sure 👌" which I responded that's great. She is also away for vacation all next week starting tomorrow and packing this evening. I also mentioned and asked about her cool tattoo which she talked about on the date but I got no response from her yet. I sent that text around 5pm and it's now been 24 hours and she's likely on vacation now.

I didn't schedule anything definitive yet as I am not 100% sure of my schedule next week yet as that's too far away. So I thought about reaching out to her again once she gets back from her trip to schedule a more definitve time/date for 2nd date.

Am I overthinking this that she didn't respond to the tattoo comment/question even though she agreed to a 2nd date? Is she not interested or just being polite by agreeing to 2nd date?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 26 days ago

Here is a way to know if someone has possibly seen your profile including from non-friends.

Create a Facebook story. The story lists viewers who looked at your story including non-friends. I've had non-friends on that list which was surprising.

But then again, it just lists people who looked at your story but they may not necessarily looked at your profile?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 month ago

Here is a way to know if someone has possibly seen your profile including from non-friends.

Create a Facebook story. The story lists viewers who looked at your story including non-friends. I've had non-friends on that list which was surprising.

But then again, it just lists people who looked at your story but they may not necessarily looked at your profile?

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 month ago

Just curious, any of you have tattoos?

Any visible ones? If so, did it impact how patients or staff perceive you? I just got one done but it's hidden with sleeve on upper arm.

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u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 month ago

Do you think this tattoo is too dark?

Just had it done yesterday. My first tattoo. 4.5 hour session.

u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 month ago
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Just got my first tattoo done here on Vancouver Island, BC, Canada. Thoughts on it?

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Took 4.5 hours. It was a kinda tough session especially for my first one but I pulled through.

u/Neil_Nelly435 — 1 month ago