r/Semenretention

I think a lot of guys on this path eventually lose the plot.

They start semen retention because they are sick of being controlled by lust, porn, compulsive masturbation, fantasy, validation, and that constant feeling of needing something outside themselves.

Then 30, 60, 100 days later, something changes.

They feel sharper. More confident. More present.

Women may look at them differently.

And suddenly the entire practice becomes about women again.

“Why am I not getting attraction?”

“Why did magnetism disappear?”

“Why did she stop texting me?”

“Do women sense my streak?”

Brothers, think about what happened there.

You escaped one prison and quietly built another one.

Before, your happiness depended on porn, orgasm, fantasy and stimulation.

Now your happiness depends on female attention.

Different object.

Same slavery.

If you retain because you want women to notice you, women still own your attention.

If you retain because you want an ex to come back, she still owns your attention.

If you count your streak by the number of looks you get at the gym, strangers still own your attention.

That was never freedom.

The point was to become a man who no longer needs to constantly reach outside himself in order to feel alive.

That, to me, is the real beauty of retention.

Not “female attraction.”

Not some magical aura.

Not becoming more sexually valuable.

Self-possession.

You slowly realize how much of your life was being negotiated with desire.

You studied because you wanted approval.

You worked out because you wanted to look attractive.

You bought things because you wanted status.

You pursued women because you wanted confirmation that you were enough.

You fantasized because reality felt insufficient.

You ejaculated because silence with yourself was uncomfortable.

There was always another reward waiting outside you.

Retention gives you the opportunity to finally ask:

What would I become if nobody was watching?

Would you still train if no woman ever complimented your body?

Would you still build your career if nobody was impressed by your title?

Would you still meditate, read, create, travel, learn, suffer, improve?

Would you still choose discipline if there were absolutely no “magnetism” at the end of it?

If the answer is yes, now you are getting somewhere.

Because then your life is becoming yours again.

This is why I don’t think the highest stage of retention is attracting more women.

The highest stage is when attraction becomes almost irrelevant.

You can appreciate a beautiful woman without immediately wanting something from her.

You can speak to someone you are attracted to without mentally begging for an outcome.

You can be rejected without feeling diminished.

You can be desired without becoming intoxicated by it.

You can be alone without feeling abandoned.

That is power.

And strangely, this is probably when your relationships become healthier too, because you stop approaching another human being like they are medicine for something missing inside you.

Women are not the enemy.

Sex is not the enemy.

Desire itself is not even the enemy.

Dependence is the enemy.

The inability to sit inside your own life without constantly needing stimulation, validation or escape is the enemy.

Retention, at its best, is training yourself to stop being moved around by every impulse that enters your nervous system.

An attractive person walks past you.

Fine.

An urge appears.

Fine.

Someone rejects you.

Fine.

Someone desires you.

Fine.

None of these things have to decide who you are today.

You remain yourself.

That is freedom.

And I think some of us need to remember that the original dream was never:

“I want to retain so women will want me.”

The original dream was much more radical.

I want my mind back.

I want my time back.

I want my attention back.

I want my energy directed toward a life I actually chose.

I want to know who I am when lust is no longer constantly whispering instructions into my ear.

I want to know what I genuinely care about when validation is removed from the equation.

I want to become somebody who can walk through the world without always asking it:

Do you approve of me yet?

That is why a streak measured only in days eventually becomes meaningless.

You could retain for 500 days and still spend every waking hour thinking about women.

Technically your semen stayed inside your body.

But did your mind ever become free?

On the other hand, a man who is slowly becoming less compulsive, less needy, less reactive, more internally directed and more capable of choosing where his attention goes is beginning to understand the real practice.

So enjoy the confidence if it comes.

Enjoy attraction if it comes.

Enjoy energy, discipline, clarity, whatever benefits you personally experience.

But don't worship the side effects.

Especially don't turn women into the scoreboard.

Otherwise the entire journey circles back to exactly where it started:

your inner state being controlled by something outside yourself.

Retain because you want to belong to yourself again.

Not because you want the world to desire you.

The goal was never to become irresistible to women.

The goal was to become increasingly difficult for your own impulses, addictions, fears, and need for approval to control.

That is a much deeper freedom.

And unlike somebody else's attraction toward you,

that freedom is actually yours.

We as men are special. Yes - you read that right on the first go - special.

If this goes against the "equality" principle - so be it.

Women do not have the ability to retain sexual energy and are compulsed to retard their essence via either pregnancy or menstruation and I am done pretending that this act of intense material and logistical commitment of resources from the human body is sans of any consequences.

Men do.

When you're young - "retaining" is... Absolutely a brutal slufgest fighting against your own basal impulses.

If you're candid enough - there are no "basal impulses". It's just you. Wanting to get physical with more women.

That's the point.

The more difficult the urge to get across - the more the rewards of retention.

An 80 year old man can retain for 700 days but it would have zero benefits. An 18 year old man can retain 700 days and it would turn his life upside down.

Please - for fuck's sake - do not get intimidated by the level of conquest you're going to attempt.

Your endeavor is the habit of gods - and I won't be lying about it.

This sexual energy you cultivate (if not wasted in frequent Wet Dreams) - builds up in multiples of 6 months, exponentially. Yes the 6 months is an arbitrary period - but you get the point. You can't "nofap 30 days" to build an empire. Things take time. A lot of time.

They cannot take this essence away from you. They cannot tax it. They cannot mandate a forcible contribution by you. That is why they invented high speed internet pornography (and now - VR porn combined with AI porn).

Belittle this energy all you want. Call it "baby batter" - call masturbation "healthy" or whatever fuck suits to ameliorate your bruised ego. There's no denying that this is the highest concentrate of life force.

Thus - retain.

In fact - what you call as "retention" assumes that draining it every week is a "normal" thing to do. It ain't.

Thus - I'd say - and I stand corrected - be in harmoney with yourself and do not unnecessarily drain yourself.

The reason I am writing this post is I've gone beyond the point where regret shapes my future. Yes - no shit I cannot go into the wayback machine and change my past. But - I can, and I will - hammer in this point into your goddamn basal ganglia - that retention is absolutely worth it. Especially young people.

Why young people only ? Because they've been born in a degenerate world - without cues that tell them what behavior is healthy and what is not.

We old people already know what it is to see our potential lost in fruitless pleasures. Myself included.

TLDR - demonize gooning if you must - but please, for heaven's sake - do not do this vice. Especiall not this vice.

I'm not talking about the obvious PMO. This is a list of things that removing them helped me see benefits from SR straight away:

- No social media (reels are basically soft porn).

- No "Easy money" chasing habits (gambling, trading).

- 90% less sugar (no desserts, cakes, cookies, sweets, pastries, chocolate, ice cream).

- No caffeine (Switched to decaf).

- way less phone screen time (I put the phone in the other room from 7pm till 1 hour after waking up).

- No news reading/watching ( if it's relevant to me I'll hear about it from my surroundings, I don't need a constant update on everything).

Making those changes + SR made me focus more about my wife and kids. I'm cleaning and fixing things around the house more, playing with my children more and going to the gym more often. Add the regular SR benefits and I'm a completely different person than who I was 6 months ago.

Been long distance for two years. Went to meet her in person for the first time earlier last month and my confidence was crazy. My voice was deep, my posture straight and my leadership was secure. I went to the airport to see her and if you know, the airport is filled with people so in the past I would have major anxiety but I felt no anxiety this time. I wore myself a nice suit and met up with her.

One thing I noticed straight away was her body language, she was very submissive and feminine. She couldn’t even really speak much, she just kept hugging me and holding onto my arm with tightness. In fact she was so nervous, that I am sure she was shaking but I calmed her down as soon as I could. But I never knew I could be so confident around women, especially when we have been long distance and I haven’t interacted with women in a while nor had I been out much since I work from home . But that day showed me the results of the magnetic effect of SR and the power of the spiritual aura from SR. I kept getting stares and most importantly my partner whom I was very nervous to meet, melted in front of me.

So many things just worked out with strange luck. We were supposed to pay a whole bunch of money to get to our location from the airport, but out of nowhere a guy who seemed like an angel comes and offers us directly a ride in a very nice car for half the price. It seems so crazy but his aura seemed like that of a retainer. If you know what I mean you know. Please use common sense and discernment don’t just get into anyones car haha, but I knew that this was a divine person sent to help us. The guy talked like an old friend and looked after us well and we arrived over an hour earlier than expected. Everything just seemed so divine, those of you who feel energy you know what I mean, there’s that power you feel in the air it was crazy. Everywhere we went people were treating us like royalty, I’m talking stares, head nods of approval, extreme politeness, people going out of our way. My partner also practises not fapping. We do tantric stuff, and don’t release. So there is also a magnetism with that. But yeah I just I am still in shock.

Those of you who read my last post know how much this means. My ex broke me. Had a child with her early in my teens, but she abandoned us and I lost a lot of confidence. But I found the person I’ll marry, and someone who won’t destroy my SR journey unless for procreation. Please keep going and never give up guys.

I am not really good at English so try to understand am here to reveal to all of you the message or some kind of download that got to me on my longest streak ,

The ones who are in charge or are controlling the whole system of this world we live in are not humans,

They are dimensional beings They exist with us in this earth we live in but we can't see them with our naked eyes they influence our decision and the way we think

And they are very ancient beings and for some reason they found a way to interfere with our realm, I won't put down everything herethe download is much but they feed on mens energy the energy that the sperm holds its huge tha we can't fathom the whole system that you see going on here on earth is from them we are being influenced through frequencies and vibration I cannot really explain it all but this is just the little I can give be careful how you use your energy it's in very high demand and they are getting it for free

And some people are the top already knows this like you musicians who a out there spreading their frequencies and vibration

There are people who repeatedly attract nothing but toxic connections. Usually, according to one's karma, according to one's destiny, one meets the kind of ties that match who they are.

Ordinary people rarely have a reason to cross paths with top celebrities, tycoons, or high-ranking officials. In childhood, the people you meet are decided by the status of your parents, and depending on the level of those people, the level of your own consciousness is formed. Birds of a feather flock together; that remains true even today.

If you are unsatisfied with the connections you draw and wish to change them, you must either change your environment or undergo a radical awakening. Changing your environment means changing the very country you live in—and achieving a radical awakening means gaining profound realization out of absolute, extreme suffering. Yet for ordinary men, neither of these paths is easy.

However, the longer you practice semen retention, it raises the caliber of people you attract by a level—no, the longer it endures, by dozens of levels.

When you practice semen retention, you gradually become solitary. You cut ties with those around you, step out of the circle you once belonged to... and begin to savor your time alone. If such signs appear, it means your circle of connections is about to be entirely reorganized.

Through semen retention, as your body becomes clean and your mind turns pure, you can no longer communicate with the group you once belonged to. And after walking a quiet, desolate road alone for a while... when the time is ripe, you will finally meet the ties that truly match the elevated body and consciousness you built through semen retention.

For men who find it difficult to change their environment and hard to reach a radical awakening, if you want to elevate the quality of your relationships, you must practice semen retention.

We’ve all noticed more respect come our way when on SR.

I’m almost 60 days in and my wife said to me she feels that when I’m with her she gets more respect from other women

More women wanting to hang out with her
Women coming to say hello
Texting her later to meet up
Smiling at her

I noticed the same. Other women respecting her more.

And it’s nothing but SR. It’s the halo effect.

Your energy on SR lifts up your loved ones and people notice it.

Do it for the people you love fellas! Don’t give up!

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female attraction, magnetism and benefits. most of us here are chasing not realizing the whole point of this practice. don't get me wrong I've been there before, I'm no exception but the longer I be on this practice (since 2020 with multiple short and long streaks - max of 8months).

it's about becoming the type of man that does the hard things. the kind of man that can deny himself of instant gratification, keeping his word and building not only trust in Self but real self respect which has no choice but to bleed into other areas of life (relationships, finance, fitness etc.). it all comes down to self concept, "Who Am I?" and "Who Am I Becoming?". its not about being perfect but rather becoming the kind of man that shows up for himself consistently.

just wanted to share my 2 cents, this sub has helped me alot tho after taking multiple breaks from viewing the content here and coming back it's hard not to realise some of the redundancy. chasing benefits, white-knuckling, holding your breath and obsessing over day counts won't get us the life we truly desire. let the effects come as a by product rather than being the main event, I believe that's the mentality that leads to relapses - focusing on the effects rather than the cause.

speaking of cause, one thing I can share which I believe helped a lot is building a strong spiritual foundation (which honestly happens automatically regardless). starting and ending your days in silence, prayer/meditation...I'm not religious myself but I always give thanks to The Most High, call it God, Source or whatever. we gotta get back to basics. take full responsibility for EVERY aspect of our lives.

Today marks 32 days since my last release. After about 5 years of trying to conquer this on and off, I was never able to reach more than 11 days until now. I definitely haven’t been “cured” yet, but for the first time ever I feel like I’m finally on the path to conquering my mind and this addiction.

What’s different about this time is that I’ve found my purpose in life and have been spending pretty much all of my time and energy pursuing it. Working 10+ hours a day, gym every day and cooking healthy meals, 10k+ steps a day, reading and good sleep. Since I stopped releasing all of these aspects in my life have improved tenfold and I’ve made more internal progress in the last month than I had in the last 6 months prior.

In terms of benefits, nothing crazy yet like the magnetism and attraction from women that most people on this sub seem to be chasing. I’m not even interested in that at the moment. What I have felt is a huge boost of energy in the morning and a drive to work every day. It’s a Sunday which is my “day off” but I still feel like I need to be doing something which isn’t something I felt before.

I don’t need to peel myself out of the bed in the morning, I wake up looking forward to every workout and challenge and I’m in the best shape of my life. Internally I just feel great. My anxiety is almost completely gone, especially socially as that was a huge problem for me growing up. I’ve never been so excited for the future rather than dreading it.

I’ve started having dreams a lot more frequently and vividly. Not sure what it means but my guess is that I’m reaching a higher state of consciousness. I’m still yet to have a wet dream, and I’ve never had one in my life.

The best advice I’d give to someone who’s struggling to get past those first couple weeks is FIND YOUR PURPOSE. Something you genuinely enjoy that makes you want to wake up every morning and chase it. Whether it’s a new career, fitness journey or whatever you want in life. Just take the risk and go for it. You won’t have the time or energy to release at the end of the day.

A couple months ago I set out to reach 30 days. Relapsed a couple times but put my mind to it and got there. Recently added up the days on my calendar and realised day 100 will fall on my birthday. That’s my next goal, I’ll see you all in December 💪

(33M) I have practice SR on and off for 3 years now. I’ve also been deeply immersed in psychology for some time now, especially Jungian psychology, the shadow, individuation, the Dark Night of the Soul, and the relationship between the psychological and the supernatural, and naturally I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how all of this connects with semen retention. What I’m beginning to see is that SR can create a very interesting bridge between the psychological and the spiritual. When you stop indulging in sexual gratification as an automatic outlet, the sexual impulse doesn’t simply disappear. You become more conscious of it. The impulse arises, you experience the tension, instead of immediately discharging it you observe it, and through that observation you can start asking what is actually underneath the desire. Is it sex, or is it loneliness, validation, connection, insecurity, escape, or something deeper? For me, this has made integration feel somewhat easier because I’m learning to experience an impulse without immediately acting it out. That is where I think the connection with the Dark Night becomes really interesting. When old ways of regulating yourself begin to fall away, you are forced to encounter parts of yourself that you may have previously avoided, and SR can remove one of those outlets. What people sometimes describe as “sexual transmutation” can therefore be understood psychologically as taking something that was previously unconscious and making it conscious, then allowing that energy to find expression through training, creativity, work, spirituality, relationships, or simply greater awareness. At the same time, I don’t want to reduce everything to psychology either, because part of what has fascinated me throughout this journey is the possibility that there is a deeper spiritual or even supernatural dimension to these experiences that psychology alone may not fully explain. I’m still exploring that rather than claiming to have the answer. What matters to me is that retention seems to have created more space between desire and action, and in that space I’m encountering myself differently. The goal isn’t to become afraid of sexuality or convince myself that desire is bad. It’s to become capable of holding desire without being controlled by it. So instead of simply asking how many days I can retain, I’m starting to ask what I’m becoming capable of holding, what is being revealed to me through that process, and what this energy is asking me to become. I’m curious if anyone else in this community has experienced SR as something that opened a deeper psychological or spiritual process rather than simply being a practice of abstinence or a “hack” for generating attraction from the opposite sex. It's helping my shadow work and integration for sure. Also my connection with the divine. Maybe the attraction people experience is not the point itself, but one of the possible external reflections of an internal shift in presence, confidence, discipline, and the way we carry ourselves.

"Habits of Successful People."
"Secrets of Straight-A Students."
Self-help books are filled with endless examples like these.

If you want to be successful, you must wake up early. If you want to be successful, you must be diligent... If you want to succeed, you must do this and that.

Back when I was young, I read a lot of books on study methods. Among them was one called The Daniel Study Method, written by a Christian author.

Reading that studying at dawn was effective, I started waking up at dawn to study... I was just a middle school student back then, so the schoolwork wasn't even that difficult, yet after putting that method into practice, I hit rock bottom with the worst grades of my life.

Waking up at dawn to study is the key to doing well? It varies from person to person.

To succeed, you have to wake up early, you have to read the newspaper every single day...

It may sound bleak, but all these success secrets from self-help books are utterly useless in the face of luck.

The most miserable people in the world are those who have bad luck yet work relentlessly hard. In other words, these people bust their backs putting effort solely into failing, and work to the bone putting effort solely into going broke.

What is luck?

Call it destiny, call it karma from a past life, or call it a test from God.

Whatever it may be, in the face of luck, all of humanity’s secrets to success become entirely useless.

In the end, luck is energy. To put it more simply, it is a person’s level of consciousness.

If my level of consciousness is low... things that match that low state will follow.

If my level of consciousness is high, whether I sleep in lazily for 12 hours a day, skip breakfast altogether, or only work two to three hours a day, things aligned with my level of consciousness will naturally follow.

Then, is luck fixed?

Whether it is genetics, destiny, or karma, it is certain that one's patterns of thought and behavior are fixed from the moment of birth.

Before money, before women, before power, people’s true nature and behavior inevitably reveal themselves.

When breaking up with someone you truly loved, you probably have a memory of clinging to that person and exposing a side of yourself you never wished to show.

Then, you grow... you love again... and as you mature, your mental consciousness evolves.

And depending on the state of your mental consciousness, luck is always changing.

Depending on what thoughts you harbor when faced with a certain situation, luck is constantly in flux.

Most people do not know how to think for themselves. They live under the illusion that they are thinking, but mostly, they are merely borrowing other people’s thoughts.

To genuinely feel and think on your own, you need time alone.

A time of absolute solitude...

If your mind or body is constantly busy, or if you cannot endure moments of solitude, you will eventually lose the power to think.

Semen retention gives meaning to this time of solitude, and ultimately grants the peace of mind needed to think for yourself.

And once you begin to think for yourself, consciousness shifts; and when consciousness shifts, luck, too, gradually begins to transform.