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I’m 17 and pretty lost in life. Got myself kicked out of 3 different schools (not on purpose but I am an idiot). Sometimes I ask myself if this is all truly worth it. Life I mean. I find it interesting how most people see themselves superior and inferior to others based on their accomplishments or goals. Why do people measure their own and others values based on their accomplishments or how they carry themselves. For example, a class clown (typically) would be seen as inferior to the average kid because the class clown carries himself like an idiot. Why because you are a woman, or because you are fat, or because of your view on p olitics does your value diminish or increase. Because at least to me, at the end of the day all our hearts stop beating, we all become equals no matter what path you took in life. In 120 years, when everybody who reads this is long gone. No one will be triumphant to anyone, we will all either cease to exist or start a new life or go to a place like heaven (depending on what you believe the truth to be). I find it interesting that these things play such a dominant role in life. These ideological inventions which place humans on different levels of a hierarchy never existed during the caveman era. I don’t think a caveman is looking at another caveman and thinking wow that caveman just killed a sabertooth tiger while I’m struggling to kill a squirrel. No. He’s thinking about where his next meal is coming from. Idk I just wonder sometimes if school, and work, and friends, and everything is actually worth something. I guess this will be viewed as a very negative outlook on life but I’m just saying what I am thinking lmao.

Sorry this is very disorganized my thoughts are jumbled. I’d love to see other people’s perspective in the comments.

I’m only 17 and life is genuinely so boring like i’m not suicidal. But i wake up not feeling happy or anything because the day is just going to be boring i only really go gym and i don’t even like the gym that much but u have nothing better to do. it’s not like im inside all day as well

I go to parties been drunk before didn’t like the feeling at all haven’t been high yet but i will try

So someone tell me what’s the actual point in living and how can i be more happy

My experience in this community is that many people seem unhappy with life. Whether that’s due to nihilism, depression, difficult circumstances, or some combination of those, it’s often hard to tell.

Interestingly, many people who express discontent don’t describe an existential crisis so much as the challenges of everyday life.  Struggling to afford food, working long hours just to get by, or simply surviving.

Out of curiosity, for those of you who are unhappy with life: if everyone’s basic needs were guaranteed (food, clean water, shelter, clothing, sanitation, education, and healthcare), do you think you would feel differently about life? Or would your outlook remain essentially the same?

I think there are two ways people move through life. Some simply live it, they study, work, enjoy their days, and move on from victories and defeats.

Others carry a cause inside them. Something bigger than their routine. A dream, a belief, or a purpose that they refuse to let go of. When it comes to that one thing, they become fighters, because losing it would mean losing a part of themselves.

If you're the second kind, what are you fighting for?

Someone says there's no point in life, then the comments agree with them.
Then this gets repeated every day.

I think chess shows you how hard it is to become just mid at something and if you want to achieve anything you would've to choose wisely ,but I feel like I'm behind and I have a lot of work to do ,for example to become an athlete at something let's pick judo you would've to make it your life I think I want to live life to the fullest but i don't find life anywhere and I want to be an expert in many things considering I could, haha but It would require choosing a path that I will be responsible for any consequences the choice generate

for example if I choose that the meaning of my life is to become a chef ,I would've chosen a life that could've been better if I chose a different life, and based on what would I have to choose, my liking? what if there's a better choice to make I don't want to live one sequence that may lead me to a position which isn't optimal ,something I do but I don't like and I have to keep doing it that's the ultimate punishment you can get

When I think about what suits my purpose of life I find myself lost , not just at how many choices there are but rather on the reasoning I should take , example is wanting being good at many things ,I don't think I'm doing that to impress people I honestly don't know ,as I'm writing this I think people assurance would make me feel great , despite that I don't care it's still a model of reasoning ,maybe to feel useful

but since my life has been destroyed which is the core of my problem(my relationship) ,it's the place I felt safe in , experiencing life with her feeling like I'm important to someone building a life around them feeling understood and wanted ,finding everything in someone,but the absurdity of life shows up ,and now I'll have to choose what would be meaningful and why goals like leaving Algeria even matter ,it would be better for finance ,future, living in a better environment , but why would I wanna do this well there's two answers: either because I have to create a meaning to my life , or don't just don't and become a enjoyer who doesn't care and just follow my desires and satisfaction without planing, in which case would also be a meaning but there's nothing that I enjoy ,if I have to choose I don't see any point at chosing no end result that would matter let's say I'm shredded okay I can get compliments have sex ,oh I forget it's supposed to be about your health nevermind so find a meaning have a skill feel good about myself whatever, why would I wanna do that so if I had to choose a meaning and a person I want to be, most people have their own values their identity that the base this choice on, but I question everything why would I be fulfilled if I become anything and why would I be fulfilled if I lived day to day life and follow my desires and care less I don't think there's an answer to that question but I have to choose because I don't want to stay like myself that's the only thing I'm sure of,

but if I choose meaning I think it would be to become better not because it's meaningful but because I can't become someone else not because that's what I want or value ,and not because it's not but becoming someone else would make me feel stressed, while I don't feel comfortable around people , because my life experience and all the trauma and things I liked and looked up for since I opened my eyes has made me this way , I refuse to call it identity it's not something that I control

I can remember an example one time I was at turkey for a visit and people were genuinely good to me and welcoming and having fun ,and people around my age they were trying to have fun with me but I couldn't do it I was shaking because I was scared of something I didn't know what it is ,people there were way better on average than people I interact with back home ,I should've felt well what's wrong with me and if I healed one day would I be able to enjoy being around people ,even my ldr girlfriend I loved her so much and I felt connected to her but if she were right here Infront of me I'm pretty sure she wouldn't like me not even that .I wouldn't be able to be alive within her even though I want to

so If I choose to become better and focus on that now why wouldn't I take it to the extreme and distract myself with an end goal that isn't even there but I would feel like I know myself finally I would create myself

I recently turned 29, and since then I’ve been questioning this. My father passed away at the age of 29, he died by suicide. My paternal grandfather died at the age of 27. Sometimes, I feel like they didn’t have to face the old age of 30, and in a strange way, that makes me feel at peace for them. The only thing that hurts is that my father left me and my sister to be raised by a single mother, when those responsibilities should have been shared.

My mother has been worrying a lot ever since I turned 27 because of the trauma associated with this age in our family. She sacrificed a lot for us. Still, when I look at my father at 28–29 in old photos, he seems quite like a young man chilled and carefree yet perhaps he just wasn’t feeling okay due to the external pressure, Lately, I’ve been feeling something similar.....

“We are all born without our consent.”

I’ve seen this sentiment many times in this group, and it always seemed perfectly logical to me. But here’s a thought experiment: what if we actually did consent, just not as the person who was born?

Imagine that our true consciousness exists before birth and voluntarily chooses to experience a human life on Earth as the ultimate immersive experience. To make it authentic, we agree to forget our true identity until it’s over.

EARTH EXPERIENCE PROGRAM

Duration: Approximately 70–90 Earth years (subject to variation)

Memory of prior existence: Removed during participation.

Possible experiences include: Love, grief, boredom, wonder, embarrassment, awe, illness, friendship, failure, achievement, heartbreak, sunsets, mosquitoes, music, taxes, and existential crises.

Warning: Participants may temporarily become convinced that this experience is the entirety of reality.

Consent: By signing below, you acknowledge that while participating, you may sincerely believe you never consented to participate.

When everything goes wrong. Everyone plan that you made works out completely opposite from what you prepared for. Whatever you found and imagined to be substantial starts seeming to be meaningless.
Does anyone feel like that sometimes ?

Quit worrying, unless you believe in God. Then it matters. Mattering is born from fear and fear is born from pain. Therefore, God must be the giver and taker of pain. What do you think?

I just lost someone I loved to death and I can’t stop thinking about this

Maybe im evil for posting this.

Please. Im so done. There is no meaning.
Ive tried for so long but its always the same conclusion.
Dm me for an in depth response. If you have an answer it is literally priceless to me.

Fuck it all fuck this shit.

Seriously. Please DO NOT just answer with vague answers to cope, like "family","friends" or "the small moments in life" Cause I do NOT care abt my friends,family or 'nice' moments.

Those things are all meaningless. At the end of the day, will all of them betray me in one way or another. I am not naive enough to believe in such a thing as "happy ending."

I'm certain that I will die in the most heart-wrenching way since karma will get me sooner or later.

Isn't it better to end this miserable existence of mine, myself?

I read somewhere, I think it was the book:"Strangers" or maybe the author Albert Camus, I'm not quite certain:"The thing that prevents you from committing suicide, is your meaning of life". As if fear, uncertainty, etc.

I also think that a life on which fear is the reason one person life's, is nothing more than an endless torture, without any happy ending. Therefore, life is meaningless. I am not able to commit myself to relationships (platonic, I am aroace)

Please share your beliefs and thoughts with me.