Im actually curious about you guys. I have an extreme amount of appreciation towards our fellow itsthatbad citizens and as society overlooks us I’m curious about what kind of people you are. What are your hobbies, interest, passions and goals? I know this isn’t dating content, or female nature based but I would like to know more.
There was once this girl at my job who was literally the sweetest, cutest thing you ever saw. Literally so soft spoken, thin and super short and extremely sweet in her disposition and energy and aura. I overheard her talk to other women at our job about how she’s leaving her boyfriend because he was too nice. Literally she’s said “he’s just too nice that it’s boring. I don’t think I can be with him anymore. There’s just nothing wrong with him. I feel like we can’t talk about anything fun.”
Literally, my jaw hit the floor. I was shocked. The cutest, meekest, quietest girl has the exact same desires as a boss chick. Fucking wild
I’m not going to lie boys. I’ve been thinking about this situation with Yamal for the last couple of days and this has just been a masterclass of hypergamy at play. I’ve been sitting here going over each play with a magnifying glass and a fine tooth comb and the situation is textbook but I still can’t help but feel like I was Prometheus discovering fire all over again.
I wonder if this is how Robert Hooke felt when he discovered the cell. Sometimes it’s just plain refreshing to go back to the basics. I can’t help but wonder what the headspace of this young man must be like. You’re 19. You just won the biggest sporting event on the planet. You are Messi’s godson. You have it all. Youth, fame, money, success everything any man has ever wanted. You win a Ballon d’ Or at 19. Something most men work their entire careers and never touch. You’re the top of a mountain so insurmountable that to achieve the top is to achieve heaven.
I really need to ask: what would you personally do if you were in Yamal’s place? I wish I could give Yamal advice and be his mentor and guide him because as much as I admire Yamal I feel afraid for him. The downfall of every great man has been a woman. I think Yamal has had his fun, but he needs to bring his girlfriend back to Earth before she drags him to Hell. She had her fun, but for guys like Yamal he can’t be caught lacking. I don’t know I see a lot of myself in Yamal. I look at him and I see me. He has everything, that he’s playing with fire and what he thinks is living on the top is just playing with fire.
From my understanding it’s a place where fairytales are natively from and they were forced out of their native territory by some colonizing force. However, why are there human looking fables? Why can’t they travel back and forth? How did they get into human world in the first place?
I’ve been thinking a lot about how heavily gender shapes our everyday lives. I feel like a lot of women might genuinely choose to be male in their next birth, just to experience the world without the constant, exhausting baggage that comes with being a woman.
From the hyper-vigilance over personal safety and walking alone at night, to the biological tax (periods, pregnancy, menopause), and the subtle ways society still treats men as the "default," it feels like men get to navigate life on a slightly less stressful difficulty setting.
What are your thoughts? If you had the choice, would you want to experience life as a guy, or would you still choose to be a woman?
Things like the Silent Generation, The Greatest Generation and The Baby Boomer generation make sense because American society was extremely mainstream at the time and more or less everyone had enough distinct similiarities in common to group them as a single group was more or less cogent, but is that the case now? We all don't consume the same media, we all live in different countries with differing political movements and agendas, so are we really a generation? I'd argue yes in some ways. I feel like because of the internet we do all have a shared cultural language even if we don't want to formally embrace it, but in some ways I feel like we're forcing a generation to exist simply to follow a past pattern. Like because there was a Greatest Generation, a Baby Boomer generation and a Millennial culture, there must exist a Gen Z one and then must come Gen Alpha and Beta.
As the title says why do guys not care about a girl’s income? I recently got laid off from my job and my boyfriend isn’t bothered by it at all that I’m currently making no money. Why is is that guys don’t care about a woman’s salary?
I think that an ideal relationship to me is one based on mutual respect. I honestly don’t really want to engage in world politics/ social commentary in my relationship. I feel like a relationship should be based on peace and calmness. I also believe in family values and the two parent household but I genuinely would value my wife’s culture should she have a prominent one. I genuinely don’t have a problem with my children speaking a foreign language as their first language and would do everything to accommodate that. I also want an amicable relationship with my wife’s family.
I feel like many men are similar to me that we want stable homes with a strong prescience but want to bridge homes with another family to create a new one. I look at Reddit a lot and I’m starting to get irritated by how flippantly relationships are treated.
Why do women like it when you treat them like your friend rather than traditional flirting? I have seen it in many people where normal flirting is avoidant and joking around and treating them like you treat your friends is interesting to them.
When I was a kid and the concept of FaceTime came out, it floored me. I thought we were entering the future. The concept of actually looking at a person through the phone instead of talking to them was so bizarre to me as a kid. Now I dont even care. The concept of a device that has a camera, calculator, planner, calendar, high speed messaging function, library and various video sharing platforms isn’t even a thought worth considering.
How far will it go in my lifetime? AI was considered ground breaking technology 6 years ago. Now it’s prosaic. What about androids? Sure the concept if introduced now will be considered novel, but what happens if it were released? Robots living among us will become very normalized and part of every day society. We could walk down the sidewalk with androids and it’s just a part of life. And it would be shocking at first then normal the next.
I feel as though the future isn’t a place, but is four dimensional. As though the future isn’t something that will come to pass, but will be a thing that is living with us now, but simply is not occupying the same space as us currently but once revealed will have always been there.
I remember when I was 24 I had just been broken up with by my girlfriend at the time, and I was between jobs so I was massively depressed; I’d play video games and listen to music all day. I was still on my parents insurance and I didn’t have “anything” to do. I was essentially free of all responsibility and duty and obligation but I still was sad from my broken heart. I don’t know, can anybody relate to missing a period of time that was sad, but otherwise carefree.
I was watching the Piano Teacher last night and the film stuck with me as I sat in my pitch black living room, the sound of the old AC unit in the window quietly humming as I sat with an impeccable glass of Hibiki Japanese Harmony in my hand. I was alone last night, isolated, my eyes transfixed on the screen, as I saw a vision of the modern man play before on the screen. Well, not exactly, but almost like as if a kindred soul were placed in another person, in another country, in another time. Set in 2001, more than 25 years ago, I felt like it was an allegory for the modern day.
Erica is a woman bordering middle-age if not exactly at middle age. She's on the pretty side of average and she has a prestigious job at the Vienna Conservatory (it's set in Austria, so I'm kind of confused why they all speak French, which is besides the point). However, she is a woman without passion. She lives with an overbearing mother and has nothing outside of her identity of this prestigious status of an instructor for a recognized institution. She spends her days roaming around the city, living without meaning, spying on others who live the life she desperately craves for herself.
While at work, she takes her job incredibly seriously. She has to. It's all she has. And as the teachers decide who will be the next cohort of prospective students, she dismisses the handsome Walter who she sees as insincere towards his love of music and surmises he treats it as a prestigious hobby than a vocation which requires serious dedication. However, quickly this dismissal becomes the subject of an intense psychological fascination which leads to sexual interest and then expression.
I think Erica is what a lot of modern men are: decently looking, distinguished unilaterally in one thing, lonely but yet poignantly human. She has a misunderstood sweetness and naivety despite her frigid demeanor. I highly recommend every man to watch the film.
RE2 is my favourite Resident Evil game, but it just has such a romantic quality to it despite the violence and carnage. I don't know if it's the fact it's set in the late 90s, all the characters are so good looking, and the events of RE1 are still fresh in the lore's memory. The Raccoon City Incident feels like an event where you just had to be there. Not to mention the destruction of a once beautiful and up and coming city burning in fire and destruction and you feel this energy of needing to get out in time.
Tony B doesn't really show any feats that display his supposedly high IQ. He gets pinched young, stays in the can for a fair amount of his adult life. He works a menial labour job, tries to go straight, beats up his business partner, does a hit and then get his foot crushed and then has to go into hiding where he then gets shot by his cousin. I don't see this great intelligence that he is purported to have.
Ralphie is actually a clever mix of street smart and book smart. He knows how to make extremely high amounts of money from the esplanade and from construction in general, he's as book smart as a non-educated mob guy can get and he knows how to knock skulls and be the joker about it. His intelligence and his ability with money is literally what keeps him from getting whacked so many times. And he's got a smart mouth which is the reason why he's always so close to getting whacked.
I have always been for as long as I remembered a massive ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, but particularly towards the trans community. Most people always questioned me and thought it was weird that me being a heteronormative cisgendered male feels so protective towards the queer community. In recent years, I am disappointed, frustrated and angry that it seems the LGBTQIA+ community seems to be splintering, and as the overton window is shifting gay cisgendered people who follow heteronormative conventions are becoming increasingly hostile towards trans people. Being only gay with no other intersectional qualities has become more "respectable" in mainstream society and hence why you see a rise of gay conservatives and gay republicans in recent years.
I did a lot of soul-searching and thought a lot about just why I am so protective towards trans women in particular and it dawned on me that I just took my innate toxic masculinity towards "defending women" but just shifted it to trans women. I think a lot of cisgendered men are naturally very protective towards women (in our own way, it's not always positive) because we feel women are the weaker, more vulnerable sex.
However, I've never been able to take that seriously. Women have an extremely protected role in society. Society obviously take cisgendered women heavily into consideration and even in marginalized communities cisgendered women have a protected role within it. I feel like cisgendered women also are very capable of being manipulative, discriminatory and insidious and have means of weaponizing the system to benefit them.
However, for trans women they don't really get that. There's not really a social structure for trans women to manipulate which would tarnish that innate masculinity fantasy of helping a "poor denfenceless woman". To me, trans women suffer the worst form of tragedy they are women trapped in male bodies and they receive very little social support because the vessel their soul is trapped in doesn't match. I have personally met so many beautiful souled trans women where they are so sweet, so kind, so emotionally strong and the treatment they receive from society pains me. To me, I feel like trans women are the true women society needs to protect and I feel a strong sense of protectiveness and duty.
I am an incredible fan of French literature and cinema and when a modern film adaptation of The Stranger by Albert Camus had been made I felt it had been LONG overdue (I feel the same way about The Tunnel by Ernesto Sabato).
First and foremost, the film is gorgeous. It is shot in black and white and all the actors look phenomenal and are dressed to the nines. It has such a modern vintage look to it. And Meursault in the film is exactly how I expected him to look like in my mind.
That being said, the novel was easier to digest in my mind than it was to see on the screen. Upon watching the film I felt a sense of irritation towards Meursault. He didn’t have a bad life at all. He was a good looking guy with a good job, a nice apartment and and a beautiful fiancée. His boss likes him and wants to give him a very nice position in a branch of the firm in Paris.
His ennui just comes off as overprivileged to me. If examined in a vacuum it’d be more easily palatable. However, the fact it’s set in French Algeria prior to the war of independence shows just how privileged Meursault is to the average Arab and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I’m not saying Meursault is “privileged” as he’s not rich and he’s not living a decadent lifestyle but he has the freedom to live his life normally with no restrictions while there’s an actual population of people who will never be able to even do something as simple as go to the beach or go to the movies. If you noticed in the scene where he is at the movies there’s a sign by the ticket booth where it says in French that service is forbidden to the indigenous.
The fact that he’s not even trying to truly win his case, even though he’s not innocent just annoys me too in a way. He has all of his neighbours, friends and his fiancée all defending him and he’s just sitting there with a bored face. I just feel like he’s a guy who just threw his life away and pissed it down the toilet. I agree with his boss. He’s just a man with no ambition, no passion or drive who doesn’t deserve all the benefits he has.
The stranger viewed from this lense makes me look at Camus as an irritating figure. Camus famously had a coward’s way of looking at the War of Independence and knew it was unfair to the Arabs, but didn’t think France should’ve left. I accept Camus wasn’t part of any aristocracy in Algeria, but he has a privilege that isn’t know unless you’re born under the starting line. And it shows in Meursault.
Obviously historical events are given their defining names well after the events that caused them have come to an end, examples include the the terror or the Great War. What do you think this period of American history will be called in the future? This political climate in particular
