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ohio just banned trans people from changing their IDs to their preferred sex and gender, and NOW REQUIRE more fucking court cases and banned gender affirming care providers from submitting letters for gender marker and sex changes due to the BMV being fucking bigots.... I FUCKING HATE THIS BULLSHIT! i was legit crying eariler cuz this is gonna make my gender maker update and name change 30X harder, and knowing my family is against my transition, this is gonna cause even more tension.... SO FUCKING GREAT OHIO THANKS FOR FUCKING THE TRANS COMMUNITY IN THE ASS YOU TRANSPHOBIC MOTHERFUCKERS.

edit: for those of you telling me ot move out, it's not gonna happen currently. the economy is shit and i love my job at retail and don;t wanna leave a great paying job that ive had for 3 years, and i can't drive currently and don't have the willpower or know how to move out and am reliant on family currently sadly. my ADHD brained ass can't comprehend anything the size of a windows 95 computer.

My partner and I have been together for over 6 years. For context I identify as bisexual and he has always felt queer in some way. Throughout that time I have always had this suspicion that he was not entirely comfortable as himself. I felt like I could not love him entirely, when I would try to there was resistance like he was upset that I loved every part of him.

The other day he went on a usual talk track of being frustrated with men's style. He said that he wished there was a men's style that included these super flared pants a female pop artist was wearing. after I looked at his reference I said it seems like a skirt was the silhouette he was looking for. Since we are both not really fussed with gender conformity I joked with him that when I'm gone one day he should try on one of my skirts. I was serious because I also think men could get a kick out of trying one on so this wasn't suggested with any sort of "trans" implications.

The next few weeks I would ask if he'd gotten around to it yet. I started to notice an unusual discomfort when I followed up. Finally yesterday I asked if he'd tried it out and he was very curt and said to stop asking him about it and the question made him very uncomfortable. I got very stubborn and accustory to this sudden boundary.

I can't stop spinning about it, it's not typical for him to have a strong reaction to something like that. I think he is mtf queer woman? I started thinking about a few other instances that now feel meaningful:

- he is a larger man, over 6ft and over 200 pounds but gets really bothered when the topic of him being perceived as intimidating is raised

- he has described his masculinity as being that of a lesbian

- he is perturbed by his appearance, but seems to stray away from self expression - example in my post

- he has majority female friends and has spoken about how listening to podcasts of male friends groups has made it easier to interact with other men

- he gets really excited for me to wear more "queer" outfits, i always joke that he has a fixation with me in jumpsuits that i don't really share, he also talked me into a more mullet hairstyle (he's bald so he can't change up his hair)

This all seems trivial but maybe resonates with some, I know the directive is don't crack an egg but I didn't mean to and I worry it can't be undone.

What should I do? I am so lost. Please help :(

Transmisogyny on this website is SO bad, and trans women get punished just for pointing it out. I just got banned from a "leftist" sub for pointing out how transmisogynistic a book being recommended in the replies was. This was on a post about transmisogyny specifically, and the book being recommended was not only not written by a trans woman, but has several diatribes about how trans women are "male socialized" and benefit from "male privilege. I'm the one who gets banned for pointing this out though.

Literal direct quote from this book btw: CW transphobia, transmisogyny

"Most trans women have “passed” as men (albeit as “sissy” ones) at least some point in their lives, and were thus given preferable treatments in education and employment, for example, whether or not they enjoyed being perceived as men. They have been trained to be assertive and confident, and some trans women manage to maintain these “masculine” traits, often to their advantage, after transitioning.

What is happening here is that we often confuse the oppression we have experienced for being gender-deviant with the absence of the male privilege. Instead of claiming that we have never benefited from male supremacy, we need to assert that our experiences represent a dynamic interaction between male privilege and the disadvantage of being trans."

[22mtf]

“I'm going to say one last thing about the situation you are starting and it's this: you are so handsome, but I don't think you would be a pretty female and you're much too tall. Also instead of testing your body with things that are not normal for a male to do why not just be gay and maybe one day *my girlfriends name* will wanna be a man but she could just be a lesbian and then you could be a real couple?””

Then proceeded to wonder how my deceased father would think of this

“Oh my, whatever would ***** think? I think he called you Angel once too many times”

“Like me he would love you anyway but not sure he would want to see you that way.”

Would any of you beautiful ladies be interested in playing fantasy football this upcoming season? I’m really working on not compartmentalizing stuff I like into boy/girl categories and I think playing in a girls league would not only help with that, but be a chance to make some friends, and have some fun.

I wanted to see if anyone was interested before getting into the logistics or creating a league, but I’ll set everything up if yall are down. I already feel like such a guy posting this, and that’s gross tbh lol.

what do you mean tears are streaming from my eyes reading a book about dragons and the scene where the dragon hatches from the egg makes me cry bc it's like so cute😭(if you know what book I'm talking about please don't spoil it)

> Sees posts of most trans women getting changes 1-2 years into HRT and just looking good in general

> Be me, 1.5 years on HRT, got laser hair removal, no changes in sight. Still look like a cis guy and ugly

Absolute peak cinema 💀💀💀

I'm 5 months on HRT, in a place where it's not illegal to be trans, but it is relatively conservative. I have already lost a job from being trans (despite taking efforts to hide it from the employer and present as my AGAB).

Internally, I've decided to not even attempt to socially transition until after electrolysis is done. And even then, maybe not until FFS is done.

But I want to hear from those who have taken that step, especially presenting fem at work. How far into HRT were you when you did it? Pre-HRT? Same time? Years later? And how did it go? What was your environment? Did you have cis women around to help you? (Sounds crazy, but being in a foreign country, I don't exactly have conversation or friendship access with everyone around me).

One of my coworkers who I thought I was friends with, approached me today and said very sternly that I pose a threat to him and to his family. He told me never to speak to him except for immediate work related things. I asked how exactly I was threatening towards him and he said it was of a sexual nature.

Obvs this scared the crap out of me. I'm happy with my partner, I haven't done anything at all to this dude. In fact, I even have his motorcycle because I was working on it for him. We were friends.

But now that he knows I'm trans, now I'm dangerous. He issued me this warning to just stay away from him, apparently after speaking with his wife and his lawyer. The whole thing I guess threatens his livelihood, he literally said that being friends with someone like me is the equivalent of hosting a kids pool party and losing your home insurance. (What??)

The whole experience was weird. I plan on bringing his bike to work so he can retrieve it and just avoiding the crazy.

No because somebody tell me why I am a 30yo woman SOBBING for no good reason. Tell me why my boobs are sore and also why I’m crying at my happy book ending and am I even capable of romantic love and why do I really want dessert even though I’m bloated

I’m supposed to be a grown up!!! I’ve injected myself for 6 years for THIS?! To become this mess?!!! And it comes every 28 days like CLOCKWORK?!!

Update: thank you everyone for validating the venting!! I got a lil nervous when the first couple comments seemed mad about my use of the word “period” but thanks to everyone who had my back in the comments

I've posted before but I'm cis f and I've been with my boyfriend (using he pronouns because he's not come out yet) for nearly 2 years. We're both 18

I know when he was about 11 he came out as trans and he socially transitioned and was a girl for about 3 years then he started a new school as a boy, cut his hair real short and everything. He did keep the name he went by and it's the name he has now because it was more a nickname and it's now his legal name

He's bisexual and a lot of people think he's gay because of his mannerisms

When I first posted he constantly called himself a lesbian and said little things but then got super defensive if I said anything, I've left him alone and not pushed him in any way but he's grown his hair out and he's still making little comments mostly when he's drunk

He said once that he's too feminine for a guy but not enough for a girl and then the big one yesterday we were drinking and he randomly asked if id get the ick if I knew he was wearing a thong the other day and I said no but then he said he didn't “because itd be weird” and he was just rambling mostly about how he feels like a girl and he wants to wear a bra but by that point it was extremely late and he was so drunk and it was the two of us then he's only said this to me

He also mentioned how he’s taking a gap year this year and going to uni next year and said in sort of a joking way that it’d be funny to go next year as a girl and fool everyone that he’s cis but then he said he was joking but people probably would think he’s a girl at first because of his hair (which has already led to him being called she in shops)

Do I bring it up? How do I help him? We’re in the UK which isn’t the best place for trans people

Hey, let's say I took a car, right? Now let's also say I took that car and I stripped it down to the subframe, I reinforced it real well, and then I put a truck frame, and a truck body on it. I even gave it truck suspension and big old truck tires! To top it off I put a shiny new diesel engine in that son' bitch.

From every angle it looks like a truck, when people see me go by they say "Hey! Nice truck!" Hell it even functions like a truck, I can haul stuff with it and it has tons of towing capacity! Even the DMV and my insurance make me register it as a truck. Do you understand how crazy you sound by loudly insisting that it is in fact, still a car?

Is it a perfect analogy? No, but it does get them thinking in the right direction. Have you any other methods you have found to work?

Came out to the manager at my job's sister site (he's an old dude, been there for years). Our sites work really closely, so I knew I had to tell him eventually. I know he likes me a lot.

But he has a TPUSA sticker on his work laptop. So that's the issue 😩

He said, 'jokingly': "So now I know if there are any days you are moody or emotional, I know why".

Genuinely Stunlocked me.

So THATS what that feels like

I just got my blood test back, and these are my levels. Context I do take weekly SubQ injections, and the blood was taken 2 days after injection. My levels seem to be high, even with the understanding that E levels spike for a few days post injection. I have no negative s/e, just curious what everyone thinks.

I take 0.4 ml of Estradiol Valerate (20mg/mL), and will be increasing my dose to 0.8 ml. The ranges listed below are just copy pasted from my test, and aren't indicative of any prescriptive beliefs I have.

Estradiol:

Value 1,003

Estradiol Adult Reference Ranges:

Follicular: 12-233 pg/mL

Ovulation: 1-398 pg/mL

Luteal: 22-341 pg/mL

Postmenopausal: <139 pg/mL

Pregnancy (1st Trimester): 154-3243 pg/mL

Pregnancy (2nd Trimester): 1561-21280 pg/mL

Pregnancy (3rd Trimester): >8525 pg/mL

Please help, I’ve got brain worms spilling out of my ears about top growth

TL;DR: I listened to a podcast that convinced me my top growth has stopped before it even started because of my age

I listened to this podcast on a 9 hour drive. It’s like the 1st hour and I find this podcast and I’m really happy. I pick an episode about the long term effect of HRT. Then both hosts, who started HRT a little before 25, said that they noticed immediate breast growth and then nothing else after that for like two years, so they had to get implants. They said that this was more likely the older you are when you start and I’m 35.

I started a couple weeks ago on injections and saw immediate growth, like immediate.

My left side is actually starting to look like a boob, and my right side has grown but it’s not noticeable to the eye unless I’m looking down at it. The right side hurts way more than the left too.

I’m so scared they’ll top out before you can really even see them. Like terrified. I’m so skinny and small I was already worried. I know it’s stupid, but I was so happy before I heard that and now all I can do is cry and wish someone would hold me.

I’m crying right now.

Doesn’t help it’s the first time I’ve felt that way in like 15 years.

I was riding this wave of euphoria and felt so feminine and amazing, and it’s like none of it matters anymore. I don’t know if I feel feminine at all.

I can’t get new implants every 10 years, I just can’t commit to it financially, mentally or physically.

Can I please have some of you older ladies weigh in on top growth experiences?

Is this question here allowed?

I'm a cis woman and the only definition of womanhood I can think of is suffering by the hands of the patriarchy. Cis people don't usually have a grasp on their gender identity like trans people do, so I thought I'd ask here😅

Looking for an answer that doesn't make me feel like shit and/or furious.