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I've posted before but I'm cis f and I've been with my boyfriend (using he pronouns because he's not come out yet) for nearly 2 years. We're both 18

I know when he was about 11 he came out as trans and he socially transitioned and was a girl for about 3 years then he started a new school as a boy, cut his hair real short and everything. He did keep the name he went by and it's the name he has now because it was more a nickname and it's now his legal name

He's bisexual and a lot of people think he's gay because of his mannerisms

When I first posted he constantly called himself a lesbian and said little things but then got super defensive if I said anything, I've left him alone and not pushed him in any way but he's grown his hair out and he's still making little comments mostly when he's drunk

He said once that he's too feminine for a guy but not enough for a girl and then the big one yesterday we were drinking and he randomly asked if id get the ick if I knew he was wearing a thong the other day and I said no but then he said he didn't “because itd be weird” and he was just rambling mostly about how he feels like a girl and he wants to wear a bra but by that point it was extremely late and he was so drunk and it was the two of us then he's only said this to me

He also mentioned how he’s taking a gap year this year and going to uni next year and said in sort of a joking way that it’d be funny to go next year as a girl and fool everyone that he’s cis but then he said he was joking but people probably would think he’s a girl at first because of his hair (which has already led to him being called she in shops)

Do I bring it up? How do I help him? We’re in the UK which isn’t the best place for trans people

I've posted before but I'm cis f and I've been with my boyfriend (using he pronouns because he's not come out yet) for nearly 2 years. We're both 18

I know when he was about 11 he came out as trans and he socially transitioned and was a girl for about 3 years then he started a new school as a boy, cut his hair real short and everything. He did keep the name he went by and it's the name he has now because it was more a nickname and it's now his legal name

He's bisexual and a lot of people think he's gay because of his mannerisms

When I first posted he constantly called himself a lesbian and said little things but then got super defensive if I said anything, I've left him alone and not pushed him in any way but he's grown his hair out and he's still making little comments mostly when he's drunk

He said once that he's too feminine for a guy but not enough for a girl and then the big one yesterday we were drinking and he randomly asked if id get the ick if I knew he was wearing a thong the other day and I said no but then he said he didn't “because itd be weird” and he was just rambling mostly about how he feels like a girl and he wants to wear a bra but by that point it was extremely late and he was so drunk and it was the two of us then he's only said this to me

He also mentioned how he’s taking a gap year this year and going to uni next year and said in sort of a joking way that it’d be funny to go next year as a girl and fool everyone that he’s cis but then he said he was joking but people probably would think he’s a girl at first because of his hair (which has already led to him being called she in shops)

Do I bring it up? How do I help him? We’re in the UK which isn’t the best place for trans people

So my brother is less than a year older than me and last year he got 2 A* and an A and is studying at Cambridge. Due to him being 10 months older we were compared ALOT by everyone even at sixth form id be asked if I was his brother

I studied business, maths and politics and was predicted A/* B A but I got DUE so I'm fucked, my dad lives a few hours away and we aren't close and he's always comparing me with my brother and he's a teacher in a secondary school so when he messaged me I said I got A/* AA then I said that to my mum and they've told different family members and it's all a lie

I don't know how to tell them even getting one slightly worse result (they think) made some family compare us. I live with my mum and brother and my mum never put any pressure on me but she will lecture me on those results so I feel I can't tell her I practically failed. My brother is onto me I think and I've hidden the paper and went out yesterday but idk how long I can keep this lie going. Probably not long

And I'm willing to try but I don't want to hurt him, I've never done it before so I'm nervous

He also had a bad experience at a hookup with a man a while ago and I know it's taken a lot to trust me to actually want me to do it

Does anyone have advice or tips?

I'm 19 and a bisexual guy, my gf is straight and we've been dating for almost 2 years

When I was 14/15 I was outed to my entire year at school and after that I repressed all feelings about men and tried to convince myself I was straight (my gf knows this). When I left school at 16 I cut everyone from school off including my “friends”

I've now accepted it but the only person in my life rn that knows is my gf, she didn't know straight away but she's fine with it and I point out if I find a man attractive in a show but that's it and i’d rather not come out to everyone else, I have no interest in doing anything with a man and I'm happy with my gf

My gf reads boyxboy stories on ao3 which is fine but she's recently started asking me weird things and idk if she's fetishing me or what. But it's things like her asking if I've watched gay porn or if I ever fantasise about men, she was curious about what a dating app looks like for a gay man and made an account using my phone and did all the swiping and texting until she got bored and deleted my account

She pegs me a few times a month and we both enjoy it but last time she randomly asked if id rather a real dick inside of me and it killed the vibe tbh.

Since then she's mentioned it a few times and said itd be hot for a man to fuck me and me telling her all about it and it wouldn't be cheating because she's given me permission etc

Is this fetishising me?

I've been on 3 dates with this guy, the first 2 went great but the 3rd and most recent date didn't go as well

We're both guys for context and I'm not out to my friends but they were having a party and I asked my date to come along as a ‘friend’ which he did, I just wanted to spend more time with him because I do like him a lot.

I knew he had epilepsy because he was open about it I'd never witnessed a seizure though. So I probably messed up somehow but midway through the party he nearly fell to the floor and I caught him because I didn't want him to hit his head super hard on the floor and I slowly put him on the floor myself, some people at the party weren't helpful and accused him of just being super drunk or taking something but I just ignored them because my focus was on him

I noticed he’d wet himself but I didn't draw any attention to it but when the seizure stopped he looked like he was crying (or maybe the seizure made his eyes water I'm not 100% sure) I stroked his hair and told him I was there and not going anywhere. I didn't care about how it looked in the moment I wanted him to be okay I didn't really care about myself

He had another seizure which was shorter and he told me he wanted to leave so that's what we did, I didn't drink anything anyway as I'd driven so we went back to my car and he came around a lot more and apologised over and over about wetting himself especially because he was in my car and after telling him it was fine multiple times I don't know what came over me but when we were at the traffic lights I picked my bottle of water and tipped what was left on myself and he seemed shocked but he didn't apologise again at the time which was good because I truly meant it I didn't care or find him gross or whatever

He ended up asking me to stay because he still didn't feel great and was going to be home alone so I said yeah and it was pretty good, he was so tired so we cuddled luckily he didn't have another seizure

He felt much better when he woke up the next day and it was a few days ago now and he keeps apologising to me for ruining time with my friends and for wetting himself and for having the seizures in the first place and I've told him a lot I don't care and I want to see him again but he's basically said he's paranoid about having another and being a burden to me

How do I reassure him? Does anyone have any tips in general about dating someone with epilepsy/is there something you'd want your date to do? Also did I do anything wrong during the seizure because as I said I'd never witnessed one before that

So as title says sorry if I'm not allowed here with me being a minor

I'm 14 and I've been out for 2 years I'm called a version of my name and she/her’d by everyone. And I'm not overly femme but that doesn't make me less of a girl.my hair is so long now too and I feel like me. I have been bullied at times by some of the more popular boys but it's nothing too bad

I'm almost 15 and I started puberty quite recently and at first I was ignoring it but my voice has changed and I'm getting a bit of facial hair and I'm worried I won't pass anymore and ill look trans which there's nothing wrong with but the uk isn't very good so I don't want random people in public thinking I'm a trans girl over just a girl if that makes sense especially in bathrooms I don't want to get into trouble. I usually try my best to avoid when I'm out unless im with my friends (cis girls) and we all go together

And I'm very aware of my area down there now and it gets hard from just putting underwear on and it makes me feel horrible and like I'm just being weird

Do I just go back to being a boy?

I'm from the UK and puberty blockers are banned

So as title says sorry if I'm not allowed here with me being a minor

I'm 14 and I've been out for 2 years I'm called a version of my name and she/her’d by everyone. And I'm not overly femme but that doesn't make me less of a girl.my hair is so long now too and I feel like me. I have been bullied at times by some of the more popular boys but it's nothing too bad

I'm almost 15 and I started puberty quite recently and at first I was ignoring it but my voice has changed and I'm getting a bit of facial hair and I'm worried I won't pass anymore and ill look trans which there's nothing wrong with but the uk isn't very good so I don't want random people in public thinking I'm a trans girl over just a girl if that makes sense especially in bathrooms I don't want to get into trouble. I usually try my best to avoid when I'm out unless im with my friends (cis girls) and we all go together

And I'm very aware of my area down there now and it gets hard from just putting underwear on and it makes me feel horrible and like I'm just being weird

Do I just go back to being a boy?

So as title says sorry if I'm not allowed here with me being a minor

I'm 14 and I've been out for 2 years I'm called a version of my name and she/her’d by everyone. And I'm not overly femme but that doesn't make me less of a girl.my hair is so long now too and I feel like me. I have been bullied at times by some of the more popular boys but it's nothing too bad

I'm almost 15 and I started puberty quite recently and at first I was ignoring it but my voice has changed and I'm getting a bit of facial hair and I'm worried I won't pass anymore and ill look trans which there's nothing wrong with but the uk isn't very good so I don't want random people in public thinking I'm a trans girl over just a girl if that makes sense especially in bathrooms I don't want to get into trouble. I usually try my best to avoid when I'm out unless im with my friends (cis girls) and we all go together

And I'm very aware of my area down there now and it gets hard from just putting underwear on and it makes me feel horrible and like I'm just being weird

Do I just go back to being a boy?

I'm from the UK and puberty blockers are banned

So as title says sorry if I'm not allowed here with me being a minor

I'm 14 and I've been out for 2 years I'm called a version of my name and she/her’d by everyone. And I'm not overly femme but that doesn't make me less of a girl.my hair is so long now too and I feel like me. I have been bullied at times by some of the more popular boys but it's nothing too bad

I'm almost 15 and I started puberty quite recently and at first I was ignoring it but my voice has changed and I'm getting a bit of facial hair and I'm worried I won't pass anymore and ill look trans which there's nothing wrong with but the uk isn't very good so I don't want random people in public thinking I'm a trans girl over just a girl if that makes sense especially in bathrooms I don't want to get into trouble. I usually try my best to avoid when I'm out unless im with my friends (cis girls) and we all go together

And I'm very aware of my area down there now and it gets hard from just putting underwear on and it makes me feel horrible and like I'm just being weird

Do I just go back to being a boy?

I'm 18 and I'm cis so I hope this is okay to post. I find know a lot about the trans community really but I know that there's a thing called a chaser where you don't see the trans person as their gebder and just want them for their body (feel free to correct me)

I've always been with girls but idk there's something about this guy that I like and I find him so attractive. I probably am bi and that's fine I just want to make sure I don't do anything to make him uncomfortable

He's gay so that's not an issue, idk if he feels the same about me especially since he thinks of me as a straight guy but hopefully he does

I'm 21 and I've been on T since I was 15 so when I met these friends (group of straight cis men) I was 16 and a year on T already so I was stealth

I said no to getting back with my ex and she's outed me to them and at first I was defensive about it because I don't see myself as trans I'm just a guy and I dont want to be treated differently. In the end I just owned up which caused a lot of problems because I lied to them and I just feel like shit, she outed me last year after we broke up to her friends but I wasn't that bothered but now this has happened I am

I have hung around with them since and its awkward and they were different towards me and have said I've made them uncomfortable as I've been there when they've discussed sex and stuff and I “have no idea”. I was alone with one of them after the hang out and he asked me a bunch of stuff and the conversation went to my packer and he was already touching my thigh and asked if he could touch my packer (through my clothes) and I was like yeah because I felt awkward but since then he keeps grabbing it and I feel like if I say something it'll create more issues and I already don't have many friends

I'm 17 and in sixth form so I need to be applying soon. I'm studying criminology, history and politics and I'm pretty sure I'm going to study criminology or law at uni idk though. I have a 1 year old so living in halls isn't really an option but one of the unis I've been looking at are MMU or UoM, I live close to Rotherham and idk if i’d be insane to do that commute, I mean probably but they're my dream unis that I am close to. I've already argued with my gf about uni choices and moving away so I'm stressed tbh

Any advice 🙏

that’s if i even get the grades because let’s just say my mocks were terrible but im predicted BBC i just need to lock in and hope for the best