So I haven’t really had the whole “chopping off your dick” line said Untill recently, my moms ex is omega transphobic and says stuff like that, I just don’t get why the first thing for transphobic ideas is just that one line
I meant to buy it with physical cash but I was really embarrassed to be in a women's clothing store at the time so in a panic I got a bra and paid with my parents card. Turns out it was a high end bra so my parents saw it on the statement and asked what it was. Sooo I remembered a really good episode of adventure time (because marciline made me want to be a lesbian) where marciline says a dude bow tie looks like a bra and I said I was trying to make a reference. Now, because of my autism I've repeated a lot of things I saw on TV so I think it was believed lol
Henlo! Araminta (15 pre-t soon to be mtf) here, I put the NSFW tag incase this triggers ALOT more people than expected. 👀
Have you ever gone around the Internet and saw well...really transphobic comments? I did and it made me really dysphoric and upset with myself. I know I shouldn't be reading them but I like to read comments most of the time.
All I see is "seek god" or "You will always be a man/woman" or "Tf is wrong with society?" Which just makes me think, why are people so aggressive towards others who just want to be themselves?
While yes I'm a Catholic Christian, I do NOT believe God will send you to hell just for being trans, or any other sexuality mind you.
I just...fear that when I transition, people will call me out and death threat me. Is this the reason why trans people are scared to talk about being trans to others nowadays?
If anyone could help me seek professional help (UK), I'd be glad. I don't want my depression and mental health be go more downhill just because I experienced it before.
I’ve been thinking about transitioning for awhile but I feel like I’m to old now (28m) any advice on if I am? I’m also worried about my bone structure I have a very masculine face and body and I know it’s bad but I’m so vain I really don’t want to look ugly I’m so worried about it
hey everyone - this is a genuine question; i don’t know if there are other people out there who feel this way or how to identify.
for context, i’m 26 and AMAB.
i knew i was queer from a young age, experiencing attraction to males, but as a teenager, i read about non-binary gender identities on tumblr and started identifying and presenting as androgynous. many people thought i was a girl and i enjoyed that.
i went to a religious school and had conservative parents, i couldn’t even tell them i was gay. when i got a little older, i thought about transitioning, but just got overwhelmed and sad that my body was changing and i couldn’t. i distinctly remember driving to school one morning and resigning to keeping a male body, as long as i was an attractive man. i developed my appearance by growing out my beard and working out and became happy with it. i basically didn’t think about it for a while after and just kept a male ego.
then i converted to Hinduism and spent 4 years living in monasteries. Sanatan Dharma teaches that you’re not the body, and actually all souls are fundamentally female. my particular tradition (majority the prominent saints being male) even emphasizes an internal and eternal identity as a young girl (gopi), it’s pretty esoteric i won’t get into it.
the point is, this validated my feeling that i can feel feminine inside but i don’t need to change my (temporary) body.
i’ve thought like this for years, and i don’t often tell people, but when i do, they tell me i’m a transgender woman. i just say i have a feminine psyche and male body and i’m ok with that.
i completely understand why people transition and if it wasn’t so daunting and scary to even transition socially (plus people wouldn’t believe me bc i’m masculine presenting and like it that way).
however, i recently witnessed a really moving speech at graduation of a trans woman. and i’ve been realizing, i do see myself as a girl/woman 100%, i relate with women so much better, i want to be invited into female spaces, and be seen as a woman.
for a long time, i didn’t feel a need to label but recently i’ve started to identify as a genderqueer man b/c i don’t know what to call myself.
basically i don’t feel trans enough to call myself trans and i don’t even know what to call myself. i’m also wondering if anyone else out there feels like me?
hi, ive been on spiro and an estradiol patch for a week now. im def feeling changes (almost exclusively sexually i dont feel anything anymore) but im wondering what changes to expect as someone who is very underweight (50kg / 5’10) . will i just not get chest growth at all? or fat below the waist? thanks :)
I don't pass but I'm in a dress, haven't shaved in a week because I haven't been hone. Waiting for Mt bus home. I kept on getting stared at by cisgendered men in the men's room. All I was trying to do was put on deodorant like fuck
For the sake of this story, I’m going to tell it from the perspective I had when I was younger.
When I was in elementary school, there was a kid in the grade above me named Dorian. Dorian played with dolls, and if I remember correctly, they carried a Barbie rolling backpack to school. I was probably in kindergarten or first grade at the time. My older sister was in Dorian’s class, which is why I still remember their name so clearly.
Back then, Dorian was just another kid to everyone else, but to me, there was something different about them. I admired their confidence, even if I didn’t fully understand why at the time. They hung out with all the girls the same way I secretly wished I could.
At home, my sister and her friends would sometimes “force” me to wear makeup for fun, but honestly, I loved it. I couldn’t get enough of it. Any time the girls included me, I was thrilled.
After a year or two, we moved schools, but I always remembered Dorian.
Years later, my sister told me that Dorian had transitioned. Honestly, it wasn’t surprising at all. Hearing that filled me with warmth because it meant she had embraced her true self.
I’ve been thinking about Dorian a lot lately. I still haven’t come out to my family, and if I’m being real, I only recently fully realized that I’m trans myself. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t envious of her courage. Dorian took that leap from day one, while I’m only now beginning to understand myself.
Dorian, if you ever see this: you’re a queen and an inspiration to me. We barely knew each other, but you’ve helped me through so much introspection without even realizing it.
I realised thinking that life would have been better as a girl maybe just a tiny little bit might mean I’m trans I would like to look androgynous but I can’t experiment with parents like mine snooping around all my stuff and I’m a minor hopefully I move out next year to go to uni really just wish I could express myself without people breathing down my neck.
context is I’m 16. I’m 6 feet and I live in Texas.
Sharing from Saskatchewan pride FB Group
The Globe and Mail - Marie Woolf - May 16
The Immigration department is piloting a program allowing transgender refugees to change their gender and name as soon as they arrive in Canada without having to clear the usual administrative hurdles, to ensure they are not retraumatized.
In a bid to align refugee policy with government policies supporting members of the LGBTQ community, Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada (IRCC) is allowing transgender refugees to bypass long waits in Canada to formally change identity.
The first transgender asylum seeker arrived from South America under the program in December. They were permitted to land in Canada under their preferred identity, without having to go through the usual administrative stages to change their name and gender once settled here.
The refugees came to Canada through the Government-Assisted Refugees, or GAR, program, under which refugees are referred to Canada for resettlement by organizations such as the UN Refugee Agency, and receive permanent resident status on arrival.
An internal “flash report” from IRCC in the Colombian capital of Bogota, obtained under Access to Information laws by immigration lawyer and policy analyst Richard Kurland, reported on the successful processing of the first refugee under the pilot scheme.
The December, 2025, Bogota report was circulated widely within the IRCC as well as to Global Affairs by an assistant director in IRCC’s complex case management division in December. It said it expected more transgender refugees under the GAR program to be processed, and IRCC would investigate the feasibility of expanding the program.
Currently, transgender foreign nationals who seek asylum after arriving in Canada would still have to go through standard procedures to formally record their lived identity on official documents here.
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IRCC has offices around the world, usually based in embassies and high commissions, to process visas and other immigration paperwork. The Bogota office also processes applications from Venezuelans.
Mr. Kurland said the department’s pilot refugee scheme “sets a precedent.”
“While some countries vilify, Canada steps up and provides safe haven,” he added in an email.
IRCC declined to say this week how many transgender refugees have been processed under the pilot program, citing privacy reasons.
“The pilot is exploring ways to reduce administrative barriers by issuing their permanent residence documents to better reflect an individual’s lived name and gender identity, while maintaining strong identity verification processes,” IRCC spokesperson Matthew Krupovich said in a statement.
The pilot program allows transgender refugees to depart their countries of residence under a temporary resident permit listing their name and gender assigned at birth.
But they can land in Canada “under their preferred (a.k.a. ‘lived’) identity on their Confirmation of Permanent Residence (COPR)” and therefore receive “their permanent residence card in the same identity,” the internal IRCC report said.
“Currently, transgender refugees land in Canada under their legal identity, which, given the discrimination they face in their country of origin, would be their birth identity,” the report added. The new program would eliminate “the cost and burden placed on transgender refugees to update their information post arrival.”
The document said the policy “helps to minimize re-traumatization of an already vulnerable demographic.”
A team at IRCC is monitoring for any issues that might arise with obtaining official documents such as SINs and health cards, and opening bank accounts, the internal report said.
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The new policy was welcomed by transgender advocate Gemma Hickey, who was the first person to be issued a government ID with an X in Canada.
“For transgender refugees, being forced to repeatedly use a birth name or gender marker that does not reflect who they are is not a minor administrative inconvenience, it’s a continual retraumatization,” they said in a text message.
“Allowing people to arrive in Canada and receive permanent residency under their lived identity restores dignity, safety, and stability at the very moment they are rebuilding their lives. They should not have to navigate years of bureaucratic hurdles just to have their gender respected.”
The pilot was introduced to help align IRCC treatment of refugees with the federal government’s 2SLGBTQI+ action plan launched by former prime minister Justin Trudeau in 2022. He announced a five-year, $100-million plan to support LGBTQ, two-spirit and intersex communities across the country.
The new policy coincides with a roll-back of rights for transgender people around the world. Transgender Americans, for example, are no longer able to have an X gender marker on their passports and other identity documents.
Canadians renewing their Nexus travel cards or applying for new ones to make it easier to cross the border to the U.S. must now say if they are male or female, even if they are transgender or non-binary.
The change follows U.S. President Donald Trump’s executive order last year decreeing that the American government will now only recognize the male and female sex. A number of transgender Americans have claimed asylum in Canada in the past year and are waiting for their cases to be decided.
i’ve been socially out for 7 years now. almost 8. my family is anti trans so i haven’t been able to legally change my name or medically transition at all. i’m so tired of living the way i do. people look at me weird. my own family doesn’t support who i am. i’m facing discrimination in my field, and the last partner i had used me for sex.
i’m so close to just detransitioning. the thought is actually very strong. I fantasize about being able to just live as a cis man (i’m mtf btw) because i know I’ll never pass enough to be recognized as a woman. life would be so much easier. i want that so badly.
I’m seriously considering detransitioning. i don’t really know what else i can even try to do to make my suffering go away. i am at my whits end.
They feel entitled to our bodies, our deadname, our history, our sexuality... And if we stand up for ourselves they tell us we are overreacting. We truly are the women of women
UPDATE: I said they act like cis men and your reaction was "not all of them"... You realize that just proves my point, right?
I have a small painless lump on my chest thats extremely solid and stuck in place. I know 80% of chest lumps arnt cancer. Little me would want breast cancer so bad before I knew what it was but once it actually becomes a possibility, that changes. *my biggest worry being loosing my hair that means everything to me and my nipples cuz I want them tattooed
I'm in a vulnerable part of my transition, my body has visibly changed, yet i do not pass at all. I get nasty stares usually from older people when I go out in public. I don't know what to do I lost my job and I'm running on borrowed time with savings.
My only work experience is 1 year warehouse stuff, 6 months of electronic manufacturing, and 6ish years of fast food. With my current bills I can't survive from a fast food job.
I've been making video game mods for years, but I don't think I'm very good at programming.
I don't know what to do I'm terrified.
Today I was called down to the school's councillor's office where I was told that legally, my teachers cannot use my name or pronouns without my parents' consent. So either I continue to get misgendered and deadnamed at school, or I put myself in an unsafe situation at home. Well, fuck.
CW Violence.
I'm not expecting anything to come from this post, I just feel like I need to get some emotions out. But seriously, and I mean this with all due respect to everyone here- how do you find the courage to publicly transition?
I'm 22, just graduated college. Been on HRT since 18, but lost health coverage a few times, so I still have a very masculine figure. And every day, I hate being seen as masculine. On numerous occasions, ive just wanted to crawl out of my skin and.... well, let's just end that thought there.
I really, really, really want to present feminine and still feel safe. I'm dealing with PTSD from a violent event I endured growing up & my town had someone shoot up a queer nightclub a few years ago. I'm so tired that my life has been surrounded by hateful, violent people. I just want to be myself, but how is that even possible?
Advice is welcome. Deep apologies if I made you uncomfortable.
I don't regret for one second transitioning but dating and love when your trans is just so fucking hard. Men that are trans attracted really be fighting demons and we have to accept all that baggage with the hopes they choose you in the end. It's insane or maybe I'm just a broken hearted girl.
Thanks for letting me share lol
Im really really confused about what’s going on with my friend. I (19MtF) and my coworker (18M) have recently clicked. Over the past two weeks we’ve spent nearly every night together and we’ve grown so comfortable with each other so quickly. I’d like to point out now he’s gay. When we started hanging out we quickly made the joke of being in a lavender marriage and we’ll say things like “good night husband” or “goodnight wife” and it’s just a fun little joke that makes us giggle. Last night however we took a weed gummy and were just hanging out watching a show when we decided it was time to lay down the vibe kind of shifted. We had our legs sort wrapped around each other and one hand interlocked the other playing with each others hair and were gazing into each others eyes. He said something that kinda through me for a loop, “I feel like we could make this work, I’ve never felt as comfortable with someone like I do with you” naturally I responded with saying “same here” and winked. We then proceeded to stare into each others eyes and fall asleep embracing each other. As I was falling asleep I felt him kiss my hand. Now idk what to make of this it felt like a lot I was feeling things I’ve never felt before, when we woke up he said “I hope I didn’t make uncomfortable” but I wasn’t at all it felt really really nice to just embrace each other and have that connection. Idk guys it’s really confusing we were both under the influence but idk if weed will make you do stuff like that out of no where my head is spinning
I feel like I'm losing my mind a little bit. I'm a big, 30 yo non-binary butch. I've been looking for a job for 6 months, and I keep getting to the last round of interviews and then getting rejected.
I've only been able to get feedback from one organization, and they told me they appreciated how "genuine" I was, and that there were really just the tiniest differences between me and the other person. I don't know if they meant it this way, but "genuine" landed for me as code for you're trans and gay and that's obvious to us.
I'm obviously qualified for these positions because I keep getting interviews. I never disclose my birth name or gender on my applications, but then I get into interviews where people are trying to be "inclusive" and ask for pronouns and it feels really uncomfortable to lie and not say they/them. I know the job market is BAD right now, and there are a million reasons why someone would hire another candidate.
But I'm worried that, if it keeps coming down to essentially splitting hairs because so many qualified people are applying, no one's ever going to choose me over a cisgender candidate. It felt like that was part of my most recent rejection -- that they had concerns about me being a public-facing part of their team. Maybe I'm just spiraling, but it's starting to feel like a pattern. Has anyone else dealt with something like this? Should I lie about my pronouns in interviews? Or am I being dramatic, and these rejections have nothing to do with me being trans? Any advice or outside perspective would be much appreciated.