u/sodafiz777

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apparently im disrespectful to trans woman bc i dislike the term "theyfab"

Honestly just really disappointed at the people in the community who use the word theyfab and think it has any meaning other than just plain transphobia. Someone said I am disrespecting trans woman by saying that word is disgusting bc its "apart of their culture." And I just know that is 100% wrong. It is not engrained into trans woman's culture. Hell I have seen many trans woman be called it by other trans people as an insult. I don't understand why some people are acting like this is some popular word every trans woman uses. Assuming every trans woman would use a gross term like that is extremely disrespectful to me. Some peoples excuse is "we only use it against toxic ppl in the community" (like the queer collective, which i actually could make a whole post dedicated to the enbyphobia that stemmed from that controversy but that's another story) but that is not true is it? Because It has been used against me many times just because I wear makeup as a trans guy. Please, people who have this word in your vocab and use it regularly, just think about it for a second and how this effects everyone, not just the "toxic people" you are using it against. Its a gross word and should be in no ones vocab. Can we all just be a little nicer to each other? <3

EDIT: for those of u who dont know what theyfab means and dont want to scroll for the answer: its basically a derogatory term made for afab non binary ppl (ik i dont like that language either) but its usage does not stop there. trans ppl will use it against anyone they disagree with or anyone who doesnt seem trans enough to them. its a disgusting thing to call someone

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u/sodafiz777 — 2 days ago

baby tboys, PLZ do proper research before taping (or binding in general)

I have seen way too many posts on here lately about taping and how its not working for ppl, but the post usually includes details showing the tape was not applied correctly or not taken off correctly. (STOP RIPPING THE TAPE OFF!!!) There are sooo many vidoes out there on how to correctly use tape to bind, and I really need some of u to utilize them more!! i get it sometimes you just wanna rush into something and just get it done with (especially when it comes to dysphoria) but this is your body, its really important to take care of it, and binding incorrectly can effect you getting top surgery in the future. I've seen way too many guys lately saying they just rip the tape off, and then are confused on why its so irritated😭 U NEEED to use oil, not just water to get tape off. all u need is to soak for 5 min and slowly peel it. and if anyone needs advice on taping with sensitive skin, i got u (it can be very hard navigating this as not everyone deals w it, but its possible to tape w sensitive skin) Anyways yeah lets please do more research before you start binding in a new way. Everyone should be doing it safely ❤️

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u/sodafiz777 — 17 days ago