r/TransMasc

I finally realized how to articulate my issue with statements like this and the horrible double standard that we are held to by cis society. And in this case, cis feminism.

The hatred of cis men is usually performative, whereas their transphobia tends to be real and unexamined.

I have known cis women who say things like this, then proceed to stan cis male celebrities or have hundreds of M/M fics bookmarked on ao3 with not a single one of them featuring a transmasc character. They clearly do not hate men. They love men.

When I've called people out on this double standard, I've been accused of being an MRA, and I've seen others accused of acting like incels. What people don't understand is that I do not have a problem with statements like "I hate men" or "men suck." My problem is that specifying that trans men are included in your hatred of men - whether you are serious or not - is not the "gender-affirming" allyship people seem to think it is. The fact that they're being "gender-affirming" is just a flimsy excuse for needless cruelty directed towards trans men and transmascs. I understand a lot of these people don't actually hate trans men and just think they're being cute, but it shows a distinct lack of self-awareness of their own cis privilege. If I said, "I hate all cis people, including women," people would probably take issue with that, and that would be perfectly reasonable.

So much transphobia directed towards transmascs and trans men is couched in terms of "hating all men." But plenty of cis women love men, too. Why is it so much more common for the "gender affirmation" of trans men to be an expression of hatred and not an expression of love?

I can’t take it anymore. The erasure is insane. Every shared space is treated as tranfem exclusive and any time I point it out and even when it’s explicit and harmful I’m told i’m “making it a competition” or “being mean to women”.

Drop your recommendations and anything you want to shout out made by transmasc/trans guy creators. Could be music, books, games, comics, videos, anything creative.

Due to transmasc erasure and invisibility, these things aren't talked about nearly enough. Let's give them the attention they deserve.

I hear a lot of talk about “pretty privilege” and while I agree it’s real I think it’s actually wayyyyy more complicated than that, especially for people perceived as women.

I just made the mistake of trying to reach out to a family member (I had a very abusive family growing up) and they responded to my reaching out in an extremely entitled way that kind of sent me reeling. It’s been making me think back to how people used to treat me when I was younger, and I realized that because I was a pretty girl who took decent care of my appearance (I didn’t even wear makeup or anything, I mean I just did the bare minimum of showering daily and putting on well-fitting but basic clothes), people projected all sorts of shit onto me. When I was a kid I had all sorts of psychological issues from being abused including extreme anxiety and depression and OCD tendencies. But not only was I not allowed to express that I needed help with these things, as people would often get angry at me if I even alluded to suffering, they also actively tried to get me to mentally help them. This is exactly how my relative reacted. They shamed me for not reaching out to them previously, and then shamed me for not going to another relative’s birthday party that I didn’t even know about? At first I thought this was just a toxic family thing, but the more I’ve thought about it the more I’ve remembered other times that people in my life acted 1) strangely entitled to my time and affection and 2) extremely unwilling to believe I had any issues of my own. It’s like, if you’re attractive and fem, people just take one look at you and objectify you so completely, they’ve already decided for you your role in their life, your personality, and even your background.

I'm sorry if this is inappropriate to ask.

I was just reading through the comments of a post about this special bed cover for bed-wetters, husbands and squirters, and one of the comments said that the skene's gland, which is the thing that makes you squirt, is the same kind of tissue as found in the prostate. So, I was thinking, does testosterone make it more active?

does anyone still get misgendered after their voice dropped and top surgery? I get strangers grouping me in with people calling me “lady” a lot. I’m not remotely feminine and I dress extremely comically masculine. I dont understand.

so remember when i said i came out as TransMasc right? Im not sure about it im sorry if i asked to much about it maybe i identify as Male maybe i dont im still questioning it

I am trans immigrant in sa at the moment but unfortunately I feel less of me self , the person who brought me here demands me a lot lot money which I barely have so he say if I don’t give up what her had agreed to, he is going to sell me to human traffickers but can I be saved , I am sorry to all my fellows but if am not saved am going to end my life and sorry . I need people to talk too am alone 🙏🏿🙏🏿