u/noromobat

Drop your recommendations and anything you want to shout out made by transmasc/trans guy creators. Could be music, books, games, comics, videos, anything creative.

Due to transmasc erasure and invisibility, these things aren't talked about nearly enough. Let's give them the attention they deserve.

Gender nonconformity in women has been completely normalized and uncontroversial since like 1990. They're allowed to wear pants so it's totally socially acceptable and normalized for a girl to be so masculine she transitions into a guy. Trans guys have it so easy they have never ever ever been repressed and felt like they needed permission from someone else to want masculinity, that just doesn't happen. A woman wearing a suit and a trans man using he/him pronouns and taking testosterone are the same thing

This works best if you use the characters you made while you were a teenager struggling with the concept of identity and gender, but any OC will work.

That emotionally repressed man whose persona is expertly hand crafted to be as inoffensive and useful to other people as possible? TRANSGENDER BEAM ATTACK! She's a woman now.

That girl who's felt defective her whole life, was literally kicked out of her birth family for having said "defect", and feels much more at home with the family she chose than the one she grew up with? TRANSGENDER BEAM ATTACK! That's a dude.

The guy who loves his family but feels a little suffocated by them? Who's dedicated his life to a family business that's eating him alive? Who genuinely loves what he's doing, but, like, just needs to chill out a little? Well, I can't figure out where to put a trans narrative there, considering half his family is trans already so that's not really what the conflict is about, but fuck it. TRANSGENDER BEAM ATTACK! They're nonbinary now. Sometimes people are just trans and there doesn't have to be narrative significance to it.

That scene kid from 2009 trapped in eternal stasis but with cool god powers that allow them to be a morally sketchy mad scientist experimenting on cats and giving them way too many eyes? They're already genderfluid, so an attack will do nothing. But I'll draw a version of them that never became a god and instead grew up normally, who's just as weird and twice as genderfucky. TRANSGENDER REGULAR FLASHLIGHT! Hell yeah!

Random cis person complaining that my story has too many trans characters in it and that it's unrealistic? TRANSGENDER DEATH RAY! Fuck off!

They took our birthdays. We can't even use our rightful title. The title of Birthday Boy. That title has been co-opted for nefarious means. We are being taken as villains, simply for celebrating our birthdays. This is the fault of the woke, of course. We must rise up and lose our ch-

What do you mean this is a weak jerk?! I totally know what the intended message is! It's not muddled by the negative invocation of the word woke at all! "Not your best work?" What?

Ow! Come on, you're seriously going to kick me out on my birthday?!

IT'S ALL THE WOKE'S FAAA^AUUUU^ULL^LLT!

I was a very angry child, I got written up many times for yelling at people and throwing things. (Justified, people could get hurt in more ways than one.) But nobody actually taught me how to deal with anger in a healthy way. It just wasn't allowed, no matter what. If I raised my voice even a little I was being unruly. If I cried I was being overdramatic. If I complained I was being whiny. So over time I just kinda... lost the ability to feel anger at all. Instead I just felt vaguely sad.

(This was also influenced by being autistic. Instead of being taught ways to cope with meltdowns, I was just punished for them, so I learned to internalize them. Search 'internalized meltdowns' if you're interested, it's too long to explain in a post like this.)

After a few months on T, the anger I'd repressed for so long came back. On the one hand, it's great to finally have access to a full range of emotions. On the other hand... I don't know how to deal with anger. I never properly learned. So I'm always one inch away from lashing out whenever something minorly annoying happens, and while I think I have myself under control, it's fucking exhausting having to do that all the time.

What are your coping strategies for anger? What's helped you vent it in a safe and healthy way? Thanks so much for reading.

All the other trans guys I know are smol short little gremlin babies. Like they're half my height. If they were dogs they'd be CORGIS. Get it? Because they're SMALL and BABYLIKE! Is anyone else here TALL? I need more tall tguy friends.

I have one from Spectrum Outfitters, it's 7X and it's very obviously too small. Most things are too small for me and I know that has to change but I want to do so healthily (i.e. excruciatingly slowly). The longer I have to go without a fitting binder though, the less I can take it. It doesn't have to be the most effective thing in the world. Just please tell me there's something bigger out there???

Bra size is 50G if that helps any.

I feel like I'm just joining the bad guys. I'm betraying feminism by becoming the oppressor. Every time I see a new hair on my body any joy is quashed by the realization that I'm getting farther and farther from goodness. And now I'm past the point of no return. Even if I detransitioned, then I would just be a "detransitioner" and that's its own can of worms. (And even more miserable than I already am.) If I had just kept repressing, I wouldn't be part of the problem.

I don't know how to be a good man. I don't even know how to be a person.