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Becoming increasingly disillusioned with 4tran4 while still hating mainstream online spaces. This place seems pleasant.

Becoming fed up with the general culture on there of wallowing in misery instead of doing anything to help themselves. The lack of self respect and all the circlejerking perpetuating it has inspired a degree of contempt in me. Not primarily directed at users on a case by case basis. I've had good interactions on there.

But, the doomerism has killed people. And that matters more than seething at le heckin "optics nuke sneeds". Say what you want but ar slash ftm or mtf or chicken lady never produced casualties.

I'm also very aggressively pro-HRT towards sex dysphoric people, regardless of cis passing potential. Treating biochemical dysphoria and working with what you have is better than blowing your shit smooth off. Every time. Somehow this is controversial and at this point, I do not believe it is a "LARP" when many tranners try to argue about it.

Might post on here. Might not. Will lurk moar.

u/Extra_Fan_5332 — 11 days ago

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Little Edit I Made of a Comic of T4T Couple Going Out For The Day

The height disparity is because he’s a few steps behind her on an escalator.

Edit of an image I found on Countttt. Original had the boyfriend as a pooner, so I redrew him. Then I realized this probably wouldn’t do too well over on Countttt, so I’m posting it here.

u/Nonna439 — 10 days ago

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Got into an internet “argument” and want validation (or maybe critique)

The context is this is a discussion about the FeMalfoy trend going on. I’m a little worried that my response (“Ahhh yes … trans lives’”) is maybe a little extreme, or doesn’t follow logically. Was bringing up the “cis feelings” bit too much? Some other error? I think I’m just being paranoid that I sound like a crackpot.

Idk maybe I’m just a bit too sensitive to the fact that other people have opinions, and I need to recognize that just because someone has an opinion doesn’t make that opinion worth consideration. EDIT: like, my argument isn’t necessarily bad or flawed just because someone disagrees with me. And just because they disagree with me doesn’t mean their argument is good / worthy of consideration.

u/Nonna439 — 10 days ago

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Genuinely heartwarming seeing how much boymoder related artwork there is online

On any single day I can come across at least 5 new variations of a boymoder, and all of them are hand drawn, with care and love put into them. Show me some of your favorite boymoders!

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u/Yeeterketer939 — 10 days ago

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I just want to look like a girl wearing boy clothes why do I feel like killing myself all the time

I hate being sober I hate hating myself I wish I could just be normal and love my body but nothing ever changes

I'm nearing a year on hrt and its absolutely not like I don't like the changes, on the contrary I know I would feel unfathomably worse if I had to go back to how I used to be but i feel like my mental health has also just parallelly deteriorated from after having started transitioning to the point that most days i genuinely cant look at pictures of myself without feeling a deep visceral sense of disgust. I don't know what I can do to feel better. I just feel so useless.

Sorry for the stupid rant post. Will probably delete later

u/Urgayifyouregay — 11 days ago

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sometimes i wonder if i, specifically, am actually oppressed

i understand that trans/nonbinary people are oppressed as a whole, but sometimes i think i'm not

i'm lucky enough that both my parents are extremely normal about my sister and i (my dad was kinda reluctant to call me it/its until i hit him with the "use it/its for me or learn my neopronouns" ultimatum, but yeah)

i don't go outside for two reasons: there's nothing fun within walking distance of my house, i can't drive (i'm 21, just debilitatingly mentally ill), and neither of my parents are regularly available to drive me

and you can't curate your experience of outside the same way you can with the internet

because of this, i can effectively avoid almost all bigotry i might otherwise face, so i'm effectively no longer oppressed.

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u/bard_of_space — 10 days ago

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I know I need to be in therapy but I genuinely don’t know if I could find someone equipped to actually help me

This isn’t a “oh I’m too far gone there’s no hope thing”, while it’s not like I’m okay mentally I think I could probably be a lot more fucked up than I am from what I’ve been through. But I don’t know if there’s anyone out there who is actually equipped to help a trans person who physically can’t go on HRT ever (I have CAIS). Obviously transition is the treatment for gender dysphoria for a reason, and I don’t want to be like “we need to find ways to just live with dysphoria without transition” because that’s basically conversion therapy territory but I’m also kind of just left without options. I don’t need mental health support as part of medical transition because my body is incapable of transitioning how I’d want, and I’ve tried social transition and it didn’t really help much because most of my dysphoria is tied to my physical traits and how they’re gendered, and I’m very secure in my identity and don’t need help exploring it, so I don’t really know if there’s anything left in terms of ways a good therapist can be equipped to help a trans person.

And even for just the intersex stuff alone, I’ve had some pretty traumatic experiences at the hands of doctors because I’m intersex and carrying it all has been negatively affecting me for years but I’d also be apprehensive about talking to a therapist about it so I can work through it because I don’t want to have to be the one teaching a therapist when I’m there for their help. The only therapist I know of who’s actually pretty educated on intersex issues and mental health is my mom, so obviously that’s a no-go. I don’t want to have to give a crash course in intersex variations and intersexism and medical abuse in order to get help. Idk.

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u/fireflies315 — 10 days ago