r/transgenderUK

Just trying to find out how many of you stayed in the same job throughout your transition. How easy or difficult was it ?

After submitting my deed poll and updated passport 2 years ago I've only just noticed now after picking up a prescription that my gp surgery has my title on my records down as Mx, rather than Mr. Despite the fact that I'd specifically requested both my name and title be updated to match both documents.

Wtaf? Is this something worth complaining about?

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Hi all, earlier this year our son came out one morning and said how they didn't feel right in their body and wanted to be a girl.

She's 13-14 at the moment and since then we've supported her in this decision because we are a strong ally household.

Today she has asked to look into starting hormone treatment but as far as I'm aware it's banned for teenagers her age.

I just wanted to know if this is actually true or if there are other avenues we can go to help them become the young lady she wants to be.

And if anyone has any other general advice, I am more than happy to read it.

We already let her dress the way she wants, refer her by her chosen name and introduce her in the same way, as far as we see things, we now have 3 daughters.

Thanks in advance

If a GRC lets someone change my passport, birth certificate, and get a new NHS record... how does the government still "know" about their history?

I realise it's knowable, that's not the question. The question is where does the large bureaucratic beast which is the government keep that information? Where is it stored? Can one make a request for that information? For one's own? For someone else's?

ive tried researching but nothing seems to be clear

Heya all I'm turning to you because frankly I don't know who else to turn to. It's currently been four years since I came out as transgender (MTF) and I know that is a long time. However no matter what I do I cannot see a woman in the mirror, just a bloke. I shave pretty regularly, I try makeup (to much failure but I keep trying) but I can't help but notice that I just don't look feminine or even androgynous. I do not have access to HRT although I am on the waiting list (private and DIY is out of the question due to financial difficulties) and I'm unable to get laser done for similar reasons. How do y'all who have been/are in a similar position to me present in the way you want and have the general public accept that?

If it also helps I am 6ft and weigh 120kg so I do have a bit of podge on my stomach which I am trying to work out. But honestly I'm struggling to find the "me" inside of me and just want some advice on how I can change to be perceived as more feminine.

Thank you for your time

I'm discharged from my private endo, and my GP will continue to prescribe HRT, which includes progesterone on the NHS. I'm on the GIC waiting list, but I can't see a reason to remain on it.

Since moving to my new job, which also entails moving to a new city and everything, I decided to just be completely stealth (mostly bc of the bathroom ruling) and it kinda just makes me feel... I don't even know...

I don't feel like I'd be in any actual danger at my job (I work in games, literally everyone has pride flags at their desks and I walk by like six trans fems on the way to my desk in the morning) but I just know that being seen as a 'man' and being seen as a 'trans man' are very different experiences, even by allies, but I'm in such two minds about it. I'm not ashamed of being trans or anything, I actually hate that I can't make jokes about myself or tell anyone my plans to get top surgery now I have money coming in, but I can't shake the uncertainty of 'what if something else happens and they decide to start making us use the wrong bathroom? what if they decide they don't want to 'deal' with having trans employees? what if they stop seeing me as thesodaboy2001 the new fella and start seeing me as thesodaboy2001 the new *trans* fella who totally used to be a girl and I'm gonna ask him some questions about how it all works and I wonder what his opinion is on all these trans stories in the news?' like at my old jobs.

It kinda makes me feel guilty as well, I guess. I'm afforded the luxury of stealth bc I'm a trans guy who's been on T three years and I started passing after like 6 months and I got my passport and license changed bc I have a foreign passport in a much friendlier country and now I even have a job that pays enough that I can afford private top surgery when I know other trans folk that can't go stealth and have to suffer the years on the waitlists for everything when I could jump the queue a little. Like, politically I'm just as screwed if any party or politicians started looking at the paperwork, but for now I'm doing okay when a whole lot of us aren't.

I wanted to post this because I was planning on going to Manchester Trans Pride at the start of August but then I got worried someone from work would see and recognise me and made me question whether I'm really 'proud' to be trans if I'm just hiding :/ IDK just needed to get it out

So, I'm going to go to pride in brighton, however, I may or may not be by myself. I know that I'm traveling by myself, however, some people from a vocal group said they might go now this would be lovely to see them but a might is not a definate.

Is anyone else gonna be by themselves or be open to making new friends if they're going. For openiness I'm 42 and quite shy when meeting folk but ideally don't wanna spend the whole time there alone, but , will if nessercary as I think its improtant to show up.

Firstly, sorry if I say something not quite right, I'm still learning.

I'm not sure what I am, whether I'm CD, trans, gender fluid or something else, but I'm well into my 50s and a married man with adult kids (all girls).

I didn't grow up wanting to be a girl. I guess I did suppress my more fem side growing up the 80s, and as a straight man have always been a bit fem, but not overly so. I know I'm not gay. But have for many years found trans women fascinating. I've never acted on that, other than porn.

Last year, I started playing one of these online fantasy games where the goal was sissification. Clearly I was drawn to it for a reason. One thing led to another and what started as a bit a fun kink suddenly blossomed into something else. I felt a soft part of me that had been forgotten for years, when I was connected to that softness, everything felt so calm, it almost eliminated many of my ADHD symptoms! When I was being Maddie (all privately or stealth mode), everything seemed better.

A few months later I had a major trauma event, and honestly without Maddie I don't think we have got through it anywhere near as well as we did. And that event really brought Maddie forwards.

I think about Maddie all the time when I'm in boy mode. I've got a full wardrobe for her and my boy wardrobe has moved to very gender fluid. Full of cute pastels, and even some things like ladies jeans. So even when I'm being a man, she's still there.

My wife hasn't clocked things yet that I know of, I've been very careful and secure. I've managed to pass off the odd slip up, like her finding my Rosy Lips balm. My daughters haven't picked up either I don't think. Same with friends and colleagues.

It's now been over a year since those early explorations and I'm actually excited about the future. I'm curious and kind to myself and Maddie to see where this goes. Yes, it's scary too. If I come out one day (no plans yet), how will everyone take it, especially the wife and kids. Also the current anti trans political climate is scary.

There's so much more I could say about my journey, but I'll leave it there for now.

But I wanted to post here, to say, I'm here. I'm learning about myself, and I'm ready to listen to others who understand.

Can anyone relate to my later life journey?

Has anyone got any advice for me?

Thanks for reading, love Maddie ❤️ ❤️❤️

What the title says, pretty much. Would it be legal to do DIY HRT (estrogen) at 17 in the UK? I'm aware that DIY is legal, but I'm curious regarding the age limit, or whether you have to wait.

I'm coming back to uni this September and I'm moving into a house. I am stealth in front of everyone in the house and I haven't come out to any of my family.

The question is, I'm not sure how to navigate moving all my stuff in, especially the mix of friends (who I am a man to) and my parents (who I am a woman to).

My mum calls me a masc nickname which is slightly derivative of my preferred name, but my preferred name is distinctly masculine so if my friends call me my preferred name I am slightly fucked but I also want to come out to neither of them. It's more important to me not to come out to my friends, but ideally neither.

The reticence to come out to my family comes more from an aversion to hard conversations than it is to safety.

If anyone has any advice please let me know 👀

so for context about 2 months ago i was diagnosed with gender dysphoria by the NHS (i was diagnosed privately in 2025 and have been on HRT since early 2025) so by point of NHS diagnosis 1 year and a month or so. on HRT. They said they would fully take over my HRT within 2 weeks. fast forward 1 month only by prompting my GP they ask me to go in for a blood test at hospital. i went and waited another month. fast forward to last week where i got impatient of hearing nothing and contacted my GP and they said "your blood results are deeply unsatisfactory and i will not prescribe you your Medication. he didn’t give any plan going forward that the end of that. am i stuck now. i have been so scared. as he also measure dmy blood against male levels said my "testosterone was low" at 2.69 nmol/L (i had 0.7 nmol/L month before on my private Endo so i have no idea what’s happened). He also said my oestrogen was too high at 1385pmol/L (is that a bad thing?) and also mentioned that my Free androgen index was high at 6.8%

(i am currently being prescribed privately and the GIc is taking over my HRt but my GP is refusing to prescribe)

i thought moving from Spironolactone to GnRh Analogue would solve the free androgen index and higher T Level?

im currently on 2x 100mg Evorel patches twice a week and 2x 50mg Spironolactone twice a day ( was 100mg 2x a day but uric acid was high)

i have no idea what to do going forward as even my GP said they had no clue what to do and i am now horrified i wont get my private HRT.

This is just a bit of a rant about how diabolically slow everything to do with GIC's are. We all know that the wait to even be seen by one is horrendous, but even when you're privileged enough to be seen by one, like me, it barely even feels like healthcare is being provided.

I started having atrophy symptoms well over a year ago at this point, but when I brought it up to my named professional, she said that I needed to wait to speak to the actual doctor, who I only see once per year.

In an attempt to help myself, I've lowered my dose of T gel because it seems to stop the cramping and recurrent UTI symptoms, but it's not something that I want to do permanently because my dose is now too low. My named professional knows about this, too.

I finally saw the doctor in May and was very surprised to find that she didn't think that cramping was a part of atrophy, which is very different to what I've read online with others' experiences. She said that I need an ultrasound to rule out anything else, and that she will write to both me and my GP.

I let a month pass by, waiting for this letter, and received nothing. I emailed my named professional and she was on holiday, with an automatic email telling me that she would respond once she was back. I have waited another two weeks after her return date and still heard nothing, so I've just re-forwarded the email again.

I just think, like, what if I had cancer or something? That's what the doc was getting at with the ultrasound, right? Yet I've waited a month and a half with no update.

Tbh I feel fairly certain that it is atrophy and I just want my damn cream, pessary, whatever 🙈 But if you're gonna make me jump through hoops to get it then at least set the hoops out for me!

Im on 50mg right now and want to switch to 70-100mg as soon as I hit 6+ months on T. Is it a good idea if i just make my dose higher or should I definitely do a blood test?

If I should do a blood test: Dose anyone know if doctors and case workes are forced to tell my bio parents that I am on diy or is there any chanche they would not tell them?

(Sorry about the grammar my english is not the best!)

I'm wondering whether I should continue with progesterone or not.  From what I can gather, the reasons for taking it on feminising GAHT seem to be better mood and sleep, and increased libido and breast size (the latter two anecdotally only).  I'm all for better mood and sleep, but the side effects of bloating and water retention already feel quite severe (a lot of what I thought was down to my brutal, fumbling blocker implant insertion, I now think is just bloating).

On top of this, there seems to be evidence to suggest that P can (for some people) actually increase levels of T or DHT through things like "the backdoor pathway" (?).  This significant negative, combined with the facts that I'm actively trying to eradicate my libido completely, and I've never had a desire for sex, have all left me ambivalent. 

I'm going to give it the rest of the prescription's three months, just to give it a fair try, but I was wondering: How has anyone else found it?

Thanks 😊.

Slightly good new slight bad news depending on how you see things.

But I have just come out to my mother, she was understood my position and appreciated my feelings but where cautious in accepting them. This is because this is a big change in my life and how she worries for my future with this change, but also in how before she can fully accept she wants me to go through support networks to talk about all of this before I start to medically transitioning. Cause talking to one of my friends who has slightly gone through this process (they are non binary) isn’t really good enough (but a good starting point) and how talking about it in the internet on this Reddit isn’t acceptable at all due to “how many people will lie and manipulate you”

For the most part while I want to start the process of transitioning this summer I have conceded to my mother that i won’t and that when I go to uni I will access there support network first and won’t try anything until after the new years just so she can have more confidence in this being a good choice and not something that I will regret. This does slightly annoy me as I wanted to start the process sooner rather then later, however I don’t want to cause my mother anymore worry then necessary with this process.

While at uni I will probably still start the process in terms of social in things like voice training and working out to get better body proportions and stuff other then HRT, but it does sorta annoy me.

my mother has said that at the end of the day she can’t really stop me as I am 18 but would want me to do this first just so she feels better about all of this.

I most likely won’t come out to the rest of my family until after the new year just so I have more backing cause my father will be a lot more critical (not because he doesn’t like trans people but because that’s just who he is).

But over all I have taken the first step, and hopefully not the last

If so, I'd love to know how it went.

Many thanks!