Remember when it was said she was unsuitable for the job? Here’s some more of the TERFs diatribe which has been archived for evidence.

Members of the LGBTIQA+ Greens and Trans Greens disrupt a fringe event at the Green Party Autumn conference where Green Party Women hosted gender critical campaigner Elaine Miller.

For context I’ve been on T now for nearly 5 years. I pass, have facial hair, deep voice, I’m built etc. Not once have I been misgendered in public or by strangers for years, however, when I talked about being trans and answered questions about it in front of my boyfriend’s friend’s boyfriend (mouthful there sorry) he immediately started ‘slipping up’ and referring to me as “she” instead of “he”. He had only met me a few days ago as I was invited to meet my boyfriends friends and we’re all staying in an Airbnb over the weekend, chilling and obvs we got talking etc and I’m quite open about being trans when folk are in my orbit or are going to be.

But during a convo that revolved around my transition he just switched, he then just immediately just started to call me she sometimes. At first I thought it was harmless and his gf apologised profusely, then she then referred to me as “she” when referring to me when talking to someone else when I was in ear shot. Her bf started doing it the next day too on multiple occasions, my boyfriend let her know how upset I was and she apologised again and that’s all good, he on the other hand keeps on doing it, goes to her and says he’s mortified yet keeps on doing it.

I honestly know neither of them are bigots but the switch when some folk know your biological sex is wild and it made me dysphoric as fuck each time it happened. Again, I’m a big guy, haven’t been misgendered in years, a part of me is now so understanding of people who are stealth because fuck this shit.

Every time it happened he was just so oblivious as well, I just ignored it but by the forth time I had to get up and leave and go to bed. I understand when folk are anxious and worry about getting pronouns wrong and do it on accident, I reassured his gf that I understood her because I think that was the case for her… I thought the same of her boyfriend… now after the FORTH time… no, I think he’s just a dumbass.

No one else here has slipped up, my boyfriend never has, his other friends here haven’t. So I’m just… not feeling brilliant about it all, kind of wish I was never so open about my transition.

Any advice on what to do if it happens again? I said to my bf if it does I will just straight up call it out and be very blunt that this doesn’t feel like a slip of the tongue anymore, and that he never knew me as a woman or pre transition so he needs to understand how patient and calm im being to not lose my actual shit and give him a slap lol (jk ofc I wouldn’t do that) because there’s not justification whatsoever! I’m just SO tired after this omfg.

So, what with the Welsh NHS bullshit I'm thinking maybe I should start saving for a Thailand trip for some bottom surgery. (Mtf).

If anyone did a Thailand trip, what's your advice? Anything you wish you did that you didn't? Or did that you're glad you got to do?

Hey everyone, I some advice.

Long story short I’m in the early stages of transitioning. My partner knows and has been super supportive, right now she’s fixing my corset I got a few years back and helping to make it fitter better. She even jokes saying “If we do get a cat and it attacks you we can call it transphobic”. She’s been amazing and she’s so supportive and lovely,

I’ve been looking into gender clinics and so far the main two in split between is pride in health and gender hormone clinic.

If anyone can give me some advice that would be amazing. I’m really stressed out as I don’t know who to go for.

Both seem really good and I want to be safe and live a happy life but there’s just so much going on I need to know. Both seem to be good as they help me pick the options which are best and safe for me, but there’s blood test and so much info. I also want the best option for myself and from a good trusted place. Just some advice would be amazing.

What the title says; doesn't have to be east but would be helpful. Looking for ones that specialise in permanent hair removal pre-vaginoplasty (so electrolysis) but also do hair removal for the rest of the body and face too. Saw one called Transjectual but could find very little info on it or the parent company Injectual on trans specific care. Price is not too much of a concern (I'd rather pay more than sacrifice on quality of care). Thanks!

Hi all! You may have seen a couple posts from me in the past months - one about soon having an EAP appointment, and one about what happened after. At the request of the lovely u/corvid72, I'm making a post that outlines what the EAP is about, since there's no resources online beyond my posts and a couple other comments on reddit, really. Hang tight pls, this post will be a big one.

What is the Extended Assessment Pathway?

To my knowledge, NCTH has the highest rate of patients seen for their first and second appointments - with only a three year wait, you might think that NCTH gets you on HRT and onto the operating tables faster than any other clinic. While that's probably true in part, there's caveats to this. The one I'm talking about currently is the Extended Assessment Pathway, which I'll refer to as EAP throughout this post to make it easier on me.

Once you've had your first and second appointment, your doctor will likely place you on the Extended Assessment Pathway depending on whether they think they need more time to evaluate whether transition will be best for you. Chances are, if you've waited the 3 years to be seen the first time, then the year between appt 1 and 2, you're probably in it for the right reasons, but whatever.

What is my experience with the EAP?

I was placed on the EAP not far off 3 years ago. This was, in part, because I admitted I was unsure of what I truly wanted from a medical transition in terms of surgeries. I told Dr Bouman that I hadn't really thought that far, and he gave me this look like "Why are you here then?" - but also because I want to have a child in the future and would need to get sperm put in storage.

The fertility side of things took about 9 months from that appointment to everything being done with, including emailing them to tell them it was done and I was ready to move on. How naive I was.

After fertility, I had another 17 month wait (a total of 28 months now, 2.5 years) before I would see a Dr Soundararajan (who is honestly so lovely btw) for the first of possibly up to six appointments.

What are the EAP appointments like?

I found out a couple months before my first EAP appt. that I had been booked in for it. In usual fashion, the letter took about 3 weeks to arrive, but I receive all comms via text, post & email. The email was painfully vague and I was racked with fear that it would be another gatekeepy appointment.

First, Dr S talked me through what the appointments are:

• Hour long appointments, which allow you a space to talk deeply about your "history" as a trans person
• Scheduled every 1-2 months with the same doctor
• Up to 6 appointments will be made and on the final one, you are told if you meet the criteria for a Gender Incongruence diagnosis.

Of these six appointments, I was told straight off the bat that I would only need two or three, at the end of my first. These appointments focused mainly on my social transition, though as I have done some efforts towards a medical transition, those were covered too - things like how much your family supported you, relationships, education where covered in the first, while the second touched on my younger life: how I was, how I saw myself and how aware I think I was in retrospect, as well as some about employment and which processes I've taken regarding legal stuff.

These appointments are in-person too, at the clinic, and she made an attempt to book both of them for the same time on the same day of the week, which I appreciated. It did not interfere with work, thankfully.

And at the end of my 2nd appointment, I was told "You definitely meet the criteria for a diagnosis of gender incongruence" and I felt a wave of relief wash over me.

What next?

Well, now that I've been told I'm officially, medically a transgender, I've got an appointment in just over 3 weeks where she will discuss medication with me; I currently DIY cypro and will be off that and put on decapeptyl. I'm not sure how my estrogen regimen will change, as I'm on 4 pumps gel a day and I don't think its enough yet. There will also be a discussion in that appointment about referrals to further treatments/services such as hair removal and bottom surgery.

Thanks for reading as much of this as you have, feel free to ask any further questions about my experience. I'd love to be as much help as I can, especially since there's no other resource about the EAP online.