Recently I had a conversation with a male relative who said that women don't have the right to complain about men molesting girls because women molest boys just as much . I don't agree with this but I wanted to get the opinions of others. Do you ladies think that he is right?
Being forced into arranged marriages by their families is often listed as a form of systemic misogyny women through history and in some parts of the world suffer from, but historically men and boys from the upper classes were often arranged to marry for political alliances or to gain wealth as well.
One example is Louis XVI, who married Marie Antoinette when he was only 15 years old.
While men are far less restricted in terms of freedom compared to women, they were free to seek out extramarital sexual relationships such as mistresses, concubines or prostitutes while womens sexuality was generally restricted to that of her husband, and men didnt have to give birth, having no choice in who you marry is a violation of consent regardless of anything else.
And it would suck if you theoretically were a sex-repulsed asexual or exclusively attracted to men.
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Please be kind. One of the issues that doesn’t get addressed enough is how this economy is forcing women to stay in relationships that aren’t working for them. I saw a study recently about how companies responded more often to resumes that had male-sounding names than the same resumes that had female-sounding names, men make more per hour and don’t face the glass ceiling, and they run everything so the entire work world is built on a toxic model.
I worked full-time and made more money than my husband when we married, and then became disabled during our marriage. I have fibromyalgia and it means sometimes feeling okay and then having days or even weeks where I can’t get out of bed. I work part-time and bring in about $1200/mo which is the most I can do, but I’m now financially reliant on my husband
Things aren’t working anymore; he’s not emotionally available, and thinks that providing for our home financially is pretty much all he needs to do. I want to leave but I plainly and simply can’t. I’d end up living in my car or on the street because rent in my area is $2000 for a studio. I have an elderly kitty who I won’t give up and every single room I see for rent (usually around $1500 which is still more than I make) doesn’t allow pets. I don’t have any family in my area. I do have family in an area with no jobs which would mean then being financially dependent on them, and they’re abusive.
I’m feeling incredibly depressed and don’t know what to do. Any ideas as to how I can provide for myself if I’m disabled and work is incredibly difficult? I’m thinking about doing some sort of spicy online content, which isn’t me, but I’m desperate and I need to find a way. Thanks for reading
THIS SHOULD BE A GLOBAL ISSUE NOT JUST A FEMINIST ISSUE.
I’ve been reading more about social engineering, manipulation psychology, and grooming tactics, and I think there needs to be more open discussion about how these tactics specifically target women.
A lot of people imagine “social engineering” as just phishing emails or hacking, but in reality it often involves emotional manipulation, cultural trust, religion, family issues, health insecurities, loneliness, and sexual coercion.
Some patterns I’ve noticed from case studies and investigations:
Rapid emotional attachment (“you’re different from everyone else”)
Using shared culture/religion to build trust quickly
Positioning themselves as emotionally safe or spiritually trustworthy
Asking increasingly personal questions about health or body image
Gradually sexualizing conversations
Encouraging secrecy from friends/family
Creating emotional dependency
Using guilt, shame, or fear when boundaries are set
Requesting photos, money, or private information later on
What’s disturbing is how gradual it can be. It often starts as empathy, support, validation, or “understanding.” The manipulative behavior escalates slowly enough that the victim may not recognize the shift immediately.
I also learned that investigators often look for:
grooming stages,
repeated scripts,
coercive control patterns,
fake identity inconsistencies,
emotional escalation timelines,
and boundary testing behaviors.
A lot of victims end up blaming themselves afterward, especially when manipulation involved:
romance,
religion,
sexuality,
trauma,
or family pressure.
But these tactics are designed to bypass skepticism by exploiting normal human psychology like trust, empathy, belonging, and emotional need.
I think more awareness is needed around:
coercive control,
romance scams,
sextortion,
emotional grooming,
and psychological manipulation disguised as care or love.
Has anyone here studied this topic professionally or experienced seeing these tactics in real life? What warning signs do you think people miss most often?
I've noticed a lot of well off white women these days seems to go on ans on about how hard they have it because of males and the patriarchy.
A lot of them are also bosses of their household , managers at companies, have alcohol and drug issues and behave however they want with seemingly little accountability.
While I understand and acknowledge domestic violence against women is still an issue which needs more addressing, I feel like the pendulum of feminism has really swung too far the other way where women who are actually quite privileged make a scene around being a victim when they are actually better off than most others in our society. Honestly it seems like a bit of a tactic to gain more social status and power while pretending to be some victim. And if anyone criticized them or points out that they actually have it better off than many others, they call you sexist or part of the problem. It all seems pretty daft.
Statistically speaking men are more likely to suicide, get murdered and or assaulted in public, more likely to be homeless etc etc.
And that's not including things like pretty privilege and the ' women are wonderful effect' - where you see women getting away with crimes and scandals because they are assumed to be innocent because they are female.
I think it's time we all stood up to the bullying of some white women in media and conversation around these issues they love to dominate and control the narrative all the while claiming to be victims and demonizing males.
The saddest part of a lot of these women have sons, and project their ridiculous ideology and fears onto them.
So I say stand up to dodgy men who are actually violent and creeps. Absolutely.
But at the same time we need to be more level headed when addressing these issues and not just lazily blame the entire male gender for the world's problems. It just isn't statistically correct and doesn't help our youth as they try and find their place in the world.
As a Christian woman, this is not an attack on Christianity, the Church, or people of faith.
I still follow Jesus.
Much of what keeps me rooted in Christianity is Jesus Himself . The way He treated people, especially women, with dignity, compassion, inclusion, and spiritual value.
But I do think it is fair to ask difficult questions about whether some modern church teachings surrounding women reflect the heart of Jesus… or whether some reflect generations of culture, hierarchy, and human interpretation layered onto faith over time.
Jesus radically supported, trusted and elevated women.
So I think it is worth thoughtfully and prayerfully sitting with this question:
When we compare the way Jesus treated women to organized church culture surrounding women, do they fully align?
That is not an attack.
That is reflection.
For the first time in American history, women are reporting as less religious than men and we have empty pews.
These shorts sexualise women, portraying them as gold-diggers or struggling single mothers. They are attacked for having 'only fruits' accounts, for not being 'skinny' enough, for not 'pleasing' their husbands.
Men are portrayed as violent, controlling and aggressive towards children.
The guise of anthropomorphic fruit does not make this 'misogynistic' in inverted commas.
It makes it MISOGYNISTIC manosphere propaganda in capital letters. This is digital dehumanisation, designed to desensitise doomscrollers to hateful gender-based and racist stereotypes.
Lots of these shorts feature the 'orange' or the other 'race' of fruit being discriminated against, being treated as 'lesser than' by the dominant fruit, in this case the banana.
It's not 'just fruit.' The distancing effect of anthropomorphism makes this anti-women ideology easier to circulate (including among children) because doomscrollers consume these as absurd entertainment not what they are: misogynistic-racist slop.
AI amplifies human discrimination. We need better regulations on this technology. It's appalling and disgusting, this hateful miasma, this poison in our algorithms and conversations.
And the takeaway from someone in the comments section... policing women's clothing choices. Women's bodies were never the problem, sexuality was never the problem.
The problem is rape culture. Everything, from the rape jokes I encountered in conversation with one of my male university classmates, to the manosphere and the algorithms that push this hateful content.
There is a world of difference between a total stranger pinning you down in the street, and giving in to your partner just to shut them up.
The second scenario is obviously not ok, but to call it rape is to trivialize the experience of all the people who have experienced the first scenario.
I don’t know how many times i’ve seen posts on Reddit, with young unexperienced girls telling stories like:
- My partner pulled off the condom without me knowing
- He kept begging and I finally said yes
- I gave consent but I was really drunk
- He put it in my ass without consent but I also didn’t really mind
The comments under these posts are always:
- He raped you, I’m so sorry this happened to you
- Your boyfriend is a rapist
- Honey, you are a rape victim
Let me first clarify that these experiences can obviously be horrible and terrifying, sometimes the guy really is a horrible person and someone you should get away from. But other times it’s much more complicated and confusing. Hence the asking for advice on Reddit.
It’s always the same story in the comments though. People confidently, without a second thought and with very little context, tell these poor girls that they are now rape victims, that their boyfriend is a rapist and that they should break up immediately.
It’s wildly irresponsible and insensitive. You don’t want to tell a young inexperienced person that the bad thing they experienced is “terrible and traumatic”, if it was indeed just “bad”. And potentially just a misunderstanding with their partner.
You also risk causing an unnecessary breakup. It’s possible to forgive your partner if they did something sexual without your consent. But of course you can’t stay with someone that raped you.
Part of the problem is that people feel that calling it “rape” (instead of e.g. sexual assault or non-consensual sex) is somehow more compassionate, in that it validates them and takes their experience seriously. The other part of the problem is that we don’t have great terminology for the full range of sexual misconduct.
And for those 2 reasons, “rape” has had a bad case of “concept creep” where basically any unwanted sexual attention is now called “rape”.
And that’s fine… but then we need a new word for the thing we used to call rape. That thing, that’s the first thing 99% of us think about when we hear the word “rape”.
Because otherwise in the future, when someone comes up to you saying they were raped, you will have very little sense of how serious the situation actually is. And if you are raped yourself, you will have to clarify to everyone that it wasn’t the “mild kind of rape” but “rape rape”.
After that My Karma will Go negative but this must be adressed
I am a Man who likes the idea of men and Women should be equal before law (in marrige My Religion says men are only 1 small grade above the wife but he cannot abuse or harm her and She has rights over the husband) and i believe letting the husband work and the Woman stays home is a strategie for both and After work the husband helps
But i have a Big Problem wirh radical feminist:
they will use sexist therms (all men or always men) that are not true (not all men and not always men but sometimes Women) and that therms make me angry i didnt decide to be male why do i get hated for a thing the minority is doing and if they say „iT iSnT aBoUt YoU“ yes it fucking is and I have a Problem with that and if i adress it to them they do not care wich makes me think they just hate men and See them as villains no one should Care about their feelings i mean i am a human too and they Call me misogynist bc i would prefer Therms like some men respect goes too Both sides so dont think i will be agreeing with you when you hate me for no reason
and yes i take that personally as an attack on me and you cannot change My mind so either you (who i criticised) change or i have a Problem with SOME feminists
I was younger by 15 years.
She was always calling out men in public and making scenes about domestic abuse against women.
I was confused because she was attacking me physically and verbal put downs often.
How many women who are publically feminist are actually like this?
“soulmate” is a social construct made for you to have more babies and keep the american birth rate system up. it's easy to romanticize when you want to be in love or when you just want to think about liking someone else. america tried to make a profit off of that, especially after WWll. sociologists and historians note that the modern institution of marriage and the societal pressure to find a "soulmate" evolved alongside economic structures designed to incentivize nuclear families which historically supported the labor force and birth rates.
Honestly, it’s a puppy mill.
I am building out the program for a Philadelphia-based short film festival I am launching this July, called DO NOT DISTURB, which is organized around the theme of embodied liberation.
I would love to find any films/filmmakers who have made non-fiction work around the general theme of the body autonomy. That can include anything from films about:
- Reproductive access
- Advocacy for sex workers and assault survivors
- History of censored and uncensored bodies in media
- LGBTQAI+ rights and protections
- Any other cinematic reflection of the free body in modern society
Definitely open to either narrative or documentary work for this!
Any leads on this would be really appreciated - I am really hoping to find ways to connect with filmmakers and festival organizers who explore and champion these themes. Whether that's here, or in being pointed to other message boards or communities I might not know about.
Thanks so much!