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I’m now 7 months post op, I had my surgery in December 2025. I was in the hospital for one week because my surgery was a bit more complicated and painful than regular hip replacements due to my hip dysplasia. After I came back home from the hospital I still felt like I was at the hospital. My home didn’t feel like my home at all anymore weirdly enough, that feeling just wasn’t there, I still felt stuck like I was at the hospital. I laid for two months in bed, rarely went in my living room, only when I needed to eat. I got constantly help from others with groceries, showering, getting dressed, cleaning the house, making me breakfast and dinner and driving me to physiotherapy. I really appreciated all that from others who helped me, I really couldn’t done all that on my own but at the same time I felt so helpless because I’m a independent person and to constantly depend on others for the simple little things, I really felt like I was in a cage that I couldn’t wait to escape from!

I finally ditched my crutches at 3 months post op but first used only one crutch to get used to walking. Finally after 3 months post op I started feeling like I’m home again! My home didn’t feel like a hospital anymore! I didn’t had to use crutches anymore, I could shower and dress on my own, make my own food, drive the car alone to physiotherapy and walk finally on my own long distances without guidance! I felt so free and relieved! Like a bird that has escaped a cage! I don’t know if I’m the only one here who had that feeling but it felt so strange like still being stuck at the hospital while you are at home. Did your home also felt like a hospital months after the surgery? It didn’t only felt physiologically like that but visually as well, I don’t know how to explain it but my home just felt and looked different, like I wasn’t home at all. But now I’m happy to be finally back home! It feels great to be mentally back at old home again! My home doesn’t feel like a hospital anymore!

I come from a pretty conservative country but luckily don’t live there, however I do often watch the news and show programs from the country. Last time I was watching a reality show which is similair to Big Brother and there were lots of contestants, one of them was a married man who soon got an affair with a young woman who is the daughter of one of our most famous singers in the country. As soon when they started having an affair the tabloids quickly started writing about them and they became a gossip all over the news with lots of critics but guess what? He wasn’t blamed for the affair, but his mistress was and her famous mother. The mistress got blamed because how dare she go after a married man? And her mother got blamed for not raising her well and teaching her to not go after married men. Her mother got blamed and verbally attacked online, on TV and tabloids and lost lots of fans!

When his wife heard about the affair she quickly came in the reality show and got lots of support from others but also pity, most liked her but guess what? There were even haters who blamed her for the affair and said it was het fault that her husband cheated on her, saying if she was a better wife he wouldn’t have cheated on her and that she only came in the reality show to play the victim and is in fact a evil sneaky snake. That she forced her husband to cheat and put on the show so that she can be pitied and be the winner of the show! Like it was all a set up! She and the mistress both got blamed and heavily critisiced by fans but nobody said anything about the cheating husband who orchestrated all this, the man got away with it and when the reality show was over the wife won the show. Many cheered that she has won, others complained and called her a fake snake to be pitied, others were cheering that the mistress lost and verbally attacked her during interviews on live TV including her mother.

Once again the cheating scumbag got off free without judgement unlike the wife, the mistress and her mother. I listened to countless callers on the TV interview bashing the mistress and her mother, calling them a bad influence, that they should be ashamed of themselves and insulted them because it’s anonymous and easy to hide behind the call. Then others insulted the wife, said she didn’t deserve to win cause she faked all this and others even said it was her karma because she is a child herself out of wedlock cause her mother had an affair with a married man as well and now they even targeted her mother too but once again, nothing was said about her cheating husband cause he is a man! When I asked my mom why they all blamed them instead of him and that it’s highly unfair and sexist, she said it is because women are considered the seducers by society and they chose with whom they want to be together. I find that personally BS and still not a good excuse to only blame women for it.

This all shows that men get always away with everything and women get blamed, no matter what. After the show ended they both got divorced and the tabloids were filled again with critics, calling the mistress a homewrecker for destroying the marriage while others cheered the man and said he did a good job in getting rid of his domineering bossy wife who likes to play the victim. I can’t wrap my head around this how nobody in my country sees this as misogyny but justify this behavior instead, it’s disgusting! Blaming the women only! That’s why I’m glad that I don’t live there but I guess nowhere are women completely free from misogyny and the blame but at least it’s better where I live. But still, this is all misogyny in my opinion, or am I overreacting? What do you all think? It’s unfair right? By the way I’m not saying the mistress is innocent! I’m just saying it isn’t fair that only she got blamed, the husband was just as wrong as she was and actually even more cause he was the one who was married!

I come from a pretty conservative country but luckily don’t live there, however I do often watch the news and show programs from the country. Last time I was watching a reality show which is similair to Big Brother and there were lots of contestants, one of them was a married man who soon got an affair with a young woman who is the daughter of one of our most famous singers in the country. As soon when they started having an affair the tabloids quickly started writing about them and they became a gossip all over the news with lots of critics but guess what? He wasn’t blamed for the affair, but his mistress was and her famous mother. The mistress got blamed because how dare she go after a married man? And her mother got blamed for not raising her well and teaching her to not go after married men. Her mother got blamed and verbally attacked online, on TV and tabloids and lost lots of fans!

When his wife heard about the affair she quickly came in the reality show and got lots of support from others but also pity, most liked her but guess what? There were even haters who blamed her for the affair and said it was het fault that her husband cheated on her, saying if she was a better wife he wouldn’t have cheated on her and that she only came in the reality show to play the victim and is in fact a evil sneaky snake. That she forced her husband to cheat and put on the show so that she can be pitied and be the winner of the show! Like it was all a set up! She and the mistress both got blamed and heavily critisiced by fans but nobody said anything about the cheating husband who orchestrated all this, the man got away with it and when the reality show was over the wife won the show. Many cheered that she has won, others complained and called her a fake snake to be pitied, others were cheering that the mistress lost and verbally attacked her during interviews on live TV including her mother.

Once again the cheating scumbag got off free without judgement unlike the wife, the mistress and her mother. I listened to countless callers on the TV interview bashing the mistress and her mother, calling them a bad influence, that they should be ashamed of themselves and insulted them because it’s anonymous and easy to hide behind the call. Then others insulted the wife, said she didn’t deserve to win cause she faked all this and others even said it was her karma because she is a child herself out of wedlock cause her mother had an affair with a married man as well and now they even targeted her mother too but once again, nothing was said about her cheating husband cause he is a man! When I asked my mom why they all blamed them instead of him and that it’s highly unfair and sexist, she said it is because women are considered the seducers by society and they chose with whom they want to be together. I find that personally BS and still not a good excuse to only blame women for it.

This all shows that men get always away with everything and women get blamed, no matter what. After the show ended they both got divorced and the tabloids were filled again with critics, calling the mistress a homewrecker for destroying the marriage while others cheered the man and said he did a good job in getting rid of his domineering bossy wife who likes to play the victim. I can’t wrap my head around this how nobody in my country sees this as misogyny but justify this behavior instead, it’s disgusting! Blaming the women only! That’s why I’m glad that I don’t live there but I guess nowhere are women completely free from misogyny and the blame but at least it’s better where I live. But still, this is all misogyny in my opinion, or am I overreacting? What do you all think? It’s unfair right? By the way I’m not saying the mistress is innocent! I’m just saying it isn’t fair that only she got blamed, the husband was just as wrong as she was and actually even more cause he was the one who was married!

5 reasons why it’s better being sapphic than straight

1.You are seen as a human being instead of a sex object

Men see women as sex objects

2.You are valued and considered as a equal

Men consider women inferior

3.You are loved deeper cause a woman loves from her heart while a man loves from his dick

Men don’t love as deep like women on average

4.You are less likely to be hurt during sex

Men prioritize PIV which can be painful while penetration in sapphic sex isn’t neccesary so you are less vulnerable

5.You are less likely to be a victim of femicide

Men are 90% of the perpetrators worldwide

Sapphics includes both lesbians and bisexuals

WLW 🌈🌺🩷

Everyday I get more and more surprised but also dissapointed when I see how many women are male centered and quickly defensive when something bad is said about men. They all start to attack you just for pointing out the bare minimum, like for example when I say how men see women as sex objects or as inferior they all start to attack me with “How dare you?! That is so sexist! Not all men are like that! Maybe you are the problem!” To my biggest surprise this doesn’t only come from straight women but from sapphic women as well. I never expected even lesbians to be male centered and defensive about men while a majority of men doesn’t even respect lesbian relationships at all, doesn’t take them serious and fetishize them, yet there we are, even lesbians get all defensive about men. But when a man says something misogynistic about women all other men start cheering and praising him, nobody then starts defending women, they all stick up for each other and their misogynistic views. Men love bringing women down but that is somehow okay then, they benefit from it after all, while a woman can’t say anything about men without being attacked.

The patriarchy clearly has brainwashed a lot of women from all races, religions, sexualities and ages but luckily it hasn’t brainwashed me. I will never bow down and kiss a man’s butt after everything they have done to me and my fellow women. Daily I read countless stories about women being victims of SA and femicide worldwide yet those male centered pick me’s dare to complain “NotAllMen” instead of complaining about the worldwide problems women face daily. I wish more women could be supportive and clever like 4B women! Here the women don’t seem brainwashed like all the other women spaces I have been in and that’s what I love about this space and movement. I feel safe, understood and respected here. Nobody is male centered here and doesn’t bow down for their oppressors. That’s what I like about this movement, it’s so refreshing to not be brainwashed by toxic patriarchy and I’m very proud to be part of this group! I’m proud of my fellow 4B sisters and together we must stay strong! For centuries men have oppressed women yet many women keep being defensive about men! Enough is enough! Never bow down for your oppressors ladies! Never!

4B Forever! ☮️🩷

1.You are seen as a human being instead of a sex object

Men see women as sex objects

2.You are valued and considered as a equal

Men consider women inferior

3.You are loved deeper cause a woman loves from her heart while a man loves from his dick

Men don’t love as deep like women on average

4.You are less likely to be cheated on

Most cheaters and betrayers are men

5.You are less likely to be a victim of femicide

Men are 90% of the perpetrators worldwide

Ofcourse this doesn’t mean for all men and women but on a large scale it does. Male centered pick-me’s, feel free to attack me, I don’t care! I love being sapphic! 🌺

Sapphics includes both lesbians and bisexuals

WLW 🌈🌺🩷

Edit: it’s such a shame how many of you are defensive about men yet a majority of them doesn’t even respect lesbian relationships nor takes them seriously, they fetishize sapphics yet you all get here defensive and mad about my opinions on men, like seriously? How pathetic. Such a shame how internalized misogyny is even present in WLW communities! The patriarchy clearly has brainwashed all women it seems! Keep bowing down for your oppressors pick me’s, I certainly will not luckily.

A few months ago I had a hip surgery and was bed bound for a month, because I live alone I needed help. I only have my grandma, who lives right next to my street but because she is old she couldn’t take care of me much so she called my uncle over and he stayed with us for a month to take care of me. He only came to make me breakfast and dinner, clean up the house and help me with physiotherapy and then he went back to grandma so that I can have rest and private time on my own. I have a friend who lives two streets away, we used to see each other almost every day before my surgery but suddenly after my surgery, she started acting differently. She only came two times to see me after the surgery but only to help me with showering and cleaning my bedsheets, after that she never came again to see me.

But then I got a phone call from my grandma, she called me every day and said to me how my friend came over to her house and talked with my uncle on the balcony every single day. A man who she recently met and barely knew, every day she came to visit him even when my grandma wasn’t home, that’s what my uncle told her. But whenever I called my friend she always came with excuses like she hasn’t time and is busy. She hasn’t time for me, her friend but has time for my uncle, a man she barely knows. Mind you, this woman is married and has two small children yet she visits my uncle every day instead to check up on me. This went on for a month, after that my uncle went back home and I haven’t spoken much with her since, because every time when I call her to hang out she comes up with a reason why she can’t come and she seems to avoid me.

Even my grandma called me crying one time how she send her some weird and mean text message, my grandma can be her mother and for her to be so disrespectful I just don’t understand it. My grandma and I never did anything wrong against her but treated her like family and now she suddenly acts like this. When my grandma asked my uncle if there was anything between them when they were alone, he denied it but I’m not sure if i should believe him. Anyway her behavior is kinda weird since then or am i overreacting? We haven’t seen each other for three months now and I decided to stop calling and texting her cause she keeps rejecting me. I have heard from another neighbor that she is mad at me and my grandma but doesn’t want to say why. What the heck is wrong with this woman? I have never had done anything to her and considered her my BFF but now after this I’m not sure if I should consider her my friend anymore. What would you have done if your friend acted like this?

A few months ago I had a hip surgery and was bed bound for a month, because I live alone I needed help. I only have my grandma, who lives right next to my street but because she is old she couldn’t take care of me much so she called my uncle over and he stayed with us for a month to take care of me. He only came to make me breakfast and dinner, clean up the house and help me with physiotherapy and then he went back to grandma so that I can have rest and private time on my own. I have a friend who lives two streets away, we used to see each other almost every day before my surgery but suddenly after my surgery, she started acting differently. She only came two times to see me after the surgery but only to help me with showering and cleaning my bedsheets, after that she never came again to see me.

But then I got a phone call from my grandma, she called me every day and said to me how my friend came over to her house and talked with my uncle on the balcony every single day. A man who she recently met and barely knew, every day she came to visit him even when my grandma wasn’t home, that’s what my uncle told her. But whenever I called my friend she always came with excuses like she hasn’t time and is busy. She hasn’t time for me, her friend but has time for my uncle, a man she barely knows. Mind you, this woman is married and has two small children yet she visits my uncle every day instead to check up on me. This went on for a month, after that my uncle went back home and I haven’t spoken much with her since, because every time when I call her to hang out she comes up with a reason why she can’t come and she seems to avoid me.

Even my grandma called me crying one time how she send her some weird and mean text message, my grandma can be her mother and for her to be so disrespectful I just don’t understand it. My grandma and I never did anything wrong against her but treated her like family and now she suddenly acts like this. When my grandma asked my uncle if there was anything between them when they were alone, he denied it but I’m not sure if i should believe him. Anyway her behavior is kinda weird since then or am i overreacting? We haven’t seen each other for three months now and I decided to stop calling and texting her cause she keeps rejecting me. I have heard from another neighbor that she is mad at me and my grandma but doesn’t want to say why. What the heck is wrong with this woman? I have never had done anything to her and considered her my BFF but now after this I’m not sure if I should consider her my friend anymore. What would you have done if your friend acted like this?

A few months ago I had a hip surgery and was bed bound for a month, because I live alone I needed help. I only have my grandma, who lives right next to my street but because she is old she couldn’t take care of me much so she called my uncle over and he stayed with us for a month to take care of me. He only came to make me breakfast and dinner, clean up the house and help me with physiotherapy and then he went back to grandma so that I can have rest and private time on my own. I have a friend who lives two streets away, we used to see each other almost every day before my surgery but suddenly after my surgery, she started acting differently. She only came two times to see me after the surgery but only to help me with showering and cleaning my bedsheets, after that she never came again to see me.

But then I got a phone call from my grandma, she called me every day and said to me how my friend came over to her house and talked with my uncle on the balcony every single day. A man who she recently met and barely knew, every day she came to visit him even when my grandma wasn’t home, that’s what my uncle told her. But whenever I called my friend she always came with excuses like she hasn’t time and is busy. She hasn’t time for me, her friend but has time for my uncle, a man she barely knows. Mind you, this woman is married and has two small children yet she visits my uncle every day instead to check up on me. This went on for a month, after that my uncle went back home and I haven’t spoken much with her since, because every time when I call her to hang out she comes up with a reason why she can’t come and she seems to avoid me.

Even my grandma called me crying one time how she send her some weird and mean text message, my grandma can be her mother and for her to be so disrespectful I just don’t understand it. My grandma and I never did anything wrong against her but treated her like family and now she suddenly acts like this. When my grandma asked my uncle if there was anything between them when they were alone, he denied it but I’m not sure if i should believe him. Anyway her behavior is kinda weird since then or am i overreacting? We haven’t seen each other for three months now and I decided to stop calling and texting her cause she keeps rejecting me. I have heard from another neighbor that she is mad at me and my grandma but doesn’t want to say why. What the heck is wrong with this woman? I have never had done anything to her and considered her my BFF but now after this I’m not sure if I should consider her my friend anymore. What would you have done if your friend acted like this?

This is something that I came to the conclusion. Out of all sexualities, lesbians seem to be the only ones who really love women because everything that I have seen throughout my life, I became to realize this. Straight men don’t like women, most of them are misogynists, they only like women for their bodies, not all of them but a majority of them only want women as bangmaids and making children. They love other men instead and prefer their buddies over women hence the phrase bros before hoes. I think that men would rather marry other men instead of women if they could, if society wasn’t homophobic and heteronormative. They belittle women constantly with their sexist remarks in every aspect, whether it’s the woman’s looks, cooking skills or job she does, they never seem happy with their wives and always complain. Look how many cultures treat women, I don’t have to tell you which ones cause you already know. They always only admire other men and praise them, like male scientists, war heroes, sport figures, celebrities etc. I feel like men only love other men deep down for real while they only love women for what they do for them, not for who they are. Men really seem to dislike their wives.

Then we have straight women, straight women, not all of them but a majority of them don’t treat other women well, they are constantly competitive for the male gaze and can be very catty and mean towards other women, jealousy and backstabbing is a very big problem between straight women. They often start drama cat fights over men while men benefit from it, many straight women don’t seem to have that sister code like men have (bros before hoes) and they sadly dump their girlfriends as soon as they find a boyfriend. I have seen it many times, how girlfriends suddenly dissapear when they get a boyfriend and always spent time with him, rarely with the ladies anymore. They put their boyfriends on a pedestal like they are some kind of Gods or something, men don’t do this. They prefer their buddies over their girlfriends. Also many straight women brag how they prefer having male friends over female friends, those pick me chicks that love being one of the guys and center of the male attention while constantly bashing other women. Never heard a man say how he prefers female friends over male friends, fighting to be the center of female attention and being the only male in the group. This to my dissapointment seems to be a woman-thing. Many straight women suffer from internalized misogyny sadly and I think that the patriarchy has lots to do with this.

Then we have gay men, gay men, especially feminine ones seem to like having alot of platonic female friends but since they are men themselves they can also still have that misogynistic attitude deep down. I don’t like the way how some gay men talk trash about women’s bodies like how we are gross and not pretty without make up, how our genitals are disgusting and that men are better looking than women. I have sadly encountered many misogynistic gay men as well, some can be jealous just like straight women but some can be misogynistic just like straight men simply because they are men themselves. I fear that misogyny is present in every person no matter what their sexuality or gender is.

Last we finally have lesbians, I feel like lesbians are the only people who really love women. I haven’t encountered many lesbians in my life who suffer from internalized misogyny the way straight women do nor have I encountered lesbians who have sexist views as men. Most lesbians love and respect their partners, they treat them as equals and not as some bangmaids to do all the housechores. Lesbians don’t complain or belittle their partners constantly like men do, I have heard many lesbians admire and praise their partners and spouses. Lesbians are not pick me’s like straight women and don’t constantly do drama fights over other women. They prefer real friendships and don’t dump their friends if they suddenly get a girlfriend, I have noticed how strong lesbian friendships are. They are always there for their friends like sisters. Lesbian sisterhood seems stronger than straight sisterhood cause the patriarchy has not brainwashed lesbians that they should put men on a pedestal above everyone else.

Coming to this sad conclusion, I feel glad that I’m a sapphic because this misogynistic society seems to have brainwashed everyone against women. Putting men on pedestals constantly while belittling women for everything. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that all men and women are misogynists, I’m just saying that a majority are sadly because of the toxic environments. Lesbians luckily don’t seem to be affected as much by this toxicity, sadly there are some lesbians who suffer from internalized misogyny as well but not as much like straight women. The biggest misogynists are still straight men overall and I simply wouldn’t trust a man to date let alone marrying him. You never know if you marry someone who loves you or secretly hates you if you deal with a man. Look at the Watts case or Pelicot case and see for yourself then you know what I’m talking about. This toxicity seems less common in lesbian relationships and I’m glad that I’m not straight!

But overall, yes I do think that lesbians are the only ones who love women for real. Whether romantic or platonic.

Last month I was talking with a neighbor of mine about a date I had then I showed her a picture of him and she said how he is so cute and attractive. But then when we started talking further about him I mentioned that he is also bisexual, she suddenly looked shocked and disgusted and then she started cursing “Wtf? Oh that little F ggot, F him, you need to find a real man not a lady boy who wants to be pegged, he would not be your boyfriend but girlfriend instead. He is not a man but a woman! Dump him!” I didn’t listen to her and kept going out with him anyway. Then another time when I was together with her, I showed her a picture of a model who happens to be a trans man. I told her I have a little crush on him but that he used to be a woman and guess what? She was totally fine with it, she said “Oh wauw, he really is hot! You would never guessed he was a woman, what a attractive man!” Then she kept looking at his photo and to my surprise, she wasn’t against it yet she was against my bisexual date who happens to like men as well.

Then another time I was sitting with my other two friends, we were chilling together and talking about things, then suddenly a topic came up about gay and trans people, they were mocking a feminine gay man they know and his feminine mannerisms, they imitated him then started laughing about it. Then I showed them a picture of that trans man model and they both drooled over him, saying how he was attractive and looked like a real man but then when I showed them pictures of trans women models they both looked uncomfortable and one of my friend said “To be honest, I find trans men less shocking and traumatizing, I just don’t feel comfortable about trans women, I’m more okay with trans men.” Then the other friend nodded and said she agreed with her. Then I started to realize how both my friends and that neighbor suffer from some kind of internalized misogyny, even though they probably themselves wouldn’t realize that. Why are they okay with trans men but not with trans women and gay men?? They seem okay with masculinity but not with femininity and even mock femininity in men.

I became really dissapointed and stopped talking with them about those topics. It seems to me that the patriarchy really came into their heads, I think that we all should be treated and respected equally, no matter our gender or sexuality but they seem to put everything masculine on a pedestal and degrade everything that is feminine. I was wondering do they suffer from internalized misogyny or am I overreacting a bit? This kind of hurts me that my own kind can be so nasty about their own gender characteristics.

Last month I was talking with a neighbor of mine about a date I had then I showed her a picture of him and she said how he is so cute and attractive. But then when we started talking further about him I mentioned that he is also bisexual, she suddenly looked shocked and disgusted and then she started cursing “Wtf? Oh that little F ggot, F him, you need to find a real man not a lady boy who wants to be pegged, he would not be your boyfriend but girlfriend instead. He is not a man but a woman! Dump him!” I didn’t listen to her and kept going out with him anyway. Then another time when I was together with her, I showed her a picture of a model who happens to be a trans man. I told her I have a little crush on him but that he used to be a woman and guess what? She was totally fine with it, she said “Oh wauw, he really is hot! You would never guessed he was a woman, what a attractive man!” Then she kept looking at his photo and to my surprise, she wasn’t against it yet she was against my bisexual date who happens to like men as well.

Then another time I was sitting with my other two friends, we were chilling together and talking about things, then suddenly a topic came up about gay and trans people, they were mocking a feminine gay man they know and his feminine mannerisms, they imitated him then started laughing about it. Then I showed them a picture of that trans man model and they both drooled over him, saying how he was attractive and looked like a real man but then when I showed them pictures of trans women models they both looked uncomfortable and one of my friend said “To be honest, I find trans men less shocking and traumatizing, I just don’t feel comfortable about trans women, I’m more okay with trans men.” Then the other friend nodded and said she agreed with her. Then I started to realize how both my friends and that neighbor suffer from some kind of internalized misogyny, even though they probably themselves wouldn’t realize that. Why are they okay with trans men but not with trans women and gay men?? They seem okay with masculinity but not with femininity and even mock femininity in men.

I became really dissapointed and stopped talking with them about those topics. It seems to me that the patriarchy really came into their heads, I think that we all should be treated and respected equally, no matter our gender or sexuality but they seem to put everything masculine on a pedestal and degrade everything that is feminine. I was wondering do they suffer from internalized misogyny or am I overreacting a bit? This kind of hurts me that my own kind can be so nasty about their own gender characteristics.

Man cheats on his wife
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman cheats on her husband
Everybody: What a wh#re, she should be punished!

Man sleeps with a married woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman sleeps with a married man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she is a homewrecker and a marriage destroyer!

Man sleeps with lots of women
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman sleeps with lots of men
Everybody: What a wh#re, she has no dignity and lets herself getting used like a trash can!

Man makes porn or only fans
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman makes porn or only fans
Everybody: What a wh#re, she should be ashamed of herself, now everyone can see her, she is lazy and wants to make easy money!

Man marries a rich woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman marries a rich man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she only married him for his money, she is such a golddigger!

Man dates either younger / older woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman dates either younger / older man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she seduced that young guy, she thinks she is a hot cougar milf or something. #2 What a wh#re, she seduced that older man cause she wants a sugar daddy to use his money!

Please, tell me I’m not the only one who sees that this is a highly unfair and misogynistic doublestandard.

Man cheats on his wife
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman cheats on her husband
Everybody: What a wh#re, she should be punished!

Man sleeps with a married woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman sleeps with a married man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she is a homewrecker and a marriage destroyer!

Man sleeps with lots of women
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman sleeps with lots of men
Everybody: What a wh#re, she has no dignity and lets herself getting used like a trash can!

Man makes porn or only fans
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman makes porn or only fans
Everybody: What a wh#re, she should be ashamed of herself, now everyone can see her, she is lazy and wants to make easy money!

Man marries a rich woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman marries a rich man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she only married him for his money, she is such a golddigger!

Man dates either younger / older woman
Everybody: That’s okay, he is just being a man
Woman dates either younger / older man
Everybody: What a wh#re, she seduced that young guy, she thinks she is a hot cougar milf or something. #2 What a wh#re, she seduced that older man cause she wants a sugar daddy to use his money!

Please, tell me I’m not the only one who sees that this is a highly unfair and misogynistic doublestandard.

Whenever there comes a topic about who is more evil between the two genders, everyone seems to answer women and I always think then how?? How are women exactly more evil? Since most wars, murders, violence, r@ pes, childmolestations, kidnappings and criminal stuff has been caused by men, yet they somehow get a free pass. My friend, a woman herself, said she finds women more evil than men, when I asked her why she answered “A woman is prepared for everything, while a man, even when 100 years go by could never imagine the cruel things a woman had in her mind.” I disagreed with her and said that there are plenty of cruel men out there who have done horrible things like Hitler and other war makers but she suddenly started defending them and said that they are just power hungry and want to be at the top to be dominant powerful alpha leaders. Yeah, right. Pathethic answer she gave but I don’t agree with her anyway.

I’m not saying women cannot be evil, there are many evil and nasty women out there but I think that men can be even more evil than women, even female k llrs seem to have empathy for their victims and feel remorse when I watch their interviews while the male k llrs show no remorse. I think they are more calculating yet society seems to give them a free pass and always blame women for everything, whether they are the victims or perpetrators, they always get the blame and when a man does something horrible then it isn’t his fault but a woman must have droven him over the edge, whether it was his mother, wife, mistress or victim. He is innocent while the woman is a scapegoat. One pick me chick even attacked me once when I said how men are evil and she said “No they aren’t, compared to women, they are far from that.” Yep, right. Classic misogyny, that’s what it is.

Me personally, I love being a sapphic because as a woman I can relate to women better, women are more emotional and understanding, at least in my opinion, I just can’t form an emotional connection with a man cause most of them seem cold and distant compared to women. When I see how many women are victims of domestic violence and femicide worldwide and the majority of perpetrators are their husbands or boyfriends it makes me glad that i’m not straight, dating or marrying a man seems more scary and risky. Then I also love that I don’t have to worry about unwanted pregnancy, I can’t imagine having to fear unwanted pregnancy constantly and use the pill which can have side effects for health but also any protection isn’t fully garanteed it will prevent pregnancy, as a sapphic I don’t have to worry about that. STD risks are also lower with sapphic sex than straight sex. Sapphic sex is just more safer and gentler.

I also suffer from vaginismus so I don’t like penetrative sex cause it hurts me and feels painful so if I was straight then I would have forever been alone cause most men are sex obsessed and PIV centered, with a woman, penetration isn’t neccessary so she would more likely understand and accept me as I am. There is also more equality in lesbian relationships with housechores and everything while in most straight relationships, the woman has to serve the man and do all the housechores like a housemaid. You are more likely to be respected and treated as a equal by a woman while a man will see you as inferior and below him. Most men just don’t respect women, the way they treat them as sex objects. I know that lesbian relationships have their ups and downs too and that no relationship is perfect and has their own problems but overall, in my experience, being a sapphic is better than being straight for me! I love being sapphic! 🌺

I came across a Reddit post last week where someone asked why are lesbians more accepted than gay men worldwide? Then a woman replied “Because men are more important than women and what they do and who they are is way more important than what women do and who they are. Women are inferior so who cares if she is a lesbian?” Another woman replied “Because women are inferior and only important for making babies, nobody cares about a woman’s sexuality.” I was stunned and dissapointed by those answers, the fact that they came from women themselves, yes those answers came from women, not from men! I was frustrated so I replied to them “It’s so sad that you think that lesbianism is only more accepted because women are inferior, it seems to me that you are clearly the one who suffers from inferiority complex yourself that you think that’s the reason why lesbians are more accepted than gay men.”

Then I also wrote “If nobody cares about women’s sexualities then why are promiscious women constantly bombarded with shame by bigots with their doublestandards, by that you can see that women’s sexualities do matter.” Then another male-centered woman replied to me “You are so annoying and delusional, the only reason why lesbians may seem more accepted is because men fetishize them and they are seen as sex objects while gay men are seen as a serious couple.” Again that woman makes everything about men, like everything revolves around them while there are many women I know who accept and support lesbian couples and don’t fetishize them but take them seriously, also not all men fetishize lesbians, I know many supportive men who respect lesbians but also homophobic bigots who don’t accept so the fact that those women consider lesbians and women as a whole as sex objects speaks for itself. It’s so sad that they think that way about women, the patriarchy clearly has brainwashed them that women are sex objects only important for making babies, very sad and shameful.

I’m glad that I don’t let the toxic patriarchy brainwash me. As a bisexual woman I think everyone should be accepted equally for their sexuality and gender but the real reason I think that lesbians are more accepted than gay men is for the same reason that straight male promiscuity is more accepted than straight female promiscuity. Those who sleep with men, whether male or female get more judged than those who sleep with women, homophobia is kinda like a male version of slvt shaming. And the second reason I think is because there is less risk of HIV because the 80s were dangerous times with the AIDS epidemic so two men were seen more as a dangerous threat than two women. Also in the past in ancient times many didn’t think that women could actually be intimate together like men so lesbians were also overlooked or ignored.

I think those are more likely the reasons why lesbians are more accepted and not because women are inferior and unimportant like those women with their stupid comments claim. Btw if women are considered inferior then shouldn’t gay men have more freedom then and do what they want? Since they are the “superior gender” cough cough. I’m sorry but the bigotry of those women is just, ugh!! It makes me really angry and frustrated and I’m glad that I’m not straight! Let’s not let us brainwash by the patriarchy that we are unimportant and baby making machines like those straight women are brainwashed! It’s really sad that they suffer from internalized misogyny so we should better be not like them! Our sexualities do matter!! We sapphics are important and valid as everyone else! Luckily we have come far but we still have a long way to go!

Also Happy Pride Month my fellow Sapphics! 🌺🌈🩷

Love is Love! ❤️

You are valid!

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Recently I started watching drama series on Dramabox and Reelshort where tons of misogynistic bullies movie themes are popular. For example a new high school girl becomes a student at a new school and a group of mean guys start bullying her and tormenting her, one of them is the meanest to her then starts flirting with her and in the end he seduces her and she falls in love with him, by the end of the serie they get married. Then another serie has a college campus bully who is popular with the ladies, a typical chick magnet bad boy who gets any girl he wants, then a new quiet girl comes in school, minding her own business, then he starts viciously bullying her and degrade her with mean words while harrassing her everywhere in and around school. Then after they graduate school he employes her to work for him cause she doesn’t have money, after that he seduces her, she forgives him and falls in love with him then in the end they get together.

There are many other series examples like that who portray the bully bad boy being mean to a nice shy girl and in the end winning her over. I was wondering where do these ideas come from?? I know it’s just series but it gives a wrong message to people, especially to women that when a man is mean to you he actually likes you and that you should forgive him and put up with his bs which is bad! It only encourages men to disrespect women more and more and gives a false message that mean boys actually like the girls they bully which is not always the case cause I myself have been bullied and degraded by a jerk in high school and he sure as h ell didn’t like me! I just don’t know where all these nonsense come from and why male bullies are suddenly romanticized while female bullies like mean girls are villainized. Boys always get a free pass for everything cause boys will be boys as they say… No wonder toxic masculinity is rampant everywhere!

Recently I started watching drama series on Dramabox and Reelshort where tons of misogynistic bullies movie themes are popular. For example a new high school girl becomes a student at a new school and a group of mean guys start bullying her and tormenting her, one of them is the meanest to her then starts flirting with her and in the end he seduces her and she falls in love with him, by the end of the serie they get married. Then another serie has a college campus bully who is popular with the ladies, a typical chick magnet bad boy who gets any girl he wants, then a new quiet girl comes in school, minding her own business, then he starts viciously bullying her and degrade her with mean words while harrassing her everywhere in and around school. Then after they graduate school he employes her to work for him cause she doesn’t have money, after that he seduces her, she forgives him and falls in love with him then in the end they get together.

There are many other series examples like that who portray the bully bad boy being mean to a nice shy girl and in the end winning her over. I was wondering where do these ideas come from?? I know it’s just series but it gives a wrong message to people, especially to women that when a man is mean to you he actually likes you and that you should forgive him and put up with his bs which is bad! It only encourages men to disrespect women more and more and gives a false message that mean boys actually like the girls they bully which is not always the case cause I myself have been bullied and degraded by a jerk in high school and he sure as h ell didn’t like me! I just don’t know where all these nonsense come from and why male bullies are suddenly romanticized while female bullies like mean girls are villainized. Boys always get a free pass for everything cause boys will be boys as they say… No wonder toxic masculinity is rampant everywhere!

A few months ago I was traveling with a bus across Europe and many countries have their own borders controls. When we arrived in a different country in the middle of the night around 3 am we were told that we must get outside of the bus for passport controls by the border police. We went outside and stood in line, behind the glass was a female officer checking the passports. Everything went well until it was my turn, I walked over to her and handed her my passport, she didn’t take it but kept staring at me with this scary and evil stare, almost like a Nazi officer. I stood there, waiting there awkwardly for her to take my passport and then suddenly she yelled “Give it to me!!” I gave her my passport and she checked it, then gave it back to me but held it unpurpose close to her so that I had to lean over to grab it. Very childish behavior like a high school bully, what the hell was wrong with that woman??

That anger and yelling was all unneccesary cause I did nothing wrong, she didn’t yell at any other passengers who stood in front of me, they were all men by the way but suddenly a woman (me) arrives and all hell breaks loose! Behind me stood another woman and after the passport controls was finished she came towards me and said “Ugh, what a arrogant bitch” then another woman came into our conversation and said “You can see that she is full of pure hatred” I agreed with them and was stunned why she acted that way, even when I was polite and did nothing wrong. She acted like I didn’t want to give her my passport or something. I never had this experience with a male officer but some women can be nasty and cruel towards other women even without a reason! Who does she think she is?? A Goddess who is above everyone else just because she is a police officer?? Give me a break! I bet she wouldn’t even acted that way towards a male criminal!