Ladies, beware of men like this
A few months ago I met a dude on Reddit, he messaged me first and said he liked my feminist and 4B posts I often post on Reddit cause i’m a radical feminist and also 4B. He said that he admires my strenght and independence and that he likes women like me, “I’m a independent woman, I don’t need a man” type of women. He said that he always dreamed of being a husband to a woman like me and wanted to take a chance with me cause he likes dominant women who put him in his place and claimed he loves to serve women and be treated like a submissive slave, both in bedroom and in real life like cooking and cleaning. He said that he is a extremely submissive guy that loves to spoil and serve women and isn’t dominant at all. I wanted to give him a chance, see where it goes cause I felt lonely, being single for so long but I had my doubts in him cause I suspected he might be faking it. We texted and facetimed for months, he said that he desperately wanted to meet me and called me to come over at his house but I declined and offered that he came to me instead to meet for the first time which he agreed on, since we live in different countries it was a bit difficult and he worked (or so he claimed) and he couldn’t get a holiday. He said he did all kinds of work, he was a lawyer but then he got bored and traveled to other countries to work in companies but wasn’t satisfied with his salary, then he came back to his own country again and claims he works at a bank but every time he send me a selfie or clip, the office was always empty and seemed abandoned.
I had my suspicious but was silent about it, then he started bombarding me with sweet words and talks like “You are a perfect woman, a woman that every man wants, i love you, I think you are the love of my life, would you want to marry me? I want to marry you and be your slave so much for the rest of my life! I will do everything for you, you are my queen and Goddess.” Then he started crying and said he would love seeing me in a wedding dress. I said to him that I couldn’t marry him at the moment cause I don’t work and live currently on social benefits due to hip issues but he kept insisting and said he would wait for me. When I had my hip surgery and laid in the hospital for a week, he kept bombarding me with sweet talks, saying how he worries for me and wishes he was there to take care of me and spoil me like a princess. He kept pushing me to come over and stay at my home to take care of me but I said to him that he should better come after my recovery. He promised when I got better that we would meet and make further future plans for us two. After I got better from my surgery and started being my old self again I made a plan with him when to meet, I offered him a date when he could come over and he agreed but then after that, every time when I asked him if he bought the tickets he always said “No, not yet” “I’m busy” “I forgot” “I Will buy it the next day.” Etc. But nothing came of it, he always had excuses and then finally one day he bought it (or so he claimed) he bought the tickets for the date I offered him he could come.
I was pretty excited to meet him in real and see how it will click between us, I started to like him and thought he was a really nice guy, despite others warning me about him, naive me wanted to give him a chance. Then the night before the planned day we should have met i texted him and said “I can’t believe we will finally meet tomorrow, I cannot wait since i waited for this long and wish you a pleasant flight.” His response was very cold and shocking, he said “I wish I could cancel the tickets now.” I asked him why then he said “I lost my excitement, i don’t want to meet you anymore, i just don’t see a future with you anymore, i lost interest and see that you are not that woman for me.” I was shocked and asked him what he was talking about and why was he acting suddenly so cold and weird. He said that he thought in the beginning that i was that special woman for him but that he realized he made a mistake and that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore, the he said that he just cannot love a woman anymore with his heart cause he got heartbroken once and doesn’t trust or love women anymore. He claimed all his exes were golddiggers and used him for money and then dumped him, I said to him that im not like that and even offered him a home and car when he came to live with me after marriage.
He said that he liked me in the beginning cause he saw that I’m not a golddigger but that he cannot communicate with me anymore in a healthy way cause we think differently, he always said that I never understand him despite me always supporting him in his decisions. He said “I like you, you are very naive, pure and good woman but i just cannot see a future with you. I see you won’t bother to work any time soon to sponsor me for residency and I just cannot wait anymore cause it’s a waste of time and I don’t want to learn the language I made a very big mistake and fked up. There would 100% be no future between us, hell no and flying over to see you would be a waste of time, I don’t want to come to see you.” When I asked him why he suddenly tells me all this on the very last day he said that he didn’t wanted to hurt me and did his best to control himself. I said to him that he should have told me earlier instead of the last day and asked him how he would feel if it was the opposite, that i ditched him on the last day like that after promising and giving false hope, he simply said he wouldn’t care cause he had worse things in life.
When I told him that he never loved me and only wanted me for residency he denied it ofcourse but my gut feeling always suspected that cause if you really love someone you would wait to marry, even for years. I said to him that he was a cold manipulator and a psychopath, he said “Maybe I’m a psychopath but i never meant you any harm and didn’t had bad intentions. Can we still be friends? I still value you and think you are a good person.” I respond to him “Hell no, you are dead to me!” Then I blocked him. The next day, he texted me from another number of his friend and he said “I’m at the airport but couldn’t reach you with my number, if you changed your mind call me back immidiately, if not then I would not bother you ever again.” I immidiately blocked that number too and since then never heard from him again, I’m not crazy to give him a second chance after everything he said to me on the last day when his mask finally felt off. What was that jerk thinking?? Acting all fake nice and manipulate, then this. I think he either wanted me for residency or just saw me as a challenge cause I was and still am 4B! Oh my goodness, 4B please keep me safe and other women from crazy men like this! Being single isn’t so bad after all, men can never be trusted! Stay safe ladies!