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Every time when I see loving fathers who are so sweet and caring with their little children or babies I find that so adorable to see but at the same time I feel something is lacking. No matter how great or loving a father is, he can never be compared to a mother. Mothers just have something and I don’t know what it is, fathers just can’t replace mothers or motherly love. There is something so special about a motherly love and I don’t know what it is or how to explain it. When I used to be depressed or had difficult times as both a child and adult I always went to my mom for comfort and every time when she comforted me or gave me a hand I suddenly felt calm and better. My father could never have that affect on me, no matter how close we were. I’m not saying that fathers are unimportant or not loving, both parents are equal but there is just something about mothers that fathers don’t have and I don’t know what it is. When my dad passed away I cried but when my mom passed away I cried and screamed, I was very hysterical and I’m still in denial that she is gone.
Even writing this makes me emotional. There is just something about mothers. Cherish every moment you have with them while you can cause you never know when you will lose them. Love and respect mom & dad equally!

I left religion mainly for two reasons, cause

1. I figured out that it has helped me nothing and brought me nothing good and
2. it brainwashes people to spread hate and commit evil.

My dad died in a car crash suddenly which came as a total shock and 6 months after that my mom was diagnosed with cancer so it couldn’t get any worse than that. I went to church and prayed for my mom but guess what? My prayers didn’t helped and my mom passed away shortly after my dad. That’s when I knew that religion is absolutely bs and means nothing! What kind of a so called loving God would take my parents at such a cruel manner and let me suffer in misery? Both my parents and I were good people and didn’t cause anyone any harm, what did we do to deserve all this?? They say God is love but what kind of a loving God let’s innocent children suffer and die from cancer or poverty and hunger in wars? What kind of a loving God let’s millions of people die of starvation, poverty, illness or homelesness? And besides what kind of a loving God let’s his so called only Son suffer and die on the cross after being tortured and humiliated so badly?? Wouldn’t you have saved him with your super powers?? If you even really exist at all??

No, I really came to the conclusion that religion is really just made up bs and useless in daily life, it didn’t solve anything and as a matter of fact it only spreads hate, look around and you will see that religious people are one of the most hateful people who spread hate, look at the terrorists what they do in the name of religion or what the nazis did to jewish people just because they didn’t agreed with their religion. Everyone thinks their religion is the best and only true one and that everyone with a different religion or belief is bad. Non religious people are one of the most peaceful people who don’t bother anyone and look how they are portrayed like they are some kind of evil $@t@n worshippers which is nonsense but ofcourse religion has brainwashed the believers and that’s why they react so ignorant. It’s quite sad actually. Religion spreads so much hate, look how they behave to LGBT people, saying they will burn in h ell for loving someone of the same gender. How can love be sinful but not hate? You should not hate as the Bible says but the homophobes are clearly the ones who are hateful so they are actually the sinners and not gay people who love. This shows you again their brainwashed brains and hypocrisy.

Religion is also misogynistic and teaches that women are inferior and should submit to men otherwise they should be punished. “I will sharpen your pain of birth and your husband should rule over you.” Why should I worship something that considers me inferior and wishes me pain? Yeah, no thank you to religion after everything I went through. I don’t know why any sane person, especially a woman would want to follow religion and worship someone called God who only created misery and suffering to most people, especially women, except the lucky ones. Becoming Agnostic really has given me a peace of mind and I’m glad I don’t have to deal with it anymore. I will never let me brainwash ever again. It’s all just a scam and made up. But whether you want to believe or not, it’s up to you and your free choice.

My mom passed away a few years ago, then after her death I suddenly got a friend request on social media of my aunt and cousin who I never met cause my mom didn’t have close contact with them since I was born and they just grew apart. But they did want to meet me so I agreed on that. After my mom’s funeral I met my cousin first, we planned to meet in the city and when we sat together at the café, we started talking about all kinds of topics but when the topic about my mom came up, she didn’t seem to show any empathy when I talked about my mom’s passing in a sad and distressed tone. Then after that she said “When I heard that your mom passed away I didn’t know whether I should laugh or cry.” And she said that with a chuckling smile. I was lost for words when I heard that but shrugged it off, then when I showed her the picture of my mom’s gravestone with her photo and name on it, she couldn’t hold in her laughter and said “I wonder if your mom would suddenly roll over in her grave if I showed up there?”

I was speechless, not only was she mocking me but she was also being disrespectful towards my mom, how can you laugh and mock like that while I show you my mom’s grave?? I stayed calm and tried shrugging it off, I thought maybe she has just a weird sense of humor but then the next day when I met her together with her mom who’s my aunt, I sat with them at another café. After introducing we started talking about everything and then when the topic about my mom came up, her mom seemed normal and showed empathy when I showed her my mom’s grave photo. But when I looked for a quick glance at my cousin, she turned her head away just a little bit to hide her smile, she barely could hold her chuckle in again. I was so frustrated that I almost wanted to ask her angrily what’s so funny??! But I kept my cool. It’s like she is taking revenge that my mom passed away, like she is holding a grudge or something but my mom never said a bad word about them. Anyway her behavior was weird, innapropriate and disrespectful, but overall creepy as heck.

After the meeting I didn’t want contact with her anymore and I blocked her on social media, for her to be so disrespectful towards my mom’s death, it would be crazy of me to keep contact with her. After I blocked her, her mother contacted my paternal grandmother and said “You are a good woman but your granddaughter is just like her mother, she doesn’t want contact with my daughter, she is the same like that cursed family of her mother’s side.” I told grandma to quickly block her number as well which she did. She was the wife of my mom’s brother who passed away when he was young and since then the family dynamic became very strange and standoffish between them. My mom loved her brother and until her death cried every time when she spoke about him, I bet she would be very dissapointed if she knew how the witch of her brother’s daughter laughs about her death. Have I done a good job to break up contact with them? The meeting didn’t go how I expected it to be unfortunately and I’m very dissapointed by that but life goes on.

My mom passed away a few years ago, then after her death I suddenly got a friend request on social media of my aunt and cousin who I never met cause my mom didn’t have close contact with them since I was born and they just grew apart. But they did want to meet me so I agreed on that. After my mom’s funeral I met my cousin first, we planned to meet in the city and when we sat together at the café, we started talking about all kinds of topics but when the topic about my mom came up, she didn’t seem to show any empathy when I talked about my mom’s passing in a sad and distressed tone. Then after that she said “When I heard that your mom passed away I didn’t know whether I should laugh or cry.” And she said that with a chuckling smile. I was lost for words when I heard that but shrugged it off, then when I showed her the picture of my mom’s gravestone with her photo and name on it, she couldn’t hold in her laughter and said “I wonder if your mom would suddenly roll over in her grave if I showed up there?”

I was speechless, not only was she mocking me but she was also being disrespectful towards my mom, how can you laugh and mock like that while I show you my mom’s grave?? I stayed calm and tried shrugging it off, I thought maybe she has just a weird sense of humor but then the next day when I met her together with her mom who’s my aunt, I sat with them at another café. After introducing we started talking about everything and then when the topic about my mom came up, her mom seemed normal and showed empathy when I showed her my mom’s grave photo. But when I looked for a quick glance at my cousin, she turned her head away just a little bit to hide her smile, she barely could hold her chuckle in again. I was so frustrated that I almost wanted to ask her angrily what’s so funny??! But I kept my cool. It’s like she is taking revenge that my mom passed away, like she is holding a grudge or something but my mom never said a bad word about them. Anyway her behavior was weird, innapropriate and disrespectful, but overall creepy as heck.

After the meeting I didn’t want contact with her anymore and I blocked her on social media, for her to be so disrespectful towards my mom’s death, it would be crazy of me to keep contact with her. After I blocked her, her mother contacted my paternal grandmother and said “You are a good woman but your granddaughter is just like her mother, she doesn’t want contact with my daughter, she is the same like that cursed family of her mother’s side.” I told grandma to quickly block her number as well which she did. She was the wife of my mom’s brother who passed away when he was young and since then the family dynamic became very strange and standoffish between them. My mom loved her brother and until her death cried every time when she spoke about him, I bet she would be very dissapointed if she knew how the witch of her brother’s daughter laughs about her death. Have I done a good job to break up contact with them? The meeting didn’t go how I expected it to be unfortunately and I’m very dissapointed by that but life goes on.

Today I watched a YouTube clip of Tate protesters, yelling and defending the Tate brothers in front of their prison, saying that they should be released and no matter what, they still have the full support from their loyal fans. They were all yelling “Free Top G!” And saying he is a hero and protector of men. After all the things that the Tate brothers have done to women and children, many men still admire and defend them. They are their idols. They call this man their protector, seriously?? From whom do they protect them? From women and children?? Really?! How are we as women supposed to feel safe anymore between so many misogynists? Who basically defend r pst who traffick innocent women for their own benefits and spew nothing but misogyny!

An hour ago I was going outside for a walk by myself for a bit of fresh air to calm my mind, I was minding my own business, crossed over a bike lane and was already on the pavement on the other side, then suddenly a cyclist appeared and yelled “Move aside b ch!” and drove by aggressively. I pretended like I didn’t hear him, this jerk seemed to be around 15/16 years old and while I’m not certain that he is a Tate supporter I dare to bet that he is, based on his aggressive tone and behavior, you can sense that he dislikes women. I’m sure he wouldn’t have dared to yell like that to a man but ofcourse, let’s pick on a woman cause it’s an easier target. I’m afraid that the Tate brothers really have brainwashed most males from all ages worldwide, this world isn’t safe anymore for women. What can I say? Stay safe ladies and always be catious by your surroundings cause most men have really lost their minds I’m afraid.

Today I watched a YouTube clip of Tate protesters, yelling and defending the Tate brothers in front of their prison, saying that they should be released and no matter what, they still have the full support from their loyal fans. They were all yelling “Free Top G!” And saying he is a hero and protector of men. After all the things that the Tate brothers have done to women and children, many men still admire and defend them. They are their idols. They call this man their protector, seriously?? From whom do they protect them? From women and children?? Really?! How are we as women supposed to feel safe anymore between so many misogynists? Who basically defend r.pists and abusers who traffick innocent women for their own benefits and spew nothing but misogyny!

An hour ago I was going outside for a walk by myself for a bit of fresh air to calm my mind, I was minding my own business, crossed over a bike lane and was already on the pavement on the other side, then suddenly a cyclist appeared and yelled “Move aside biitch!” and drove by aggressively. I pretended like I didn’t hear him, this jerk seemed to be around 15/16 years old and while I’m not certain that he is a Tate supporter I dare to bet that he is, based on his aggressive tone and behavior, you can sense that he dislikes women. I’m sure he wouldn’t have dared to yell like that to a man but ofcourse, let’s pick on a woman cause it’s an easier target. I’m afraid that the Tate brothers really have brainwashed most males from all ages worldwide, this world isn’t safe anymore for women. What can I say? Stay safe ladies and always be catious by your surroundings cause most men have really lost their minds I’m afraid.

A few years ago I was having sleep hallucinations or sleep paralysis which seemed frightening real, like someone was really standing and talking in my bedroom. When I told my mom about it, she became worried and creeped out about it so she decided to call a priest to bless our home just in case. The day before the priest came, we went over to our friend’s house and later that evening when we drove back home we talked about the priest coming tomorrow to finally bless our home. When we arrived home, I was the first to walk in and my mom came behind me but when she turned around to close the door the doorknob suddenly got pushed out of her hand like someone was pulling it and the door closed by itself. All doors and windows were closed in the house so it couldn’t have been the wind, there wasn’t also any wind that day.

Later around 1 am I went to bed but my mom stayed up for a bit, then she said to me the next day when I got upstairs that a moment after that she heard suddenly a sound of cracking firewood on the window, it was so specific and noticable that even our dog jumped up on the couch to look at the window to see what it was. I was creeped out by it when she told me that and when the priest came after that he immidiately said that he could feel negative energy in the house and that our home needed to be blessed even a long time ago. But then a few months after he blessed our home something scary happened.

Mom and I were sitting watching tv, it was late almost around 11 pm or something then suddenly the doorbell went off. We never expect someone that late nor do we open for anyone unless it’s someone we know, mom asked if I can take a look, it took me only a few seconds to reach the door. I stond in front of it and when I yelled “who is there?” I got no response but the creepiest part was there was nobody there, we had a glass door with tape on it but I couldn’t see anyone through the tape, not even a silhouette. That person who rang the doorbell must have quickly move away in just a few seconds, if it was a person at all? Anyway, creepy things continued happening so we finally moved away from there. I feel now more at peace and safer in my new home which I never felt at my other home. Could that house have been haunted?

I was always annoyed by the sexist doublestandard how men get praised for sleeping around and get labeled womanizers but women get shamed and labeled sluts. It’s just unfair and pure misogyny, you can’t deny it. Then you have many men defending the doublestandard obviously cause it benefits their gender to get away with it and they say those stupid keys and locks quote which is bullshit in itself cause we are humans and not keys and locks. But then I was wondering something else, if women get shamed and called sluts for getting fucked then why aren’t gay men getting called sluts when they are bottoms or on the receiving end? Look at Freddie Mercury for example, he was so promiscious and basically slept with everybody, both men and women, with men he was on the receiving end, a bottom, he slept with many men yet nobody called him a slut, instead he was called a bad boy, a rock star, a sex obsessed musician etc.

Everybody knew about his promiscuity yet nobody slut shamed him, imagine if he was a woman how everyone would blame him for getting HIV and saying he just should have kept his legs closed but nope, he was a man and therefore got a free pass. I know gay men didn’t have it easy in the 80s and 90s but they were never slut shamed like women. Neither straight nor gay men get slut shamed, it’s only straight women and even lesbians sometimes as well, especially bisexual women who get branded unfairly as promiscious. It’s totally unfair how only women deal with all this bullshit while men get away with it.
I understand that in the past before protection and contraception women had to be careful and selective with whom they slept with but now in this day and age with all the safety and protection why shouldn’t women have fun and freedom like men without judgement?? This isn’t the Middle Ages anymore and this doublestandard needs to die out finally!

I met a guy one time and we were in a long distance relationship, because he lives in a country which doesn’t have good salaries like my country I suggested him to come to live with me which he first agreed on. But then suddenly when I offered him my house and my car (because I plan to buy a new car) he suddenly started acting a bit ungrateful, he said “No, I don’t need a car from you, I’m not asking for any material things from you and will buy my own car.” I was just being nice to him but he acted a bit odd, I don’t know. And when I offered him to live in my house he immidiately started making his own plan, saying how he will live only for a short period of time in my house and then afterwards want to buy his own house when he earns enough money and even wanted me to leave my own house for him to live with him, like ehm.. excuse me? What’s wrong with living in my house?? There is already enough space for us two.

And then another time we were making a plan to go on a holiday, we looked for hotels to book but they were kinda expensive so I suggested that we could split the bills and that will do then but instead he acted so ungrateful and said “Leave it to me, I don’t feel comfortable for you to pay the hotel.” I was just trying to help and kept insisting to split the bills to make it easier affordable but he kept rejecting my offer. Mind you, this is a guy who called all his ex girlfriends golddiggers but then suddenly when I tried to be nice and helpful he acted all ungrateful and cringy. He is such a hypocrite and he even said to me one time “I like it that you are not a golddigger, you are a very naive and pure lady but I just don’t want anything from you, just leave everything over to me.” I couldn’t handle his stubborness anymore so we broke up, I just don’t like that kind of behavior from certain men. You try to be nice and helpful but instead they don’t appreciate it and even call all women golddiggers. Talking about hypocrisy!

This is something I have noticed, women often feel embarrassed and awkward when someone is scared of them, whether it’s a person, child or an animal. Whereas men, they seem the complete opposite, they seem to be kinda proud when someone fears them and they even want to scare you and intimidate you more when they notice you fear them. I as a woman can never feel flattered or proud when someone fears me, it makes me feel so awkward from the inside, I feel like I’m a scary witch or something and I would never like it if someone would feel unsafe around me. I would be even offended if someone was scared of me, like am I that scary looking??Lol. Ofcourse this doesn’t apply to all men and women!

This is something I have noticed, women often feel embarrassed and awkward when someone is scared of them, whether it’s a person, child or an animal. Whereas men, they seem the complete opposite, they seem to be kinda proud when someone fears them and they even want to scare you and intimidate you more when they notice you fear them. I as a woman can never feel flattered or proud when someone fears me, it makes me feel so awkward from the inside, I feel like I’m a scary witch or something and I would never like it if someone would feel unsafe around me. I would be even offended if someone was scared of me, like am I that scary looking??Lol. Ofcourse this doesn’t apply to all men and women!

This is something I have noticed, women often feel embarrassed and awkward when someone is scared of them, whether it’s a person, child or an animal. Whereas men, they seem the complete opposite, they seem to be kinda proud when someone fears them and they even want to scare you and intimidate you more when they notice you fear them. I as a woman can never feel flattered or proud when someone fears me, it makes me feel so awkward from the inside, I feel like I’m a scary witch or something and I would never like it if someone would feel unsafe around me. I would be even offended if someone was scared of me, like am I that scary looking??Lol. Ofcourse this doesn’t apply to all men and women!

I dealt unfortunately with jerks like this, I was a target in college by a racist man who always bullied me and made racist comments about my background even though I was born and raised in his country and basically the same race, he made xenophobic comments about my country. Then there was another woman from another country who he also targeted, with her he was more physical, he kicked her one time in her back and made insults towards her and her country but with me he was very vile with words, lots of degrading slurs, comparing me to an animal and cursing my family and my country. One time he pushed me off the stairs. We were the only two foreign women in the class, he didn’t act towards other women of his background like this and the weird thing is, he wasn’t racist towards other men at all but considered them his bros. He had black, asian and arabic buddies but was totally fine with them, never made any racist remarks towards them but with me and the other woman all hell broke loose. We were always quiet and polite, never made any comments back towards him but somehow our existence triggered him to his core.

How I hated that dude that caused me lots of troubles and nightmares, I still to this day don’t know why else he hated me for? I have never done anything to him and neither did that other woman. He basically targeted us for our background because his xenophobia proved that. One time I was talking about my grandma to another woman in the class, saying how she lives close to me and I visit her every day and he overheard our conversation and said with an angered voice “Does your grandma live here too?? F off to your own country for christ sakes, damn!” I ignored him cause what else can you say to a maniac like that? He called us foreign wh\\\_ res even though we weren’t even promiscious at all. He was just full of pure hatred, you can sense evil in him. But I find it very hypocrite how he was fine with foreign men but not with foreign women who have done absolutely nothing to him. We were just considered easy targets cause we were afraid and submissive so basically perfect targets for psycho’s like him.

I dealt unfortunately with jerks like this, I was a target in college by a racist man who always bullied me and made racist comments about my background even though I was born and raised in his country and basically the same race, he made xenophobic comments about my country. Then there was another woman from another country who he also targeted, with her he was more physical, he kicked her one time in her back and made insults towards her and her country but with me he was very vile with words, lots of degrading slurs, comparing me to an animal and cursing my family and my country. One time he pushed me off the stairs. We were the only two foreign women in the class, he didn’t act towards other women of his background like this and the weird thing is, he wasn’t racist towards other men at all but considered them his bros. He had black, asian and arabic buddies but was totally fine with them, never made any racist remarks towards them but with me and the other woman all hell broke loose. We were always quiet and polite, never made any comments back towards him but somehow our existence triggered him to his core.

How I hated that dude that caused me lots of troubles and nightmares, I still to this day don’t know why else he hated me for? I have never done anything to him and neither did that other woman. He basically targeted us for our background because his xenophobia proved that. One time I was talking about my grandma to another woman in the class, saying how she lives close to me and I visit her every day and he overheard our conversation and said with an angered voice “Does your grandma live here too?? F off to your own country for christ sakes, damn!” I ignored him cause what else can you say to a maniac like that? He called us foreign wh\_ res even though we weren’t even promiscious at all. He was just full of pure hatred, you can sense evil in him. But I find it very hypocrite how he was fine with foreign men but not with foreign women who have done absolutely nothing to him. We were just considered easy targets cause we were afraid and submissive so basically perfect targets for psycho’s like him.

I dealt unfortunately with jerks like this, I was a target in college by a racist man who always bullied me and made racist comments about my background even though I was born and raised in his country and basically the same race, he made xenophobic comments about my country. Then there was another woman from another country who he also targeted, with her he was more physical, he kicked her one time in her back and made insults towards her and her country but with me he was very vile with words, lots of degrading slurs, comparing me to an animal and cursing my family and my country. One time he pushed me off the stairs. We were the only two foreign women in the class, he didn’t act towards other women of his background like this and the weird thing is, he wasn’t racist towards other men at all but considered them his bros. He had black, asian and arabic buddies but was totally fine with them, never made any racist remarks towards them but with me and the other woman all hell broke loose. We were always quiet and polite, never made any comments back towards him but somehow our existence triggered him to his core.

How I hated that dude that caused me lots of troubles and nightmares, I still to this day don’t know why else he hated me for? I have never done anything to him and neither did that other woman. He basically targeted us for our background because his xenophobia proved that. One time I was talking about my grandma to another woman in the class, saying how she lives close to me and I visit her every day and he overheard our conversation and said with a angered voice “Does your grandma live here too?? F off to your own country for christ sakes, damn!” I ignored him cause what else can you say to a maniac like that? He called us foreign wh_ res even though we weren’t even promiscious at all. He was just full of pure hatred, you can sense evil in him. But I find it very hypocrite how he was fine with foreign men but not with foreign women who have done absolutely nothing to him. We were just considered easy targets cause we were afraid and submissive so basically perfect targets for psycho’s like him.

I’m a 4B woman and I don’t plan to marry or have children but I always have to keep that to myself because somehow people always become annoying and ask me why I don’t want to marry and don’t have children yet since I’m 32 already. To be honest, the idea of having children never appealed to me, the thought of growing a living being inside of me and crawling like a parasite makes me feel uncomfortable and frightened, also the heavy blow up stomach and moodswings with naseau. Then the worst fear is of giving birth, pain, tearing, bleeding, screaming, crying etc. just pure torture that always scared the hell out of me, especially when I was younger and watched childbirth videos of women screaming in pain. I became so terrified and thought then why do I have to go through this?? Why do women have to go through this and not men?? It’s so unfair but also scary!

I felt obligated to have children cause I thought that was my purpose, to give my parents grandchildren which they both desired to have but now since they are both gone I don’t feel the need anymore to have children and feel kinda relieved. My fear of childbirth is gone since becoming 4B but before that I was constantly in fear when I was thinking about to start a family of my own one day. I don’t feel it’s neccesary anymore and there is nothing wrong with being childless or unmarried but people will always judge regardless, I don’t care about that. I still don’t understand when women post happy pictures of their pregnant bellies and proudly show of, I mean there is nothing wrong with that but I myself would never feel comfortable to show of my belly and also to have something grow and crawl inside of me yuck.

I admire all women for their strenght who go through that, I could never. They say it’s the most wonderful feeling in the world but to me it isn’t, I simply can’t imagine that. How can 9 months of agony and painful childbirth be wonderful?? Only the award after that is wonderful but everything else nope. The thought of screaming and crying babies that keep you up all night doesn’t sound pleasant either. Face it, being a mother is hard and dangerous and motherhood isn’t easy no matter how many women try to glamorize it, it simply is not glam or easy at all. I respect all mothers but at the same time want to be understood as well and respected for my decision that I want to be childless. All those women don’t understand me and say I will change my mind, they think if they love to be mothers that all women love that. That simply isn’t true! I was wondering if anyone else here can relate to this feeling?

Also the last thing that I wanted to add is, I’m a breech birth myself and my poor mother didn’t got a c-section which she begged for. Since my birth was risky she had the right to get a c-section but those stupid doctors insisted she could give birth naturally so my poor mother was in agony and pain for two days cause I was a lazy baby that didn’t want to come out. I feel guilty and sad to this day that I caused her so much pain and agony during birth but actually those stupid doctors should be blamed for that. A year after I was born c-sections were mandatory for breech babies. Mothers really are true heroes!

I’m now 7 months post op, I had my surgery in December 2025. I was in the hospital for one week because my surgery was a bit more complicated and painful than regular hip replacements due to my hip dysplasia. After I came back home from the hospital I still felt like I was at the hospital. My home didn’t feel like my home at all anymore weirdly enough, that feeling just wasn’t there, I still felt stuck like I was at the hospital. I laid for two months in bed, rarely went in my living room, only when I needed to eat. I got constantly help from others with groceries, showering, getting dressed, cleaning the house, making me breakfast and dinner and driving me to physiotherapy. I really appreciated all that from others who helped me, I really couldn’t done all that on my own but at the same time I felt so helpless because I’m a independent person and to constantly depend on others for the simple little things, I really felt like I was in a cage that I couldn’t wait to escape from!

I finally ditched my crutches at 3 months post op but first used only one crutch to get used to walking. Finally after 3 months post op I started feeling like I’m home again! My home didn’t feel like a hospital anymore! I didn’t had to use crutches anymore, I could shower and dress on my own, make my own food, drive the car alone to physiotherapy and walk finally on my own long distances without guidance! I felt so free and relieved! Like a bird that has escaped a cage! I don’t know if I’m the only one here who had that feeling but it felt so strange like still being stuck at the hospital while you are at home. Did your home also felt like a hospital months after the surgery? It didn’t only felt physiologically like that but visually as well, I don’t know how to explain it but my home just felt and looked different, like I wasn’t home at all. But now I’m happy to be finally back home! It feels great to be mentally back at old home again! My home doesn’t feel like a hospital anymore!

I come from a pretty conservative country but luckily don’t live there, however I do often watch the news and show programs from the country. Last time I was watching a reality show which is similair to Big Brother and there were lots of contestants, one of them was a married man who soon got an affair with a young woman who is the daughter of one of our most famous singers in the country. As soon when they started having an affair the tabloids quickly started writing about them and they became a gossip all over the news with lots of critics but guess what? He wasn’t blamed for the affair, but his mistress was and her famous mother. The mistress got blamed because how dare she go after a married man? And her mother got blamed for not raising her well and teaching her to not go after married men. Her mother got blamed and verbally attacked online, on TV and tabloids and lost lots of fans!

When his wife heard about the affair she quickly came in the reality show and got lots of support from others but also pity, most liked her but guess what? There were even haters who blamed her for the affair and said it was het fault that her husband cheated on her, saying if she was a better wife he wouldn’t have cheated on her and that she only came in the reality show to play the victim and is in fact a evil sneaky snake. That she forced her husband to cheat and put on the show so that she can be pitied and be the winner of the show! Like it was all a set up! She and the mistress both got blamed and heavily critisiced by fans but nobody said anything about the cheating husband who orchestrated all this, the man got away with it and when the reality show was over the wife won the show. Many cheered that she has won, others complained and called her a fake snake to be pitied, others were cheering that the mistress lost and verbally attacked her during interviews on live TV including her mother.

Once again the cheating scumbag got off free without judgement unlike the wife, the mistress and her mother. I listened to countless callers on the TV interview bashing the mistress and her mother, calling them a bad influence, that they should be ashamed of themselves and insulted them because it’s anonymous and easy to hide behind the call. Then others insulted the wife, said she didn’t deserve to win cause she faked all this and others even said it was her karma because she is a child herself out of wedlock cause her mother had an affair with a married man as well and now they even targeted her mother too but once again, nothing was said about her cheating husband cause he is a man! When I asked my mom why they all blamed them instead of him and that it’s highly unfair and sexist, she said it is because women are considered the seducers by society and they chose with whom they want to be together. I find that personally BS and still not a good excuse to only blame women for it.

This all shows that men get always away with everything and women get blamed, no matter what. After the show ended they both got divorced and the tabloids were filled again with critics, calling the mistress a homewrecker for destroying the marriage while others cheered the man and said he did a good job in getting rid of his domineering bossy wife who likes to play the victim. I can’t wrap my head around this how nobody in my country sees this as misogyny but justify this behavior instead, it’s disgusting! Blaming the women only! That’s why I’m glad that I don’t live there but I guess nowhere are women completely free from misogyny and the blame but at least it’s better where I live. But still, this is all misogyny in my opinion, or am I overreacting? What do you all think? It’s unfair right? By the way I’m not saying the mistress is innocent! I’m just saying it isn’t fair that only she got blamed, the husband was just as wrong as she was and actually even more cause he was the one who was married!

I come from a pretty conservative country but luckily don’t live there, however I do often watch the news and show programs from the country. Last time I was watching a reality show which is similair to Big Brother and there were lots of contestants, one of them was a married man who soon got an affair with a young woman who is the daughter of one of our most famous singers in the country. As soon when they started having an affair the tabloids quickly started writing about them and they became a gossip all over the news with lots of critics but guess what? He wasn’t blamed for the affair, but his mistress was and her famous mother. The mistress got blamed because how dare she go after a married man? And her mother got blamed for not raising her well and teaching her to not go after married men. Her mother got blamed and verbally attacked online, on TV and tabloids and lost lots of fans!

When his wife heard about the affair she quickly came in the reality show and got lots of support from others but also pity, most liked her but guess what? There were even haters who blamed her for the affair and said it was het fault that her husband cheated on her, saying if she was a better wife he wouldn’t have cheated on her and that she only came in the reality show to play the victim and is in fact a evil sneaky snake. That she forced her husband to cheat and put on the show so that she can be pitied and be the winner of the show! Like it was all a set up! She and the mistress both got blamed and heavily critisiced by fans but nobody said anything about the cheating husband who orchestrated all this, the man got away with it and when the reality show was over the wife won the show. Many cheered that she has won, others complained and called her a fake snake to be pitied, others were cheering that the mistress lost and verbally attacked her during interviews on live TV including her mother.

Once again the cheating scumbag got off free without judgement unlike the wife, the mistress and her mother. I listened to countless callers on the TV interview bashing the mistress and her mother, calling them a bad influence, that they should be ashamed of themselves and insulted them because it’s anonymous and easy to hide behind the call. Then others insulted the wife, said she didn’t deserve to win cause she faked all this and others even said it was her karma because she is a child herself out of wedlock cause her mother had an affair with a married man as well and now they even targeted her mother too but once again, nothing was said about her cheating husband cause he is a man! When I asked my mom why they all blamed them instead of him and that it’s highly unfair and sexist, she said it is because women are considered the seducers by society and they chose with whom they want to be together. I find that personally BS and still not a good excuse to only blame women for it.

This all shows that men get always away with everything and women get blamed, no matter what. After the show ended they both got divorced and the tabloids were filled again with critics, calling the mistress a homewrecker for destroying the marriage while others cheered the man and said he did a good job in getting rid of his domineering bossy wife who likes to play the victim. I can’t wrap my head around this how nobody in my country sees this as misogyny but justify this behavior instead, it’s disgusting! Blaming the women only! That’s why I’m glad that I don’t live there but I guess nowhere are women completely free from misogyny and the blame but at least it’s better where I live. But still, this is all misogyny in my opinion, or am I overreacting? What do you all think? It’s unfair right? By the way I’m not saying the mistress is innocent! I’m just saying it isn’t fair that only she got blamed, the husband was just as wrong as she was and actually even more cause he was the one who was married!

5 reasons why it’s better being sapphic than straight

1.You are seen as a human being instead of a sex object

Men see women as sex objects

2.You are valued and considered as a equal

Men consider women inferior

3.You are loved deeper cause a woman loves from her heart while a man loves from his dick

Men don’t love as deep like women on average

4.You are less likely to be hurt during sex

Men prioritize PIV which can be painful while penetration in sapphic sex isn’t neccesary so you are less vulnerable

5.You are less likely to be a victim of femicide

Men are 90% of the perpetrators worldwide

Sapphics includes both lesbians and bisexuals

WLW 🌈🌺🩷