r/WLW

All WLW what y’all sexuality ?

Me : i’m QUEER !

As I type this we are laying in bed watching glee her head is in my lap and I am playing with her hair.

My bff and I began really connecting on a deeper level about two years ago. We see each other almost daily and have sleepovers often as we live so close but we don't get sick of each other. We communicate clearly and effectively when issues arise and it is genuinely one of the healthiest relationships I have had with another person. My love language is physical touch and we are very affectionate with one another and often cuddle in bed.

She is bisexual and I am queer as well with a larger preference for women than her. She is a a casual hookup type of person and is often in some sort of situation with a man. She has no experience with women and my only experience is with my ex best friend of 6 years which ended terribly and really messed with my head.

We get the classic "never beating the allegations" jokes but we each have been asked if we are genuinely dating. It's a joke between us especially since about two months ago she told me she had a sex dream where I was performing on her which invoked one for myself. It's a funny thing between us but I feel like there have been moments where we are not entirely joking. We were speaking the other day about how we've kissed friends in the past and realised we hadn't and since realising it's come up quite a few times in conversation. We are very often in compromising positions with one another especially in the mornings while half asleep. We've even gone to a sex shop together to get vibrators and looked at the straps while we were there.

Yesterday I met up with her after she had a sleepover with a mutual friend we haven't seen in a while. While she was in the bathroom our mutual and I were talking and she let slip that by bff mentioned there was a moment in time where she was mulling over whether she had feelings for me. I'm now so conflicted because I've been thinking about it for a while, and she hasn't really been not seeing anyone for longer than a week or two so I'm not sure when it could have been.

Due to poor mental health I have become isolated from most people but her so I'm worried about losing her presence and support in my life. My main concern is keeping her in my life but I am struggling to suppress how I'm beginning to feel about her.

Any and all advice welcome 🙏

How did you know you’re an asexual lesbian? Asking because all my life I’ve been battling whether I’m asexual + aromantic or a lesbian. I’m aware I can be both but the asexual part is what keeps me confused. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter since I do not date or have sex but deep down I do want to know who/what I am even if my sexuality isn’t very prominent. I only love women but I no longer have interest in dating and I’m not sure I ever did. I have some interest in sex but nothing substantial to start having sex again. The thought of being viewed sexually or being touched that way makes me shudder. However, I do miss eating and fingering women..

I have no experience with women.
I’ve been masturbating for years while living at my parents place, which means I’m literally used to being SILENT. Not even the sound of faster breathing.

It’s so ingrained in me that even when I’m home alone and could be loud, it doesn’t even cross my mind.
I find that a bit lame, and I’m afraid I won’t be able to break that habit in future relationships.
I want to make noise to show I’m enjoying myself, not necessarily screaming, just moaning naturally, without having think about it you know ?

What do you guys think ?

basically i’m wlw and i’ve just recently became friends with this girl who has a bf, however idk if she is sending some signals or just being nice loll

she has:
- told me i smell good
- told me she loves my hair
- told me i have a nice body
- told me my hands are really soft
- told me how perfect my skin is

tell me i’m not being as crazy as i think i am lol

So I(20f) have liked this girl (20f) for some time and she confessed a couple of months back and we have a talking stage going on. But her ex(20m) (they broke up like 10 months ago) is her best friend and he doesn’t know about this, which is fine because it started just before vacation was starting and she’ll tell him when we go back to college. But she has mentioned she’s scared to tell him and that she prioritised him over her previous hookup and is scared she might fuck up w me. But she’s been amazing so far. What am I supposed to think? Or do? This is my first wlw for context

I love when women jump to fit into their jeans or like squat to stretch out skinny jeans. If this is some kind of kink sign me up 😭

TEXTS WILL BE POSTED IN COMMENTS BELOW🙏🏻

i have gathered enough courage to confess to my childhood best friend and did it today over text (because we are currently long distance and I got jealous when she spoke about a guy she liked and then stopped liking). well… I don’t know if she understood that i meant it in a romantic way???

I am neurodivergent and i already have great trouble understanding what people mean when they say something but this is a whole new level. yet is it platonic if she calls you her wife and sweetheart, compliments you, calls you for 9+ hours and tells you she loves you at least three times a day? or am I just an idiot?💔💔

Literally I have 0 luck with relationships. Istfg everyone at my age already dated/is dating someone and only I have like 0 experience. What is so wrong with me? The only thing I ever had was some bi-curious bitch who decided to play with my feelings. Ugh...

Ok so I am a rising hs junior and I have this friend who I have known since freshman year, and we play on the school soccer team together. We were like acquaintances freshman year, but we got like really close sophomore year. She’s amazing and is so funny and sweet, she shares my political views, and she’s just like my person. I kinda realized I had a crush on her like in Oct/november of last year, and I kinda go obsessed with her but I knew it wouldn’t work, and bc she had a bf in Oct, and then they had a messy breakup so I was like not trying to get into that. But anyways it’s summer now ofc and she’s like been wayyy more talkative with me and responding really fast, and like asking if I’m going to lifts for soccer and stuff. Well, a couple days ago we were talking and I mentioned I was born in a different country, and she like didn’t know and I joked like oh you know nothing about me, and we like went back and fourth and eventually I was like ok well I was born in that country, and she said “well now I know. I won’t forget.” LIKE WTFFF THATS SO FLIRTYY??! And thennnn she sent me a text this morning and said she had a DREAM with me in it, and that it was basically like us going to get pizza and she was driving and fell asleep at the wheel and I got mad at her, which is random but like a dream?? How is that platonic? And I was joking like oh you would never drive me anywhere tho bc she hates driving to my house and she sent like hehehe and then said “not true”. Like am I being truly psychopathic crazy or is she trying to flirt with me. She has also said stuff before like about hating men, one time she said like “I can’t see myself with a man long term”, and a couple weeks ago we had a convo about me being bi bc she knows I am, and we were talking about like coming out and I was saying like I don’t think I ever will, and she was like saying “is that what you want tho?” And she seemed veryyy interested in the topic like. If I’m crazy then so be it but like she has to be doing something right???

I just want to hear how other people met so maybe getting in relationship will feel more achievable cuz rn I have no hope.

Am I bisexual or pansexual?

What is my sexuality? I need help figuring it out. \\\[F 22\\\] I'm 80 percent attracted to women and 20 percent attracted to men I'm mostly attracted to women and feminity in men and women. but would date all genders. What is this called? Very rarely trans and non binary people

1.You are seen as a human being instead of a sex object

Men see women as sex objects

2.You are valued and considered as a equal

Men consider women inferior

3.You are loved deeper cause a woman loves from her heart while a man loves from his dick

Men don’t love as deep like women on average

4.You are less likely to be cheated on

Most cheaters and betrayers are men

5.You are less likely to be a victim of femicide

Men are 90% of the perpetrators worldwide

Ofcourse this doesn’t mean for all men and women but on a large scale it does. Male centered pick-me’s, feel free to attack me, I don’t care! I love being sapphic! 🌺

Sapphics includes both lesbians and bisexuals

WLW 🌈🌺🩷

Edit: it’s such a shame how many of you are defensive about men yet a majority of them doesn’t even respect lesbian relationships nor takes them seriously, they fetishize sapphics yet you all get here defensive and mad about my opinions on men, like seriously? How pathetic. Such a shame how internalized misogyny is even present in WLW communities! The patriarchy clearly has brainwashed all women it seems! Keep bowing down for your oppressors pick me’s, I certainly will not luckily.

Idk wich show to watch, im looking for good realationships overall and good story writing, and ofcourse makeout scenes 🤭.

Not quite sure how to start this off, if this is the wrong group for this please let me know. Essentially I’m looking for advice on fucking gay women.

I am bi and have hooked up with girls before but almost exclusively in group scenarios that include men. Recently I have started a thing with a woman and I’m feeling a little.. out of my depth? I like hooking up with women, but I’ve never made a woman cum (solo, without the help (for lack of a better word) of a dude) and that is.. daunting.
I like to be good at what I do. She knows the situation, but any tips or tricks to make me feel more confident would be much appreciated!
I know everyone is different and communication will be key.. but idk I felt like some research was needed.

So.. any tips for a bi girl who’s hooking up with a lesbian for the first time?

I wanna ask out my manicurist but I don’t know if she is interested or would be put off or if my appointments would be awkward if she turned me down.
Bad idea?

I love my girlfriend so much. Our one year anniversary is In two weeks, and I still just keep loving her more and more each day.

We met on hinge and we both come from two completely different backgrounds but we literally take our time to understand each other’s personalities and perspectives.

We’ve never argued and all our misunderstandings are always resolved within 30min.

I literally have nothing crazy or too long to say I was just laying in bed thinking about her and then I wanted to vent. What better place to vent than here when my friend hasn’t responded to my call yet ? lol

I would just really like to have a gay friend so I feel less alone and the thing about her is she says she's straight but idk.

She acts weirdly excited every time there's a lesbian couple on screen. I get excited too because you know representation. I don't mind her being like that because at least I have someone to share my excitement with. At the same time she sometimes says "ew" if het couple makes out on screen. Two days ago we had a sleepover and we watched a really bad movie. Both of us agreed that it was super predictable and boring and the ending made no sense. But she also said "the only good thing about this movie is that the girls kissed" (we both started screaming when the kiss happened lol)

She also tends to compliment the actresses when we watch movies and usually I agree or I start this myself if I find someone on screen pretty. But at the same time she doesn't do that for actors. If she did that for both I'd probably ignore that cuz you can find someone attractive without being attracted to them but then why only actresses? Especially that she often mentions she doesn't want to date guys even though she's straight.

I also have a bad habit of glancing at her boobs. Like idk why I even do that and I try not to but sometimes even when I look into her eyes then my eyes go down on their own for a second before looking back at her eyes and she noticed that. I was embarrassed and I kept apologizing because I thought it made her uncomfortable but she told me it's fine and that I can look because I'm a girl and that would be a different story if I was a guy but she likes when girls look. And idk wouldn't she want to be checked out by guys? Why is it different when a guy does it and a girl does and she likes one but not the other?

Me and my other friend also sometimes joked about touching her boobs and once she actually said if I actually asked she would likely let me because I'm a girl. That was kinda weird but okay.

I also found a bi sticker in her sketchbook so I asked about it but she said she's straight she just liked the colors. Same when me and my other friend joke about anything gay related to her then she would immediately go "I'm straight" every time which is kind of weird because it's just a joke, it's not serious.

I'm probably delusional but idk if she's straight or closeted. I'm not attracted to her or anything but it would be nice to not be the only gay person in the group.

To start, I think I need advice, support, and kindness. I came to reddit because I feel too embarrassed to go to friends or family, especially since my heads so unclear and I don’t know how to go about this.

My fiancé (we can call her Z) and I have been together for almost 5 years, engaged for almost 2 years. We were long distance for about 2.5 of those years. She was my first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything. She is a ray of sunshine and its impossible for others to not like her. She is everything that most people strive to be. She is kind, uplifts others, is hard working and has such a pure heart. Ive always been fat my entire life and have dealt with self-esteem issues for as long as I can remember. I had a really rough upbringing and some genetic health issues that went untreated for most of my life, so it contributed to my weight issues including having a really hard time being able to lose weight. I was going through a severe DV situation where my dad was abusing my mom, sister, and I before and after Z and I had started dating. At the beginning of our relationship, I was probably a size 18. Even then, I genuinely had a really hard time believing that I was worthy of love or that someone could even find me attractive. She has always said that she loves the way i look and everything about me. Im currently in a size 24 so Ive gained quite a bit of weight since we first met. Z moved from across the U.S. (east coast to west coast) to be with me and we have lived together for about 2 years now. The first year of living together was great. Our connection was amazing, we went on lots of dates, had sex pretty often, she never went a day without complimenting me or telling me how beautiful she thought I was. We are both really secure in our relationship and Ive never had to doubt if she was cheating. About a year ago, things changed drastically though. We stopped going on dates, we only have sex like 1x/month, she hardly compliments me anymore and when she does it’s not the same as she used to. Her compliments were so full of passion and admiration and made me feel so loved. I asked her last night to be completely honest with me about what was going on. I explained how I was feeling and why I thought something felt off and asked if it was something she was going through or if there was something in our relationship that was bothering her. She spent a few minutes silently thinking. I asked her again to just be honest, even if it hurts my feelings. She told me that she thinks i should work out. I asked her to clarify what she means and she said she thinks I should lose weight. It was clearly hard for her to be honest with me and she seemed torn apart and guilty. I asked her some follow up questions to understand when and where this came from and she had said about a year ago she just felt like my stomach had gotten too big and that it is unattractive to her. She said she missed how my body looked when we first met. It wasnt the biggest shocker that she said that since I spent my entire life insecure and anxious about the day something like this would happen. It did catch me off guard because she spent our entire relationship telling me that she thought I was very attractive and that she genuinely thought my body was beautiful and that she wouldnt change a thing. Both men and women alike have types and things they find attractive/unattractive and in our community I know there are some lesbians that dont find fat women attractive (which is totally okay). She knew that I was fat when we got together and we had many talks about if our bodies changed, bigger or smaller, would we still think the other is attractive. I know that its somewhat normal to fall in and out of love with your partner and to not be attracted to your partner at ALL points in life. We are only human. But it really cut me deep. She was the only person in my life that ever made me feel beautiful and worthy of love. Ive gotten to a point in life where I know my worth and beauty doesn’t come from other peoples opinions but its nice to know that someone thinks you are worthy and beautiful. My heart feels so broken and I dont know where to go from here. I told her last night that I think for now we need to take a break from our relationship, that we don’t have to tell anybody and we wont go out and date other people, but just to process and give each other time. For the first time in our entire relationship, we had an argument, i slept on the couch, and we woke up and didnt say good morning or do anything from our usual morning routine.

I just need advice. We have been together for 5 years. We live together, have pets together, she is a huge part of my family’s lives, and of course im in love with her. Im unsure if this is even something I should be making a big deal about. She clearly feels guilty for saying it (even though she has comfirmed that she thinks its true even if she feels bad). I dont know how I feel, I just need advice and opinions on how big of an issue this actually is and what you guys would do in this situation. Theres a side of me that wants to stay and work this out so if saving our relationship means losing weight however possible even if its really hard to do, i would do it. But theres another side of me that hurts and doesn’t want to stay if she cant look past vanity and accept me for me. At the end of the day, human bodies change and grow in all sorts of ways and it was inevitable that change would happen. I guess im unsure how to feel or go about this since what she said hurt but she said it with guilt and sadness. If she had said it in a rude/harsh way it would be a no-brainer that I would not be staying in this relationship.