r/WLW

Okay I've made a post about her already not because im obsessed it's more to do with how fucking scared i am for my first crush in like 2 years. So heres a bit of a story. Im 15 homeschooled for two years, most of year 9 and all of year 10, i got to a school that takes year 10 to year 13. a few weeks in i realise this girl in my tutor is pretty and she also hangs around with this boy who i used to hang out with for my first few days there. Recently its been getting intense because like i said, first crush in 2 years, ive also been isolated so this is why it is intense as this. Okay so a few days ago some boys who hsve been harassing me came into the sen area (i eat my lunch and sometimes do lessons in there) and said something that upset me so i like stood up from my chair and was really angry and crying and stuff and near the end of lunch my friend from english and my crush came over to check if i was okay and we started talking and turns out they like the same things as me. now today. i was with a teacher because she is assigned to a few kids to help them with like yk problems. she suggested taking a walk and i was like sure and we went outside and headed towards these benches and i was like fuck my crush is there when she wasnt in for most of the day so i kinda panic internally but its fine so i still continue, walk past her and wave and then we go back in. another thing is that ive been making it super obvious that i like her. whenever she looks at me i look away fast and we had this parent assembly thing and she came in late and was at the door and i think she was looking at me to check if maybe i was looking at her but at the same time there was alot of kids and parents in there but i think its obvious at this point. and also i dont eat when im anxious and when she came in to that send area with her friends i didnt eat. i dont mean to. i just get anxious. not just about her but about myself. its almost like i fear her which i dont shes cool and that but still i really need help fighting these intense ass feelings.

Hello there,

So me and my girlfriend met earlier this year. We started as casual, but started dating soon after and then became officially girlfriends after two months.

We have amazing chemistry, we are very different people but strangely very similar in some ways. Our troubles started one month into actually dating. We were both falling pretty hard for each other, but she needed confirmation and I was unable to make her believe me.

Before I met her I was going through a pretty hard time with my mental health. Unfortunately, I had developed a coping mechanism that involved thinking about my most recent ex (let’s call her A). My ex (A) was a very important friend of mine before we dated, so I really struggled with not having her in my life anymore.

When I spoke about my ex(A) to my girlfriend, she could tell I still had strong emotions about it even though I always would say I was over it. Which, romantically, I was, and have been since before I broke up with her. But obviously I was still struggling and still processing her loss. I believe this aggregated my girlfriend’s need for affirmation that I was on the same emotional level as she was.

We spent a month arguing about our emotions for each other. She would ask me how I felt about her, I told her I felt the same way she did. She couldn’t believe me. She would ask me questions, I would reply and try to understand the nuances. I ended up sounding inconsistent and like I was changing my answers. This eventually caused me to breakdown and break up with her.

We got back together after a month. But in that month I fell into a very intense depression. I went back into my old habits of thinking and, honestly, obsessing about A. I txted A, we had a decent conversation, but it ultimately ended with A saying she couldn’t be my friend and that she felt a bit used by me. That strangely felt like closure. I made the decision to get back with my girlfriend before this conversation with A btw.

When we got back together, my girlfriend asked when was the last time I had spoken to A. That’s where I messed up, I lied. I said I hadn’t spoken to her since the beginning of the year. Later I confessed I txted A during our break. This broke my girlfriend. She felt betrayed. It didn’t help that I had admitted to have recently written a poem about my teenage experiences that involved A.

This sparked a 3 day argument. She started questioning if I ever loved her. I felt broken, and as we talked and she asked question after question about how I felt about her. At one point I said that all of this has made me question my definition of love and I wasn’t sure about anything anymore. She told me she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. I mistakenly told her I didn’t know if I loved her.

The thing is, I do love her. I still believe I always felt the same way towards her as she did for me. I just had a hard time expressing it. But now, she truly believes I don’t love her. She believes I only “like” her. But every time I talk to her I want to tell her I love her! I feel like I can’t, because she won’t believe me and will just say I’m going back on my words. But I can see how this is effecting us, and most importantly her.

I don’t know what to do. How to make her feel loved and supported by me. I fear that because of the way she views me (as not being over my ex, and the things I said during our argument) she won’t believe that I do and have loved her.

Would love to hear people’s insights.

So I met this girl at a club about two weeks ago. We had a bit of a misunderstanding, and she thought I had a 40-minute walk home, so she invited me back to hers.
We talked for a bit and then watched a movie. She was resting her head on my shoulder, and we were holding hands. Earlier that night, I’d given her a few cigarettes, and she asked if she could take me on a date. I couldn’t really tell if she was being serious or joking, though.
The next morning, I left while she was still asleep because she had plans later, and I felt a bit awkward staying. She didn’t seem to mind me staying, though.
It’s been about two weeks, and I still can’t figure out how I feel about her. I barely think about her, but sometimes I find myself thinking back to that night. I do want to see her again, and I’d potentially be up for a date, but I don’t know if that’s because I actually like her or if I’m just curious about the whole situation.
We study at the same place, but I rarely see her around, so I don’t really get the chance to talk to her and get to know her better.
I can’t tell if I have a little crush on her, just want to be friends, miss the intimacy, or am only interested because I don’t know if she actually liked me.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you figure out how you actually felt?

i’m 19 and honestly curious, ofc i want more friends/ a gf but whereeee?

I wouldn't usually post something like this. My girlfriend of 5 months (I know it's not a lot) just broke up with me. She said she loves me and wanted to make this work but she just can't be in a relationship right now (she's really busy trying to get into college for art) and I'm just- I feel so gutted. I can't believe this is actually happening. I have never felt as safe with anyone as I do with her, we were friends for 3 years before we started dating and our bond was just so strong. We wanted the same things in our future but have been having trouble communicating recently. And then one night I told her I've been struggling with her lack of expressing affection and she ended up just telling me she doesn't think she can support me well. I have so many things I had planned for us and I can't believe I might never get to see her again. We were truly in love with each other and I am just so heartbroken.