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I love when women jump to fit into their jeans or like squat to stretch out skinny jeans. If this is some kind of kink sign me up 😭

I think being raised by unaffectionate parents makes it extremely hard to regulate your emotions as you grow up, and makes it extremely hard to maintain emotional relationships.

I was on a post where a girl talked about feeling like she’s going to have a panic attack when her mom tries to hug her, because she never hugged her as a child. Now she struggles to show affection with her boyfriend whose love language is physical touch. And so many comments related to having a fear of affectionate, or the opposite cravings it because you were deprived of affection growing up.

I was brought up the same way. My parents never hugged me, and I’ve never seen them hug each other either. We also never said “I love you”. Well I remember saying it for the first time at 12 (I heard my friends mom say it to her) but my mom just looked uncomfortable and didn’t say it back so I never thought to say it again. Then as my parents got older they started trying to hug me and my body rejects it so decline. It’s like my nervous system gets triggered. And it’s crazy cause I used to wish they would hug me as a kid.

I don’t think my parents are bad people. I just think having 4 daughters and not thinking ‘hey. Maybe we should try to show them affection even if it’s uncomfortable because kids needs safe places for this kind of thing’ is kinda crazy..

We had an argument about this straight couple we know who are swingers, we believe they’ve been outed and black balled leading to issues at their jobs.

She was ranting about how they deserve to be treated that way (one of them works in a school) and how she would raise hell if she found out her kids teacher was a swinger..then somehow related that to p3dophilia ??

I was like that’s crazy, didn’t you vote for trump? Who’s had multiple instances of p3dophilic predators behavior ?? But you draw the line at consenting adults being swingers with other consenting adults??

Then she replied that me being gay is basically the same thing as being a p3do because it’s all demonic and deviant in her eyes.

Gotta love right winged-conservative-Christian values ! 🙄

I’d heard about it but never watched it and went in blind…Genuinely the hottest movie I’ve ever seen. Like violet and corky are just so hot wtf.

I love that it was actually gay and not just a random lesbian scene in a movie for no reason, for some reason that’s how I assumed it be.. yall know we hardly get good rep and it was the 90s.. but I was shocked to see they ended up together and actually cared for each other 😭💕

Also on TikTok it seems like most people made edits of Corky (Gina Gershon) and I can’t blame them, she was a smoke show for sure, but I couldn’t take my eyes off of Violet (Jennifer Tilly) her voice, her body, her eyes..just everything about her and the way she topped corky 😩 goodness.

I love a butch/femme so bad 😭 new favorite movie

Does anyone else obsessively gatekeep? Im talking movies, shows, music, YouTubers, makeup products, coffee orders etc..

Genuinely don’t know why I do it, I just want my things to be MY things.

And like, I’ll put people on to things that can help them like skin care, vitamins, and overall health/wellness things. But anything that’s like creative or a hobby I want to keep all to myself.

It’s so bad I remember my favorite artist was performing on tv while my whole family was in the living room and I felt exposed lol, I wanted to change the channel because I didn’t want them to discover my favorite artist.

I feel like a freak for even caring abut stuff like this. It’s not like I crash out about it or anything, but I do feel like weird, like if I share these parts of me (My interests) that I’m somehow losing my individuality.

Edit: I agree with you guys who think this is a weird trait to have, I feel like I was clear that this isn’t something I’m proud of. What I don’t agree with is that it’s necessary pathetic or selfish. I think it’s more of an irrational thing since nobody asks me for music/ movie recommendations anyway lol, it’s more an internal thought process. There is no need to insult me, I’m simply asking a question. Thank you for all who answered.

Double edit: the more I think about it, it’s probably more to do with me being a middle child in a big family than me being an Aquarius ♒️

I had a best friend between the age 15-19, it was definitely a homoerotic friendship. We acted like girlfriends. We spent every minute we could with each other, after Highschool we worked at the same job and moved in together, but she was on and off with her boyfriend. My feelings were so strong and I felt so heartbroken every time they got back together—i had no right to feel that way, considering i never told her how i felt. We ended on bad terms and it was all my fault. I was drunk at a party and found out they were back together, the next day i just left, with no explanation. I packed my stuff and moved back to my parents house…on Christmas Eve. I know I sound horrible for that, I can’t imagine how confused she felt. I literally cry thinking about how mean that was. I was 19 and hadn’t been diagnosed yet with BPD. Looking back now my actions were cruel and impulsive, everything felt like my world was ending. She was the best friend I ever had, I just wish my feelings didn’t turn romantic, maybe I wouldn’t have acted that way and we’d still be friends. I spent an entire year after feeling like i was going through a break up.

It’s been five years since we spoke and I still think about her everyday. I literally just dreamt of her for like a week straight (Can’t be healthy). But i have since been to therapy, started working with kids and gone back to school. Im a lot more mature and grounded than I was back then. I know neither of us are the people we were at 19, but I want to speak to her again. I want to know how her family is, i want to know if she finished school, I want to know if she covered up our matching tattoo (I haven’t).

Do I reach out? Part of me feels like I’m being selfish for bringing this all back up to her, but part of me needs to know if there a chance that we can be in each others lives again, or at least that we can just end on a better note this time, even if that breaks my heart all over again. I feel like I owe her an apology and explanation. I genuinely don’t think I’ll be able to move on until I do.