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This is only one page out of a 2½-page letter my girlfriend wrote me. It’s an old letter, but it’s always bothered me because it perfectly encapsulates a communication pattern that still happens today.
Back when she gave me this letter, I wasn’t very good at speaking up for myself, so I never said anything. Now I do tell her when something hurts me, but she still says things like this.

Here’s the page (transcribed):

“As you know, my past relationships have only taught me things about myself. Getting dumped for men three times in a row does hurt you exponentially. I came into senior year dreading not only college but feeling alone romantically. Not sure if I’ve ever told you this, but before you and i started dating, i was talking with a girl and she led me on for a little while and was borderline flirting with me. I believed that she was the one and, as it usually goes, she was in a relationship with another girl already. I’ll never forget the feelings I felt that day. The truth: anger, sadness, and biggest of all, jealousy. I was jealous of their love and the fact that it seemed like they’d found a person except for me. I’ve always held a sense of being unloved, but this was more of a breaking point for me than anything. That’s when you entered my life. I’d always wanted to be friends with you because of our similar interests and our shared love for MCR, but I’m shy and, of course, intimidated. Fast forward a couple of years and I saw you again. I thought you became even cooler. It wasn’t your looks that drew me in (even though that’s a huge factor), but your kindness…” then onward blah blah blah to next page that was somewhat better

My issue isn’t that she had feelings for someone before me. I know everyone has a past.
What bothers me is how much emphasis is placed on another girl, how devastated she was over her, how that was her “breaking point,” and then immediately transitioning into “That’s when you entered my life.” It makes me feel like I was the person who happened to come along after she got hurt rather than someone she specifically wanted. It feels less like “I fell for you because of who you are” and more like “I was heartbroken, and then you showed up.”

I believe ignorance is bliss and would rather not know any details. yet even 1 year and a half later she still talks this way.

The reason this old letter still bothers me is because this kind of wording hasn’t really stopped. I’ve brought it up over the course of our relationship and I’m much better now at speaking up for myself than I was back then, and shutting the convo down whenever she does this. but she still says things that make me feel like I’m hearing more about how hurt she was by other people than about why she chose me. This was back when she was graduating and starting college soon. Now, I, one year younger have graduated and am starting soon. sigh i’m just over it

funny because last year i was scared bc my gf was starting college and made a post about it on here. now im starting college. everyone makes a big deal on why it’s bad to stay with a “hometown” relationship, but since she was already in college i feel like i have it a little better off. even at orientation when i would bring up my high school gf (just like once or twice) people would make a face. is it as bad as people say? also we’re going to college 20 minutes away (before anyone comes at me and assumes i picked the school bc it was close to my gf no it’s bc it is rank top 10 public schools).

if i already have 55 creds from ap classes is it possible to transfer after a year?

is the version history of the Google Docs enough to get you by? I had cue cards presentation outlines peer reviews and annotations of the bibliographies in my folder but a tradition is that we burn all that on our last day of senior year so I don’t have anything but on Google classroom I do have assignments titled these activities and my doc history is that enough?

Hi, I’m looking for advice because I just got an email from College Board saying my AP Seminar score is on hold because they found evidence suggesting parts of my IWA may have been generated with unacceptable AI use.
The email says I have 3 options:
Accept a 0 on the performance task component in question
Cancel my AP Seminar score entirely
Request further review and submit evidence that the work is my original work
I’m trying to figure out what the smartest option is.
Here’s the situation:
I do have the Google Doc for my paper, but the problem is that my class didn’t write the IWA all in one doc from start to finish.
A lot of the time, we wrote paragraphs separately while finding evidence, and then later copied/pasted them together into the final doc.
So the final Google Doc version history probably won’t show the entire writing process super clearly.
However, I do have proof in Google Classroom that I was working on it. I think I can find drafts/checkpoints/submissions there.
We also did peer reviews in class, but on senior day we literally threw our papers into a fire, so I don’t have those physical peer review copies anymore.
I genuinely don’t know whether my evidence is strong enough for College Board to accept.
My main question is: if I accept a 0 on just the IWA/performance task component they’re questioning, is it still realistically possible to get a 3 on the AP Seminar exam overall? Or is that basically tanking my score?
Also, if anyone has gone through the AP Seminar AI review / score hold process, what kind of evidence did you submit and did it work?

I’m not worried about the actual score, but I took AP Seminar this year and it’s the only AP exam not showing up on my UCI portal/academic history page. Every other AP exam I’ve taken over the last 4 years is listed there, but Seminar isn’t. Since it was one of the exams I reported on my application, I’m confused why it’s missing. Has anyone else had an AP score from this year not show up yet, especially AP Seminar, or is this something I should contact admissions about?

I’m not worried about the actual score, but I took AP Seminar this year and it’s the only AP exam not showing up on my portal/academic history page. Every other AP exam I’ve taken over the last 4 years is listed there, but Seminar isn’t. Since it was one of the exams I reported on my application, I’m confused why it’s missing. I tried to see if I could send my scores individually through college board, but I can’t seem to find any way to do that. Has anyone else had an AP score from this year not show up yet, especially AP Seminar, or is this something I should contact admissions about?

also if you or someone you know got off the waitlist, did your school already have a lot of people committed to ucla?