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i love my girlfriend more than anything, and i have no doubt that she loves me too. which is what makes the fact that our relationship makes me so sad, even more devastating.

every time we try to communicate about this stuff, it creates an argument or some kind of guilt-loop (we both struggle with major anxiety and very high personal guilt). but, recently, it’s been triggering the conversation of “i can’t be your girlfriend then. i want you more than anything, but i feel like i am losing myself and i can’t give enough to you” (from her side. not mine) when i tell her to leave because i don’t want this to hurt her, she tells me she would never because she loves me.

so i guess im honestly a little scared to bring this up to her, because that conversation honestly kills me every time, and i also don’t want to upset her anymore.

my main issues that i’ve been dealing with over the last 9mo are mostly:

•she tends to give a lot of attention to her friends over me. (don’t get me wrong. i am NOT trying to control her. i absolutely want her to spend time with her friends). it just sometimes feels like they get her undivided attention at times, and i never do. or like they are a priority over me (which, in some scenarios, is FINE. good, even. but i don’t feel like i am ever the priority)

•we rarely see each other as is, we don’t call during the day, only in the mornings and nights, and when we do, she falls asleep. it starts to honestly get a little devastating after some time.

•i feel like i am always taking care of her, but i have to ask her to take care of me when i need it. she always says yes and then moves on 5 minutes later

•during any sort of sex, she gets priority and i always end up feeling discarded and like an afterthought afterwards. i brought this up to her, and she landed on not having sex anymore.

i honestly just want to know how i can handle this. she has a lot going on, and i feel like anything i bring up will destroy her. i love and respect her so much, and i just want to talk to her about these things so we can fix it and move on. but we’ve gotten to the point where my own cup is so empty, and i want so badly to give more to her, but i don’t think i physically can. advice??

also i am absolutely taking critiques— if there’s even a possibility that this is something im doing and that i need to work out, i would love to know. i just want my relationship to be okay

i love my girlfriend more than anything, and i have no doubt that she loves me too. which is what makes the fact that our relationship makes me so sad, even more devastating.

every time we try to communicate about this stuff, it creates an argument or some kind of guilt-loop (we both struggle with major anxiety and very high personal guilt). but, recently, it’s been triggering the conversation of “i can’t be your girlfriend then. i want you more than anything, but i feel like i am losing myself and i can’t give enough to you” (from her side. not mine) when i tell her to leave because i don’t want this to hurt her, she tells me she would never because she loves me.

so i guess im honestly a little scared to bring this up to her, because that conversation honestly kills me every time, and i also don’t want to upset her anymore.

my main issues that i’ve been dealing with over the last 9mo are mostly:

•she tends to give a lot of attention to her friends over me. (don’t get me wrong. i am NOT trying to control her. i absolutely want her to spend time with her friends). it just sometimes feels like they get her undivided attention at times, and i never do. or like they are a priority over me (which, in some scenarios, is FINE. good, even. but i don’t feel like i am ever the priority)

•we rarely see each other as is, we don’t call during the day, only in the mornings and nights, and when we do, she falls asleep. it starts to honestly get a little devastating after some time.

•i feel like i am always taking care of her, but i have to ask her to take care of me when i need it. she always says yes and then moves on 5 minutes later

•during any sort of sex, she gets priority and i always end up feeling discarded and like an afterthought afterwards. i brought this up to her, and she landed on not having sex anymore.

i honestly just want to know how i can handle this. she has a lot going on, and i feel like anything i bring up will destroy her. i love and respect her so much, and i just want to talk to her about these things so we can fix it and move on. but we’ve gotten to the point where my own cup is so empty, and i want so badly to give more to her, but i don’t think i physically can. advice??

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thanks guys :)

hi everyone. i’ve never made a reddit post before, but i genuinely do not know what to do at this point.

i’m from nj and ill be 18 soon, and i do not have my license. my parents refuse to help me drive, and i don’t have any friends or family who meet the requirements to (legally) supervise me while i practice. my permit is about to expire, and i can’t get a job because i have no way to get there, so i wont be able to pay to renew my permit and pay for driving school.

im totally not trying to sound like snobby or anything. my main issue isn’t really driving. i just really want to have a good senior year, but i have no money and no way to get around, and im just feeling trapped.

not sure if i need advice or just needed to vent, but thanks if you read all that :)

hi everyone. i’ve never made a reddit post before, but i genuinely do not know what to do at this point.

i’m from nj and ill be 18 soon, and i do not have my license. my parents refuse to help me drive, and i don’t have any friends or family who meet the requirements to (legally) supervise me while i practice. my permit is about to expire, and i can’t get a job because i have no way to get there, so i wont be able to pay to renew my permit and pay for driving school.

im totally not trying to sound like snobby or anything. my main issue isn’t really driving. i just really want to have a good senior year, but i have no money and no way to get around, and im just feeling trapped.

not sure if i need advice or just needed to vent, but thanks if you read all that :)