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Women are so judged compared to men. If you don't do it perfectly you are immediately "dumb" or "incapable". Even if you always do it great, the ONE single time you fail you instantly lose all credibility.
While men can try, fail, try again, etc... and even if they fail most of the time, the second they succeed they are seen as experts and are applauded. They are not ashamed nor scared to try and to live because they are not judged by society.

This applies at work, at school, in sports, with your hobbies, etc..

We are humans, we are not robots. Do not let them think that you are not allowed to try or be bad at something. Live freely, stop thinking you need to be PERFECT.

I am currently N4 and about to start studying for N3. I don't remember where but I saw a few people talking about that even tho reaching N3 is hard it's significantly harder than what you would expect, like if reaching N4 was a little step and reaching N3 was a whole kilometer.
Just asking to know what to expect, I didn't think it would be exhausting, I thought it would be more fun since you can finally start consuming entertaining media.

I know people have asked here many times about intermediate or N3 book recommendations but I specifically need one for self studying.

I just saw some comments talking about how the Tobira exercises are not the best for self studying so I would rather not buy a book that will end up frustrating me.
I have heard about Shinkansen master but I don't know how good it is for studying alone.

For reference I finished MNN I and II but I don't know if the intermediate book that follows is good or if there are better options

every advice is appreciated, thank you 😄

So I find like 3 different ones on YouTube, I learned one but I keep trying to see what Hide is playing during the live recordings and I think I learned the wrong one.
So if anyone who has checked the live recordings could please tell me or send me the real tab I would really appreciate it 😄

So I don't know how to explain my japanese level other than saying I am around what would be jlpt N4. Soon I'll finish my textbook, including vocabulary and almost all of the kanjis that are considered N4.

After that instead of jumping into an N3 textbook I want to really practice what I know so I'll take some time dedicated to that.

So I was thinking about the normal things like reading, watching YouTube, podcasts, practice talking and writing, etc...
But I came to ask if there are more ways, maybe more efficient, any ideas? or how do you really practice

Also if there's is some book/shows recommendation for my level

any advice is appreciated, thank you 😄

I'm about to be 20, and all I can think about is that "that's it" it's too late now, all people who had dreams, singers, dancers, athletes, etc.. started younger than 20, in their teens. I never had a dream, still don't, I just know everything that my life will be from now on I'll hate it.
I don't know how to explain what I am about to describe but I hope at least one person gets it.
I never thought I was meant to achieve big things but I was always a creative person, when I see artists, singers, athletes, etc... I feel jealous. Jealous that they had a dream, something to work for, I am not jealous of their fame or fortune, I do not a care a bit about that. I am jealous of their passion and their freedom. I was never meant for big things but even if I didn't achieve anything I always thought I would find a passion, a dream, something to love and work for but it never came.
Now I'm almost 20, the expiration date for dreams. In 6 months I'll enter university in a career I hate to go for a future I'll hate even more.

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I know people will come and say that you can have dreams all of your life, that "..." artist started at "..." age, but deep down every person that says that knows that it's not the same so it doesn't make me feel better. The only thing that could make me even more miserable is finding what I love in 10 or 15 years because at that point there's nothing to dream and work for.
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I don't know how my life will continue from now on but I just know it won't be bright and won't go very far.

sorry for just venting here, I have no one to talk to and this just hurts so bad

So by saying "I'm reaching N4" I mean I am halfway through MNN 2, I study by myself so that might be the reason I have a lot of trouble with understanding people when they talk since I have no one to practice with
But I watch a lot of YouTube videos, these N5-N4 blogs and podcasts but still have a lot of trouble understanding, either I understand the whole sentence or even pausing and reading I can't figure out what they're saying.
I am thinking maybe I should practice more writing and talking everything I have learned and then it will make sense when I hear it from someone else?
But when the book gives me a complex sentence I understand it, the moment I myself try to make one I forget everything
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So that's the situation, any advice is helpful, thank you 😄

I used to be one of those so called "gifted" kids in school, always the best grades with not that much effort, and one of those well behaved ones.
I finished high school almost a year ago, I decided to take 6 months off to decide what I wanted to study, didn't find, had to take the full gap year. My parents were so disappointed, I was wasting time instead of starting what would be my future, they wanted me in medicine, I hate it, I chose a different career that I don't like either but they were satisfied. I forgot to pay the inscription so I can't enter anymore, they're both so disappointed, they say I had a bright future and I am throwing it away, they're right.
I said I would get inscribed in other universities so I would enter, not the one they had chosen but at least I won't waste more time, I enrolled in 2, I missed the inscription for the third one today because I didn't care,
I want to take another 6 months and just get a job during that time, then enroll in the one I couldn't enter because I missed the payment but I don't know how to tell them.
I haven't studied anything for the entrance exam of the 2 universities I got inscribed in, the exams are soon. I still don't even know what I want to study, at this point I just want to disappear, I don't have any interest in future. I became the useless kid that doesn't know what to do with their life, has fallen behind all their generation, the kid that will graduate late with a degree they don't like and will not achieve anything after that, why, because I know myself and know I'm just not one to be successful.

I don't know, my life is so meaningless, no goals, no passion, no dream career, nothing, what is the point of going any further, by that I don't mean I'll leave life, I'm just saying that I am tired of myself, tired of being a disappointment, tired of walking blindly into the future knowing I will hate it. I've tried everything to find a path but maybe I'm just not meant for this idk

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.(quick edit, so I didn't think someone would comment honestly, I am very grateful, I will be answering, thank you for being nice, I really really appreciate it)

So basically I have been scared to death of any paranormal thing, legend, ghosts and everything, it may be because I have a wild imagination that make me picture the most horrific ghosts and situations at every moment or the two times something kind of paranormal or strange happened to me and it influenced it. This is pretty embarrassing because I think there's a name for the phobia but it happens to children and I am here at my grown age being scared too lol.

And what happens is that it really affects me in my day to day and many aspects of my life, I have severe anxiety every night and sometimes I can't sleep at all.

So I was curious if there is a way like a necklace, a bracelet, a way or method, I don't know, some kind of thing that "protects" you? I think it would make me feel a bit less anxiety and let me live a bit better. any advice is appreciated thank you 😄

I'll just explain my situation because I need some opinions/advice

So I took more than a full gap year because I didn't know what to study, right now I'm 19 and my dream is to get a certain scholarship, if I get it I'll most likely start university at 22 and if I am lucky graduate at 26. All of my friends started at 18 and will graduate at 22-23. I feel behind, like my life will start at 26 when everyone will already have a career.
My goal is to travel but I keep thinking maybe I'm starting late.

My biggest fear and problem right now is that I still don't know what I want to study, if I start this late I won't have the opportunity to change if I realize I don't like what I picked.

I am lost, am I really behind everyone else? is it too risky? I don't know I just want some opinions on my situation so I can see if I'm becoming crazy and throwing my life away or if it's really not that deep

thank you

I'm just curious honestly, it's also what I aspire to earn in the future. So don't take this too seriously, I'm just curious about what career do you have and how much years of experience 😄

(sorry if there's bad english)

I am 19 and completely lost, I will explain the situation and try to resume it as short as possible.

So I do not have a passion, never had, I have hobbies I love and have done all my life like drawing but it's not a passion, I don't do it everyday and I don't see myself living off that. I love a lot of things, I find happiness in a lot of things but never for too long, I couldn't do the same thing everyday for my whole life.

Now the situation I am in... I took a gap year and I am most likely about to take another 6 months, my parents are disappointed, I always had the best grades, they say I could have had a bright future but I am wasting my time, and they're right. But I don't know what to do, my brain tells me to study medicine (which I hate) for the salary so I can live without worrying about the money, my hearth tells me to study something I like so I can be happy but I searched and searched and didn't find a career that I see myself doing, I feel hopeless.

If I had to say my dream I would say that it's to travel, I want to travel at least a few times a year, right now I don't have money so I've never actually done it but since I was little I would always say that when I grow up I want to explore the world and have lots of vacations to the beach and mountains. And to live that I need money... So I should just suck it up and study a good career but I don't know what is holding me back, maybe it's knowing that I won't like it but what other options do I have??? there's no career I like, what do I do in this situation???

I know this post may sound stupid but I have no idea of what to do, I don't even know what or where to ask

have someone been through this? what did you do? at this point any advice/critique/opinion helps