r/YoungAdultStruggles

I’m currently in final year of high school and working as a delivery driver for dominos for around 9 hrs per week and pulling in around 200-250 a week from it. I’m very keen for exploration and expanding into a bigger income stream but am unsure on the best ways to do it. I’m saving up at the moment and am considering doing long term investments for my future but other than that I don’t really know what I should be doing. Should I just thug out the best 9-5 I can with good money? Or are there other ways in which I can get money at this age?

I (19F) live with my best friend/roommate (19F). We’ve been friends for around 11 years and honestly our relationship has always felt a littleeee emotionally intense? She constantly jokes that she doesn’t need a boyfriend because I’m “better than one,” makes sexual jokes toward me all the time, and we even kissed once briefly in middle school. I always brushed it off as us being really close/joking around.

The issue is that lately it feels less like joking.

We sleep in each other’s beds a lot, she gets kind of possessive sometimes, and there’s just very obvious tension. The confusing part is she has a boyfriend, although they’re constantly on/off and their relationship is messy.

At the SAME time, I also have a crush on our boss (40M). 🫠. Before anyone says it, yes I know the age gap is insane. But he’s definitely shown interest back. Within my first month working there he gave me $300 as a gift, buys me coffee, offers me free food secretly even though he could get in trouble for it, offers rides, etc. It doesn’t feel completely one-sided.

And to make it even messier: we ALL work together. I’m a host and my roommate used to be up front with me before becoming a server, and I honestly believe she suspects I like him. She acts suspicious and jealous about it frequently.

I feel insane because I’m attracted to BOTH of them in completely different ways and I feel guilty about it. I don’t know if pursuing either one is a terrible idea. One could potentially ruin my friendship/living situation, the other could ruin my job and possibly my frontal lobe development.

So I guess my questions are:

Is it a horrible idea to pursue either of these people?

How do I avoid making my life a complete trainwreck while remaining honest about my feelings?

At this point I can’t tell if I’m having a bisexual crisis or just making catastrophically bad decisions recreationally. Lmk guys! 😬

Hi everyone, 24m here. I don’t really know where to start but didn’t know if this is just adult life, I’ve been working full time since i was 18 and as time has gone on slowly i feel like i lose myself more and more, i miss being the happy teenager i used to be.

I have an okay job as an electrician and have nearly finished my training, a good girlfriend and good group of friends but just never feel that happy. The smallest things bother me and will make me annoyed, i snap at people sometimes and then regret it later not knowing why i did.

Life just doesn’t feel fulfilling anymore , all i feel like i do is work and go home, everyday feels the same, i go out on the weekends but nothing is as fun as it used to be. Is this adult life ? Or is it just me, as everyone else around me seems to have to figured out.

I just feel a bit lost and feel like i have lost myself along the way. Looking for some advice if people have gone through the same? Thanks everyone and enjoy your day.

I’m honestly very confused about my career path right now and could really use outside opinions, especially from people in psychology/academia/HR.

I’m currently pursuing a 4-year psychology degree (BA Hons with Research), but I have the option to exit now with a regular BA degree instead of completing the 4th year. The main issue i have with this course is that it is expensive, and while I’m not extremely poor or anything, finances are definitely a major factor for me.

My dad doesn’t work, so my education is basically being funded by my mother’s salary, and I carry a lot of guilt about that sometimes. there’s actually no pressure from my parents at all. They’ve completely left the decision up to me.

Part of me feels like I should just continue my course for one more year because at least I’ll graduate with a research degree, which might help later. But then another part of me keeps wondering if it’s financially worth it when I don’t even know exactly what I want to do in life yet.

The thing is, if I leave right now, I don’t really have many strong backup options either. My CUET PG score honestly wasn’t good, I completely messed it up, and I haven’t really applied anywhere else. So if I exit now, I’ll basically just have a BA degree and no clear plan.

Another huge factor is that if I leave now, I’ll probably have to do MA in my hometown. Which i don’t think i want to. I live in a joint family, and you know how people always joke that if you stay home for college, you pay with your mental health, in my case it genuinely feels true. I’m currently home for summer vacations and almost every day is exhausting.Being away for college has given me a sense of independence and peace that I didn’t realize I needed.

So now I feel stuck between:
- continuing an expensive degree for another year
OR
- saving money but sacrificing my mental health and independence

And then comes the even bigger issue: I genuinely don’t know what career path I want.

I think I want to go into teaching. I’ve thought about preparing for NET+JRF because I like the idea of teaching psychology in the future. My original thought process was:
- Finish the 4 year research degree
- Prepare for NET+JRF
- Hopefully crack it
- Use the JRF funding to go directly into a PhD
- Then eventually work in academics

But then I found out that for NET+JRF, you usually need a master’s degree first. So now I’m confused because if I do:
4 year degree + 2nyear master’s + PhD,
it suddenly starts feeling like SUCH a long road financially and academically. And who’s to say ill crack net jrf anyway.

I know education isn’t technically a waste, but because of my family’s financial situation, I think about time and money constantly. Part of me keeps thinking: if I already spent 4 years on an honors with research degree, will doing another 2 year master’s just delay everything even more?

At the same time, I’m also interested in organizational psychology/HR related work, which is a completely different direction altogether. If anyone here works in organizational psychology or HR after a psych degree, how do you even go about entering that field? MBA? Master’s in organizational psychology? I genuinely have no idea where to start.

I think my biggest fear is making the wrong decision and regretting it later, especially because I don’t come from a situation where I can comfortably spend years figuring things out without consequences.

May 18, 2026. 27 years old. In bed after a long shift just thinking about life… the expectations I had for myself vs where I actually am right now, and how different life feels compared to what I expected growing up. It feels weird sometimes not really knowing exactly where I’m going, but I’ve been thinking about it a lot tonight.

What should i do what path should i take? this life is so difficult sometimes

Me (26M) have been struggling with depression, I have bad habits that I can’t seem to break and things just seem to be getting harder and harder.
My partner (27M) is currently pregnant, I’m trying to juggle work, fixing things around the house, being a present father/husband, dealing with my emotions and it’s all seeming too much and I don’t know how to handle it. I’m currently vaping behind her back, I buy a vape and then stop for a week or so then get another one. We have 2 kids with another on the way, our finances aren’t horrible but bad enough that the vaping thing is eating me alive, I don’t drink or do drugs or anything so this is like my only vice at the moment. I absolutely hate lying about it, even though she doesn’t really ask about it. I eat fine and there’s always food in the house for everyone, the basic needs are met. However I can’t juggle everything, there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to handle it all. I’ve been feeling more and more depressed and thinking bad thoughts, I struggle to reach out because I don’t have a whole lot of a support system for this. I don’t want to add this stress onto my wife as she’s already very pregnant (8 months.) I don’t know what to do, any help is appreciated, or sharing your story if you’re dealing with something similar.

So i am a 21 year old , 5’7 man that started dating not so long ago . I don’t have that much experience with women since i almost spent my entire life on a computer . Got ghosted 3 times so far ( i know it’s not much but it drops so hard on me everytime it happens) . Recently i started talking to a girl that i met trough a work colleague and so far we went on the first date (my first ever date) and it went pretty well , we laughed , i asked her a lot of questions about herself to try to know her better and to show her that i am interested .
She asked after if i am going to be free this week and of course i said yes . She said she wanted to go out for some coffee and chat a little . However we didn’t plan the hour and locations … so yesterday after i got home from a wedding i had to attend to i asked her about the coffee date . She said she is still down for it but only gave me a time when she was free to meet . When i asked her about a location she got pretty frustrated and asked “Do i have to take all the decisions” , and i responded with “Don’t want to be rude , but you asked me… I can chose the place but it just feels normal that if you ask me out , you would already have in mind a place where to go” . After that she said to forget it and i know for a fact she got mad . We are still talking trough text but i feel that she won’t be interested anymore if i ask her out again . She also only responds to my text , she doesn’t initiate and i know some women prefer that the man should be the one that shows the more interest . Should i keep my hope and still text her and plan dates or should i dip and try with someone else? I also want to express that i have never felt the kind of connection i felt with this woman … and i get the feeling that i may never get a date again with any other woman since she was down to go on a date in the first 2 days . She also told me she likes to take things slow to know me better ( in the way that we are friends at first )

I’m graduating next year, I get good grades but it feels like I have absolutely no talent nor anything I’m decently good at. Staying home isn’t an option and I have no money saved. I want to get as far away from home as possible, but how do I do that with nothing? What I truly want is to travel and find somewhere I belong.

So a little bit about my current situation: I am 21 and working at my father’s company. The company has two business branches: one that does well on its own, and another focused on innovation and developing a new product. I work in the innovation branch with my father and two other employees.

I also think it would be appropriate to mention that I resent my father, although I never show it because I would hate to initiate unnecessary conflict. I was emotionally neglected, though that seems to be fairly pervasive, and I directed my entire life and career path toward his will because I always strived for his approval.

I started working there immediatly after High School and worked long hours to make sure that the people working with me would be happy with my performance. Fast forward two years to today: I want to go to university to study psychology, which means I would have to quit my position within the company. Though by now my dad seems to have made up his mind that i will continue the company since he will go into retirement in the next few months. We talked about me going to study to university once one year ago and he started getting mad and smashing things. Since then he talked to a lot of his friends who have kids to and they told him that their children had the freedom to choose to do what they love, so maybe his views changed.

During discussions i usually stay calm and try to use fact-based arguments even though I am a very emotional person, but he gets mad and digs himself into the victim-role nonetheless, refusing to acknowledge the issues I want to discuss. I always fell for this manipulative tactic and now I am not sure if I am still falling for it, though now I at least aknowledge that his only goal is to get what he wants from me, not my happiness.

One thing I am also worried about is what my coworkers will think, I am very afraid that they may get mad beacause the workload we need to handle is quite large. Towards that matter I think that quitting with a few months notice would be the best thing, although i am not sure if that will be possible, considering how my father may react. In that case I am also afraid of how my coworkers will behave towards me.

As I said I am an immensely anxious and easily distressed person, so I am looking for advice of how to get out of this situation.

PS.: English is not my first language, so please, excuse any mistakes.

Hello everyone,
Im Mohamed from Temara
I’m reaching out because I really need support and guidance right now.
I’m 29 years old and currently dealing with multiple health issues (stomach problems, ear condition, inflammation), as well as ADHD and addiction. On top of that, my home environment is very stressful, which makes it hard for me to focus on improving my situation.
I’m trying to take control of my life, get proper medical help, and become financially stable, but I feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to start.
If anyone has advice, resources in Morocco (especially low-cost medical or psychological help), or even job opportunities, I would truly appreciate it.
Thank you for reading and for any support you can offer 🙏

i am out of work & tho i am still productive everyday and also make time to use it in a fun way im still curious how else i could be spending or using my time

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In just a few weeks my I will graduate (Bcom-learning it in traditional way ordinary college from small city )

I still don't have a clear path

All my frnds joined job placement courses from foundation for ex like deshpande skills like that

And some wants to do higher studies (MBA)

Paying lakhs ahile taking loan in tier 2 or 3 I felt use less

And it's another type of loop that I will figure out while doing mba so I dropped the idea of doing mba and

In both cases what they teach we can also learn it by ourselves if we get serious I thought paying 18 k for the foundation Institute and acquiring skills it felt bad idea bcoz in that money we can buy some course and learn and master it

So as for the skills do I have any

None

So what do u think I should next?

Any suggestion

I’m a 20-year-old college student and I genuinely feel overwhelmed over this. It’s been causing me a lot of anxiety and panic attacks because I don’t fully understand what I should be doing with my credit card payments. My parents are supportive and would help me if things got truly bad (which feels like they are atm), but I really want to handle this myself because I feel ashamed and like I failed financially.

I’m a student worker and was only making around $345–$355 every 2 weeks after taxes during the semester ($11/hr, 19 hrs/week). Thankfully, I just started working full-time for the summer (40 hrs/week), so my paychecks should now be around $770–$780 every 2 weeks after taxes.

Here’s my situation:

• Current balance as of 5/13/2026: $2,559.21
• Statement balance from 4/27/2026: $886.63
• In April, I made:
  • the $35 minimum payment
  • another $80 payment on 4/28

Now that it’s May, my account says:
“$0.00 Minimum Payment Due on 5/24/2026”

So I’m confused because it doesn’t even show a required payment anymore. The only payment options it gives me are:

• Current balance
• Statement balance
• Other amount

My next paycheck of about $355 comes this Friday (5/15), and then my larger summer paycheck (~$770–$780) comes 2 weeks later. The only good thing is that I don’t currently pay rent or bills right now. I literally only spend money on gas and food, so I can put most of my paychecks toward this debt. The only major expense I have coming up is my summer class, which is about $1,037 due June 1st, but I’ll be putting it on a payment plan instead of paying it all upfront.

How much should I realistically pay when I get paid? Should I focus on the statement balance or just pay as much as possible toward the current balance? I’m trying really hard not to ruin my credit or fall deeper into debt. Any advice would seriously help.

UPDATE: I ended up talking to my parents about the situation, and they agreed to help me out so I can get ahead of this before it becomes a much bigger problem. I was honestly really ashamed and felt like a failure having that conversation, but I know how incredibly blessed I am to even have parents willing to help me during hard times like this.

I pay for my own tuition at Texas A&M University through FAFSA loans and work while being a full-time college student, so I’ve been trying really hard to figure adulthood and finances out on my own. This situation definitely humbled me fast and taught me a LOT.

I genuinely appreciate the people who explained things kindly instead of just making me feel stupid for asking questions.

For some background, I graduated HS in 2020. I took a year off and went into CC in fall of 21. I recently didn’t meet the “B” threshold for my methods course for student teaching so my placement has now been pushed back to spring of NEXT FUCKING YEAR. I thought I wanted to go into coaching so that was another wasted semester, and now this. My worst semester academically since freshman year. I have severe depression and when it gets bad I don’t do anything about it or ask for help and then it becomes a continuous cycle. I never reach out because I’m embarrassed and have always been shamed for doing so.

I disappointed my professor, my friends, and especially my fucking mom. She was coming home crying from work because I upset her so much(her boss sent her home to be with me). I was telling her how I wanted to be hit by a bus and how worthless my life is. I’m so fucking disappointed in myself and that I had to be her child. I’m 24 and I just want to leave this fucking university and my house, I have no fucking money and I’m nearly half way through my 20s, it’s fucking pathetic, I’m a pathetic human being. I was doing better for awhile but then thought to myself nah I was always right, I’d never fucking amount to anything.

So now, I’m going to work at my miserable job again over summer (yay!) and take more classes to boost my gpa and stress myself out more. And I want to clarify, I know that this is my fault, I’m not blaming anybody but myself, I’m just mad because all I do is disappoint people around me. And my degree is fucking history Ed, it’s not like it’s aerospace engineering or something complex and abstract. ITS FUCKING EDUCATION. Anyways, I just needed to rant on here, I need therapy and a lot of things honestly. I had a bad time last spring and this spring was even worse, it’s amazing that I never thought I could go lower than that. It’s astonishing.

Helped out my girlfriend’s mom take out a car trying to be a nice guy to help. She is a drug addict who was trying to get a second chance at live but always finds her way back to having sex with random men and drugs. She has not been paying me for the car due to this and now I regret and lost in what action to take, knowing it will affect my credit.

I’ve been really depressed lately and I barely have the energy to do anything. I missed around 2–3 months of school because of family issues, and after being away for that long I got too comfortable not going back.

Now the school gave me 20 days to try to pass the year. I would need to do a lot of tests just to get at least one grade in every subject, and it feels overwhelming. The problem is that I also hate my class, I don’t like the school itself, and I just feel disconnected from everything there.

At the same time, everyone around me keeps pressuring me not to drop out. Maybe I don’t even have a “good enough” reason to leave, I honestly don’t know anymore.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did you do?

19M , been working for a year , did door to door sales and side quest jobs I have 2K in checking ,19K in savings , And 5K in 3 fidelity, aswell as around 2.5 K in a Cryto wallet I do not know what to do with my life.

Did terrible in school just got high and fucked off and I have a terrible GPA (1.7) (now sober 1 1/2 ish years), I recently joined the Oilfeild and I’m making around 6-7K a month pulling 15 hour days but I know it’s not long term sustainable and I want to shift into either a higher paying trade while doing online college or do something valuable , I don’t go out and I have pretty terrible habits (bad diet, couple others)
but I’m good at saving money and I know I want to do something offshore with my life eventually.

I know it’s kinda all over the place but I am looking for some advice

[Please share your perspective it means a lot]

First thing, last 3 years of my life were the toughest years of my life, 6 months ago I finally got diagnosed with ADHD, all my college life I suffered from depression and a lot of stress because I was trying to figure out what is wrong with me.

This is not a sad story :), I finally got my diagnosis in last sept and my treatment ended in this march.

Also this year I achieved my dream(can't tell about it because then it will be very easy to doxx me, but it is something very big and more importantly very special to me).

Has been 1.5 months since I achieved it.

So I am set for career, I feel very proud about how I came out of this difficult phase of my life and was not only able to identify what is wrong with me, get a diagnosis from doctor and start treatment, maintain a good cgpa and achieve my dream ambitions,while going through so much stress and pressure.

I worked very hard sacrificed a lot, and finally everything has started to fall in place.

But today my college ended, and I feel bad for the time I was not able to spend with my friends, for the relationships that would have been.

I have friends, great friends, but in order to come out of this shit hole I had to make a decision at the end of my first year, that I must sacrifice my clg life if I want to have any chance in this world.

Idk how I feel, I am sad I am tired and I just want clg to go a little longer so I can keep having those dinners in cafetiere and all the fun we had in clg.

But just when I am about to regret my clg life, I also remember that what more can I ask from myself ?

I am not saying this as self absorbed or egoist thing.

Is it fair to ask more from myself? I did things that enen I didn't know were possible, people didn't know it was possible for a normal person to do these things let alone a disabled one.

I really want to ask someone what more could I have done?

I am very well now, my treatment has almost solved all my problems, I am very social, I am very smart, good at time management etc.

But like I want my clg life too.

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Just a rant, needed to get this out of my chest, since I can't really tell people about my condition. (I got diagnosed only 6 months ago, this is still new to me)

I am going to pick myself up, I still believe I can build the life I want, I had the same mindset during these 3 years, and I still have the same.

Idc if I have ADHD or 1000 more disabilities, I will decide how my life will go.

Don't worry about me, hope you all, all the best for your journies.

Can you guys help me??!!! I’m a graduate of BA Major in Business Analytics in 2024. Right after I graduated, I started working as a Property Management Assistant in a topnotch Real Estate company here in the Philippines. Eventually, I resigned and want to pursue a different career which is Business Analytics.

I want to pursue my Business Analyst career but I couldn’t find companies that doesn’t require experience in this field. What are the companies that don’t required experience???

Should I continue applying for Property Management or pursue my career as a Business Analyst?

PLEASE HELP ME!! I’M LOSING MY MIND!!!!