Thinking of ending a Long Term Relationship *SA Trigger Warning*
So I am 28 (F) and my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for 9 years come December but like most long term relationships it hasn’t been all rainbows. But the current situation we are facing I think is giving insight on maybe he is not the right person for me. I was sexually assaulted by a very close friend of mine of in May and I disclosed it to my other friend because I just wanted someone to know. The friend that assaulted me I remained in contact with and have been around because she considered it a drunk mistake and I rather not acknowledge it happened. Well it’s August and the friend I told about it told my boyfriend and now he won’t talk to me and doesn’t want to be around me. I don’t want to be selfish because I know the situation probably is hurting him especially since he’s been around my close friend since it happened. But I’m also feeling like this is showing me how he deals with conflict like instead checking on me he’s making it about the fact I didn’t tell him. I just don’t know if tensions are high or if I’m in the wrong for having him around her knowing what she did to me or if he’s being selfish and I have a right to end the relationship now.