r/AskWomenNoCensor

can somebody explain how i have it if being male just feels like a burden? like you are expected to suppress your emotions and people try to force you into being dominant, violent, aggressive, and masculine even if that is not who you are. and if they manage to force you into that you will just have toxic masculinity (which i think is real and its stupid that men are forced into it) so it just feels like you are trapped in a box where people hate you no matter what you do. im not saying that women's struggles aren't a real issue because they definitely are (especially historically), im just saying that male (i dont even want to say "men's" because it sounds like a slur to me now😭) issues also matter a lot. like if somebody just says "hey man" or "hey bro" i actually hate it because it triggers this negative association that my brain has made with that kind of stupid bro culture. i will INTENTIONALLY never call people bro, dude, man, etc because i just find it so stupid. and also the expectations on appearance are atrociously annoying like no i do not want to have a masculine jawline or short "clean low maintenance" hair or a ton of disgustingly thick body hair everywhere. like if i had to look like that i would feel devalued and disconnected from myself. and i don't want to go out and constantly try to date women or approach them. tbh wtf is "approaching a woman" supposed to mean, like that just sounds bizarre to me, why is it not something else like the way its phrased is just suspicious.

I often see a lot of discourse from men that are on apps.

But I don’t think they see/consider the other side of the coin.

What might be a perspective that is eye opening to any guy that might read this.

What comes to mind is for some (many?) women, the sheer number of people you have reaching out can be overwhelming. On the surface it sounds like a great problem to have… but everyone starts to blur together, unfortunately it becomes very taxing and often conversations are extremely repetitive. Now this isn’t any one sides fault, but when I see a guy complain about a women he matched with giving “no effort”, I don’t think they consider that this is the 1000th message you received today that says “hey, how’s it going”.

This question popped into my head. I'm guessing most people won't want to answer but maybe some will, it's the no censor sub, and it would be interesting to see what different ways people respond.

I’m in my mid twenties, and genuinely have only orgasmed a hand full of times during sex.

When I’m by myself I can do it almost instantly. But as soon as I have a partner with me it’s like I’m unable to do it. It genuinely feels like something is wrong with me lol.

Wondering your thoughts on this trial. of course it is so tragic. I’ve never had babies and never been pregnant but I wonder if what she went through is more common than what we think.

It’s such a tragic story and I just can’t imagine a mom deliberately killing her children 💔.

The moon looks beautiful, it leads me at night, it eases my nerves. The moon has no boundaries, it shares the sky, it can't help but shine. I see the moon, I see your eyes; you are my heart, you give me life. I love you forever, you'll always be mine.

I wonder about this, I haven't gotten any flowers, same with my father, my mother and my sister go get lot of flowers, i wonder what would be a "female equivalent" for not getting flowers

I asked a similar question yesterday regarding maybe some traits that are seen as feminine that you don’t adhere to. And how we should be proud of those things.

Now I’m kinda looking to see the flip side of it.

What are some things that someone might say “that’s girly, or that’s stereotypical” that you do or feel that you’re like “yep! And I’m proud of it!”.

Bc just as healthy as I think it is to know and express that a woman can be fully herself while shunning or not adhering to traditional feminine characteristics… I think it’s really healthy to happily embrace sides of ourselves that might be seen as stereotypical. Because we are full, multifaceted people, and regardless of what boxes we fit in (or don’t fit in), we are allowed to be proud women and live without shame or conformity.

Like I’ll say I def like shopping, and makeup and embracing the beauty aspects that are seen as traditionally feminine.

I did my first time a few weeks ago, since then my bf and I did it like five times I think,

I mostly feel pain but that tolerable and just a bit of pleasure sometimes but that’s not as great as I imagined it :’) is it normal ? like will it be better with time or it’s just me and me body ?

I know there’s a lot of pressure for men to be the romantic ones in the relationship - which I totally get and I do happen to be traditional in that sense.

But in what way, on a daily / weekly basis, do you try and make your man feel like he’s the only one in the world?

Even if you’re having a bad day because of work, how do you separate all that and make him feel seen?

Like many of my friends are confused why girls are attracted to most boys who are little bit toxic or self obsessed.

But the reality is they are missing out that most of this boys are confident,have self respect for themselves.

One of my friend is good person inside, out he really is but he is not liked by girls.like me or others for relationship they always brozone or friendzone him always.

Can you guys tell me show that I can show this to him what I am telling is true is not believeing and he is upset a bit.he is emotional guy

Please explain him nice is not same as kind but how a person can be helpful and respectful i even don't know this.

Do you have a particularly close bond with a colleague?

I recently had a surgery on my prostate. A side effect of the surgery is that, when I orgasm, nothing comes out. Everything else works fine and my orgasm still feels great but it’s bone dry.

When I got my vasectomy, I used to joke that I was shooting blanks but now I’m really shooting blanks.

I’m curious if women would see this as weird and disappointing, no big deal either way, or a positive like “no muss, no fuss”.

Hello everyone! I figured I'd reach out and ask here, because I'd love some feedback.

For the past 10 years, I've been with a wonderful man, married, with two kids, and for the most part, we've been happy. He started having some issues in the first year, just with staying hard or being unable to finish, and it's just gotten steadily worse since then. Until now, it's bad enough that he has to take a pill for most intercourse.

I don't know what the rates of recovery are over time for ED in men in their 30's, or if this is just a phase he will get over. After having my second kid, I've had my own issues with my pelvic floor and my libido, but the reality that I don't feel desired has definitely killed what is there.

Are there any women here who've experienced this kind of thing and have any advice? I'm honestly just worried we will get to a place where this is the new reality... and I might have to ask to open the relationship just to find something satisfying long term. Any advice would be appreciated!

My dad is in his early 60s and has been married to my mom for over 30 years. He believes this is what American women want to see in movies, what they've always wanted to see, what is usually shown in romance novels: the male lead is strong, wants what the female lead wants, and helps her get it. If a movie doesn't feature this, he thinks most of the female moviegoers won't go see it.

I'm a woman and I don't care if a movie has this format or not. However, I'm also young, just one woman, and haven't met a whole lot of different women to judge whether this is accurate or not.

What do y'all think about this?

Women are often pretty open about how often they masturbate, but noticeably less open about what they actually use to get turned on while doing it. I doubt most woman are just not staring at a wall while masturbating , so presumably they are watching porn.
So why does admitting to masturbation seem relatively common yet most woman refrain to speak about how they actually do it?

Hi all. I'm 27 and I only started trying dating apps in September, which I know is late. I was with the same person from 21 to 26 and we met through my roommate, so I've genuinely never sat down with a man I didn't already know through somebody.

I don't really understand these apps yet. I've been on Hinge, Bumble and Palaura and every review I read says something different, half the comments say it's fine and the other half say don't bother, so I have no idea what's normal.

There's one guy I've been talking to who seems good, and he's asked to meet. I keep saying this week is busy. It has not been busy. Part of it is that I go quiet in person and I'm scared of sitting across a table from a stranger with nothing to say. The bigger part is that I don't know how to do this safely, and when he suggested his place I said no and then felt rude about it for a whole day, which probably tells you where my head is at.

I can't really ask my friends about this. They're all coupled up and the only thing I get out of them is go and have fun, which is nice but it isn't information.

So I'd rather hear it from women who've actually done it. What your first one was like, and what you know now that you didn't know then.