r/AskWomenNoCensor

Like so I’m guessing both genders get swamp ass, obviously, but since there’s another opening there… can woman get swamp vagina?

For some added context, this is for women who do not have vaginismus (an involuntary tightening or spasm of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina that happens when something tries to enter it, such as a tampon, finger, sex toy, penis, or medical tool during a Pap smear or pelvic exam) or any other similar issue and can thus achieve PIV quite easily. Therefore, there would be no issues with the physical act of sex itself, compared to those with vaginismus where sex may be difficult or impossible.

With that in mind, how would you feel dating a man that you knew would and/or has rejected women for having vaginismus because PIV was that important to them? Would you be totally fine with it or would it cause you to have some anxieties about your future (secondary vaginismus, medical illnesses, etc..) and the general stability of the relationship?

A few years ago, I had no issues attracting women, but recently everything's been flipped on its head. People have always voluntarily told me how good-looking I am without prompting, yet when I go out & about whether I'm walking around campus, the city, or at the bars, I've noticed that girls don't look at me, try to make eye contact with me, interact/flirt with me, or compliment me anymore. I get no signs of attraction anymore. It wasn’t like this for all of high school + junior & sophomore years of college.

I used to get a ton of looks, stares, compliments, flirting & just random interactions with women, whether on social media or in real life, but beautiful women or even women I'm not attracted to no longer give me the same or any unprovoked attention as they used to give me. These attraction signals are not there anymore.

My face & body have matured but I've only gotten better-looking because my features developed (jawline, cheekbones, eyes, body, etc) than when I used to be able to attract women, but women's reactions to me have gone from "never seen a man before" to “he's just an average dude that doesn't warrant looking at". I know I can't be everyone's cup of tea, but I used to be most girls' type & it seems that now I'm nobody's. I feel so invisible & undesired.

I know that there is a higher concentration of people at college, that college is a different ballgame & that there are more options for girls, but they all just ignore me in copious amounts now & it's made me incredibly insecure & has really badly affected how I see myself. I'd really appreciate some insight because I'm really struggling with this. Is it a mental thing on my end? Lack of self-confidence, charisma? Is it because I'm no longer confident in myself & now I'm in my own head? I can't seem to get out of it without getting validated by women, but I can't seem to get women to validate me, so I'm stuck in a negative loop that I so badly want to break out of

Hey

Am I the only woman who didnt learn to walk in heels? Im a 23F and was never really into learning it and now I feel a slight pressure if there is a event where you "should" wear heels and other women are "You dont know how to walk in heels??".

Can be any genre! One of mine is Jurassic Park for sure. Also the original Star Wars trilogy. Not technically the coziest of movies, but they just make me so happy. Oh, and The Mummy 1 and 2!

Curious what you guys watch when you're feeling a bit blue?

I feel like no matter what i do i can never seem to reach orgasm. And i dont ever think ive had one since everyone says if you have had one you know and i dont know😭

Hi all, I’m not sure if this is the appropriate group for this but I am lost, and have no one to talk to about this.

I (26F) am currently engaged to my fiancé, (32M) and we have been together since 2022, got engaged earlier this year and are suppose to be married next summer.

Before we met, he was in a long term relationship of around 5-6 years, it ended a year and a half before we met and from what he told me he is over her (which I believed as there was no indication he was still thinking of her, she got married, no contact and it was obvious he was not happy in that relationship.) Two years ago, I was on his laptop and found folders of women, celebrity women along with local Instagram influencer types that he saved as well as he said he used AI to make up stores to arouse him. I confronted him, it was ugly but he said he used it to “help him with sex.” In his previous relationship he struggled with I’m assuming ED as he could never keep his erection. He ended up deleting it.

Now fast forward to today, I was on his laptop and found maybe about 15 folders of celebrities and influencers, most folders containing tons of images of them. To make things worse, on a USB he had a folder of three girls, one being his ex (let’s call her Jane) another being a girl we both knew whom he maybe dated briefly in 2014 (called her Rebecca) and a folder of me. The folder of Jane had about 30 images he that said they had when I hover on the image it shows recently modified a week ago. And these were screenshots he took while dating her, pictures of her in a bikini, two pictures together and even three AI generated images of her. Rebecca also had about same amount of photos and a TON of AI images of her at a red carpet, being a celebrity etc. As well as recent photos he had screenshotted from her social media. my sad folder included three images, all AI generated, barely looked liked me.

I confronted him and he was sorry, said it was all deleted but I feel hurt, betrayed as if he cheated on me. I still love him but I am nervous if this is something that can resolved or not. Our engagement I want to postpone so he can work on himself because I cannot continue in a relationship like this. I am not even sure what to call his problem. Is it a masturbation addiction? Porn? Besides this, we have been happy, planning our wedding and overall excited about the future.

For context, we do not live together, we are waiting till marriage to move in with each other (religious values.) i live my family and he lives alone. Also, his ex, Jane has always been the only “problem” in our relationship as I also knew her and due to low self esteem was always jealous of her.

Please, please give men any advice or kind words. I am struggling and heart broken

Flattering? Ick? Funny? Cute? Would you feel it like a complement or just offensive or cringe/weird?

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I come from a family with separated parents and currently live with my mother and sister in my maternal grandparents’ house. We have a small home with two rooms and no car, although we plan to build two more rooms after Durga Puja.

The man I’m planning to marry comes from a well-off family with a three-storey house, six rooms, and a car. He knows about my family situation, but I sometimes wonder whether our different backgrounds could become an issue after marriage.

Should I ask him about his expectations regarding his in-laws’ financial status, lifestyle, and home? Should we also discuss how he would handle it if his family compared us or made comments about my background?

I don’t want to sound insecure or assume he would judge me. I just want us to discuss these things honestly before marriage.

Am I overthinking this, or is it a conversation worth having? How should I bring it up naturally?

A lot of times I’ll have a wave of sadness rush over me when I’m by myself and I don’t want to just sit in it but I never know what to do when I feel this way. So I wanna know what other girls do in moments like this that help :)

I’m 19M, and there’s a girl at my Muay Thai gym who’s also 19. We’ve known each other for about a year, and i randomly developed a pretty strong crush on her. We’ve had some playful interactions at the gym, and I started wondering if she might be interested in me too, but I couldn’t tell for sure.
I finally decided to ask her out. She was sitting down putting on her boxing shoes, so I walked over, sat next to her, and said, “I wanna ask you something.”
I asked, “Would you ever wanna go out?” She looked at me smiling, and I got nervous and added, “It doesn’t have to be a date. We could go as friends so we could get to know each other better.” Because i always wanted to start as friends but everyone told me i shouldnt have said that.
She said yes and mentioned that she’d gone out with other people from the gym before. I asked if she could go that day, but she said not that day.
Before we finished talking, I told her, “You know you don’t have to say yes, right?” She looked at me, smiled, and said, “I know.”
I also told her I’d never done anything like this before because I was extremely nervous. I didn’t ask for her number at the time because i would have fainted from the nerves so I’m planning to ask her when she’s available and get her number so we can arrange something.
Now I’m wondering how I should approach this.
Should I treat this as a date? I originally asked if she’d want to go out, which sounds romantic, but then I clarified that it didn’t have to be a date and that we could go as friends to get to know each other better. I do have a crush on her, but I don’t want to assume she sees it the same way.
Should I offer to pay for both of us? Would that make it feel too much like a date, or is it a normal thing to offer? Should I just offer to pay for my own food and let her decide? And do i order for her?
What do you make of her response? She agreed pretty quickly, was smiling, and didn’t seem to push back when I told her she didn’t have to say yes. Does that sound like she’s interested in getting to know me, or could she have interpreted the whole thing as just friends hanging out?
How should I act when we actually go out? Do i just completely be myself or do i be more professional and treat it like a date
I’m not expecting anyone to know exactly what she’s thinking. I’m just inexperienced with this stuff, and I’d appreciate hearing how other people would interpret the situation and what they’d do next.

I mean easy answer is the same shit we’ve been dealing with forever (improved but still a long way to go)

But what other things?

I don’t know about you, but I have a mini anxiety attack every time I order an uber or Lyft.

But also like being in an elevator with a guy(s) alone .., I get uneasy

I recently met a guy who I had very strong chemistry with but was extremely incompatible. We kept hanging out and naturally kept flirting subconsciously but I told him he's my friend. I can tell he was confused. I was really confused too because I knew I was very attracted to him but it couldn't go anywhere, but I just wanted to be around him. He started to pull away and it's kind of over now, which is for the best I guess since we weren't really friends. But was wondering has this happened to anyone else or is this an original experience?

I'm curious to hear honest stories from people who've been through a divorce or separation. No judgment here, just trying to understand what really happens.

If you're comfortable sharing:

What do you think was the main reason it ended?

Were there warning signs you only noticed in hindsight?

Is there anything you'd do differently?

Throwaway accounts are totally fine. Thanks to anyone willing to share.

I only just learned a couple of years ago that the gas symbol on the dashboard meter has an arrow letting you know which side of the car the tank is on.