r/AskWomenNoCensor

I have a friend that always makes comments on things I do. Specifically, when it comes to my dating life. Anytime I say I think a guy is cute, unless she thinks he’s actually cute, she’ll always make a face (to imply she thinks hes ugly). Even when I’ve briefly dated a guy she’ll say he’s ugly or I can do better. I have suffered from self esteem related issues, so I kind of have a habit of shooting lower attraction wise.

Over the years, this has kind of caused me to always ask if she thinks someone is ugly or not out of fear that I can’t make good decisions regarding the physical appearance or the guy I date.

Last night for example, I went “oh that guy is cute.” She then makes a face indicating he’s questionable and I ask her if she thinks hes ugly. She tells me that it doesn’t matter what she thinks and that I need to think more for myself. She’s right, but why does she continue to make these comments and faces regarding the people I like or date, just to tell me I need to not respond to what she thinks.

Am I crazy for being confused? Just stop telling her anything?

Picture this:

A man walks into a public space and he clearly puts thought into how he presents himself.

Maybe he's wearing a well-fitted wool coat, interesting boots, quality fabrics, vintage jewelry and has a distinctive haircut.

He looks stylish in a way that's personal.

Where I live, that's a pretty rare sight, which is probably why I always notice it when it happens.

So my question is mainly for women who are attracted to men like this and who have actually met, dated, befriended or approached men like this:

-What's your honest assessment of them?

-What are they usually like as people?

-What jobs or careers do they tend to have?

-Are they generally more artistic, sensitive, emotionally aware, or am I stereotyping ?

-Do they tend to be more confident or more insecure than average men?

-How much of the aesthetic is genuine self-expression versus image management?

-And did the reality match the impression they gave from a distance?

I'm curious about patterns you've noticed, not whether stylish men are "better" or "worse," just what they're actually like once you get to know them.

So I'm a late bloomer and had my first relationship last year at 24 and they took my virginity too. They ended up dumping me by text by the end of the year which broke my heart. They said they had trust issues and accussed me of talking to other people. Even when I explained I wasn't and showed them my phone they just shut down and became avoidant and wouldn't work through things and just "lost feelings". Around 7 months later I'm still not fully over it. I always thought the first person I'd sleep with was the one I'd be with forever.

I'm a bit aged and don't really go to those (förfest in my uncouth Scandinavian language). But when I did, there was one thing that really bugged me. Don't know if this is international but at those pre parties the lady(almost always the lady in my hey days) did put forward a small bowl with potato chips and possibly another with cheeze doodles.

What is (was) the reason? Every guy I know, if you eat one like sourcream and onion, it wants the company of another and the loop goes on until bag empty. One was like supposed to eat 6 chips and 6 doodles in an hour before going to the main event. If still existent, is this some kind of torture, or demonstration of restraint?

By nerdy I mean like girls who are into stuff like gaming, board games, LOTR, etc.

I know these things have become more gender equal over time but I'm unsure because honestly I don't have the best luck with meeting this kind of girl on a dating app. Every guy on reddit seems to say they're very rare to come by which either makes me think that I should lower my standards or that the average male redditor doesn't know very many women (definitely true).

I once had an encounter with a guy and my legs weren’t shaved at all, he wasn’t supposed to see my legs but due to a certain situation, I had to expose my legs. I felt embarrassed after but I noticed he still got hard after seeing them lol.

I was wondering why he got hard when my legs looked gross and esp because online every man says hairy legs are gross on a woman. Do men typically care?

I‘m just a jerk sometimes in little ways

I've got quite the list, but I'm very hyped for the follow up to Disco Elysium coming out in a couple of days despite the drama with many of the developers leaving and starting their new studios. I'm also very excited for the new Lego Batman game. It's been a property I've enjoyed a lot for the take it has on the Batman property ever since the movie.

What is your take on Hannah Russell, wife of Sky King Richard Beebo Russell, allegedly cutting off his family and refusing to speak publicly?

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So I’ve dated a few times and a common pattern I notice is that whenever I go with the guy that asks me out first or initiates first, it always ends badly. Maybe it’s a coincidence, but I’ve noticed a pattern. Even if I think they would be a good partner, are kind, etc it will usually end badly.

I’ve never asked out a guy before, but I’m wondering if changing my approach to doing the initiating/ asking out would result in better outcomes. Since I’m picking the guys with the qualities I desire compared to just waiting for something to fall into my lap.

Any thoughts on this?

im looking for somw women input, I've got a really close friend who I am clearly interested in, and I'm pretty sure she knows it (shes 20) and over the course of the last year man I've been getting some weird mixed signals from her

I'll try to keep it brief, last fall she was all over me, she was holding my hand, she was cuddling with me on the couch, even kissed me a couple times and flashed me and it was wonderful. I asked if she wanted to be boyfriend girlfriend and she declined, but then kept doing it (i wont get into details but she had an actual very legit reason to turn me down) but then she got jealous when she found out i was fwb with another girl

Then at the beginning of this year suddenly she started putting up a lot of walls, while she still would cuddle with me on the couch suddenly I feel like there was a wall up and she was no longer doing some of the same stuff she used to... But every now and again that wall comes down when we spend extended time together and she gets flirty again, but then over text she gets incredibly distant and takes forever to reply, or drags out making plans together (but then when I take a step back suddenly she's much more enthusiastic)

To give you a good example of this just a few days ago she came over to my apartment and we had a really wonderful time and by the end of that time she was pretty much just placing my hand on her breast, and laughing when I would jokingly poke her boob. She was cuddling with me, she was stroking my hair, it felt really great.... But then she ghosted me for the next 4 days (I will admit she has ADHD issues and when I asked her why she was doing that she became very responsive and happy in texts, only to go back to nothing)

The mixed signals are getting really annoying, am i nuts for feeling this way? I don't think she's using me on purpose and It feels like she both simultaneously likes me a lot, and when we spend time together she's into me, but then over text message it's a battle to get her to reply. this is getting incredibly annoying and I feel like I'm going nuts trying to figure out what's going through her head

I am working on dating profiles and a submissive man I have encounterd this issue. I am a gentleman but still like a FLR (Female Led Relationship) when to share what I seek. Some people have said you have to get the woman to like you before addressing the desires but that could end the relationship right away. If you start out with the desires people might think I am just a creep and not give me a chance.

Would you rather find out at the start of the relationship or a few months in?

What content would make it feel women centered rather than objectifying women?

So I (f,37) was widowed 9 years ago. I've casually dated since and had a 6 month relationship with someone who turned out to be an alcoholic in denial and serial liar.

3 weeks ago, I matched with someone. I weirdly knew him when we were at college and thought he was cute but he was dating someone on my course. He said he did vaguely remember me and thought I was cute back then too. As soon as we matched, he wanted to meet. I was a bit sceptical but agreed and we ended up spending 3hrs chatting followed by an awkward hug goodbye. He seemed keen and was messaging fairly frequent and asking questions to get to know me. We've met twice more since but due to crazy working hours, it's been very late at night and weve just sat jn the car chatting.

He's explained a bit about his dating history and he's had some mental health struggles recently and to say he's been through a rough time is an understatement. Hes also admitted to chatting to others but isn't meeting anyone. And hes told me he's keen to see where things go with us.

Here's where it gets confusing. He's stopped replying as quickly as he was (sometimes is 5+hrs), I asked about going on a proper date, he asked what I'd like to do so I gave him a few suggestions and he said he'll sort something. I then asked him what his availability was the rest of this week as I was trying to make plans with a couple mates and he said he was trying to sort cover for work and he'd sort something. I've told him I'm not chatting to anyone else as it's too much energy but it's fine if he was. Even though it's only been a short time, I do genuinely like him. Does it sound like he's not interested? Or am I coming on too strong and scaring him off? I have a constant knot in my stomach. There's only been one other guy I was like this with and I married him and we'd still be together had he not passed away.

Thank you everyone who commented on my original post last week- I finally am getting some help for what we believe is iron deficiency anemia.

In my original post I say my periods make me so tired I cannot stay awake- I literally fell asleep at work multiple times against my will & walking make my chest feel tight and my heart race. I also felt really light headed as well and cold.

I actually had this extreme fatigue for fourish days which is not normal at all, usually it lasts a day. I was sent home from my job that I’m on my feet for because I could not stand up straight without wobbling before moving too much was making my heart race really bad & chest very tight. My friends commented I still looked really pale & just not good. My hands were even shaking I felt so sick. I was then basically bedridden the rest of the day and any time I sat up my heart rate would go up again.

My mom is having me take her prenatal vitamin with a lot of iron in it & my best friend told me foods that are iron rich to eat, which I am now. My mom wants me to try getting more iron in me naturally first but if this happens again next month she’s going to take me to get my iron tested to see if I need to be on iron pills. We believe part of the problem was I essentially bled out in a day & a half instead of my normal four days with a day or two of spotting.

Now that my horrid period is done & im taking my vitamins and eating those foods, I feel much better. Still a little tired, but I have more energy to do things and my mind is not foggy anymore.

If you are wondering why I did not go to the doctor immediately… I do not have health insurance (can’t afford it) & any kind of medical care is stupid expensive… so we try to fix things on our own first before spending that kind of money. My hope is the vitamins & diet changes will be enough- if not then I will be getting blood testing.

Thank you all again for confirming that it was not normal & helping me realize the steps I needed to take to get my health back in order again.

So im 24f and I've never had s\*x, not even kiss or anything.. and i wanna do all these things now, I met someone and we're kinda in long distance, thinking of meeting soon in irl. The thing is that I've always been insecure of my looks.. im overweight ( 90kgs), I've stretchmarks, hyperpigmentation, and body rolls, teeth gaps and I hate them, i can't imagine getting naked in front of other even tho i kinda love my curves.. i tried to lose weight but I've pcos ( pmos ) and im kinda finding it difficult.. I don't think so i can lose atleast 20kg in next few months lol.. I've been craving intimacy for so long but always refused it because of my insecurities.. so again to my question, how to not feel insecure or should i just reject this guy too and try to improve myself ( even tho idk when will I lose weight and all)