u/Leather-Necessary-33

Hello everyone! I figured I'd reach out and ask here, because I'd love some feedback.

For the past 10 years, I've been with a wonderful man, married, with two kids, and for the most part, we've been happy. He started having some issues in the first year, just with staying hard or being unable to finish, and it's just gotten steadily worse since then. Until now, it's bad enough that he has to take a pill for most intercourse.

I don't know what the rates of recovery are over time for ED in men in their 30's, or if this is just a phase he will get over. After having my second kid, I've had my own issues with my pelvic floor and my libido, but the reality that I don't feel desired has definitely killed what is there.

Are there any women here who've experienced this kind of thing and have any advice? I'm honestly just worried we will get to a place where this is the new reality... and I might have to ask to open the relationship just to find something satisfying long term. Any advice would be appreciated!

Hello Reddit! I could use some advice and perspective here, as someone who's deeply conflicted about this decision.

For context, my father is a pastor and I grew up as a pastor's kid my whole life. The church is a nondenominational evangelical style ministry, and I was deeply involved in all of it throughout my childhood and into my adult years.

I ended up leaving the church in 2020 because I'd been seeing some major problems for years. Like abused women being told to submit to their husbands. Like minors reporting SA and abuse, and the church failing mandated reporting laws. Like extensive abuse of power and influence over the city my father pastors in. I spent all of my time in ministry before leaving begging my family to wake up to the harm they are doing, but they blew it off, calling me the "problem child." I have now been no contact with my family for 10 months, after extensive issues.

Well, in the past year, there has been a large group of people who've survived the harm from the church willing to come forward and speak to a reporter. I've been there every step of the way, trying to support them and help them find avenues for telling their stories. And now, it's finally happening.

But as I've become the middle man for a lot of these interviews, the reporter began to learn about how much I can say about the inner workings of the church and my father's political influence. My interview is being treated like the touchstone of this story, and I know why it's important, but I'm struggling with my own guilt about doing so.

There's many factors, like not wanting to hurt the stories of the other victims by possibly having the story be misinterpreted as family drama, as well as knowing this will hurt a lot more than just my dad. My interview is scheduled for next week, and for the first time, it's all becoming frighteningly real to me. So am I the asshole for telling a reporter about my family?