r/AmIOverthinking

AIO - My husband and i have been married 26 years. We met at work and have a mutual friend from work - friend of my husband . He’s since married a few years after us. We’re all friends.

This “friend” is a quipster/ joker and we’ve been on vacation with this couple before. We just came back on vacation with them. And I gotta say, I was weirded out by said “friend”. His “jokingly “ innuendos became a bit obvious to me, especially when an “ I love you” came into play. I told him, yeah I , “love you too”. From a friend pov. Then I went to go to bed with the husband that I love going 26 years strong. Then it dawned on me. All the quips and innuendos were adding up. Does this guy like me? Because I distanced myself from him and leaned on and towards my husband every step of the way on this trip. I think “friend” noticed the shift in my attitude. Am I being paranoid? Or is this to be brushed under the rug and I’m overthinking this? We’ve all known each other 28 years. Inputs please. Am I overreacting?

Hi people, I never have used reddit before but something happened and I really need unbiased opinions.
My parents are divorced. We don’t have a schedule for stays, me and my younger brother usually stay at my mom’s house because my dad is usually at work, but we stay with him when we feel like it.
Well for a month, probably even more, I stayed at my dad’s because I felt really guilty for not staying with him for a long period of time. It’s really chill, he doesn’t have many rules and since he doesn’t have much food at home we always order whatever food we want. But recently he did/said some stuff that really made me uncomfortable and I don’t know what to do about it.
Last week, he picked me up from a hangout with a friend. In the car, he asked chatgpt (I dont like him using ai either) a question, I don’t remember which one. The female ai voice answered, and he answered “thanks sugar” in a very weird way. I don’t usually care, or even notice when anyone says that type of stuff but this time was different, I don’t know how to explain it but it was degrading in a way. He then told the ai to “shut its mouth”, and when the ai replied that it couldn’t do it itself he called it useless.
Now, I don’t care about an ai’s feelings for it doesn’t have any. I couldn’t care less. But it’s the fact that my dad always had female assistants all his life, and his behaviour to an ai which he clearly saw as an assistant just felt very uncomfortable. I didn’t say anything though

The other event, which was the most important one I think, happened at home. I was eating pizza that I ordered, and I was already annoyed at something that happened before so I might’ve acted a bit cold/rude towards my dad. I felt bad, so when I was done eating I went up to him to hug him. We hugged, and he said “you know, usually little girls aren’t allowed to hug me like that.” I still don’t know what exactly that means. I really don’t. It was a normal hug. I backed away a bit, ended the hug and looked at him confused, but didn’t ask anything. He then offered me some candy that he bought. I refused, then he offered me again, and again, almost forcing me but i just said no and walked away. I called my mom to pick me up.
I didn’t explain what happened to her, nor to anyone because it’s very uncomfortable and if I’m overreacting people will call me the weird one.
For a couple of days after what happened i was sure that i wasn’t overreacting and that it was just weird. But now I’m unsure. Nothing like this happened before this, and I feel like my dad’s demeanour and his vibe changed. I don’t know how to explain it to anyone else and I don’t want to.
I thank you for your advice and I apologize for my English because it’s not my first language.

How do I know if we're on a situationship phase or are we just friends? I cant ask that person yet I feel so conflicted and confused.

I needed clarity cause I'm confused and if it's not what I think it is while it's making me feel something a little different from what it actually should be, then I need to let go before this worsens.

But, I can't just ask that person "What are we?", I might end up wrong and thought of everything wrong..?

Are we silently on to something or am I overthinking?

It all started by wanting to be friends, we talked, and chatted through text. He ask me stuff, I ask him stuff. Not knowing we were communicating every SINGLE DAY.

One day, we were both laughing as we did not expect that we have been talking for a whole month, and we were both thinking "It feels like a week".

We still do, but I noticed that I am feeling a little uneasy.

We talked everyday and it feels as if he had become a part of my daily routine, that whenever he would randomly disappear for a whole day without notice due to certain reasons(like family, or sudden events) I would feel so lonely and get soooo annoyed. I would start to feel so shitty and yet even how mad I get, the moment he comes back to check up on me, it's all gone and normal again.

It's weird. It's confusing. I dont know if I'm liking him that way, I might be denying it but I can't also read him. He compliments me, tease me, jokes on me, but I dont really know what to think of it.

Our other friends starts to ask us if we're something, but both of us would ofcourse say, we're not. That we're just "friends".

But behind covers, it's just so beyond what's being said.

Does this sounds like I'm in a situationship rn? Or...

I dont really want to get into this more deeper. I'm kind of scared, and I'm scared if he said it is what I think it is, or the other way. Eitherway, I am scared.

Overthink.

TDLR: A guy i’m talking to all of a sudden started being dry/not texting the same and recently left me on seen and I am wondering if I am overthinking it (due to past experiences)

EDIT: Its been 10 hours, no response… For those saying to talk irl we have a long break so we kind of cant… Do I just double text him?

(For context we are both in HS) Ive been talking to this guy school for over a month, we aren’t dating or anything but we both know we have feelings for each other. We’ve hung out once and spoken a few times irl, usually we just call or text (we share interests and have mutual friends so our conversations usually gravitate towards those topics). He isn’t the most expressive texter but just yesterday I have notice him texting wayyyy more ”dry” towards me, and responding a lot slower, and fast forward to today where I am left on seen with a heart reaction. This sounds really silly because 1. We aren’t dating 2. He isn’t obligated to text me 3. There isn’t anything wrong with his response, but I have a gut-feeling something happened. In the past I have had guys lose interest in me and act the EXACT same way (switching up suddenly then cut to them ignoring me), so I am kind of paranoid. I just wanted to know: Am i overthinking this? Any advice on how I should approach this situation?

I met a guy at my workplace on August, and we started talking. Over time, we became really close, and eventually, he proposed to me. I also developed feelings for him and agreed to be in a relationship with him.

He has told me that he is serious about me and has long-term plans for our relationship. He isn't looking for something casual or a time-pass relationship, which is something I really appreciate.

One day, he told me that if I ever had doubts about him, I could log into his Instagram account and check it whenever I wanted. He even registered my fingerprint on his phone so I could unlock it whenever I needed to. Initially, I wasn't sure about it, but eventually, I agreed. I've been logged into his Instagram for the past 2–3 days.

The reason I wanted access was that I have a lot of insecurities. I worry about whether he talks to other girls, what kind of relationships he has with them and whether he might develop feelings for someone else in the future. I know these thoughts might be coming from my own overthinking, but I can't seem to help it.

I even offered to give him access to my Instagram account, but he refused. He said that he trusts me and doesn't feel the need to check my account. He also seems to have very few expectations of me, whereas I have so many expectations of him. Sometimes, I feel like I expect him not to talk to other girls or even smile at them, and I know that might be unreasonable.

The thing is, he treats me really well, and sometimes it honestly feels too good to be true. A part of me keeps wondering whether he's genuinely serious about me or whether he might be playing with my feelings. I know it's still a relatively new relationship, and maybe I'm getting too emotionally attached too quickly.

Now I'm confused about whether I should stay logged into his Instagram or just log out. I don't want to invade his privacy or become someone who constantly checks her partner's messages. At the same time, I feel insecure and scared of getting hurt.

So, what would you do in my situation? Would you stay logged into his account since he willingly offered access, or would you log out and focus on building trust naturally? Am I overthinking this, or is it normal to feel this way in a new relationship?

I'd genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in similar situations.

I’m 23 and I don’t have a single particular goal. I have a bachelors degree which was five years long.
I still have zero passion to do anything in this field. I don’t have a single skill which will get me, Money. I have done Moderate work in my field as internships, and each employer had a feedback that I was not hard-working enough. I read it somewhere that you have to be extremely intolerant to things, which do not align with your goals.
I have no purpose in life which I am passionate about. I like adventure, but I don’t have money everything. I like money is the factor which prevents me from doing these things. I don’t know which skill I should upgrade so that it gets me the money, or which is lucrative. I am a perfectionist and its stopping me from exploring new avenues or even stick to the field i have a degree in. Most of my days are spent doomscrolling, i wake up, scroll, breakfast, try to make plans and schedules to study, lunch, watch a series for a couple of hours and then go to gym, getting ready commute, workout takes about 4 hours, come home tired from gym, shower dinner doom-scroll and continue the show, watch porn or doom-scroll and sleep and i have done nothing productive.

This would be the case if i were working, majority of time at work not doing anything meaningful then scrolling in the office due to monotonous work home gym sleep, thats it.

I dont want to spend my time gaslighting myself into doing grunt work for the sake of it and not doing anything that makes me feel alive.

What was the defining moment in your lives when you knew what you wanted to do, found your purpose in life and what makes you happy? Does Money make you happy? Does it make you miserable?

Are we used to romanticise everything we do , is there any real meaning to all this or are we just performing our respective roles, and bound by obligations of family society, is there any authenticity in our actions and what does true authenticity mean, is it what we believe to be true, or is it what society has told us to believe to be true.