u/Ella-Noceda

I’m trying to limit my AI use, so thought I’d ask a group of interested people, rather than resorting to a chatbot.

I am basically completely new to the study of psychology. I have recently attended a week long course for neurological study of the different lobes and their purposes, and basic hormones: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, etc. Sorry if I sound inexperienced when I’m talking about this, it’s because I am.

I would love some interesting material to read up on (that is suitable for beginners) so I can spend less time on my phone, but have no idea where to start. I’m particularly interested in different types of disorders, but I’m willing to start wherever is best!

Thanks

I (19F) have been with my boyfriend (20M) for nearly two years now. We spend a lot of time together despite us both living in separate accommodation.

I am a very needy person, I request quite a lot of attention and reassurance because of past experiences and ex relationships, I am (and have been for the last 3 years) going to therapy to try to overcome this.

For the first year of our relationship, he was very attentive and sweet whenever we would hangout together, but for all of the most recent year he spends all the time we are together on his phone playing mobile games or playing on his pc if we are at his house.

For the last week we have been on call together every night because I am sick so we can’t meet in person. Every night he has his dog on his lap on these phone calls, he talks about his dog and kisses his dog on the head and doesn’t pay attention to anything I’m saying, like genuinely he doesn’t respond. He can’t pay attention to anything but this dog.

I have a dog too, I understand that the love for them is deep, but I can still pay attention to a human being who is talking about something that is important to them while my dog is in the room.

Last night I jokingly said to my boyfriend that I wish he would pay as much attention to me while we are together in person as he does to his dog, and he flipped out. He called me crazy, jealous and controlling.

I wasn’t ACTUALLY saying I was jealous of the dog…but I guess I am in a way?? I wish there was sometime where I felt like I was his top priority, not his dog or his phone. He always seems to be distracted. Am I asking for too much? Are my standards unrealistic?