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so I guess this might count as politics so I’ll mark it as such but I want help understanding how a trans masc man could be lesbian? like just to clarify I mean no hate and I just want to understand and support people. to me the idea sounded kinda transphobic but I want to understand and be better. if anyone would like to clarify then please do!

(this post is not meant to share any hatred. pls be civil in the comments. thank you!!)

hi! I have been incredibly worried over the past few days over this topic and I just want to know what he actual community thinks.

so ive been really worried about what I will/would miss out on if I didn’t take puberty blockers. I am 14 amab and I have tried to convince my parents to let me start puberty blockers with no luck.(I think maybe it’s somehow possible I could maybe convince my parents, but very unlikely)

but basically I just want to know what stuff I will permanently miss out on if I don’t start any medical stuff till I turn 18. i mean specifically stuff that can’t be changed, with surgery or hrt.

(this is kind of a side note but things I’m most worried about are my hand size and just general appearance .)

I can edit if more details are needed. also , Sorry if this message comes off to negative. thanks for reading all this

im nonbianary, and the thought of beeing a man terrifies me. for context, i am a teen, and have been nonbianary for years. i love my feminine side, but lately, as a AMAB, my voice has dropped and my body is growing in a way i hate. i want to be feminine, but im defilately not a girl.

i want to start Estrogen, or something of the likes, withch i have very supportive parents so thata always and option, but a big problem.

i dont want breasts, and i want to stay strong.

i want a higher voice, and i want a more feminine shape.

i like my genitalia, and i dont have any current plans for surgery, unless i grow breasts, witch i will get top surgery if so.

what do i do? can someone who has gone through this or similar help?

are there risks? whats the ingection/cream like?

DHT blockers seem pretty popular with nonbinary people, but I've only read reports from adults. I've also heard that teens might take them to hide changes from their parents, but I've never seen anyone talking about it. Is anyone here taking them, for how long, and why?

I'm a short chubby ftm guy who's pre t and I just thought I'd give some of my best passing tips which maybe aren't as common.

- be a gentleman. Just holding doors open for people it is one kind and it gives you that euphoric boost

- PLATFORM shoes I can't emphasize this enough especially for shorter trans guys (I'm 5'0) whenever I wear platforms or shoes with bigger soles it helps a lot

- Rolling your sleeves up. For some reason people just see it as more masculine and it looks good trust me

- BAGGY pants now this is especially applicable for my guys with greek thighs. So typically wear the jeans on your hip bone and for the length you always have the option of getting them altered or my personal technique I tie it up with rubber bands and cover it up

- MAKE UP. Using eyeliner and brow pencils to define fuzz hair by blending it out helps a lot.

- confidence literally acting confident is key.

- football jerseys help

- for guys with bigger backsides typically tossing on a loose jacket helps or a really big t shirt

Hi, i'm 16 mtf and i plan on coming out to my family tomorrow, i'm pretty sure that they'll accept me (but still be pretty awkward about it) but i'm still so terrified.

Has anyone got any advice for handling the awkwardness that may come and also on how i can stop myself chickening out lol.

Anything is appreciated :)

I came out to my parents, and they responded supportively. But, I keep pushing them away whenever they want to talk to me for some reason. I don’t know why, they only want to support me, but I can’t bring myself to talk about it. Has anybody else had this problem?

EDIT: I am currently addressing the problem, thank you for all the advice.

TW MENTIONS LÉGÈRE DE TRANSPHOBIE/DISMORPHO-PHOBIE

Bonjour tout le monde j'écris ça ici parce que je sais pas trop où le faire d'autre sans être sûre de déranger personne déjà un peu de contexte ça fait pas longtemps que je m'en suis rendue compte (environ 1 mois à peu près, un vrai bébé transfem j'ai même pas d'idée de prénom féminin qui me correspond) donc la concrètement jsuis encore en pleine réflexion/recherche et c'est la cata j'ai perdu ce qui se rapprochais le plus d'une relation amoureuse littéralement 10 seconde après lui avoir dis que je me sentais féminine... actuellement ça fait 3-4 jours donc impossible pour moi de réengager la conversation rajoutez a ça que j'ai dû dégager une amie a cause de discours transphobe extrêmement dure à entendre ... mes parents et ma famille en général ne sont pas au courant pour ma transidentitée, je vous avoue être très perdue sue comment aborder le sujet avec eux...

Autres points importants

- je suis en fauteuil car handicapée de naissance je n'ai jamais pu marcher comme les gens valide je n'ai jamais pu marcher tou court d'ailleurs ce qui fait qu'en grandissant j'ai développé énormément de dismorpho-phobie (autant vous dire qu'avec la disphorie qui s'incruste régulièrement depuis peu vivre dans mon corps est un enfer....)

- je n'ai jamais eut une seule relation amoureuse saine le soucis c'est que j'entends et je vois pratiquement tout mon entourage parler de leur journée de leurs expériences je vous avoue qu'à force j'ai l'impression de passer à côté de quelque chose comme si j'avais raté le coche quelque part.... Le handicap n'aide absolument pas à me sentir intégrée j'ai des amis qui me sont inestimable mais malgré tout j'ai l'impression d'en demander trop à la vie en voulant simplement être heureuse et me sentir bien dans mon corps 😭

Je sais plus quoi faire j'ai l'impression a la fois d'en faire trop et pas assez c'est horrible 😭😭😭

Veuillez pardonner l'aspect confus de l'écriture je savais pas comment organiser tout ça....

Merci beaucoup d'avoir lu 😊

My boyfriend sent me a thing on Instagram and it was cute, but it just threw me off a bit.

It said "The 'a' in your name stands for adorable"

But my name is Ike. I don't have an A in my name. But guess what starts with an A? My dead name. Was he purposely dead naming me? Probably not. But I don't have an A in my name. Why would he send me that?

I messaged him back, saying I don't have an A in my name, and he didn't respond. He just kept sending me reels. I just don't understand why he sent me that if the name I use doesn't have an A in it, but my dead name does.

………. Well I actually need a therapist. But thats out of reach right now, so Ig this is the next best thing lol (And if anyone responds to this. Please refer to me as Caroline/Carol).

So about a month ago, I started to legitimately consider if I was transfem after a few conversations I had online. There were some clear signs before, but I usually brushed them aside as a symptom of depression/escapist fantasy stuff. In retrospect it sounds a lot like coping. because I really did not want it to be true, and I really didn’t believe that I could get that unlucky in life. But as time went on. it became harder and harder to ignore that, and I started running out of excuses before I gave up and accepted it………….. which was like a week or two ago. So you can probably assume there’s a lot of emotions going around. Albeit most of them are pretty overwhelmingly negative, with just the slightest twinge of euphoria that can pop up occasionally. Which I know isn’t exactly something that only I have dealt with, and it’s probably a universal feeling for most of us. But I wasn’t expecting to just outright collapse like I have lately.

Yeah so it turns out that euphoria period felt as good as it did partly because it made me focus on something different from what was eating away at me before. To keep it as brief as possible.

I’m depressed,

I have a severe ADHD.

I’m homeschooled and behind educationally.

I have a malapadative daydreaming problem that came from being homeschooled/being immensely lonely.

I feel very socially stunted, and I’ve sorta found comfort in my own misery and keep choosing that path of least resistance. Which essentially keeps me even more behind/stunted.

Very passively suicidal.

………… now add being trans, and all the shit that comes with it (being too broad shouldered, nit being able to start HRT while puberty is almost over, burning bridges with my family, etc) to that pile, and it should become clear why I was so desperate for it to just be a phase.

It really does feel hopeless for me. I’m not even mad at myself for being like this. I got really fucking unlucky, and there’s only so much I can do it this situation. I don’t want to hand wave away the stuff I’ve likely done to make it worse. but it never felt like I had control over anything (including my own gender now). And anytime I try and do something about it ultimately ends with me in the exact same spot. because I can’t seem to ever actually commit to something to anything (try forming habits when you’ve spent your whole life in an isolated and unregulated ADHD paradise lol). At a certain point it feels like I’m inevitably going to be a basement dweller/homeless person who never achieved anything, and will eventually throw themselves off a bridge or smth (kind morbid I know).

I usually write far better than this. But I kinda needed to put a shitty rant out just to make myself feel better. I’m turning seventeen soon, and birthdays always put me in this kind of mood lol.

19FTM here! I’m looking for online friends to talk abt a bunch of things, anything actually, even stuff that involves existential dread lolol. I’m interested in music, a bit of gaming here and there, reading and writing! I just can’t find a lot of irl friends who are queer and stuff. Would be cool with chatting anyone around my age range!

my body is too masc and i hate it so much bc it ruins the outfits i make can someone please help me

I don't have basically any transfem friends and I'd like some!

I'm a 17 yo trans girl on the upper US east coast. I like Sonic, Video Game Collecting, and especially general trans and queer experience discussion! Also Goth in progress%

(Dm for Discord)

Thx! 🏳️‍⚧️

Do yall have any comfort creators that are trans i need new people to watch lol. :3

So I'm 15, transmasc and considering coming out to my mum.

I know she'll be supportive, like I'm not in any danger there but I'm still scared.

I guess I'm worried it'll change our relationship, we haven't always been close, but we are now and I'm really scared telling her will mess up everything again or make it awkward or something.

The other problem is she really hates men. Like fair enough, the men she dates are all fucking chuds but she's like super feminist and I'm worried having a son will make her sad.

But on the other hand if i tell her I can probably get like boxers, packers and a binder and shit wich would be nice and plus I wanna go on T when I'm older so I'm gonna have to tell her at some point.

Any advice? Like on how to make it less awkward? Should I wait? Idk guys

I need to come out as trans fem for my own mental wellbeing because I have GAD(Generalized Anxiety Disorder) and my brain is very nervous

So basically I’m transfem but I’m only out to my mum and people online, but I’m going to a wedding tomorrow for my uncle and aunt. My uncle says “wear what you want” because he knows about my sensory issues with suits.. but he doesn’t know I’m transfem. My mum did buy me a dress in case I want to wear it tomorrow, and I do think it’s really pretty. I wanna wear it, but I’m not sure how the people around me will take it. I still have short hair and don’t really pass so I’m not sure what they’d think. Plus, I’m only 15. Do you think I’m overthinking this and should just wear the dress even though I don’t wanna come out to all of them yet?

I’m going to go all in, and I don’t know if I’m making the right choice. I’m confident in my identity, but my plan might be a bit too sudden.

I’ve typed up multiple pages of letters covered in explanations of transness for my parents. I’m going to give them the pages and talk to them tomorrow, and I’ll use she/her and my new name at school, which starts in a week.

I feel like this is good, but I fear that I’ll be alienated from all my social groups, cut off from my relatives, I’m afraid.

I still will give them the letters, at least I hope, but I’m scared that I will hesitate too long.

Do any of you have any tips for how to proceed?

i live in the uk :)