r/transteens

I am looking for friends as I try to explore my identity and find out what’s best for me. Preferably MTF :3

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I go by he/him strictly. I'm a very binary trans man and I'm in stealth when possible because I pass fairly well. I hate it when they/them pronouns are used on me (unless the person using them doesn't know better) because to me that tells me more that people are uncomfortable viewing me as a boy than respecting me.

So many people do this and it's so awkward. "This is name. They love to do xyz and have an interest in blah blah blah, and they blah blah." Bro my pronouns are he/him stop complicating things. It's always so embarrassing too.

If I tell them I actually go by he/him and not they/them, they look at me, basically say "..." and use my pronouns once. Lol it's a little funny but also infuriating.

The worst part is that most of the people who do this are nonbinary and I respect their pronouns. I'm so tempted to pull the "she/her" card but that'd just make me an asshole and I like to respect people.

I'm looking at binder recommendations because I can't use tape anymore, but I'm not sure what to get because I get extremely dysphoric around my chest - any recommendations?

Preferebly AU or NZ based

Hi i am Hedda ( bi femboy) and i soooooooooo much hate being male. you always have to be "Masculine" and "Dominant" and like sports cars and trucks. Even if you dont like masculine things and like stuff like nailpolish, Long hair, Dolls, Ect. You have to like things that you dont. and your stuck in a body that dont feel yours. And i dont know what to do cause idk about being trans it just seams like a big leap over being just a femboy. Like you can like sports cars and stuff totaly fine but if you like feminine things people say like "Thats to "Girly" you cant like that" Or "Man up and become a real man insted of a girl". And i am having a hard time trying to fit in with people cause i am letting this feeling be stuck in me forever. And also summer is here and i want to go swimming but i have to wear swimming shorts and stuff that make me dysphoric but i am to scared to speak up. so there anyone who can relate to this? and if so please give me suggestions on what to do

Im 13 and have identified as ftm since 2023. I need to come out and I dont know how id do it, my mom and a few on her side of the family are sort of accepting but everyone else is just homophobic and insanely conservative (on both sides..) my father is the one im scared the most to come out to since he alr has bad feelings against me for dressing masculine. I just really want to get on puberty blockers so this dysphoria stops for a bit. Im thinking I might send my mom a thing saying "hey mom im trans" with some other shit but idk. If anyone has tips please help

i was thinking this morning and looked at a calendar and realised its been 226 days since i came out to my parents. in that time ive been called my preferred name once by either of them. ive asked them for help with starting to transition and theyve done nothing except from make me feel less like i have a family. i hate it so much i just want to be a girl and be happy and if they helped me i could be there by now but instead they just say theyre 'supportive' and then do nothing to support me

I'm a teenage trans man, and my mother found my K-tape and confronted me about binding. We've had a lot of fights around my sexuality, as I originally identified as a lesbian, but now I think I'm a trans man. I had no intent to come out, but I wasn't able to deny it.

She said that my friends are influencing me, as we are all part of the community and that I am a bad person for lying about it, as I never told them I was trans. I was gender-fluid for about a year, but after a toxic break-up, I realised I was a guy. She said, "You don’t explore gender; you are what you are."

I tried explaining that I'm just trying out new things (different name, he/him pronouns, binding, etc), but she didn't love my response. She's now being distant and snapping at everyone in my house.

Has anyone got any experiences with this?

I just turned 13 today on the 4th of July,2026. I like it when people call me she/her, which is the opposite gender. I want to be a woman. I like feminine things. I buy dresses and skirts and wear them when I’m home alone. I wear earrings. I wear feminine things. I have long hair. I want a higher voice. I want to wear a dress or a skirt in public but I can’t. I want to do so much that I scant. I have 2 friends. One of them is transphobic. I feel like everyday I want to be a woman more and more. I have felt this way since I was 9. I don’t know what to do or what to ask.

Im gonna start by saying im male, 18, and i have no experience in dating or sexual activities, i haven't even kissed before, im a total virgin. i share a room with my brother (18), and have a sister (14) and both my mom/dad are supportive, but im still closeted

I first started liking guys when I came across a femboy/ trans people online at 13, then i realised i wasnt really attracted to girls, and was somewhat jealous or interested in them. Ive always spent my earlier life around girls though.

at 15 i spent more time looking into femboys, exploring cute guys, not sexually but like how they look. Ive only recently at the start of this year bought my own clothes and dressed up as a girl for the 1st time.

when i dressed up for the first time i cried, i was still hairy, only wore a skirt and thigh highs, but i was happy. i could only be dressed up for like 20 mins but it was perfect, i think.

i dont get much time to explore dressing up, and i hide my clothes behind bags.

over time i baught another skirt, more thigh highs, skirts, arm warmers and a cute cat crop top. I started shaving weekly to and love the feeling .i like looking at the pics i take of me when im dressed up, and eventually i came out to my younger sister (14) over text, i told her i was gay and maybe trans, she kinda fixated on the gay part and i think she forgot the trans part and i cant bring myself to remind her yet, shes supportive tho.

recently ive just been thinking about myself, i know i dont like women sexually but i think i could love women in a relationship, but ik i could both love and sexually connect with guys, so idk if im gay lol.

I havent had much time to dress up and probably have only like 2 times in the past 3 months, idk if i want to be a girl or like the idea of being one.

I also feel constantly sad that not only do i have it easier than trans people cause of my supportive family, but im not able to come out cause of myself stopping me. but even if I came out idk what id come out as.

i keep saying to myself that my situation is safe and perfect, while others dont get that.

more recently ive given up on trying to feel girly, i havent shaved as often and given up on trying to find time to dress up, i want to figure out where i stand on my gender.

If you read this thx, idk what steps im going to take next but im sure ill figure it out.

what are some more obscure things that give u euphorIa? so basically i mean other than clothes, effects of t , and binders, i want the random crap, the niche maybe just u stuff

Hi, M16 (amab). I’ve recently come out to my closest peers that I’m in fact a trans girl, but I’m not sure when exactly the best time is to start hrt? Should I wait until I’m an adult, or is that not ideal? Help me out here.

Hello friends,

I’ve noticed a concerning number of posts seeking medical advice or similar guidance.

If you’re under 18, obtaining gender-affirming care without parental involvement is extremely challenging, almost impossible.

My suggestion is to excel in high school and avoid relying on your parents immediately after graduation.

I’m not transgender, but I’m very bisexual. Upon graduating from high school, I moved into an apartment near campus, which was funded by the full scholarship I received. My motivation was independence. As soon as I achieved it, I started taking PrEP, learned how to prepare for various situations (ifykyk), and gained knowledge about sexual health. However, this was only possible because I became independent. I obtained my own health insurance, paid my deductible, and then all subsequent expenses were covered.

Additionally, your body is incredibly complex. As we all know, the journey of understanding our gender identity and sexuality is intricate. However, this concept of complexity extends beyond sexuality and gender identity. Every human being has unique DNA. Even identical twins have different DNA due to environmental factors that cause DNA damage. DNA regulates every aspect of our bodies, and one of its functions is drug metabolism pathways. While hormones naturally exist in everyone’s body, the reason why some individuals appear masculine and others feminine is due to the unique way our bodies metabolize these hormones once they reach a synapse or receptor.

It’s crucial to rely on a healthcare provider to monitor your response to any gender-affirming therapy. Additionally, all patients undergoing pharmacological, surgical, or other gender-affirming treatments should seek psychological support to help them cope with the changes and unexpected developments that may arise.

So, please refrain from seeking opinions from others regarding medical matters. Consult a doctor regularly and be honest with them. Avoid requesting specific treatments; let them determine the appropriate course of action. Request referrals for specialists, but if they refuse or deem it unnecessary, respect their decision.

If you take away one thing from this, please stop asking people for their opinions on medical matters.

I am 19 (mtf) I haven’t came out yet to anyone. I don’t necessarily hate my body but I’ve wanted to be a girl and have felt like a girl since I was around 12-13 I have never told anyone before. I grew a beard when I was 16 I hate it but it always made me look masc so no one ever said anything, but it’s gotten to the point where I hate hiding this and acting masc constantly I just want some advice on maybe eventually coming out to my parents and siblings and also maybe how to get started transitioning.
Thanks for your help :)

For context I am 17 and I live with my mom older brother and grandma. They all are very set in gender roles/norms. A few weeks ago I went to a mental facility due to suicidal thoughts (I am better now) and my mom went on vacation with her fiancé in Nigeria. While I she was visiting me I remember her asking if there was anything I cant or didnt want to tell her and I said no. Regardless, I was hanging out with my partner (she doesnt know we're dating) and she told me how my mom went through my stuff a day after I went and found my skirt makeup and trans shirt pin and that after she gets home she's going to "talk to me". What do I do????...... I'm so anxious. I dont even know what to say to her.

when I was 6 I told my mom I think that I should’ve been born a boy. I’ve always liked more masculine stuff as long as I can remember clothes haircuts names etc. I’m currently 14. I recently came to the conclusion that I don’t want breasts. And while I don’t have much bottom dysphoria having yk doesn’t sound bad. The issue is I just struggle to see myself as and more than a boy. like me? A man or ever as a dad or like a grandpa?? All of that makes my head spin. being a grandma sounds much more safer and more comfy. Granted I think it is worth mentioning that I’ve had a rough experience with my grandpas while my grandmas have always been like the best people ever. Also i guess it does make sense that I struggle to see myself as a man lol considering im so young. I told my mom im not completely sure about my gender and she said that she’d support me and was super nice and im pretty sure my dads the same so i was blessed with parents that will help me try things like a binder or shorter hair out ya know? I thinks thats the next step but i wanted to see what yall think because my whole worldview is kinda being spun around due to realizing i kinda wish i was a boy. Oh and im also fairly sure I unfortunately have a pretty close minded idea of what a “man“ or a “dad” is so I don’t think that helps either. im stressed out and need advice from people who have themselves more figured out.

This girl that I’m “friends” with keeps calling me the T slur. And the f slur since I’m gay. She’s not trans, and in my opinion she has absolutely no place to be calling me It. I can’t speak up because I get too scared to speak up against something directed at me. Another one of my friends kept sharing glances when she was calling me it. It makes me really uncomfortable, and I really want her to sty but she’s the type to make a big deal about it, and say this I’m being to sensitive and it’s just a ‘joke’. It doesn’t feel like a joke, and I never took it as one. She’s not only directing at me, she’s directed it at other people who are trans in my school. I think it’s intentionally transphobic, which is horrible as one its wrong, and two, one of her closest ‘friends’ has a trans brother..

Do we think she’s a transphobe?

(MTF14 2mo E+spiro) So I've started HRT and it def works, chest sore in a matter of days and some growth after a month, mental changes, skin changes, the whole shabang. But, now I'm worried about weight.

I'm 5'11 155lbs, which seems to be all fair and normal, but those stats aren't the whole story. I'm skinny af. Ribs visible, my doc says my issue with stairs is cause I lack the protein for strong legs, I'm never hungry and eat little, many foods are just inedible to me (any sauce, many round and/or small foods, idk why) so on and so forth.

**I'm not sure if I'm harming feminization by being so skinny, and whether or not I should eat more, and especially how to actually get myself to eat more, as willpower isn't very reliable with diet changing.**

Part of me is worried about getting too fat an dI'm considering calorie counting to tune things more finely, but that goes from "attentive to diet" to "see a psychiatrist bruh" real quick so I'm trying to block off those thoughts.

So yeah, that's about it.

okay maybe I misread the situation, but yesterday I went to return this lotion (eos jasmine and peach…im a sucker for peach things - peach monster, peaches, peach scented things) and for context if you don’t know it, the lotion is in a pink bottle. anyways Im ftm and when returning it the guy said “too pink for you?” and maybe he just thought I was a tomboy, but I’m choosing to believe I was just passing well that day 🥹 it was a pretty nice outfit too, I had baggy carhart jeans on and a rockstar shirt (the energy drink). anyways hope y’all have a good week :)

i also just started driving (almost 16) and I DIDNT crash or make too many mistakes on the highway so I’m pretty glad about how it’s been going

THE POST TITLE, I HAVE WAITED SO FUCKING LONG AND ITS FINALLY OPVER I CAN ACTUALLY START TRANSITIONING LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOO RAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHH

THEYRE DOING SPIRO FIRST (starting tomorrow. they cantr directly give estrogen to me i aint 19 so i gotta go through one of their other providers... thanks pennsylvania) BUT I DONT GIVE A FUCK IM GONNA BE ON ESTROGERN BY AUGUST IM SO HAPPY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA