r/transteens

Well I have friends but like trans friends bc it’s hard to relate to cis ppl (Ftm17)

Hey I was thinking of making a reddit GC with ppl from the lgbt+ community or just ppl in general :)

-> 13 minimum and 17/18 max (for now)

Who wants to join ?

So I think I'm maybe trans, I like the idea of maybe being transfem or non-binary. But like I'm very unsure abt it. If anyone wants sum more infos feel free to ask :3

thanks for reading and for any advice given :3

I'm 14 years old and this is the second time I've tried coming out to my mom. The thing is my mom is a very traditional person when it comes to her view. Considering the fact that shes a christian (specifically catholic) and from Cameroon (not a very LGBT+ friendly place), I'm having a hard time trying to get her to understand how I feel. I also do struggle with even saying the word transgender and anything related to that so this makes things 1000x times hard. If there are any resources I can direct her towards then please to tell.

I have spent my whole life identifying as some form of trans under the umbrella. From nonbinary to genderfluid to demi-boy. I have always been this way. I recently got out of a bad home suitation that led me to live in a small town with very closed minded people. This made me have to dress a lot more feminine and present myself as more femme. Recently, it’s occurred to me that my femininity has never really felt like a home to me, more like a costume or performance to be well-liked in my
communities. I’ve always been considered “attractive” when I presented in a hyperfeminine way and was ultimately treated more kindly. But, I really do believe I was meant to be a man, or at the very least more ambiguous in my presentation. Also, I always have always been accepted and identified as sapphic and am scared to lose that community I built here. All of this to say, I want to transition. I’ve always wanted this and it feels good to say. I just don’t know where to begin. Advice on steps would be really appreciated, because I am an autistic guy and the lack of actual steps to follow is overwhelming.

I'd never disrespect another trans person in real life, I will always respect pronouns and names, but. Every day I find myself somewhat agreeing with transphobes, moving closer and the closer to the opinion that trans people are better off dead. I don't really believe it, I don't think my trans friends are stupid or better off dead, but I can't help thinking it. I see transphobic online and I think it's justified. I hate that I think these things, and again, I don't really believe them, and I certainly don't believe them in the context of real life, but I can really see how repression leads to intense hatred. I think I'm aware of enough that all this hatred will remain self contained, but man I really wish I wasn't so hateful. I feel like a horrible person idk. Idk if this is against the rules but I yeah that's how I feel I guess.

So I recently came out as transgender to my mother (13 FtM) and I have to say, the experience was awful. I had been hinting it for the past two or three months and finally decided to come out. Made a presentation, did the whole "what is a transgender, what is dysphoria?" thing, told her about how I felt and why I wanted to socially transition (getting the right pronouns used).

It went horrible.

For context, throughout the whole presentation my mom kept trying to guilt-trip me by saying things like "But I only gave birth to you because I wanted a girl child", "I bet you're only doing this to be more like your older brother" and "But you look so pretty as a girl."

Finally, I was so done with her obvious boredom and stormed out after about thirty minutes of trying to explain how I felt and her replying with "It's just a phase" and "Nobody in the society is going to use your pronouns/ use your new name (because it isn't inherently cultural).

I think the worst part was when she used my new name "Ethan" to mock me and "placate me".

Later, I asked her if she was going to be supportive or not and asked for a yes/no answer to which she just told me that "I was being overdramatic and I was spoiling the mood as always". Now I'm stuck because my mom keeps trying to distract me from the fact I came out as transgender by doing things like buying me stuff, acting kind towards me and so on (while using the wrong pronouns).

I am so done with trying to tell my mother or my older brother how I feel because they both think it's not that big of a deal and that it's just another "phase" of mine.

Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with parents that aren't actually bad but disregard their pronouns and are transphobic?

(Thank you for reading my huge vent post, by the way, appreciate it.)

I get euphoria from being in a bra and from being hairless

Haiii my name's Felicia! I'm 15mtf and I want to make some more friends.
I have a multitude of hobbies and I promise I don't bite. :3

Hiii :3 Yesterday i made a post saying that i was going to come out to my girlfriend. I did come out but i was really scared so i did it over message and i kept overthinking it but in the end it was okay. I'm ssosososossooso happy because she accepted it and now i feel so much more kind of free. :3 🩷🩷🩷

I've been realizing that I'm almost definitely Trans over the past few months, so, now that im comfortable with my pronouns (she/they) I decided to try and change my name, at least within my friend group and stuff. After like two weeks of deciding, I picked Evergreen. The only problems are that A) it feels kinda like a mouthful sometimes, though I tell people to shorten it to Eve or Ev B ), It still feels somewhat unnatural, but I think that could be solved if I could fix C), nobody actually calls me it. I have exactly one friend that remembers to do it IRL and one who can sometimes remember it over the internet. I know all of these people online, have my DC (how we communicate) set to literally have my chosen name, yet like nobody tires. I even try to like nudge them in the right way every now and again, but that hardly works.

I dunno, Its just... I like my chosen name, but its not similar to my birth name like so many of the trans people I personally know, so it takes longer for both me and the people around me to get used to it. It lust sucks. That along with all of the other sources of dysmorphia feels like its starting to just slowly wither at me. it just sucks. all the goddamn time.

I'm hoping to try and start presenting more fem over this summer and get my teachers to start calling me the right name & pronouns next schoolyear, since I'm changing buildings, but idk, especially I live in one of the reddest/antitrans states in the US. To the point where it was one of the four states to immediately fold when the orange starting telling the states to make lists of trans kids.

Did anyone else have struggles with their chosen name originally? Did it get better with people actually using it, or did you end up changing it again?

mandatory :3 of whimsy, hope, and euphoria

istg i just wanna be a normal fucking girl or a normal fucking boy why do i have to feel like a girl but be a boy why can't i live somewhere that isn't broadly transphobic (UK) why can't i just be fucking normal why do i have to be like this.

i'm just really angry tbh. a whole bunch of people (teachers and students) keep deadnaming me at college either because they don't give a fuck or they're actively doing it to be hurtful and i just can't do shit about it. every day i wanna break down and start crying but i just can't. my mom's just got out of hospital and i'm scared about her, i can't talk to my parents about being trans, i think i have asthma, i'm about to go into my mocks and i just can't cope with this shit

sorry if this is rambling or illegible. i just need to get all this out

What is a good binder on a budget? I had a gc2b binder but I've grown out of it and it's literally falling apart. I don't want to spend a ton of money just to grow out of it again. Does anyone have any recommendations? I would prefer to not spend any more than 30$ but I understand if that won't work

So I mtf 16 saw a tiktok about bad pref name choices and I got worried so I'm gonna ask.

Is Odessa (my pref name) good or kinda stupid

MY BINDER CAME, I'M SO HAPPY!!! I LOOK SO GOOD WITH IT ON AHHGGG!!!

I got a Spectrum Outfitters Binder and its AMAZING!

Gonna take a bit to get used to wearing it because I usually hate wearing tight things, but its even waterproof!

Hiii :3

I've been thinking alot more about coming out recently and i kind of tested the waters with my girlfriend yesterday by asking is she'd still love me if i was a girl and she said she'd be lesbian for me, and that made me really happy. I'm going to fully come out to her over message later today, but i just wanted to know if anyone has any advice from when they came out(if you have).

I'll make another post later today to say how it goes :3 🩷🩷

I use she her pronouns while paying basketball and it made me soo happy and thats how i found out

the names are

Cameron

Ian

Liam

Marvin

now I will describe myself so y'all can tell me which name suit me better. so physically I'm pretty short, blond bleached buzz and blue eyes, I like math, monster and going on the skateboard, I listen to music like queen, ACDC, metallica, radiohead and eminem. I sometimes drink, and smoke once a week. I play rugby too

I really recently have started feeling a massive hate for those terms

Like I don't want the word "male" anywhere near me 😭😭😭😭

I just call myself "tf" for trans female