r/personalitydisorders

Okay to start off i am not diagnosed with anything. I have never seen a psychiatrist. i have pretty bad anxiety though. I worry about every single thing for the past few months i have been worrying about whether or not i’m normal personality wise.

I don’t have my own personality. How i act is based on who i spend the most time with. Which i know is normal to some extent but i wanna know if the way im doing it is normal. I want to clarify im not asking you for a diagnosis just wondering if it’s concerning enough to see a psychiatrist!!

I base how i act on other people. Like who ever I’m spending the most time with well i suddenly have their entire personality. For the most part my morals stay intact but they are able to have some influence on them. I pick up their speaking patterns. I start unconsciously analyzing everything about them (the way they walk, the way they feel and their interests) and i take them. Im like a parrot who just copy’s everyone around them.

I don’t have my own personality. My personality changes every other month and not just like i have different slang but like i act almost completely different. If im around someone who’s more angry then i become more angry. If I’m around someone who’s more rude or arrogant i become more rude and arrogant. If im around someone who’s kind then im more kind. If im around someone who’s more sensitive then im more sensitive.

I analyze the way they think and then i start thinking like them too. So is this normal? Am i just overthinking something that’s completely normal or should i see a psychiatrist lmk!!

My son is 24 years old and told me he was diagnosed with ASPD a couple of years ago. The issue is he lost his job Nov 2025 and also lost his girlfriend. At that time he was using weed and drinking heavily. He decided to quit drinking and according to him was fired due to his temper. He has been unemployed since and his mental health is rapidly going downhill. He has been doing uber eats to have money to eat and gas, but I have been paying the rest of his bills including rent. He clearly has anxiety and depression. I have suggested seeing a doctor, even helping him to make an appointment if he needs it. He tells me no, that there is no help for him. I've expressed I know there isn't a cure, but medications can help. He barely cleans his house, won't take the trash out because "then his neighbors will see him take a bunch of trash out." Which makes no sense; just take a bag out a day. He seems a bit paraoid as well. He was offered a warehouse job which he turned down because he "can't stand around all day without feeling back pain and a sense of impending doom." Said when he was there for a few hours in line to apply, his heart rate was through the roof, and due to his ADHD its like mental gymnatics being stationary like a machine doing the same thing all day. He has worked there before and knows what it's like. He's losing weight and looks like he's striveling up. I've asked him to let me come clean his house, because I think having a dirty house takes a mental toll and he won't let me. I've offered so much help and the only help he takes is financial. I don't know how much longer I can do this, I'm just going more in debt. He could move in with me, but I fear that will really ruin our relationship. He will hate living here, and we won't like it. He has had his own place for 4 years and I can't imagine how hard it would be living under someone elses tight rules. My thoughts are that whatever he has been doing, clearly isn't working, and he just needs to get any job and he will start to feel better. He has been unemployed before, and he always seems happier when he has a job. In the very least he fakes being happy better. I understand that happines can be subjective.

Hey im a female , 20 years old.
I got diagnosed with conduct disorder around 14-15, the diagnoses is still there and talked about.

From what i know its only supposed to be for people under 18? So im having some confusion as i thought it either would be removed , or changed with aspd after.

Could anyone give me some clairty?

I have an emergency psych appointment tomorrow and it’s currently 10:50pm so I don’t know if I can get advice or some perspectives before then but I figured I’d try. I’ve had BPD diagnosed since I was 18 and bipolar 2 and ADHD since I was 15. I’ve tired medication almost all of them. You name it (SSRI and atypical antipsychotic) and I’ve tired them. I also want to say I genuinely gave them a good chance and took them for at least 6 months at the max dose.

I am also way better at writing my feelings than saying them so I wrote a whole thing that I will share with my psychiatrist tomorrow. After you’ve read it if there is any meds you’ve tired and how they’ve made you feel I’m maybe even hoping to try SNRI’s. I get extremely exhausted because I care about everything all at once always. From global issues to how the person next to me preserves me and I need a lot of attention and I avoid relationships at all costs bc I spiral very severely into my depression. Also sorry for the spelling and grammar mistakes I was crying while writing it out. (I also mostly talk about my depression and suicidal ideation so TW)

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So here’s the thing. I feel like when I go to therapy and when I see a doctor my symptoms aren’t taken seriously. Maybe it’s partly my fault for not always being able to explain or unwilling to explain I guess. I feel a lot of shame and I feel it even more now because I’ve been self harming again and I mean the last time was in October so it’s not like it’s been super long but I just feel silly because I’m 27 and I have the same coping skills of an 11 year old (me). I make myself feel better about it because harm reduction is key and self harming is better than suicide. I think I’m not taken as seriously because I hold down a job, because I finished my degree, because I do things to function.

I am the daughter of immigrants. I’ve never known different. I can’t not work I can’t not function that isn’t an option. It doesn’t compute in my brain. So instead I do the things I’m supposed to do. Because they’re expectations and I’ve always done what’s expected of me even if it took me longer. What is harder to see is When I pray that I get hit on the way to work and I die. When I don’t shower for weeks I use dry shampoo and change my clothes every very day. When I don’t eat or eat too much. When I don’t brush my teeth because in my brain that’s my way of saying I’m dying inside. When I hurt myself to keep going. When I drink 3 bottles of wine because it’s “socially acceptable” and cutting isn’t. When I crave the high I used to have in high school when I did pills.

My old therapist because I no longer see her basically said that my depression isn’t so bad and that it’s mainly my BPD mood swings that are affecting me because I can do things and it’s mostly habits. That it’s these habits that’s I’ve just done my whole life. That I just needed to learn new ones. Right but I want to kill myself 98% of the year. I feel this heaviness that anchors my body to my bed or the floor or just the spot I am in and I can’t move. Because moving feels like pulling out my teeth one by one. If I go to work that’s all I can do in one day. I can’t go to the store I can’t cook dinner. I can’t do another thing because it feels like I’m pulling myself apart trying to function. I can’t do or be around people because any change of tone or facial expression or look makes me feel like I’m being seen for the complete crazy person I am. And on meds it’s 80-90% of the time. I miss days off of work every week because sometimes I think if I drive to work will I run my car Into a wall? If I go today and I do something wrong, or my boss gives me a correction. Or if I upset my coworkers and suddenly my brain convinced me I’m stupid and I don’t know how to do a single thing, will I kill myself?

Recently my wanting to die has been closer to 98% and I don’t want to kill myself because I know there are moments worth living for I’ve had them. But they’re always short lived and every time I spend time with family or friends and I leave them I feel so empty and alone. I just cannot continue my life wanting to die 98% of the time. And I’ve taken the SSRI’s and I’ve taken the anti psychotics and my stimulants. Every time I said I felt good I meant I just didn’t want to die 98% of the time. Because good is subjective. Good might mean I shower everyday and I do things more than once a day or I can do everything. But good for me meant I wasn’t constantly suicidal. But I’ve always self harmed on my meds and I’d don’t want to share that because of the shame. I still can’t eat or eat to much. I still can’t regulate my emotions. I still couldn’t get out of bed everyday. I still couldn’t walk my dog everyday let alone twice a day. I still felt heaviness in my body everyday.

I want to be able to take my dog for a walks. I want to be able to do more than one thing a day. I want to be able to finish another degree. I want to do so many things. But I also deeply 80-98% of the time want to die. So I need help.

And on Friday I had a mental breakdown because I really wanted to die. Usually when I cry my dog comes and comforts me. So I got up and I started calling for him. And he wouldn’t come and he didn’t make a noise. And then I kind of lost touch with reality I think because I got very paranoid and I thought “is my dog even real?” “Did I make up all these memories?” “Maybe it’s not that he didn’t want to sleep in my room maybe he doesn’t exist.” This went on for 10 minutes and then I remembered he’s my lock screen and once I saw him I realized I wasn’t imagining anything and I found him under my parent’s bed. “

Couldn’t figure out what tag to use.

Essentially, the title. And if it is common, why?

I've only had one session with my new therapist so far, and in it she expressed that as long as there's no active plans to harm myself or others she won't share it. I shared I've had homicidal ideation since a child but stopped sharing it to professionals after two involuntary inpatients as a teenager. She kept her word since I have no plans to act on it, but I'm unsure if it applies to commited crimes like animal cruelty/breaking and entering etc. Certain situations led to it's own issues and I'm aiming to have an unjudgemental outlet, but find it impossible to explain the situation without sharing the "why." Do they report animal abuse/crime?

do you guys have any advice for me i have bipolar disorder and bpd traits (we both are diagnosed) and my bf has aspd i really wana make this work because i love him i just wana know how im supposed to behave and what are certain triggers for people with aspd because he is not much of a talker and doesn’t tell me alot of stuff would love any advice

i have conduct disorder and every person i run into and try to make friends with turn out to be a full raging nazi or racist. can i be friends with people that arent absolute dumbasses?

Hey People,

Need a bit of help from folks who have been diagnosed and know more about the topic. About 1.5 years ago I was tested and diagnosed as having ADHD and borderline ASD traits. So basically, Audhd and my treatment has been shaped accordingly. I have recently started seeing a new therapist and she also gave me a few tests. Her diagnosis is that I was misdiagnosed as autistic because I can express my emotions and I had friends as a kid. She is saying that it is borderline personality disorder. I read a little about BPD and it does not seem to match my symptoms. So I am really confused. Can anyone share any advice here?