u/Motor_Republic_2732

Apparently my friend from a Singapore polytechnic has gotten herself into a pretty serious disciplinary situation. She has two Level 3 offences:

1. The first was accidentally bringing her phone into an exam hall.
2. he second involved an incident during her internship/work attachment involving company property (keeping the details vague for privacy).

She’s now really worried that she might be dismissed from the polytechnic. I know nobody here can predict the outcome, but does having two Level 3 offences usually mean dismissal, or is it still decided based on the severity and circumstances of each case?

What should she do at this point? Should she proactively speak to her lecturer/counsellor/disciplinary staff and explain the circumstances?

There’s also another concern. She has been struggling with her mental health since Year 1 and has previously mentioned having thoughts of self-harm. She tends to be very negative and seems to be under a lot of pressure right now, so I’m worried that this disciplinary situation could make things worse for her.

If anyone has been through a similar disciplinary process in poly, what would you recommend she do now?

I’m starting to wonder whether I might have antisocial personality disorder, because I’ve noticed a pattern of behaviour going back to childhood. I’m not trying to self-diagnose, but I’d appreciate honest advice about what I should do.

I grew up without parents and was often mocked by classmates and sometimes teachers. Around age 9, I started running away from school, shoplifting, skipping CCA and my grades began dropping.

In secondary school, I became very attached to some of my teachers and sometimes treated them almost like mother figures. I would text them excessively because I think I was looking for the parental affection I didn't have.

In poly, I became obsessed with being a “perfect student.” I cheated in exams because I was afraid of getting bad grades.

Recently, during my internship, I created an app largely by myself, but I felt that my friend was being given the credit. I became extremely angry and deleted the app . I understand now that it was wrong because it was company property. What worries me most is that I don't feel as much remorse as I think I should.

I’ve also lied and made other bad decisions throughout my life. When I read about ASPD symptoms such as lying, disregarding rules, irresponsibility, lack of remorse and harming others, I see some similarities.

I know some of my behaviour has been wrong, and I’m not trying to excuse it because of my childhood. I’m just genuinely confused about why I keep behaving this way and whether something is wrong with me.

For anyone who has experienced something similar: what should I do? Should I see a psychiatrist or psychologist and be assessed? Is it possible to change these behaviours?