r/teenrelationships

So I was dating a girl when I was 14 and dated her 1 year. we we're very close tbh we used to go to school together by walking we had our own friend circle of 8 people and we used to go tution where only we both used to go no other boy or girl came to that place. Now the things happened after our exam i shifted to different city because of higher studies cuz that city wasn't that developed and then we got in long distance relationship and it was the time of winters 3rd of january the day just after she said my friends told me that she committed suicide and the reason was she was pregenent and it was all over the city news 16 year girl got pregnant and committed suicide and then I asked from whom she was pregent they told me my bestfriend after that I tried to contact him he also was shifted to another city for his studies so I thought noting would've gone wrong maybe his hostel doesn't allowed phone but when the sooner the holidays came and i was going to his house to ask how's he doing before reaching to his house I saw one of my friend I asked him do you need any help he asked where I was going i replied I'm going at my best friend's house he told me he committed suicide I asked when he told he didn't knew maybe 10 days after her.. suicide and I was like shattered at that point.

Now I'm 17 around 2 years have passed so far and I haven't dated after that. Now there's a girl I talk to we both wants to be in relationship but whenever she talks to another guy or anyone I feel very jealous and I'm not able to process that thing again I've developed very worse trust issues and insecurites I'm like isolating her completely like no male friends. I don't think I'll ever be able to date somebody.

my boyfriend (13M) and i (13F) have been in this relationship for like about 3-4 months. and yeah im pretty young. but literally i’ve given him everything he has ever asked for. i’ve given him 50 dollars (because he asked) + bought him snacks every day for 3 months. (and 25 dollar robux) but i don’t know. i feel like he doesn’t do enough effort. it’s fine if he doesn’t buy me gifts and stuff. i don’t really care about that. (i kinda do but whatever) it’s just that i always text him first and not to mention him only dating me because he felt bad and didn’t wanna reject me. (he told me that he started having feelings for me too after a few weeks of dating) what should i do..im sorry i didn’t really give enough reasonings.

To get it out of the way: I'm young, as the title of this post indicates, and frankly inexperienced wrt relationships. Probably, the smart thing to do is to accept that I have plenty of time to find someone else, and treat it like a break-up. Probably, I'll come off as naive (because I probably am), but I just needed to type this out, I guess, and maybe have someone tell me if I'm being insane.

This story could probably be a rom-com, or a good not-meant-to-be romance -- we're both (or, she's really good; I just dabble) writers, so go figure. Perhaps, ten years down the line, I'll write something and dedicate it to her.

Note: I am in the UK. So, without further ado:

Maybe three months ago, I met a girl on reddit. Three months isn't a long time, I know, but for one it's the longest serious -- if you can call a relationship at our age serious (id like to think so, but I know some people disagree) -- relationship I've been in; and, for another -- I dunno, it feels like I've known her forever. That seems a theme in our relationship: after even just the first few days of speaking to her we felt as though we'd been friends for weeks, she'd changed her phone password to my birthday, and in general we hit it off to an immense degree. I loved the fire and wit of her mind -- I don't know what she saw in me, but evidently she liked me very much too.

There was a hitch, though: having met her through reddit, I mostly fell in love, if you'll excuse the cheese, with a disembodied voice. I figured I needed time to fall in love with her body too, and in that regard I was right -- I have had time now -- but rather stupidly I said that out loud and as one might expect there was some turmoil in our relationship. But, that passed, and I met her in person in late August, our relationship having finally found its footing. I even went so far as to on several occasions make the mistake of imagining what raising a family with her would be like -- not seriously, of course, and certainly I was under no delusions it was likely, but I hope I have managed to impress upon you the degree to which I felt -- as I told her in no uncertain terms some eleven hours after we'd first met in a r/gcse comment section -- she was perfect for me.

I do still feel that way, of course, and it goes without saying that I love her very much. But the author of our story, evidently having decided that enough time had passed since the last major challenge to our relationship so as to risk viewer retention, has now created another: due to issues outside her control, which I will not go into here, she has to return to India, where she (or, rather, her parents intend for her to) will complete her education at least until the undergraduate level.

Given I am posting here, I neither want to nor intend to break it off. I do truly believe I will not find someone like her again, for better or for worse. On the other hand, she is now going to be preparing for NEETs with half the time a normal candidate will have, so will -- as she has warned me -- have little time to talk to me, or eat, or sleep, or do anything. On a similar magically-appearing third hand, it will be at least two years until I can see her again -- there is no chance her parents will agree to let me/her visit, costs aside (they, being stereotypical Indian parents, disapprove of her having any contact with boys); and even calls will be few and far between (when they are out of the house, and we're both not busy).

So, um,

Thoughts? Am I being stupid? Does anyone have any encouraging/reassuring/motivating words/stories/examples? Any general advice would be appreciated too!

I am an 8th grader in middle school and I have a crush on this one girl who goes to the same school as me. I am not going to give to many details, but I don’t throw no she is in any relationships, and I have never been in one either. I have 1 class with her and I don’t know if I should try to talk to her or not. For context, I am 5’8 and do a couple sports. Reddit what should I do? (first time posting btw)

Edit - I don’t really know how to start talking to her sense I don’t really have any female friends and I don’t want to make it awkward between us/her friends by just asking for her number straight up, and I’m not sure when/what to text her even if I get to that stage.

I’m in high school and I have this guy friend that likes me for 4 yrs now, he says that it’s his first time to like someone for this long because he usually falls out of love very quickly with his other crushes but for some reason with me he keeps relapsing. I don’t really know what to do with him bc I really like talking to him but I’m 100% sure tho that I only like him platonically. The other thing is he’s really good towards me like my friends say that he always listen when I’m talking, he speaks more softly to me than towards others , he does a lot of things for me even when i don’t even tell him to do it and he’s really careful and considerate about what I feel and think it’s like he’s has a soft spot towards me and mind you btw he used to be a bully and would scream at others a lot. I used to have feelings for him back then too but I fell out of love pretty quickly and now I don’t like anyone anymore and also, he is my type but I just don’t like him that way for some reason. What do I do honestly??my friends just say that i should give him a chance but I don’t want anything to do with situations like this if I’m still in school and I don’t want him to wait for my answer either..

This would be my first reddit post so apologies if it's a little wonky. For context, both me and my ex, I will call him Jack, are still in high school. I have known him since elementary, but I haven't had the chance to actually get to know him until about a year ago. A mutual friend introduced us and we started dating a couple months ago, but during this time I felt a horrible sense of inferiority, like I wasn't good enough for him. He never did anything that made me feel like this. He's a big guy but he's so nice (almost too nice), cute, funny, so smart, and I realized that I wasn't ready for a relationship. It sounds kinda cliché, but I knew I had to like myself better before I could like anyone else. The breakup wasn't hard, he said he would wait for me and we are still pretty good friends. That was a couple months ago, and while I still don't feel 100% about myself, I'm starting to miss him more and more. I invited him to a get-together with some of our friends, and I was reminded about how amazing of a guy he is. Another factor in the breakup was that I still live with my parents and I'm technically not allowed to have a boyfriend. Whenever we hung out it would be at school or behind my parents' back. I have scheduled a driver's test in a couple months, so I won't have to rely on my parents taking me places and possibly finding a boyfriend. Now here's my dilema, while I'm working on myself and waiting for my test, I want to hang out with him even more. I want to rebuild our relationship, but I don't know if that's fair to him. I still think that he can do better than me and I don't want to lead him on too early where I am still not ready. And if we did start dating, I wouldn't know how to act. I feel like a boring person and I'm afraid that if we were alone I wouldn't be interesting (something I've thought about since we were together the first time). I'm not sure if it's selfish of me to hold onto him like this, what can I do?