r/teenrelationships

so im 15, she's too, we've been really close friends for almost 3 years ,she once told me she used ti have crush on me when we first met, but she didn't propose me because I had told her that I had crush on her,later she gota bf but during their relationship she literally used to interlock hands with me in class under desk, always wanted to sit me , msg me on insta and send reels, later they broke up, around thid time, she started getting distant from me and I complained why she was tpaking to other guys and enjoyed more than me and why's she's suddenly distant from me, I kept reacting this quitea few times and like it got messed up, at hurts she used to comfort me but then she started saying im too possessive and it's too much, so I and to apologize at the end but nowadays she doesn't hold hands with me or doesn't sit with me unless I suggest myself, I proposed her almost 3 times atp, fris time ok , second time she said maybe in the future, 3rd time I told my feelings separately when she said she got into talking stage with other guy, rn it's totally messed up, I apologised to her abt everything and she said she needs some space to go back to our old friendship,,,,... But I personally doubt if that will happen again, can someone tell me if I can go bakc to that close friendship we had at start?atp it feels like she is more comfortable with other than me who she considers as "bestie"i asked her quitea few times to talk abt it to me honestly and she said everything is fine, guys can someone really help me out, I feel suicidal for the first time and my physical helath is totally wrecked due to this incident,I haven't properly ate for almost a week, but I didn't told her or else it would seem like im blaming her

so Im unsure if this qualifies as teenage relationship but I had a huge crush on a girl in my class. she was best friends with my best friend so we knew eachother through him. I tried to build something up over time (mainly giving her candy and food. she liked it) and getting to know her bette. I later learned after my other friend told her about my crush that the feelings were mutual and I got excite. I had never been in a relationship or had someone like me back before but really wanted one so I was ecstatic. she later said she didn’t want to date right now which I respected and we were just flirty friend, but today I asked her if this was ever going to turn into somethin, and she said she doesn’t really like anyone right now and doesn’t want to date. I said that was fine but I’m feeling a bit sad I think I just got my hopes too high and now I feel bad about feeling bad. I just need some advice rn while I try to move on from my first real rejection

I(15 F)have a junior(14 F)who told me she liked me.I found her beautiful ok so we started talking .Now,after around 2 months of us talking,she told me to end whatever we had at that time if we were only going to stay in the talking stage.And idk but i kind of panicked.Her friends also started telling me to propose to her.And i did.We dated for around 6 months. During the end of our 5th month,I realised I had started harbouring feelings for one of the boys(16 M) in my tuition.I knew what I felt was wrong but i couldn't deny it. I told my gf about this and that we should break up bcz by no means was I going to stay in a rlp where I knew I was not emotionally monogamous and also she did not deserve to be treated like। a choice. So we broke up. Did I do the right thing?

I’d like to hear some other peoples perspective on my situation, as I don’t have anyone else to talk to about it.

Me and my boyfriend and have been dating for 2 years now and we have been great. We always communicate to each other, he takes amazing care of me and is great to my family as well. I love him as a person and I’m hoping we live a happy life together. We rarely get into arguments or have any dilemmas with eachother, he is patient and understanding of my feelings and all of these other wonderful things. One thing about him is that he has a much higher sex drive than me, and is into more un vanilla things regarding intimacy. Since we are open with each other, he has informed me that he watches p**n occasionally. He told me he doesn’t watch the weird kind of p, but the kind that involves a lot of self discovering (either solo or couple) with different kinks he’s into. When he first told this to me, I felt a little conflicted, because in my morals, I feel like watching p**n in a relationship shouldn’t be done. But I’ve seen so many cases of partners not communicating this, or hiding it from their partner, which causes more issues. But knowing my boyfriend’s nature, he would never do anything to hurt me and has told this to me so many times. He has had this habit from a young age, and has admitted to an addiction to it. Though he tells me that after spending intimate time with me, he finds p**n less appealing. And if we haven’t seen eachother in a while, he says that those with similar traits to me within these videos makes the experience a lot better, because he thinks of the experience he gets with me. I feel insecure with him watching others online, but the reasons he is giving me seem quite valid and I’m not sure how to take it considering how much stigma with it. My boyfriend is always very respectful towards me during our intimacy, he never pushes me to do things I don’t want to, and he’s patient when I’m not in the mood to do things. He always attends to my needs first, and takes care of me during the whole experience. I just have these worries in my head with him watching others online, and I’m not sure if others are in the same experience where their partner has openly communicated this to them and they are a great partner, but it’s just something that weighs on the mind.

Can I get some advice?

Hey guys. Single teenager here. I just want advice on taking the right steps to finding a girl that likes me more than a friend, how to NOT scare them away haha, and how to appear attractive. I thought I found a girl who actually liked me but it turned out she didn't, although she was giving me the signs. At that point, I went into extreme depression for a couple months, but now, I'm sort of desperate. Please, help me haha.

So, I’m honestly having a hard time figuring out how to feel about writing this post.

I’ve (16F) been dating this guy (16M) for about a year, and he’s my (third?) boyfriend- none prior were serious) and my first kiss. I’m a bit nervous because I’m not sure if I love him. I think about him a lot, and I really enjoy being close to him and talking to him. He’s honestly the sweetest guy I’ve ever met and I love spending time with him.

But here’s the thing: I had my first kiss, and I didn’t feel anything at all. I don’t really know if I am supposed to?? After it, he hugged me, which I felt a little happy about. I’m not sure if it was just the pressure and nerves getting to me, but I also don’t have anything to compare it to. He had been hinting at it, and it did feel a little forced (his intentions were good).

I also can’t tell if it’s just because I’ve been having some mental issues lately, and I’m finding it hard to feel a lot of emotions (I’m getting help soon).

Any thoughts or help would be great! I’m really not sure how to tell. I don’t really know if this classifies as relationship advice or just in general guidance but any helps appreciated! 😭

Cultural Context & Background:
We live in Ukraine. Dating culture here is very different from the US—there is no casual "hookup/situationship" culture. When people date here, it’s about deep emotional connection and traditional values. Also, everyone here uses Telegram for communication (we use it for 24/7 live location tracking, pinning chats, and sending virtual gifts).
Part 1: The Perfect Foundation & The Shift (November to May)
We are college classmates (sophomores). To be completely honest, she wasn't always the quiet, innocent girl. During our freshman year, she lived in the dorms and definitely had a bit of a "party girl" phase. She dated a mutual classmate of ours and had another fling over the summer. But when our sophomore year started, it was like a switch flipped in her brain. She left the dorm life and the partying behind, settled down, and genuinely seemed like a girl who was looking for real happiness, stability, and a serious relationship. That’s when we started getting close in our friend group of four.
By January, there wasn't a single day we didn't talk. Our dynamic was incredibly warm and supportive, with absolutely zero arguments. We constantly listened to each other and always tried to get the best for one another. When she had a doctor's appointment because of jaw pain, I was looking for ointments for her. I drove her to her nail appointments and eyelash extensions just to spend more time with her. If one of us felt sick, the other instantly offered to come over and take care of them. When we went out, we would literally race to the credit card terminal because I refused to let her pay for everything.
She lived 30 km (about 18 miles) out of the city, but she would travel all that way in the freezing winter just to see me. We would walk each other home constantly—she would even walk me home when it was in the exact opposite direction of her own route, just so we could talk a little longer.
She was so attached that she added her FaceID to my phone, claimed my hoodie and sunglasses, and became a massive part of my daily life. She has a very toxic relationship with her mother (who is sick with a tumor), so I became her absolute safe space. We shared our 24/7 live locations on Telegram, sent each other virtual Telegram gifts, and she pinned my chat at the top.
The Climax & The Tension (June):
Everyone around us noticed the insane chemistry. There was this beautiful tension between us because we both clearly had deep feelings but were waiting for the right moment to confess. By early June, our physical contact was at its peak. I vividly remember us sitting together, watching a breathtaking sunset on the banks of the Dnipro River, just completely immersed in each other.
I had to leave town for a trip from June 11 to June 28. Before I left, I gave her a huge bouquet of her favorite peonies. While I was away, she took on a brutally insane work schedule to save up some money: 8:30 AM to 7:00 PM on weekdays, and 10:00 AM to 10:00 PM on weekends in a boiling hot kitchen.
Despite being physically exhausted to the bone, she texted me constantly from work. On June 19th, the tension broke, and we finally confessed our feelings. It was an absolute honeymoon phase. I woke up every morning to "I love you," and we swore how much we missed each other. She sent me TikToks saying "You are my most precious person" and literally texted me: "I am ready to go anywhere with you, anytime."
I was on top of the world. I thought I had found my person. But then, in the span of 48 hours, everything completely shattered.
Part 2: The Insane 48-Hour Switch-up & The Party
Everything was still absolutely fine on June 28th. But looking back, there was a tiny micro-interaction on June 26th that now feels like a red flag.
 June 26: She texted me: "Kitty, let's pick matching rings for your upcoming birthday." I replied 30 mins later because I was dealing with work and my mom’s birthday. During those 30 mins, she ignored my messages but I saw her texting someone else. When I finally said "Goodnight," she replied somewhat passively-aggressively: "Am I annoying you?" I reassured her, and everything went back to normal. We had a great conversation.
 June 27 & 28 (Daytime): Everything is perfect. She sends me her usual cute morning video messages ("circles" on Telegram) on her way to work. During the day on the 28th, my Telegram glitched and my live location disappeared. She immediately noticed and texted: "Where did your location go?" We both re-shared our 24/7 GPS trackers without any issues. Everything was completely fine.
Night of June 28 (The Turning Point):
Her 12-hour hot kitchen shift ends at 10:00 PM, and she goes straight to a coworker's birthday party. Important context: In Ukraine, we have a strict military curfew from midnight to 5:00 AM, meaning you legally cannot be on the streets.
 10:30 PM: I text her: "My poor chef, have a great rest! What time are you heading home?" — Ignored.
 Midnight: I noticed she restored our TikTok streak but didn't send a message. I text her on Telegram: "How are you guys doing?" — Ignored.
 4:00 AM: I wake up. I check Telegram. She is online and replying to someone else, but my messages are still ignored.
 5:00 AM: Curfew lifts. Her live location shows her finally leaving the party location and heading home. This means she stayed there all night.
 8:30 AM: She is already at her morning job. She is online, texting people, but hasn't sent me a single "Good morning" or explained her absence, which is extremely out of character.
June 29 (The Day we were supposed to go on a date):
I ordered flowers for our planned date.
 11:48 AM: I send a very warm, calm voice note: "Good morning, kitty! You're unusually quiet today, how was the party?" — Ignored.
 1:00 PM: I follow up with a minor college-related question (about signing some paperwork with our professor).
This is where she finally replies, and her reaction is completely unhinged. She attacks me for bringing up the college paperwork (creating a fake argument) and says: "You're so funny, trying to draw me a rest when I’m working."
And then, she sends a separate message:
"Babe. Something happened."
...AND INSTANTLY DELETES IT.
And send this: “Kitty, I feel bad”
I immediately ask: "Did something serious happen?” “Did I get you in trouble with the professor?"
An hour later, she replies: "No(for question about professor). Will you be mad if I ask to cancel our date and go home today?"
I stayed completely calm, supportive, and masculine: "Are you asking to go home right now? Of course, your well-being is the top priority. I won't force you. Just know I am always here for you, call or text me if you need anything."
She replied: "Thank you, Kitty😽."
And from that exact second... TOTAL, ABSOLUTE GHOSTING.
I canceled the flowers. During her breaks at work that day, I could see her constantly typing to someone else, but she completely shut me out. She ignored my TikToks, my stickers, everything.
Part 3: The Aftermath, My Reaction, and The "Ghosting" Reality (June 30 - Today, July 7)
(Disclaimer: I originally wrote this in Ukrainian and translated it, so if some phrases feel slightly off or if you need more details, please ask in the comments!)
After she canceled our date and I told her "I am always here for you, call or text me," there was absolute zero response. Nothing on Telegram, nothing on TikTok.
 June 30: She goes to work as usual. That evening, I texted her: "Hey bunny, I didn't bother you all day to let you breathe. Tell me what happened, is everything okay with you?" — Ignored. (Though I saw her typing to other people). Later that day, I restored our TikTok streak. It’s a micro-interaction, but it shows I’m still there.
 July 1: Total silence from both sides.
 July 2: I decided to try one last time. I sent her a long, warm voice message: "Bunny, I love you, I don't want to lose you. But what is happening right now is painful and confusing. I want to know what happened. Just let me know so I don't overthink. I'm always with you, love you, kisses."
She read it. She listened to it. ZERO response.
I nudged her on TikTok to keep our streak alive. When I opened her TikTok profile, I was shocked. She rarely reposts videos, but suddenly she had reposted like 4 to 6 videos. Later, she deleted most of them, leaving only two: one about coffee, and one meme about alcohol saying "What the f*ck is matcha, I need booze." This is completely out of character for her.
Since July 2nd, I haven't reached out at all. I met up with a mutual friend who knows her well, and he was absolutely shocked by her behavior. We sat in a restaurant right across from where she works, jokingly did a Tarot card reading with the waitresses to laugh off the pain, and at one point, I actually saw her run by (coming back from a smoke break or a store run). It gave me nothing.
Today is July 7th. The only interaction she had was on July 4th at 11:58 PM—just 2 minutes before our TikTok streak died, she restored it. That's it. Nothing on the 5th, nothing on the 6th, and probably nothing today.
My friend gave me a genius piece of advice: "If a cat shits on your rug, you don't reward it with treats." I thought about showing up with flowers to talk, but I realized it would just reward her disrespect. So, I went into strict No Contact.
Here are the upcoming variables:
 July 15: She gets her paycheck and is moving to a new apartment with a different roommate (this will cost her a lot of money).
 July 19: My birthday. My friend plans to reach out to her a week before my birthday, pretending we don't talk, and ask her what he should get me as a gift. He wants to casually ask what’s going on between us to test the waters.
 The Geo-Location Paradox: She still hasn't turned off her 24/7 live location on Telegram. She hasn't deleted my pinned messages or the story highlights with my gifts.
My ultimate plan:
I am thinking of breaking No Contact and reaching out to her around July 24th or July 28th. By then, her paycheck will be spent, the hype of her new apartment will wear off, my birthday will have passed, and she will have had almost a full month to sit in silence.
My Questions for Reddit:
We are 16-17 years old. We aren't 30 or 40. I've known her for a long time, and she has always been a wonderful girl until this exact moment.

1. What is the psychology behind this ghosting? Is this Avoidant Attachment triggered by stress/exhaustion, or is this guilt from something that happened at the party?
2. If she wants me out of her life, why hasn't she turned off her live location or deleted my gifts? Why restore the TikTok streak?
3. What do you think about my plan to reach out between July 24th - 28th? Should I try to talk to her then, or should I just stay in No Contact forever and wait for her to come back?
   TL;DR: We had a perfect, deeply connected relationship (16M/17F). We were planning to buy matching rings. Then she went to a coworker's party, stayed out all night, texted me "Something happened" (deleted it instantly), canceled our date, and has completely ghosted me for over a week. However, she STILL hasn't turned off her 24/7 live location or deleted my pinned messages/gifts on Telegram. I am in strict No Contact. Need advice on her psychology (Avoidant vs. Guilt) and if I should break No Contact on July 24-28.

To provide some context, we have been dating for just over a month. Before her, I haven't much success on the romance front, other than a brief stint with a girl a couple of years ago. She's an amazing person, incredibly beautiful, intelligent---she's basically everything I could ever ask for.

A week before, I kissed her for the first time in my life. This was the first time I kissed anyone. It was an ethereal experience for me, and after she left, I couldn't wait to do that again. Maybe that was immature of me, but by then I already knew that I quite liked physical intimacy.

A couple of days ago, as it was, I kind of casually told her to kiss me. She said that she didn't want to. Jokingly, I replied, "You don't love me anymore, that's why [you won't kiss me]." This kind of joke is pretty common between us (well, not exactly this, but the 'no love' thing), so I didn't think much about it. She said to me, "Don't guilt trip me into doing something I don't wanna do." I don't know if she said this as a joke, but nonetheless it hurt me quite a bit, because I felt very toxic for inadvertently making her think that I was emotionally manipulating me.

After I reached home, I texted her, apologising and clarifying that I only meant it as a joke. She said that it was okay, and told me to chill. She then said something which hit me hard; she said that she was somewhat uncomfortable with physical things, and she wasn't really into this kind of thing.

She's a wonderful person and I really don't wanna hurt her feelings, but I also do want to be physical. I also don't want to force her into doing anything. Is there anything I can do for the moment, or do I just wait and see how it goes?

(Sorry for poor English, I'm not a native speaker)

Hi, I’m feeling quite anxious and would really appreciate some advice.
I had unprotected sex on day 9 of my cycle, and my partner ejaculated partly inside me — not completely, but a noticeable amount did go inside. This happened 7 days ago.
My cycles are usually regular and last about 4/5 days. My last period started on june 21th. I’m not currently on any form of birth control.
I’m trying to understand how high the risk of pregnancy might be in this situation. I’ve read mixed things about fertility around this time in the cycle, so I’m a bit confused.
When would be the best time to take a pregnancy test to get a reliable result?
We’re both teenagers and really scared.
Thank you so much to anyone who takes the time to respond.

So, my boyfriend would sometimes call me ‘kid’ as like a pet name. The name itself is reasonable given that he’s 3 years older than me; so, I had no problem with it at all. One of my friends, however, though it was insanely weird and ‘confronted’ me about it and she told me it was grounds for leaving. Anyways, we didn’t do that since I talked to him and smoothed things over. He agreed to stop calling me ‘kid’.

Now, about a week ago, he started calling me it again (albeit less frequently and not around my friend). I know that it in itself isn’t an issue but for some reason I dislike it now. I think it’s less about the name and more about the agreemen that was broken. I haven’t said anything to him since I feel like that would be difficult to word in a way that doesn’t seem irritating.

Anyways, I would like advice on how to ask him to stop calling me ‘kid’ in most, if not all contexts. Hopefully this isn’t a problematic questio.

I never go to parties or alike, only one birthday party for my friend.

But my girlfriend goes to parties/bars quite often, and never ever with me. She likes to not respond or take my requests for when to be heading home.

What should I do about it? It’s not something I like since I think that you should be able to crave something that you won’t do either, like the golden rule

Weve been together for a year and a few months. I feel so sad about this. After a traumatic thing had happened, i developed a disease that is taking my physical health away from me. I don't want to break my bf's heart with this news, but he has to know some day. I need to tell him. There is nothing more sad than looking at your lovers smile, knowing that the true situation will tear it away. What am I supposed to do? I love him so much that i wish i never met him..

So for context we've been dating for about 4 years and it's been rocky but great at the same time and she my everything to me.

Me: 18M, undiagnosed ADHD and probably more but all undiagnosed( because I recently got kicked out of a abuse household who wouldn't take or left me.)

Her: 17F, diagnosed autism, diabetes, and OCD

Story: As our most recent in person argument was on the 4th of july but it wasn't really an argument but I know i messed up due to not telling her where my family was taking us to go see the fireworks and also forget her medicine(I thought she had a insulin pump in she did but it was low) but after she told me she was getting high I started panicking internally and start overthinking and blamed myself for forgetting her medicine before we left. But she blames me not for forgetting it but not telling her where we were going but honestly all I knew is what time we were leaving and that we were getting food before we got to the spot and I told her that but she her blood sugar started getting high and I started getting worked up and destroyed my drink and stormed off because I was over think and blaming myself but while I was gone my adoptive mom started talking/yelling at her but because her blood sugar was high she asked her not to because it would have made it worse. So she called her dad to pick her up and they though she was talking to me on the phone because she was being rude to him because of her high blood sugar. So I found out she left, relaxed, then tried contacting her to try and help but she blocked me on discord so i kept calling her because i was worried for her safely but she never answered soI left her be, till later that night were I tried to call her to tell her good night and she hung up and I said "I just wanted to say goodnight" and she responded with "text it then" so I did and she reciprocated and I went to bed. But once I woke up I wanted to check on her because my family told me she was being rude before she left and she not being taken out anymore, so I called and texted her to see her side and she got mad and blocked me on there too. So I left her alone for a while till I remembered I could message her on roblox but she was hostile towards me so I ended up telling I was gonna go see her in person to talk it out in a couple days and head to bed but discover my room had been entered and my nintendo switch had been taken so I asked around and told her with her laughing at me being stressed out losing it so I stopped and earlier today she unblocked me on discord and messaged me and we talked which devolved back into an argument about how I don't listen or change and she doesn't see my effort or communicate clearly. And now I feel this relationship turned abusive and I feel like I'm being used for money which I don't work because horrible market and current family believes I should live my teen years and not work but do get payments from the school due to being kicked out from my previous "home". Know I'm unsure on what to do, I'm gonna try to do more research but I feel like if I do she's just not gonna see me trying to change and I don't know what to do. I looking for advice on just anything to save this relationship. (And yes I've told her I don't feel seen and it made it worse.)

Me and my boyfriend have been on and off again for around a year and a half. For background, his girlfriend before me gave him a lot of insecurities relating to toxicity and infidelity. Ever since her he has felt as though he would always be cheated on. He has never explicitly told me that she cheated on him but he has told me he has been cheated on in the past. I have no idea how many past relationships he has had or if the cheating was recently which might affect his perspective on the situation of now I need advice on. One of our biggest arguments we had which almost caused us to break up for the third time was because he thought I was cheating on him with other guys. We had a mutual friend, who I knew liked him, in common (he didn’t know this at the time) who told him I was. I wasn’t and I proved to him I wasn’t by showing him my texting logs, which obviously showed no sign of me texting any guys as I only have one guy friend (We both are friends with) anyways. We talked everything out and fixed the issue. 

Around 6 months later, now, I noticed my messages weren’t going through to him for a whole week while he was active everywhere else. Eventually, he texted me and he admitted to me he had suddenly blocked me because of reposts I had on Instagram. He claimed these reposts were of people I was attracted to (they were edits of my favorite tv shows) and that I had left inappropriate comments saying things like, “loml,” and so on. Now, I do remember my reposts obviously but I don’t remember commenting anything of the sort. I even went through all my reposts and I didn’t see any comments, but I know he wouldn’t lie. So, I assume maybe they were old reposts I might’ve gotten rid of way earlier in our relationship (?). However, I know for a fact I do not find any of these people attractive and was purely just engaging in fandom. I told him this, while obviously addressing and understanding his concern, but he doesn’t believe me and I don’t blame him due to the issues he’s had in the past. He says no matter what, I disrespected him, which I can see now, and would cheat on him.

So, now I’m just left with how can I, moving on, build trust between us because he says he doesn’t trust me or anything I say anymore. He almost broke up with me again and although I don’t exactly know what I said or did, I think his feelings come from a valid place. I want to build our relationship again. What can I do to build trust again and show wouldn’t cheat on him?

I (18M) just graduated from high school. This time exactly last year, I started talking to a girl 18F (who I, at the time, was fresh out of a 3 year relationship). It ended up feeling like the best summer of my life. Every day I saw her was better and better. I truly started to love this girl. She went off to college to play soccer about two hours away, and as time went on, we slowly stopped talking as much. I even asked her out but she said it was not the right time. Two months later we stopped talking completely. It broke me. For many many months I could not stop thinking about her, waiting to see her again, waiting for that chance to get her back. Well around march-April I started casually talking to a new girl but it went as far as taking her on a date. To then hanging out with her. To then asking her to prom. To then locking her in. Keep in mind she lives nearly 2 hours away and is going to a college 2.5 hours from mine. I really really like her but I feel like deep down I know with college around it will be tough to continue and even though don’t treat her like a summer fling. The one thing she always says is don’t lead me on and jt built a lot of trust from her considering I’m her first bf. Well the old girl recently started texting me but I thought nothing of it. I ran into her at a bonfire then at a grad party and it’s clear her and her friends want us back together. I even went to her house (invited in the group chat) and she sat next to me. I feel awful, like I’m a cheater, even though I’ve never come close to as much as brushing up against her. I just know deep down I still care so much about her and have always been waiting to talk to her again but now that the chance is here I feel locked in and can’t wrap my head around what to do. Am I an awful person for this or is this more common than I realize?

So basically I’m on holiday for 2 weeks with my parents and then when I get back my girlfriend goes On holiday for 2 weeks so we won’t see each other for a whole month. Weve both been sad leading up to it and expressing how much we will miss each other since we’ve never been apart for so long. She promised we would text and call as much as we can to minimise the struggle of missing each other but I honestly feel like she’s avoiding me. I don’t know if it’s all in my head but whenever I have free time to talk on the holiday I just feel like she keeps making excuses so she doesn’t have to talk to me and it’s making me so worried. She knows I have anxiety issues and struggle a lot with being away from her. Normally if shes busy she tells me how long shes going to be gone which has been super helpful in our relationship to reduce my anxiety but shes just been randomly leaving for increasingly long periods of time and it’s making me panic so much. I just have a feeling that something is off and I’m scared I will annoy her by constantly seeking reassurance. I just needed to get this off of my chest but if anyone has any advice that would be so helpful. I really need to know if this is just me overthinking or is she loosing interest in me.

Hello. Long story short: I’m (19F) a fearful avoidant and ever since I hooked up with this guy (19M) about three weeks ago, I keep thinking about him. I have hooked up with other guys the same way before and haven’t cared much if at all but for some reason this guy left a mark. It was essentially a one night stand, and we talked very little after we did it so he didn’t give me anything for me to get attached to. Somehow though, here I am. Does anyone have advice to just make me forget or at least not care about this guy?

This sucks. For context:

When we were 15 (going to the same school) he liked me so I gave him a shot but it didn't work out, I cut it off before it could get any further and we didn't talk for over a year later.
Then at 17 he tried to kiss me again at a party but I said no (probably bc i hadnt drunk yet lmao), we countinued being friends normally and it'd been great, until the following year we got drunk and made out. PRIOR TO THE MAKE OUT i had asked him not to say anything because i wanted to get my feelings straight, as to not hurt either of us... but he did, I found out he told all his friends (who were also mine), I'm pretty sure he told the whole city, so I got really mad at him.
The thing is that, we never talked about it, I didn't tell him I found out bc my bday was coming up and I thought it'd be awkward bc they all were invited. So I barely gave him the time of day for the following weeks... Then we're friends again!
It's been over a year now. We play games together almost everynight when I'm not busy studying, I don't talk to who used to be our common friends anymore, and he still makes time to play with me instead of them. He's the only guy I can have serious conversations with.
I know we've both matured, and I know he probably won't show any interest after all the times I cut him off lmao so I have to step up and ask him out myself.
I have a constant heavy feeling on my chest that I'm afraid I had him feeling all these years and it was so unfair of me, but we were young and I think it just wasn't the right time for me.
Any advice? We haven't really seen each other in months because we only voicecall and our friendgroups don't talk to each other anymore so we don't have an excuse to hang out.

so everytime we call he always asks me if i can show my tits to him since he jerks while watching, sometimes if i say no, he will ask me to make the nipples obvious w a thin shirt. He always say that he needs it and ts is the only way to help him, i do want to help him but sometimes i feel used after doing it. I’m also scared that he might screenshot/record it and spread it to their GCs, though he always sends me a screenshot of his gallery and messenger and there’s nothing to see there. I dont want to disappoint him tho. what should i do??

Hi so me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 months, but unfortunately we live very far away from each other and neither of us can afford visiting each other more than once a month. Though we had online relationship, we were saying things like I love u to each other and etc. But one day we had a conflict, and then another and another. I asked her if she wants to break up, she said she genuinely doesn’t want to. But we’re texting each other rarely comparing to what was before. Is love gone?