r/teenrelationships

Ok so I 18m got in a relationship before college and my GF 18f is attending the same one but has been facing housing issues and went to the college in search of help. She asked me to call her and give her moral support but the phone cut of last second cause of my WiFi. When she needed me most she had to do it all alone even though she told me how scared she was and how she trusted me and wanted me to be there. After the my WiFi got better I called her twice and saw she wasn’t responding I waited for her to answer but the time she called me back it was too late and she was done. Now as she rightfully should tells me how hurt she is and then like a IDIOT I tell her that I clearly fucked up enough for one day and imma set my phone down to give her space but then she asks me if I still love her and I say yes then she asks me why I would give her space instead of staying with her until she goes to bed. 

Please give me your advice, tips and tricks I can do to fix my mistake of breaking her trust in me for not showing up when she needed me most cause of shitty WiFi.

so like ive been with this guy for 9 months and fpr 6 pf those months we’ve been gf/bf were both still teenagers and we’ve fought alot and in the beginning of our rls i told him i was sa’d and he shamed me, calling me a liar since 1-2 months into knowing him i told him id never done anything with another guy and he blamed me and made me feel like it wqs my fault and made me apologize continuously and i seriously thought it was all my fault and would call me a cheater for interacting w males and having male friends even tho he did the same and i didnt care cus im not a jealous person and once we had a double date and he set up rules like 2 words max u can say to the guy, only talk to him while touching me, etc and then got mad when i didnt follow through, he would bring up these topics continuously in our rls when he would wake up or if i fell asleep or anytime and i always thought i was wrong he was right but he always said i victim blamed and he slut shamed me. THE PEAK OF OUR FIGHTING CAME WHEN HE FOUND OUT I READ AO3 STORIESS cus he considered it cheating (i didnt know it was bad since it wasnt 18+ shit) so he said he now had the right to do or say anything he wanted to so he made me do sexual acts, called me names like bitch, nword, slut, cheater, liar, etc and made me pay for everything but then recently i got fed up and tried to breakup with him but he was crying apologizing and i js felt so bad i couldnt continue on and he lowk ws being manipulating, now hes acting so nice its been 2 days since i tried to break up and idk how to break up since hes being so nice now and i feel bad. Any advice? i just dont feel inlove with him like how i once was and i know this nice him isnt the real him cus i can sometimes see him trying to not be mean its just because he knows i can leave now, he always thought id never and the thing is you cant change in one day but hes somehow trying to do that to himself please give me any advice u can

I really need some advice on what to do i’m lost. TLDR: My boyfriend disrespected me and hid things from me multiple times, and I need help letting him go. (He hid Snapchat and had girls in his recent friends, but they weren't on his friends list), and he has messaged another girl in the past. I am very codependent.

I've been in a relationship for 8 months, and now we are doing long-distance. He has disrespected me several times, but nothing like the other day: it hurt more than anything in my life. I’ve been feeling physically sick, and I blocked him last night, but I unblocked him shortly after because I can't imagine my life without him. I'm left completely alone—all my friends left me, and I have no one else but him. So it might sound like a stupid reason to feel bad, but I hadn't been this happy in a long time, and our relationship was perfect.
I felt like he was talking to another girl, which he has done before (claiming his friends asked him to because the girl was the ex of one of his friends, but he used to talk to her before. I saw the screenshot on his phone, we had a huge fight, and I broke up with him… but ended up going back). Then last week I told him I had a bad feeling, so he screen-shared all his social media with me, but afterward, without me asking, he deleted Snapchat saying he didn't want it anymore. A few days later, I heard a Snapchat notification in a voice message from him, and he kept lying, promising he didn't have it, and calling me "baby." But he did have it, and in the end, he had girls in his recent friends. I asked, and one of them said he might have added her a few weeks ago. He claimed he didn't remember adding anyone. You don't remember? weird reply.
Since then, I’ve been feeling sick because I had planned my whole future with him. He truly became my whole life. So now I feel like my life is ruined. I went back to him, but I can't be okay; I had a mental breakdown. I'm afraid I'll never be the same again. But I can't bring myself to let him go right now I'm so lonely.
Other instances of disrespect include him writing back to his ex (supposedly talking about me) during the first month of our relationship, though he just casually mentioned it; writing to that girl with his friends, which completely shattered my trust; and lying about where he was even though I had his location (I broke up with him out of panic, but went back). Later, he followed a girl from high school back, Because he "wanted to see what she wanted and would have told me about it," though I know they hadn't talked yet when I saw it, and that girl was blocked. And now he did this, which truly broke me. I feel like my life changed, but I can't bring myself to leave him; I need help, and I've been feeling physically ill these past few days.
He promised he's really going to change and tell me everything, etc., etc. I've heard that before. And tell me: could it be that if he isn't active adding new people on Snapchat, those girls were from before we met, 8 or 9 months ago? It would still make me angry to see it. He said he hid it from me because we always fought about it, but last time he had already promised to tell me everything.
Also the girls might just not have added him back or have removed him, but he had them in recent friends so he has them added still.

i feel like i really just don’t know anymore how to be alone and sit with myself and my thoughts

I’m 18, and I’ve been talking to a guy I believed was 17. We aren’t in a relationship, but there has been mutual flirting. I genuinely thought he was 17, and I thought I had finally found someone I could give affection to and who wanted mine in return. They seemed especially affected by the flirting, almost like they hadn’t experienced that kind of attention before, and over time they became emotionally attached.

Recently, during a serious mental breakdown, they told me they’re actually 16. Finding that out made me feel disgusted with myself . I now feel extremely uncomfortable and guilty about having flirted with them. They’re also depressed and seem very emotionally vulnerable, which makes me feel even worse, because I’m worried that I was taking advantage of someone who was already struggling, even though I genuinely believed they were 17.

I can’t bring myself to flirt back anymore. They still try to flirt with me, but now it feels like watching someone vulnerable stumble toward me while knowing I shouldn’t catch them in a romantic way.

I feel terrible because I worry that I led them on and that backing away will make them feel like being honest about their feelings only gets them hurt. At the same time, I know continuing to flirt just because I feel guilty would probably be worse and would lead them on even more.

I don’t know what the cleanest way to handle this is. I care about them and don’t want to hurt them, but I also don’t want to continue a romantic/flirtatious dynamic now that I know they’re 16. I’m also struggling with a lot of guilt over the fact that I participated in the flirting in the first place

he rejected me like 6 mos ago js bc i asked some friend to ask if i wanted to get w him or sum (not sure what he said or the other guy replied but it was some sort of no) at a very dark drunk party. like idk if this means something but we keep making eye contact like through windows and across the hall for a good few seconds. ik im delusional but i dont have any classes w him but im very very attracted to him and wanna talk w him. kinda messed my chances up tho

someone tell me how to approach this situation

I 17M got into my first relationship 2 days ago (Long distance) with a girl, call her S 16F.

i had a female friend come chill and smoke in my room last night and i even asked my gf first if she was comfortable or minded it which she didn’t. I kinda had to be sneaky because my dorm doesn’t allow overnight guests so she kinda had to spend the night in my room.

we just talked about life and relationships; felt like an american high school sleepover in a movie lol. we smoked some cigs and weed and just watched a movie on my bed. i kept my distance as far as possible when she was on my bed because I want to be faithful to my gf which i made clear to my female friend.

i didn’t realise before hand that she was gonna have to spend the night in my room let alone my bed which is why i feel guilty about not telling my gf first.

the question is, should i tell my gf of 2 days this? i don’t want to start the relationship with any secrets but at the same time, i don’t wanna jeopardize the relationship just because im an over sharer.

Me and my girlfriend have been (officially) dating for 8 months now, and it's my, but not her, first relationship like this. For a long time, I thought I wasn't a jealous person at all, but recently I've come to the realization I can get jealous, or at least insecure, about so many things. From her not spending too much time with me at a random party to her talking in a clearly friendly and chill manner to some ex feels like a personal attack towards me, and I've realised this could eventually kill my relationship aswell as destroy my self confidence. Just moments ago, I told her that I felt she sometimes liked to maje me jealous on purpose (which wasn't true at all) and this lead to a really small, none the less, argument.

I think one big problem is that she is too proud, so any time I comment on attitudes I don't like, justified or not, seh straight up gets into deffensive mode and ends up trying to making me feel guilty. But I feel like we'd never have to deal with arguments of these sorts if I didn't spend so much time feeling insecure about her love towards me.

I also find myself being the complete opposite, so any time I feel I've done the smallest mistake I automatically ask for forgiveness to the point of exauhstion, and I believe this contrast in "accoubtability" (for a lack of a better word) has worsened my insecurities.

My point is that with each passing day, I feel more paranoid and ancious about our relationship due to my own exagerated insecurities, and I need to solve this fast, before I make a mistake.

Does anyone have any suggestions to what I could do to work this out? I'm really desparate.

I am sorry if my english isn't that good, it's late where I'm from and I'm tired and pretty stressed.

Thanks.

It’s as the title says. I am dating one girl (Girl A for the duration of this post,) while romantically interested in another (Girl B). This all started at the beginning of HS, and I remember very specifically being interested in Girl B from the minute I saw her. At first it was only an appearance thing, but then it just kinda spiraled to become an everything thing. However, I was too much of a pussy back then, and nothing’s come of it. We’re kinda friends-ish, she’s just a really cool and chill person in general. Maybe more like friendly acquaintances.

Meanwhile, I was moreso friends with Girl A, my current girlfriend. Apparently she had been after me for a while, which I was totally oblivious to until she decided to ask me out during the summer after our sophomore year (~1 year ago at this point.) Because again I figured I missed my shot with Girl B, I just said fuck it and decided to take A up on it, hoping that it could be an opportunity to get over my unrequited feelings. Now I realize that was a stupid decision and it didn’t work. But it also didn’t entirely not work? Let me explain

I have to admit that I don’t find A as attractive as B, or at least I didn’t initially, but it seems like as we continue our relationship those feelings are kinda starting to happen? At first I felt absolutely nothing towards her romantically, but now I’d say it’s like 25%. She’s definitely not ugly, just not exactly my type, and she’s a really good person. Above all, she loves me a lot. She was really happy when I said yes after she asked me out. It‘s really nice to be wanted by someone like that, and I’m also confident that I’m a good boyfriend to her, despite complicated feelings. I genuinely do enjoy spending time with her, I’m comfortable with physical affection, gift giving, etc. There’s nothing unhealthy about our relationship, except for the fact that I don’t feel the same way about her.

Anyways, where it gets more complicated is that recently I was at a func talking to a close friend of B’s, and he said that she had a huge thing for me during our underclassman years, but that she didn’t anymore since I got a girlfriend.

And I was just like, FUCK!!! I wasted so much time wallowing and acting like there wasn’t anything between us, but there totally was and I might’ve wasted my opportunity????

So that’s where I’m stuck. Should I end things with A and shoot my shot with B, or just take responsibility for my actions and stay with A? I‘m sure things will turn out fine for me either way, but like I said, I’m stuck.

And I KNOW this is a really bad look on my part. I’m guilty. I know it’s wrong. I’m not asking anyone to judge my character, I just want some help with choosing my next step forward.

tldr; I’ve been interested in this one girl all throughout high school, but started dating another. Our relationship is pretty good, but I still don’t really love her, and I think I might have a shot with the first girl despite everything.

also let me know if anyone needs any more clarification. this is kind of just train of thought, so probably not super readable.

Hi, so i don’t really know how to go about this. My heart hurts alot, and I don’t know how to get over this feeling. Me and my boyfriend have hit this hurdle in our relationship and to be honest its way more than that.

For the past 4 months we’ve been arguing, big or little it doesn’t matter. But I realized that J has been a key factor in a lot of our arguments. She’s my ex-bestfriend. She essentially ghosted me because of my boyfriend saying I would prioritize him over her.. which I had to find this out through other people. And it’s totally not true because in the beginning of my relationship she basically made me feel disgusting for liking my boyfriend and shamed me for it, which made me uncomfortable being affectionate with him in public. I know that wasn’t fair to him, and I feel shitty about it.. but i would ignore him or shrug him off in public even when he said i love you… which all lasted till i was fed up and realized i did truly love him and I shouldn’t have to prioritize one after the other so i just became a little bit more pda with him.. which meant hugs and hold handing which aka led to her ghosting me… haha. She also cried and ignored me once she found out I gave my card to my boyfriend.

Anyways, my boyfriend literally hated her. But, once I got booted off from her social circle, he became more closer to her.

I hate that.

Now, while I’m already depressed from losing my best friend of 6 years. My boyfriend is also getting distant with me. We have arguments such as im not attentive to him and back and forth but thats not the point. I guess what I’m trying to say is that we’ve been stuck in this repetitive cycle of blaming each other for being distant and cold, only to eventually come back to each other.

Till one day I casually mentioned… i guess casually is an understatement. I straight up told him I didn’t like J. So, therefore I wasn’t comfortable with him associating with her. Because as I mentioned before, once I was gone, they were practically besties. And im fucking stupidly jealous, over the both of them. I Cried and just told him to stop talking to her please, he said i was controlling who he’s friends with… okay…

I tried to be understanding but I really can’t be when the girl who made my entire middle school and half of my high-school experience just treats me like im a stranger. Like this is the girl who even pushed for me to start dating my boyfriend… at first anyways.

She’s just ALWAYS with him when im gone and I understand they have way more classes together and more friends, I understand she’s maybe more understanding and doesnt have a short temper, I understand a lot on why he would enjoy talking to her more than me. But I just can’t.

I remember an instance when I cried for him to stop talking to her and hung up on him. Him calling 3 hours later at 2am and me picking up thinking he’s going to apologize and being hopeful but he just asks to see me naked. lol. and hangs up when i said no. first time I ever said no too.

I Sometimes I feel like the only time we don’t argue is when we’re being physically intimate. I won’t blame him because it’s not like I don’t want too, it’s the only thing that makes me feel connected to him. It just makes me sad.

And I really don’t know where im trying to go with this story so im sorry for those who are reading this.

Anyways, me and my boyfriend are on a break now. I feel like im the one who still cares. And I have his instagram login and i just feel like i reached my end with it all. He’s texting her and I realized he liked the story she posted of herself.

I know its stupid and likes dont mean anything but i cant help it. I’m a mess.

Just seeing that makes me feel like i reached my end in this relationship but at the same time i still love him, I still like him, and i do miss him more than I’d like to admit.

I just feel like if i was nicer in the beginning nothing bad would have happened.

I’m scared that leaving means admitting that we couldn’t make it work, and that my ex-best friend was basically right. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.

TLDR

So we have been friends since highschool , and now that we are in college , even closer , i liked him alot , i dont know how to pinpoint my feelings . i want him to be a part of my life , sometimes i really want to kiss him, and i kinda also want to sleep with him. Recently we realised we were acting wayy closer than "just friends". And then we decided to tackle this feeling, we both confessed , but i wanted to focus more on my studies and career and he respected my choices , we decided to stay as friends .And after a few days later , i though t deeply and "what if i dont like him the way he likes me" , cus i genuinely never wanted to be in a relationship , i always wanted that bachelorette life , somewhere in western europe and stuff like that . I also thought i was incapable of being loved , i struggle with PCOS and body dysmorphia , and no matter how thin i get , or how much i try to change myself , i always end up hating myself , i m moody and i feel that i m difficult , i also have very toxic parents who would constantly try to degrade me specially with my looks , and every time someone ever calls me pretty , i just think that they are lying .

So a few days ago , this guy noticed that i was hiding smth , and prolly not wanted to talk abt it , so he gave me an opening " what if we find our potential partners in our fields? i genuinely want us to be happy , like u dont need to force urself to like me , i value our friendship more" . And i told him everything on my mind, he was patient and he said to "take ur time , i m not going anywhere , i will always be there for u " . He is the most wonderful person i have ever met , sure we have differences , tho we always communicate out of it , we have our own ugly side and we never tried to hide it . Like i genuinely like him so much , but idk if i want him to be partners with someone who hates themselves so much . Like i dont want ppl to love me as i cant love myself . We are still communicating and everything is so exhausting for me , my mind is going so fast . We decided to give each other some space , and i got withdrawal syndrome , like my whole day was spent so awfully , i would go back to seeing our old texts , had all my drafts written in my notes app, like maybe i do love him, but idk i have never felt this ever . I have had crushes , but i dont think abt them unless i see them . And this is the first time i have ever felt this way . Idk how to handle this , I hope i dont lose him .

We are apart of a church group together and a guy from it is hosting a Firepit tomorrow at his house with 20+ people. We are not dating yet but have been talking for around 3 weeks now. No one knows about us yet, because we are not together yet. We have hung out twice together just us before, one was a concert in the city and one was a movie. Should I hang out with her, sit next to her, talk to her a lot, etc, or just treat her as a friend for the night and keep it on the DL? I want to play this right because she is my first potential girlfriend and I don’t want to mess this up. What should I do?

I met this guy on a video game (yeah it’s not the most normal story) and I was drawn to him almost instantly. I’ve been talking to him for 1 month and we have been dating for 2 weeks. we seem to fit together perfectly and we both understand things that most people in this generation don’t. we have built our connection on emotions and boundaries of which we both respect. we have been talking every night and today I’ve realized for the first time I’m actually in love (I’m F15). my past relationships were with toxic guys or they were manipulative and when I realized I left. With this guy I’ve even had my mom judge his character, and theres not a single red flag. the only one he has is that he lives in Nebraska while I live in New Hampshire. we both have completely different lifestyles but somehow we fit so great together. I’m thinking next summer I wanna visit for a week, and it’s a bit early to plan because I’m still fresh in this relationship and I was hoping for a few other opinions on this. I really like him and I’ve never felt this way about anyone else and I’m not joking. I just was looking for some advice or maybe ideas because no red flags is scary. usually there’s at least one but he has none.

This is just a update question to this (Okay so ever since me and my girlfriend have been dating I get her weekly flowers every single week from trader joe's and wrapping them myself and she just texted me saying "hey i'm gonna so honest with you can you please stop getting me flowers it's very annoying and i love you but it is just getting really annoying and i just want to fucking throw them away it's never always been annoying but it gets annoying more every single time" and to be honest i got her a new bouquet today and she just told me this and i kinda have the feeling of being really petty and I don't know why like i just want to never ever get her flowers again and her mom told her to tell me to stop getting her flowers weekly since it's only for special occasions and she just called and was acting rlly weird saying at the start i love you and i miss them i started asking why is it annoying countless times in a very nice tone and she didn't tell me then when we were about to hang up she said "bye nic" my name is kevin and nic is my friend for a way to troll and i obviously got a lil pissed and said bye i love you in a annoyed tone because i was and she was like "why do you sound so mad" i said im not then i said "bye bree" her friend not her name then she got all pissy and then said i love you bye and we have a thing where we say bye i love you instead and im just really fucking annoyed and don't know what i should do and we've been dating for 3 1/2 months) she always posts my flowers on her story and it's cute yeah but i also have this itching feeling that in a week or two she's gonna ask for flowers to be given again i get one for her and i don't know what to do if she does ask me for them again since when she i was consistently with it she loved them but what she said to being overwhelmed with the cleaning, changing water, flower food etc weekly overwhelmed her and yes i do understand but if she's like "i actually liked it when you gave me flowers can you start" i don't know if i should give in or stand on my ground and kinda be a dick and be like "no i won't since it's too overwhelming for you?

Me and my girlfriend have had A LOT of conversations about me wanting the absolute bare minimum from her. I’ve constantly been asking for reassurance and little things, which I’ll go into detail about now.
It all started like a month or two ago (we have been together for 6 months), but I noticed she stopped being as affectionate and stopped doing the little things. I’ve felt like I’ve been putting all the effort in. I’ve been buying her gifts, planning dates, I’m always asking to call, etc., and whenever she’s sad, I’m always, always there for her.
However, I get none of that back, and recently I’ve gotten sick of it, so I pointed it all out. She swears it was just down to stress and that she does love me, but I’m really questioning it now.
Whenever there have been arguments, sometimes she will just go, “I’m going to sleep,” and leave the issue unresolved, leaving me to sleep with a heavy heart and feeling extremely anxious. She knows I really struggle with my mental health, and she knows my anxiety is really bad.
So, 2 days ago, I got really fed up because of another issue that had arisen that I instantly went to fix, which I did. However, she kept being in a mood with me, so I told her straight up, like, if you keep acting this way, I simply won’t put up with it anymore. I told her I needed space, so I turned my phone off.
I came back an hour later to her blowing my phone up, begging me not to leave and saying that she’s sorry. She was begging me not to leave, e.g., “I’m begging you, please don’t leave me.”
So, we get around to talking, and she’s crying and saying she’s sorry for how everything’s been. She promises she loves me, and I told her she needs to actually act on the things I’m telling her to fix—the lack of affection, the lack of reassurance, etc.
Anyway, the main thing I want to highlight is the reassurance. She promised that she would reassure me, that everything would be okay, and that she’s sorry. I also want to point out that since we got together, she’s been saying that she wants us forever, etc.
I’ve been annoyed over incidents involving her messaging another guy who was apparently just a friend. I’ve caught her messaging other guys, basically, and no, not in a cheating way, as I saw the messages. That was early in the relationship; however, that’s where my lack of trust has come from.
Another big issue for me is the way she sometimes just disappears and stops replying, especially when she’s with her friends. I completely understand that she has her own life and I don’t expect her to be constantly on her phone or messaging me every second when she’s out. I want her to enjoy herself and spend time with her friends. The problem is that she’ll sometimes just stop responding without saying anything, even when she’s been online, and I’m left wondering what’s going on.
It makes me anxious because I’ve explained to her multiple times that I struggle when she suddenly disappears. I’m not asking for constant updates or for her to spend the whole time talking to me. I just want a little reassurance or even a quick message letting me know that she’s busy and everything is okay. Especially after she promised me that she would work on reassuring me more, it hurts when the same thing keeps happening.
What makes it more confusing is that when I turned my phone off for an hour and needed space, she was extremely worried and begged me not to leave her. So I feel like she understands how horrible that uncertainty can feel, but when it happens the other way around, I’m expected to just deal with it.
That’s why I’m struggling so much with this. It isn’t just one incident or one time she hasn’t replied. It’s the fact that I’ve communicated how I feel, she’s promised to work on it, and then the same things continue happening. I don’t want to control who she sees or expect her to constantly message me when she’s with her friends. I just want to feel like my feelings are being considered and that the reassurance she promised me actually means something.
I need help on whether I should say something again or whether I’m expecting too much. I feel like I’m constantly asking for the same things and getting promises that things will change, but I’m not seeing much change in her actions.

Ok so we’re both 15 and going into our sophomore year in like a week but the issue is sometimes I feel like I don’t want to have a girlfriend at all or be in a relationship and idk if that’s bad or not because there’s nothing wrong with our relationship it’s been about 3 and a half months and she’s my first girlfriend but I honestly just hate it and I feel trapped sometimes and sometimes I think she’s just too worried about how I feel that she never tells me if she’s upset about something and she makes it seem like she doesn’t care about how she feels along as I’m happy and I tell her that she’s allowed to be upset but she’s still like that and ngl I just wanna fucking break up with her and I tried already but we talked it out I guess and it’s whatever but she’s lowkey just too perfect and I don’t even want a girlfriend but I don’t know how to break up and not be the bad guy and if I do it I don’t know how to not feel bad about being the bad guy so I’m just looking for any advice I can get.

We both have strict brown parents, both our parents know about us not in detail but they know we are together. My parents are strictly against going on dates alone with him but his parents are okay with it. Im always disappointing him by not going on dates. hes obviously already really upset that we both cant hang out alone outside of school.
Both of our birthdays are 3 days apart, mine is on 24th and his is on 27th. Im having a party and i’ve invited like 7 people in total including him. He said hes obviously coming. He said that doesn’t really want to celebrate with his friends and only with me alone. I told him i will show up and i feel so horrible i feel like crying. My parents just said no, i cant figure out a lie. They said they will only let me go if more people are going. I first lied and said yes he invited his friends too. Then my dad said that he will drop me off exactly where hes celebrating to make sure.
I dont know what to do, i told him all this and he sounds so sad ;( I wanted to make him really happy for his birthday I have no idea what to do.

Hi everyone, I don’t want any advice on breaking up or anything i just want to know if i’m in the wrong here because i know sometimes im a little ignorant and my gf gets mad about it. I recently just got to my college campus and with classes starting up and everyone being at the welcome festivities and stuff people have come up to me. One girl asked for my instagram and i declined saying i had a gf (who was literally sitting on the phone at the time). i thought i could just move past it and keep having a nice conversation with my girl but she got mad at me for laughing about it after the fact. i don’t know why she was mad exactly, i think she might’ve thought i felt good getting approached by someone because it didn’t really happen back home and she’s usually the one to get hit on. i just found the situation funny. then another came up to me with her guy friend asking to sit down at the table i was at, i said sure and she kept trying to talk to me but i ended up telling her im doing homework and couldn’t talk at the moment (i was, and my gf also happened to be on the phone at this time as well). she got mad again and started cussing me out telling me im too friendly and she went on a rant. it didn’t really get anywhere though because she kind of just got that stuff off her chest and “dropped it”. now most recently, i was up doing laundry and ended up walking past some girls who i guess stay in my dormitory or nearby, they said hi to me and i said hi back and went inside my room. my gf got mad about it and hung up on me (for some reason these things always happen when she’s on the phone) then reposted something obviously targeted towards me. i’m really confused because i don’t see what i did wrong there, these were two random girls who said hi to me and nothing else and i said hi back. i don’t see how it was inappropriate but if anyone can explain to me how i would appreciate it. I know she’s insecure with the distance and even said she doesn’t trust me but it feels like unless im a complete bitch to anyone who approached me she won’t be satisfied.

i also want to add that i see why my gf was mad about the second situation, and i know how i was wrong there…but the other two and potential similar situations that may happen in the future? im lost and need some help.

Throwaway account for obvious reasons

Me and my gf had a chat about bodies and past relationships as I find it is good to discuss boundaries and clarify them. I found out she had slept with her entire friend group. There were 6 other girls in this group. Not all together all at once but in times of "need" she'd have sex with them when they wanted or she wanted it. It was casual to them and the friend group. They realized it wasn't healthy and cut off all contact with each other about five years ago. Obviously they were young and it shouldn't be normalized but that is not the point of this conversation.

It makes me uncomfortable and insecure. Not that she has slept with so many people but the fact she could casually sleep with different people multiple times and feel nothing towards them. I mean she was obviously attracted to them enough to have intimacy and get off. How do I know our relationship isn't casual or that she doesn't see other people that way.

Her bestest friend ever was her first body and it was casual. I don't know how to feel about it at all. Although she is not in my gf's life anymore, none of them are. She says she still misses them as people and friends. And not the sex and unhealthy habits. I understand some people can feel different and easily distinguish their feelings but i just feel so insecure about it.

Ok so backstory , we are really good friends , immediately clicked even though we ignored each other in junior high , and recently we both have gotten very close to each other . The thing is , i m an Ace and he also believed he was Aroace , cus none of us had ever had a crush before , so it felt like a nice platonic friendship. But , we both were starting to like each other as "more than friends" , like it was very evident , he confessed first ( i m a coward) and was super understanding abt it , and i got excited and said that i feel the same , cus i do like him more than a friend . And we were quite happy abt it , tho the thing is , i dont want to ruin our friendship if we ever breakup , so i decided to stay friends until we had the emotional maturity to take decisions , cus u also dont find the love of ur life at 18 anyways . Fast forward a few days later , i m past the "honeymoon phase" and think deeply abt my feelings , and i feel like smth is missing , like i want him to be a long part of my life , and its not like he is lacking in anything , he is patient, understanding, we have the same beliefs, and he is the most wonderful guy ever.
Also , i have never had someone confess to me , i also struggle with PCOS and body dysmorphia , i have stretch marks and i feel disgusted looking at them , i just think i am not good enough for him.

He has also had so many girls confessing to him , and they were so much prettier than me, i feel that i am not good enough for him.

And he definitely noticed that smth was going on with me , so he reassured me that even if i dont like him back , its ok , cus he wants to preserve our friendship the most , and i kinda folded and told him everything abt how i felt , and that i felt i wasn't good enough for him, and he was super sweet abt it . When i said that i feel pathetic abt my own problems and feel that i cant be loved by anyone before i love myself , he said that its alright we can go at my pace and that he is always waiting for me and isnt going anywhere and kinda wishes i felt the same cus he wants to be s bit selfish and that i was someone important to him and he couldn't ask for anyone better . We cried a lot abt our feelings and him being so sweet abt it , just made me feel like the worst person ever , we decided to give each other a bit space , and he said that he is always willing to hear if i have reached any conclusion regarding my feelings .