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Hey people of Reddit. I seriously need some advice. My boyfriend keeps telling me my body isn't preferable and how him and his friends all agree I should start working out my ass cuz Im flat

I'm 57kg and 5'7ft tall. I am skinny and healthy and I believe Im fit too. I play soccer and hockey at least for 6 hours a week in total.

When me and my bf started dating he said he likes my body and had anime crushes on people with the same body type (I'm cringing like hell saying that)

But ever since a few months ago his preference completely changed and now he likes thick chubby girls with big ass and tits and makes it as apparent and he can constantly comparing me to anime girls. Hes such a fucking incel.

He says I have to gain 3kg now but he "loves me the way I am"

Yesterday we had a great call and were getting along great, like most days. Then he brought up my ass being too flat. He said how he works out for many reasons and one of them is to look good for me. Which is true and he has gained a lot of muscle since we started dating a year ago.

He said him and his FRIENDS spoke about it and I should start doing squats and stuff too look good for him.

I was angry but tried to hide it cuz last time he said I was overreacting when he called my nose huge and pointed it out on all my pics and I was mad at him for it. So I just decided to say goodnight.

I try realy hard to look good for him by doing my hair, skincare, makeup, dressing well aughh. And I actually like my body yk

But I want this to work out between us I'm just so angry at myself for not being good enough for him and him actually being right

What do I do

Me and my gf had a long "argument" last night over this which consisted of me mainly just being sad and her feeling sorry for even bringing it up. I was upset over the fact she'd be okay with a man doing stuff with her. And now after a day or so of thinking about it. I feel as if FFM wouldn't be bad, but I feel totally against MMF. I'm basically wondering is that unfair, and is it a good idea to do this considering jealousy (though I feel I won't get jealous with FFM, as it is kinda a turn on)

- I also I get that it might seem like I'm an ass for getting so upset over this, but it was mainly the other man part (which is kinda conflicting since I'm okay with FFM), help is appreciated. I feel kinda conflicted as you can tell, but I don't need to know if I'm a bad person or not, as that goes against the rules

TLDR: me and gf got into argument abt threesome, I was against, but now i feel like it’d be fun, only FFM, not MMF.

-EDIT: she’s okay with both FMM and MMF

My question is, should I send. Iv’e been with this girl for 3 months now, weve made out a few times, nothing too crazy.

Recently she’s been acting a little different, she seems “horny” I have no better wording.

I can be freaky, I can be flirty, Iv’e sent before to a girl that I was with for a year. I’m totally fine with sending. I just need to know if I should change my mind. Is it okay for me too. I don’t see any harm. If any, can you inform me of the possible consequences of doing so?

Hey guys, I have no idea if this is the right community to post this but it is what it is.
Blatantly? I am struggling with queer identity, my current relationship, and relationship with my girl best friend.
I am a 16 year old female. Growing up I’ve been surrounded with homophobia and disgust regarding queer relationships—I assume that this has led to some part of internalized homophobia? I have a really hard time determining whether I like women in that sense but there’s someone who makes me less ‘afraid’. I wouldn’t say I’m at all opposed to dating a woman. I’ve grown and changed as a person and I’ve gained my own beliefs regarding queer relationships and other controversies. I’ve experimented with one of my friends, but I’ve only felt platonic regarding me and her relationship.
However, I have a boyfriend. A really good boyfriend at that. He’s the sweetest guy ever. We’ve grown to become really good friends and have been together 11 months. I don’t want to break up with him. He expects us to marry after we’ve both graduated. Also, he wants to go into the Marines to prepare a future for the both of us and it’s such a conflicting feeling because I don’t want to be tied down to that lifestyle but I don’t want to break things off with him either. I love him.
But I think I love her too? She has such a beautiful soul and genuinely feels like my other half. I feel like I’ve expected my boyfriend to fulfill this gap. I feel like we work together well, but I’ve never felt so emotionally connected and intense with another person before except with her. There’s a sense of understanding between us that’s unshakable. At moments I even find her ‘breathtaking’ and can’t help but stare at how perfect she is. We’ve embraced each other and we’ve cuddled together. It feels like a soul tie that I’ll never be able to replicate.
She’s moving away. Tomorrow. I was at her house about two hours ago and we were intertwined. We were hugging and I was scratching her back delicately. “This is kind of gay,” she said, and I was like “I don’t care.” We still laid there enjoying every last moment we could before I had to go home.
Now, I wouldn’t act on my feelings because I’m in a committed relationship. I don’t want to flush 11 months down the drain. We work together well enough, and he tries his very hardest to understand someone as difficult as me. We share all the same values and virtues and mindset but it doesn’t feel as powerful. It is so much easier to be with a guy than with a girl. Especially since I have parents that would 1. Lose it if I ever broke up with him, and 2. Don’t support…and lastly, 3. The fact that she’s leaving, tomorrow.
I’ve been crying my eyes out over this whirlwind of confusion. Do I love her like I love him? Does she? Do I love him like I love her?
I’m so, so guilty because I don’t want to hurt him at all. I’ve tried discussing this feeling that I haven’t been able to discover myself entirely, and that I’m scared of never learning who I am and just shoving it all down and trying to ‘cover it up’. He understands to a certain extent, supports the fact that I’m not straight and want to express myself a certain way, but he’s DEFINITELY not okay with me ‘figuring myself out’—aka “trying stuff with girls”. I completely understand. That would be cheating. I know it would be immoral and I wouldn’t. To live with that guilt and not be able to tell either of them would hurt so badly.
I forgot to add—They literally know each other. We have all hung out together at once, such as going to the mall or to cute markets and whatnot. I can’t let my boyfriend know that I’ve felt this way about her—and she can’t know that I might be in love with her.
It’s just a lonely, incapsulating feeling. I have no one to talk to about this situation. The best thing I have to try to cry out all the guilt and pain is to loop “Pushing it down and praying” on repeat at 2 am in the morning.
How do I get over this? Is it a sign that she’s leaving tomorrow that I need to learn to ‘let her go’? Will I feel this way forever? Will I forever be wishing to know what it would be like with the other person? Am I bisexual? Am I a bad person for thinking this way?
I just wish I could be happy with him and not think of being happy with her.

I know this sounds stupid, but let me tell you everything.

Me and my boyfriend often play together or just chat while the other one is playing, but recently there is something that it's bothering me. Every time i get mad at a game, he just says "Calm down (name), it's just a game…" with an irritating voice just to ragebait me. The first times it happened i just ignored it and keep playing, but it was SO annoying that made wanna punch him. On the following times, i would say to him it was irritating me, then he would say that i was making him sad everytime i raged at a game, so i warned him that everytime i raged and he did this annoying thing i would just stop the conversation right there and would just do my own stuff.

Fast forward to may 21 (yesterday) i was talking to him and raged at tboi (best game OAT btw) and then he said the FUCKING LINE. I was SO mad that i just hung up and stayed away from him in every way possible. I tried to talk to him, asking why did he always did that, and he just sayed that i was the one who was wrong and then he ignored me, so i did the same thing.

The thing is that he can't keep ignoring me for to long and today he was calling me for a call like every day, but i refused it. He said it was important and i sayed: "just say it then" and he sayed "I love you". For context, he always try to do that, manipulate me to say " I love you too" and make me forget about his behaviour, but this time i was done and just sayed: "thanks" and asked him if he wanted to say another thing (LIKE "IM SORRY" OR SUM LIKE THAT).

Now im ignoring him, but i dont think its the right thing to do, so what do i do?

My ex (18M) and I (17F) broke up a while ago because of his mental health and life circumstances, not because we stopped loving each other or because the relationship was toxic.

Ever since then, things have just become… confusing.

We still call sometimes, and now every Tuesday during our shared study period at school, he drives us back to either his place or mine so we can hang out privately for a bit before going back to class.

Sometimes we have sex, sometimes we just cuddle and talk. It honestly depends on the day. But regardless, it never really feels casual.

Like he still acts really caring towards me. He worries about me, comforts me when I’m upset, kisses me goodbye, buys me food after our hangout and we still have a lot of emotional intimacy too.

But we still aren’t together.

That’s the weird part.

I know situationships with exes are usually a terrible idea, but this doesn’t even fully feel like that either because there’s still a lot of genuine care and emotional connection involved.

Has anyone else experienced this weird in-between stage with an ex where you basically become emotionally and physically close again without officially getting back together?

Did it eventually turn back into a relationship, or did it just end up making things harder?

Any advice helps x

I’m (17M) and my situationship parter which I’ll call Abby (16F) for privacy reasons have a not unique but strange relationship. We met through friends of friends and I would like to say we hit it of pretty well. She enjoys niche topics that are rare as a society as a whole E.g reading. We’ve been talking pretty often but due to her getting into exam season think took a stress turn which is very understandable and by all means and not angry about it. The apparent routine was that she would wake up earlier than me send a snap as a whole to all her friends as a Snapstreak and eventually I would wake up and send one back and we would go back and forth with the snaps but I felt as if there was a weird tension to see who would message first, which is I suppose a very common issue with the whole “I’m not messaging first “ type of game. With me being me I always ended up messaging first as I dislike the awkward tension I felt, it would be random stuff as “how’s class” or something that I saw in the snaps in a friendly manner. This was until I diddnt message first for once on a Tuesday. That day the snaps ended prematurely with her leaving my snap on opened which struck me a little hurt but I thought she was going to follow up with a message etc. we went the whole day without messaging which is to an extent fine, I don’t expect to message all day it can get exhausting I suppose however, come next morning same routine; snap, I wake up, snap back and so on. But again I was left on opened and we went the whole day with no constant. During this I was hurt and confused as to why I had to message first. Come next morning I wake up emotional for some reason and message Abby “I miss you why are doing this” and from there we were back in contact for a week, we talked about it and I said it wasn’t fair how I always messaged first and she responded with “I just don’t like messaging first” which I found odd but tried to understand. We keep talking and she promised to message first more. Give or take a weeks time it happens again. Same routine; snap, wake up, send one back and so on. Now I can say she did start to message first so I was happy that our conversation meant something however the conversations she sparked up died fairly quick and ended in her or me reacting with a heart to each other messaging hence killing the conversation but Atleast she was messaging first making it 50/50 between us. Anyways for the most part the routine was the same however she left my message on opened which was odd to me as she had never done that. The topic was her induction day at the college I attend and she stated that none of her friends had the same induction day as her. Clearly I understand that there was undertones of her wanting to go with me as our conversation grew however I diddnt want to announce that I would go with her as to me it seems I would be the best suited person as someone who knows their way around the college and knows teachers and where she needs to be and I thought her asking me would be a given. I kept the conversation alive saying “ask your friends they would go with you if you asked “ she responded with “I don’t want to bother them with asking and make them come with me “ it was at this point I knew she was I suppose hinting at me that she wanted to go with me. I stood my ground and diddnt say that I would go with her and I wanted her to ask that as it’s not my place to say that I’ll go with her because if she doesn’t ask how can I know for sure. Anyways the topic ended with me being on opened and we diddnt talk for the remainder of the day. Next day comes and it’s the same routine; snap, wake up , send one back but there’s no first message from anyone as I’m still hurt from the day prior and would make sense for her to message first. There was no first message from anyone the whole day and I knew it was a repeat on the week before. On this day she left my snap on opened shortly after the routine started leaving me confused and hurt. Regardless I go through my day worried and anxious but I get through it. Next day comes but there’s no snap from her in the morning which through the whole routine upside down and I understood that finally something is happening between us we diddnt talk that whole day which was yesterday as I am writing this on Friday 22nd may which was an unwritten thing between us that I would go to her house on a Friday which has been our small tradition for around a month. I’ve come to terms that maybe we just diddnt click as well as I thought we did and that we’re just stubborn as eachother but I’m still upset as she for the most part had a great personality and gorgeous eyes.

I am very sorry if anyone reads this as it just one block of text and most likely an eye sore but I really want help. Please, thank you

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, don’t get me wrong I absolutely love him and everything but he’s slowly draining me. I’ve always had depression but take medication for it. But I’ve found myself to be numb a lot of the time especially when he lets me down, it feels like he never has time for me. He does boxing on Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday every other day he’s at the gym besides Wednesday that’s his rest day. He also always tells me we will do these things or he’ll promise something and it won’t ever happen and if I get upset over it then I’m ‘selfish’ I don’t know what to do and I’m tired of telling him how depressed I feel but I love him to much to leave him and I can’t see myself not being with him. I just leave so alone and like I only have myself.

My boyfriend(17M) lives an hour away from me(16F). I’ve told my parents all about him and they really approve of him. His car recently broke down and it’s at the mechanic, so it’ll be a while until he can drive down to me again. I have been driving for less than a year, but id say I’m a pretty decent driver. I asked my mom if I could go drive to his place and she said no because she doesn’t want me on the highway. Should I just wait until he gets his car? What would be other ways to keep our relationship nice and strong?

How do I drop my friend?

Hello reddit i’ve never done this before so please bear with me. I (17)F have a best friend (17)M and we’ve been best friends since the 8th grade. My friend and I are close he’s the type of friend if I hear any drama he’s immediately notified. Obviously we’ve done more for each other and been there when we’re upset at family or relationship drama. Basically just normal friendship stuff. But im not gonna lie as much as I love and care for him throughout the years we’ve known each other i thought about dropping him multiple times. You see he’s done things that makes me upset or weirded out by his behavior because it’s not okay. For example I have a big sister who he HATES for mainly no reason. Don’t get me wrong my sister has done some messed up things but she’s family I would also like to add she has bipolar depression. Now his hate for her started when she randomly said that she thought he was ugly. Obviously I told him and since then he hates her. Don’t get me wrong it’s shitty to find out some random person you don’t know / haven’t even talked to before randomly talked bad about you. But that’s all she’s done to him. Everything I told him about her she’s done to my family or people close to her. Now I don’t know if he also hates her because of the things she’s done to my family including me or if he just makes that another reason to justify him hating her. Regardless if I mention anything new she’s done or not even just that I mention her name he immediately bad mouths her and calls her names. Wh*re, b*tch etc. But that’s not the end of it. My sister once came home hurt . Now it wasn’t bad but she was definitely bruised . My family and I don’t know the full story because she’s known to lie. But once I told my friend he immediately starts praising her bf and how he did a “good” job. I wanna say we don’t think her bf did anything to her so dont worry. Now my family and I are really close if my family knew I have a friend who bad mouths my sister I would look bad. This sounds horrible i know but I don’t know what to do. Hes my best friend and we’ve told each other so many things. I’m not confrontational at all I usually just bottle stuff down or just try to get over it. I’m not an angry person i’m the type to walk away and come back when i’m feeling more better. So i don’t know what to do. I talked about this situation with few of my other close friends. And they all agree i should drop him and should’ve done it ages ago. Now the reason i’m doing it now is because I recently had my last straw. I told my friend something I heard about this couple that broke up at my school. Not even 2 hours later my other friend who told me the information since she’s friends with the couple told me not to tell him anything anymore because he’s saying something that isn’t true about the people involved. So I immediately go find him on campus. When I did he told me “I only told one person” and I just said to “keep your f*cking mouth shut” and I walked off to my next class. Later I eventually realized I should talk to him about the things he’s done and I saved it for lunch.
I sat down and basically stated the stuff i tell him he shouldn’t tell anyone and I shouldn’t have to tell him to not say anything because it’s kind of obvious. I also brought up my sister and some other things he’s done like talk bad about people I know. The whole time he tried to justify himself by saying “they all talk bad about me and had his f*cking name in their mouth”. Don’t worry I shut him down and said they never do. But he wouldn’t drop it. He even tried to say that my sister “always talked bad about him”. Mind you my sister is in college she has better things to think about than a 17 year old boy. Anyways the whole time he was blabbering nonsense and even stated ” yea i basically tell everyone everything you say”. I was shocked. Now i’m not too sure how much he’s told but i’m nervous to think he’s told people my personal life. I just ended the conversation with saying he shouldn’t talk bad about the people I know because I care for them and his reflection of his actions also go onto me because i’m friends with him. At the end I made it clear not to mention anything I tell him anymore. After that he left to go sit with other friends for the remainder of the period. Now there was other things said but that pretty much summarized it . The whole time we kept going on back and forth and you can tell he was getting upset. He even jokingly said “oh i’m gonna swing on you” when I wouldn’t agree with him. Crazy I know.
After that argument we’ve been fine but I still want him to know I don’t wanna be friends anymore. How do i say this? My main concern is he would think i’m attacking him and “breaking our friendship for no good reason”. I also don’t want him to talk bad about me if I do stop being friends with him but I understand that may happen and come to terms with it. I don’t know if I should have another talk with him or send a long paragraph i just wanna be honest and not have to ghost him for him to get the hint.
Obviously school is about to end so it’s perfect timing and I wanna do it now. I know this is a lot and sounds incredibly stupid and I should’ve down it ages ago I guess I was just scared. Anything would be helpful and i’m sorry if there’s any confusion with the way i typed this i’m willing to share anything to help give clarification. Thank you

I’m 17M and my best friend, (P, 16F), and I have been really close for around 2 months.

At first, I was actually helping her get closer to one of my friends (N, 16M), because she liked him. During that time, we became best friends, but after a few weeks I started catching feelings for her. Then I found out N had a girlfriend, so I told P.

A few weeks later, P told me she likes another one of my friends (J, 17M). By then, I already liked her a lot.

The reason I’m confused is because P and I are really close.

We text a lot, have deep conversations about life, beliefs, future plans, personal stuff, and we even had a thing where we said “goodnight” in a different language every night. Funny coincidence: we were even born on the exact same day (same date, different year), which became kind of a funny thing between us.

She remembers small details about me, worries about me, compliments me, and usually comes to me for advice if her best friend (T, 16F) doesn’t know what to do.

Some examples:

• When my hand hurt, she brought me cream for the pain.
• She jokes about worrying over my health because I don’t eat enough vegetables.
• She invited me to go eat pizza once.
• We have nicknames and inside jokes.
• We laugh a lot together and make long eye contact.

Recently, I lent her my beanie because it was cold and she liked how it smelled (I wear cologne). At first she gave it back at the end of the day, but eventually she kept it, posted stories wearing it multiple times, and even made one of those pictures her TikTok profile picture. Some mutual friends started asking if I liked her because of how much time we spend together and how often she wears my beanie.

There are also moments that confuse me. Once we were standing in line and one of my friends wanted to stand between us, and she didn’t want him to. Another time during an event at school, even though other friends were there, she specifically asked me to do an activity with her and get her a snack she wanted.

At the same time, she told me she likes J, and J has no idea.

I genuinely don’t dislike J and don’t want to hurt him, but I also know it would hurt me a lot if I stay quiet and eventually see them together while wondering “what if.”

I’ve thought about talking to T first because she’s very trustworthy and close to P.

I’m trying to figure out the best way to handle this without ruining my friendship with P or creating problems with J. How would you approach this situation, and what would you pay attention to before deciding what to do?

TL;DR: I [17M] caught feelings for my best friend [16F]. We’re very close and some things make me think there might be something there, but she told me she likes my friend [17M]. I care about both of them and don’t know how to handle the situation without ruining things.

My girlfriend is awesome, we are both very happy

together but I feel like over time I've lost the ability to focus on only myself. No matter what I do i cant stop thinking about her. We've been together 8 months and it been great. I used to be quite independent last year but after spring break (which was mid march), ive been an anxious clingy obsessive mess. School got difficult, we had some conflicts that we worked through, and things have calmed down but now I cant seem to peel my thoughts away from her. Every second of my downtime has been spent trying to remove her from my mind but I literally cant. No conversation with friends is long enough, no work is stimulating enough, no game is exciting enough to distract my every thought from being about her. We both enjoy our time together but i feel like I cant feel normal without her around. I tried taking a communication break but all that did was make me think about her even more. I need help and I dont know how to get my own thoughts under control, I like my girlfriend so much and I dont want to bog her down with my

own obsession.

Recently me (17f) and my bf (18m) of 8 months, have been arguing a lot and yesterday we hung out. He saw a happy birthday message i sent a guy a used to talk to. Now you might be saying “wtf?” ik. But please hear me. When i get bored i troll on snap to entertain myself. And something i do when im bored is say happy birthday to whoever pops up on the birthday banner and its happened to be him. I wasn’t thinking. He doesn’t believe me and honestly i don’t expect him to. Not only does he not believe me, he think i’ve been talking to him or entertaining him and i haven’t. Genuinely. I’ve explained to him and he will hit me up yes, but i never respond. Ever. He doesn’t believe me. I don’t know what to do. Im aware that sending that message in itself was wrong, but i had no intentions behind it whatsoever. His says my reason is “stupid“ and thats why he doesn’t believe me. But i am not lying. He hates me now and he thinks i’m a whore. I didnt do the stuff he’s saying i did i dont know what to do.

a guy named mark who goes to my school SAed me when i was in 7th grade. now im in 9th and have a boyfriend. he has recently been getting close to mark, and i feel betrayed bc my boyfriend knows abt the situation. i told him today that i want him to stop talking to him and he seriously asked me why. he said that since marks nice to him and hasn’t been weird lately that it should be fine. any advice helps!!

so me (17F) and my bf (17M) have been dating for 3 months (btw we are long distance) and one of my things was for him to not follow random girls (i applied that to myself too with boys). one day we were texting on ig and maybe an hour later he let me know a girl that he had just followed was his cousin and i check to make sure. i find the girl and find out it’s actually not his cousin and it’s a girl who is promoting herself for yk what and i was feeling iffy and just decided to unfollow him on everything but me just wanting answers i announce that we were gonna break up so he can at least say something about it so i tell him we should break up and he says doesn’t want to break up

fast forward he shows me the message between them and she asks him if he wants to buy ( i asked him to confirm it’s his cousin bc of reasons) so he said hi cousin she didn’t see it till a day later and he said she was just asking for money (implying on her asking if he wants to buy) so we talk more about the situation and i decide to take him back because it was my first relationship and i just felt i couldn’t live without him yet not right now at least 🙄

We are on our third month now. this month i see that he was in a party on the xbox talking to a girl and i began to feel a little worried because i don’t know how he is talking to this girl. keep in mind we never actually spoke to each other and heard each other’s voices just chatted so i was feeling a little sad (i did mention that we should maybe try it maybe around April but i was kinda scared and he was too so we didn’t call each other). so i asked him why is he talking to that girl and he said she’s just a friend and im like okay and he tells me not to be mad at him and i said i’ve realized i cant stop what he does but that i wont stay for it (probably not good to say) so he starts saying he doesn’t follow her on ig and that he doesn’t want to break up and i say maybe it’s best for us if we do because then i wont have to feel like he’s cheating on me, etc. i asked him about this account he has that got suggested to me and he said he doesn’t use it bc it got hacked.

fast forward again we got back together 😶 that day or the day after. i noticed that he followed more people on his other account than he does on the account i follow him on so i go to my other account and follow him but it was private so i had to get approval and eventually he did approve it so i check his following and notice alot of girls.

so can someone tell me what i should do 😞
Need advice asap!!

For context, I have known for almost​ 8 years now that I am attracted to women and men (bisexual). It hasn't ever been an issue in a majority of my very few, and very short relationships, until now (as this is the longest relationship i've had so far, half a year). While I love my boyfriend, there are times I wished he was a girl, or that we could have a girl in the relationship with us. I'm not sure how to even bring this up, as we won't be seeing eachother practically at all for 3 months (the whole summer) as he is always working, and I'm busy with hockey.

I suspect this might all stem from some hockey friends I have recently made, one who is a lesbian, one is a bisexual male, and one who is open minded. I don't believe I am personally attracted to them (expect for maybe the last one), and I'm very open with telling them ​a lot of details about my personal life.

With that in mind, I have no plans to break up with my boyfriend. Sure, many highschoolers plan to marry their boyfriends, and then break up after highschool, or even before they graduate, but I geuinely see myself possibly having a family with him. I love his face, his family, and a majority of his personality. Even the parts I don't enjoy at times, he has made our relationship to the point I can freely, safely, and comfortably bring up any issues or things I'm concerned or even just want to mention. This is one of the main things I love about him, as well as just how overall caring he is, and how trustworthy I see him.

The only issue is, that I know that I will often appreciate other people's looks (with no intention of ever cheating, as I never even attempt contact with them, and never plan on it), and I have noticed I've been appreciating a lot of women's looks.

Bringing up the topic of my new hockey friends (apologies for being all over the place, I'm just really curious what people have to say on this), I have been told that my appearance and even the way I carry myself is very masc lesbian. Which, I honestly enjoy.

Though, there's almost no women who I have in mind when it comes to any type of lover, except for, as the title says, if my boyfriend was a woman. ​But at the same time, I want to ask my boyfriend how he feels about being more open (not an open relationship, but possibly a polyamorous relationship). Even with that, I feel like this​ is just very selfish of me, and that I might just be trying to be attracted to women who I want to be, rather who I want to be with. I'm not entirely sure on any of it. As I write this, I'm still very unsure of my stance on anything, except for the fact that I plan to continue my relationship with my boyfriend, as I couldn't even imagine losing him.

TDLR; Raging Bisexual with a preference for women, got a really amazing (sometimes) boyfriend, and can't decide if I want something polyamorous, or if I just need to wait and see if this feeling passes.

As the title suggests my boyfriend and I have been arguing about my summer plans and I am in need of advice.
For context: I was born in another country than the one I live in now, Ive only been living here for almost 6 years and my boyfriend was born here. My friends from my home country have their own friendgroups and every time i go visit (about twice a year) we all hang out together and i get to know their friends too. A few years ago (2022) I met my best friend at the time’s friends and one of them was a guy, i’ll call him Mike for the sake of the story. Since we met Mike and I started hanging out more often and I introduced him to other friends of mine and we slowly became our own friendgroup and we were all inseparable until eventually we grew up and while im still close to all of them we dont get together like we used to. Maybe important to mention Mike is the type of guy that only has girl friends and acts gay yk? Besides that me and Mike stopped talking at one point but about 2 years ago we started talking again and we often play videogames together and have a lot in common so we have become very close friends. A few probably important things i should mention before bringing up the conflict between me and my boyfriend:

1. Me and Mike have been planning for years to go to study in the Netherlands together
2. One time my boyfriend asked me to play videogames with him and i declined since he didnt want to play what i wanted and i had already planned to play with Mike.
3. We have been together for about 5 months

these points are topics on which me and my boyfriend have argued over which are probably reasons on why he doesnt like my guy friend Mike.

Back to the original story: I was talking to my parents recently and asking what the plans are for this summer and when we are going back to my home country and we usually also go to another country for vacation with my
cousins but this time we are going at a different time in summer than previous years so i started texting all of my friends trying to figure out if our plans line up. Another point is that my parents decided not to go to another country this year because my cousins and my brother are going somewhere else so we wont get together to go somewhere. This made me really upset since the best part of summer is the beach for me and i also was telling my friends about that and this is the point where Mike asked me if i want to go to Greece with him and his parents because they have a private place all to themselves and they have a free already paid for place for another person. I know his family and his knows mine and my parents have always been strict on me going on vacation without them but i figured id ask. I asked my mother about her opinion today and long story short she agreed but still has to talk to my father and Mikes parents of course. So as you can imagine i have been arguing with my boyfriend about this and i definitely understand his side that it makes him uncomfortable and that he might not be Mikes biggest fan but I dont know if i would let down such opportunity. I am scared that he will break up with me but if its that easy for him to leave me over this does he even love me? He also keeps bringing up how his friends would react he says things like “they would laugh at me” but what am i supposed to do? He doesnt have to tell everyone my business. It would really suck to lose him over this but what can I do? Ive asked him if he would want to talk to Mike maybe get to know him but he just says it would make him feel worse.

Any advice would be appreciated

I’ve been talking to this guy long distance for a while (six months) and our relationship is really emotionally serious but technically undefined.

He tells me he loves me, his grandma calls me his girlfriend, we talk all the time, etc. He also went on a cruise during my birthday with his family. A couple weeks later i’m on the phone we’re kinda just doing our own thing sitting in silence and one of the family members who was on the cruise comes over his house. she asks him oh how’s that one girl (me) would you consider yall dating and he says after like two minutes yeah i would say im dating her note he knows im still on the phone. she replies back to him saying “that’s not what you told on the cruise” i question him about it later and his justification was that he was waiting till my birthday passed to consider us dating cause of the age difference at that time. But when I asked when he was going to actually ask me to be his girlfriend, he said “not for a while.”

The problem is he also has a habit of disappearing for days at a time. This most recent time he didn’t respond to me for 3 days (once it was 5 the other was like a week) , and during those 3 days I ended up having sex with two other people. Now I feel extremely guilty and like I cheated even though we never officially said we were exclusive (kinda he said that i have nun to worry about?)

I’m scared he’ll find out somehow and I genuinely don’t know if I’m a terrible person or if this relationship dynamic is just confusing. Part of me feels like if he really wanted commitment he would’ve made things official already, but another part of me feels sick because emotionally I viewed him as more than casual.

he also says that he doesn’t want commitment yet because his life isn’t set yet he’s thinking about going to the military taking care of his brothers whom he got depressed from

do i stop messing with him?

hi guys

My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 months. She has been an ARMY for a long time. Recently, I’ve been feeling a bit weird, so I talked to her about it, but I’m still confused and hoping someone can understand how I feel and give me advice.

When we started dating, she told me she was an ARMY, and I was happy because BTS helped her and healed her, as she said. I even started listening to their music, although it’s not really my type. Still, I do like some songs like FRI(END)S. She often reposts their content and constantly praises their looks.

Once, I replied to one of her reposts with a simple smiling emoji and a question mark. She immediately got excited and started saying, “He is so good-looking,” and kept talking about him (I don’t remember his name). That made me feel jealous. It feels heavy in my heart hearing her talk so passionately about another guy, and I honestly don’t know what to do with these feelings.

One day, when we went to a mall, there was a Jungkook Calvin Klein poster. She got really excited and started shouting to her friend, “Hey, it’s JK!” We stood there for about 10 minutes. Later, when I talked to her about how it made me feel, she said it’s just platonic love and that there’s nothing wrong with it, and that I shouldn’t feel this way.

I’m really confused about what I should do.

Ive like this guy since last year, and only know found out about the age gap. I’m worried about the long distance and the obvious maturity difference, since he’s graduating this week. I’m thinking about finding someone to pass him a note with my number, but I’m hesitant to do so. We don’t know each-other, and I don’t know any mutual friends… should I pursue this? I don’t know anything about him either, just his age.