r/lesbianteens

so I have had a massive crush on this one girl in my ballet class for like 7 years now (don’t judge me, I know it’s a long crush 😭), but something has always felt…wrong. Not my crush, nothings wrong with her, just the idea of being gay in ballet is just…idk…weird af to me. Can anyone explain why? I’m curious and kinda confused

Told my mom I was hanging out with my gf, and called her by her name for the first time, she started asking me questions ofc about her then she said can you not bring ur new gf here we’re also still having separation anxiety from ur ex, and even the baby too (my younger sister) . That just to me sounded so weird and so inconsiderate, I been told my mom I’m over my ex and I’ve moved on and she still insists on making it seem like I’m stuck on her/ still griefing from the breakup. That was 8 months ago, I don’t understand why she felt the need to say that, it felt really weird to me. Maybe I’m just bugging but it irritated me, I don’t understand why my relationships and life have to be on the same page as my mother’s. Like I understand the closeness they shared but it’s been 8 months.

[slight tw for EDs and SH]

So, for context, I 16f have been talking to/ dating this girl 14f a grade below me for ~6 weeks and tbh, although we were kinda awkward at first, it’s going slow but GREAT (we held hands in the park last sunday 🤭🤭) and I really see this thing working out and us getting together and all things are going in the right direction. I’m planning on asking her to be my gf the day of the girls like girls movie afterwards.

One thing though is that I have quite the past of mental struggles: I struggled with multiple eating disorders in the past but mainly anorexia and went to outpatient treatment beginning of the year. I also have had my struggles with sh in the past esp up until november, doing my best to stay clean now.

Thing is, my scars are on my upper thighs and very noticeable and a bit red and i go to weigh ins at the clinic biweekly and to therapy weekly, so although I’m doing better than ever, it is still a big part of my life. If we work out, I won’t be able to hide it anymore. I’m scared she’ll stop liking me or find me weird if i tell her but I also want to be open and honest and not lie to her.

I have no idea how she feels about this type of stuff especially the scars since a lot of people like you less because of it and it makes me fear intimacy (which were miles away from but still)

Idk how and when to address it but ik i have to at some point, so i thought i’d ask you all.

Ok so my now 2 yrs old situationship is probably approaching its end. She confessed, and so i did too, and i don't think that if we don't get togheter we will be able to keep seeing eachother as just friends.

Ik she is really freaking out about this and is very insicure and scared that she will self sabotage, and knowing her it's very probable, so idk i wanted to give her something more meaningful than just a gift.

I've drawn her countless times whenever we went no contact it helped me feel better so i have a lot of drawings of her. Ofc she doesn't know, but idk i tought that might be a nice way to show her how much she's always meant to me. But idk it also sounds super corny and i'm afraid this will scare her off and she'll start self sabotaging again until she manages to really destroy what's left of us.

What do i do??

so someone messaged me and said that they were looking for a friend and then asked for my age. then asked for a photo of me and i asked them if they had any other social media. they said that they had snap and discord. discord is banned in turkey so i told them that and said that i'd add them when i would login with vpn. then asked me where i was from and told me to message them on snap. i did and they asked for a pic again. i told them to go first. then i did send a pic. they told me that i was pretty and then asked for a full body pic. i did send them that and they asked me if i was afab or amab then i told them to guess. they told me that i looked like afab and then i said unfortunately not. and then they messaged me "not in that sorry bye". BITCH YOU COULDN'T EVEN TELL

I’m just so tired of the “what would you imagine your future husband to be like” and “what kind of marriage do you want” kinda questions from my parents you know? don’t get me wrong, i have the loveliest parents anyone could ask for, who have given me so so much love and support. but sometimes it gets frustrating with such kind of questions…i try to avoid them so much but still idk.

i tried coming out to my mom but it was a failed attempt with all the “it’s a phase” and “you’re too young to know”…it’s a little sad when she keeps saying that she can’t stop thinking about what would happen if i were “like that” and that it’s disgusting to even imagine two girls being together, said that she wouldn’t be sure and relieved until i got married to a man.

i know. i know for sure that I’ll always be different from the rest of my family, liking girls instead of boys like other, normal girls. but i can’t help it can i? because God, the number of times I’ve imagined how much easier life would be if i was just straight.

Im sorry if this is a lot…but i dont know who i can tell

just realised-realised I’m lesbian after months of bisexual denial and im still in a  bit of denial. Like i feel guilty? Bc i feel like a disappointment to my mom and the idea of normalcy but i know thats not want i want for any part of my life— career, home, etc. so like what?? I think it’s maybe internalised homophobia or smth? I also love my mom a lot..

i am not sure if this type of post is allowed so remove it bo problem if it is not! basically i have been and f r i e n d s (so this doesn't get removed lol) with this girl (lets call her emily) for like 5 years. we both do musical theater and we try to do shows together but it doesnt always work out, we really only talk when we do shows. she invited me to sleep at her house with our other f r i e n d and we had alot of fun. i really wanna ask her out but she wont give me an answer, if she likes girls or not. i asked her (over text while we were sitting with our other f r i e n d) and she just looked at me and smirked. like.. should i just shoot my shot? i had a plan but maybe its stupid. i was gonna text her and be like "hey emily, you know the reason i keep asking you if your gay is cause i wanna ask you out right.." and then just see what she says. idk. any advice would be helpful!

oh my god. i still cannot believe this happened to me.

so for context im 17 and a HARD butch, like i bind my chest and all that shit just for aesthetics and such. i also have a pretty deep voice and an androgynous face so i get mistaken for a guy often. this doesnt bother me because usually people realize after talking to me for a few that im just a really masculine chick. or at least i THOUGHT so until yesterday.

i was about to leave a rehearsal for a musical im in right now where i play the male lead (im a contralto so i have tenor/bass notes in my range) and the dude playing the supporting male lead (who i thought was just a good friend) catches me on my way out and is like "hey wanna get dinner some time?" and i just raise an eyebrow cuz i thought it was just a weird way he was asking to hang out. but then his face gets all red and he's like "im asking you on a date." and i was like. "dude. im...gay?" and he was like "me too!" and at this point i was like wtf and said "so why would you want to go on a date?" and the actual pure fear i saw on this mans face as it dawned on him that i was a lesbian and not another gay man will live on in my mind forever. we laughed it off and its fine now but like. ?????

im 5 foot 6 and have a very feminine name that ive NEVER heard a man have in my entire life and EVERYONE else in the show calls me by she/her....so how this guy made this mistake i will never know. oh my god. he's known me for almost 2 full months. i feel like i need to write lesbian on my forehead now. jesus christ. what the hell.

(if ur seeing this for the second time its cuz i accidentally posted it double and deleted it double so it had to be reposted 😭😭)

so I told my family that I am lesbian and they didn’t care!! They supported me and my stepdad is helping me order some accessories related to it!!

I‘ve liked this person for a while, well, at least what I know about them so far…they’re similar to Faye Webster in a white boy in a garage-band aesthetic. For a little while now I’ve been waving and saying hi them with a smile, she‘s responded with a wave and smile back- in her own awkward caught off guard kinda way, I noticed she may? be getting used to that so I gave her a note with a dad joke on it as she was walking with her friend in the hallway. I saw her, walked towards her, asked her, “Do you like dad jokes?”, she said “huh?”, I said, “Do you like dad jokes?”, she said, “sure..”, I said, “here” and put it in her hand, and then walked away….I realized afterwards I forgot to tell her to return it to me… this, was really dumb…I probably shouldn’t have done that, she seemed confused, probably because it was out of nowhere…I don’t know, it’s Friday, I’ll know by Monday? hopefully? did she even think about it afterwards? she’ll probably forget all about it and simply assume I’m weird. YEAH, but whaddya think about this? Am I cooked???

Edit: She also seems like the introverted or at least type of person to not approach someone first, not shy- more awkward? If yah know what I’m tryna say.

I (18NB) has never had luck in the love department and it really suck beck I’ve been touch starved ever since my ex dumped me and I been wanting a relationship for so long now but I can’t get any it also maybe the fact I’m still in the closet at home but the lack of being wanting in a romantic way is driving me crazy I feel like I’m just ugly and people will never think I’m pretty enough to date 😢 (sorry for no punctuation I’m dyslexic and sad 😅)

I always get hit on and told i’m pretty/hot but it’s always people 20+ and it’s annoying! why am i not attractive to people my age :( i have a gf but we’re poly bc of long distance which makes it even harder to find someone! i’m just so done with trying 🙄