u/Worldly_Offer_3614

Our anniversary is coming up and she recently brought up how shes been wanting a dogtag, and luckily enough I have an old one I used to wear all the time. It’s just a plain stainless steel one with no inscription on it or anything so idk if I should give it to her since it isn’t really the typa thing she wears yk? Like her jewelry is usually more like statement pieces for rings and, for necklaces I don’t see her wearing much except the one she has of her initial, shes a alternative person and she dresses really cool so idk if she’d like me giving her just a plain dogtag or if I should buy her something else. Any advice?

When I was dating this one girl she knew of what my grandmother did to me as a child yet during sex she would compare me to a little child/baby. She’d just randomly tell me while we do it how I’m like a little baby clinging onto its mother. I really liked this girl and I was younger then so I didn’t pay it no mind but I feel disgusting for enabling it. It was a two party thing so it isn’t entirely on her and I just wish I could’ve stopped her or told her not to do that shit, I was fucking terrified of this girl and she’d use to hit me but still. Just thinking about it makes my skin crawl and I wish I had the self respect at the time to tell her how it made me feel uncomfortable. I don’t know what to really do with myself at this point, I feel dirty and just contaminated.

Told my mom I was hanging out with my gf, and called her by her name for the first time, she started asking me questions ofc about her then she said can you not bring ur new gf here we’re also still having separation anxiety from ur ex, and even the baby too (my younger sister) . That just to me sounded so weird and so inconsiderate, I been told my mom I’m over my ex and I’ve moved on and she still insists on making it seem like I’m stuck on her/ still griefing from the breakup. That was 8 months ago, I don’t understand why she felt the need to say that, it felt really weird to me. Maybe I’m just bugging but it irritated me, I don’t understand why my relationships and life have to be on the same page as my mother’s. Like I understand the closeness they shared but it’s been 8 months.