r/Crushes

I am 21M and single since birth. So in my gym there is a girl which I like and i want to talk to her but i dont have enough confidence to go and speak to her because she is doing workout with her one female friend so I get nervous to talk to her and she also live close to my house.

I have her Instagram id but i didn't follow her. So what I am thinking is should I follow her on Instagram and then directly confess her my feelings.

Because if I only follow her and after that if I see her in gym it would become awkward because I don't talk to her

So there is a cute guy in my church. I took a picture of him as he passed by, and as I looked back, I observed his parents sitting behind me. help

Yeah, what the title says.

Be specific tho, personality/looks wise, and crossing my fingers that someone special is gonna try hitting you up soon (either irl or here, and yeah, power of manifestation gais)

I’m ‘F 26’ and he’s is ‘M28’
I followed him on insta and he followed back, even though he has a very small follower/following list, not many girls. We only exchanged 2-3 messages and then he left me on delivered. It’s been 36 hours.
For context he’s not very active on Instagram, this morning his last activity was 12 hours ago and
sometimes he’s more active. What’s going on?
He seemed curious but I don’t know what to thinks

I recently met a male cousin after many years, and things feel a bit confusing. In family gatherings, he is generally very quiet and reserved, mostly stays with his male cousins and doesn’t talk much to female cousins in general. However, with me, there have been some moments where he seems aware of my presence—like noticing small things, helping with simple gestures, and even asking about me indirectly through other family members. At the same time, in person he often appears awkward or very formal, sometimes only giving basic greetings. I can’t tell if this is just his personality, general shyness, or if there is some curiosity or interest involved. I also feel shy and overthink my own behavior around him, which makes the interaction even more confusing. I’m not sure how to interpret these mixed signals or how I should behave in future family meetings.

FREAKKKK IW ANT THIS MANNNN SO BADDDD 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 OMD PLEASE HES SO HANDSOME AND IT'S KILLING ME I WANT TO GET TO KNOW HIM SO BAD I WANT TO BE HIS FRIEND AGHHHHHHH

I THOUGHT I WAS OVER HIM AND IT'S JS LIGHT HAPPY CRUSH, BUT MAAAANNNN I WANT HIM PLEASE I HOPE HE'S GOD'S BLESSING FOR ME 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

IT'S SO ATTRACTIVE THAT HE'S AWARE HE'S HANDSOME. FUH HIS VOICE TOO AND HIS SENSE OF HUMOR AND HOW POLITICALLY AWARE HE IS 😭😭😭

HE'S SO FREAKING ATTRACTIVE IN GONNA KMS IF SOMEONE TAKES HIM FROM MEEEE😭😭😭💔💔💔

ive had a crush on this guy for about a full year, we had an “eyecontactship” like eye contact and he even smiled at me like once, and I saw him looking at me multiple times, we used to subconsciously sit next to each other, once he even told his friend he wanted to sit next to me…..i havent been to school for about 7 months now, should I stiI’ll follow him or do u think he forgot about me and it’s weird and creepy since we have never spoken to each other??

Hello everyone, first time posting here so apologies if I missed something regarding the rules.

I (30M) have a gym crush, she is this beautiful girl that I see 3 times a week when going to the gym. Now, being the silly guy that I am I tend to look at things that I like and she is no exception. In the beginning I was scared of getting "caught" glancing at her but I started to notice she would look my way sometimes. I'm a shy person so I would look away.

Lately I managed to gather some courage and actually smile instead of looking away and she smiles back. The other day we shared a machine and ever since then we greet and smile at each other when we our eyes meet.

I got no clue what her name is, and I'd like to introduce myself and get to know her but being the shy overthinker that I am, I'm always scared of being viewed as a creep or bothering people who are just there to workout while I'm trying to workout and meet new people.

A bit of a vent but also requesting some opinions. PS: I'm a very oblivious guy as well.

So here’s the deal.

I (25F) have this coworker who is double my age (50M) and I cannot figure out if he is attracted to me, likes me, or dislikes me. We work at a school, we are neighbors.

He is a very outgoing, charismatic guy who looks like he could be in his late 30s. He’s always cracking jokes to people and is close friends with a couple other female teachers.

I am relatively new, and I definitely did not interact with him too much at the start of the year because I did not want to come off as inexperienced/needy to my coworkers. I think I inadvertently was kind of standoffish tbh.

So, it came as a complete surprise when he asked me to get lunch out of the blue one day. It was a half day, and almost everyone else had already left. No kids either. As we were leaving the school, I said that another coworker had mentioned the place we were going to before, and he seemed startled and misheard what I said as « so and so is coming too. » Then, on our way to our cars, we crossed paths with another coworker and he was uncharacteristically quiet, and did not extend an invite to her. He ended up confirming the rendez-vous only when he drove past my car.

The lunch was awkward— I didn’t know what to make of it and he seemed equally awkward. We talked about ourselves and our interests/motivations, and when I mentioned my sister’s husband, I’m pretty sure he asked if he was older than her. That was such an out of pocket question that I still second guess my memory. He also pointed to the coffee board and asked if I « like those sorts of things. »

Anyway, I basically felt weird and confused after that lunch and the next morning he seemed to have timed himself to cross paths with me at an exact moment to recommend a book to me (as a follow up to our conversation the previous day.) I kind of brushed it off. Then, later, he asked me what time my lunch was that day because he had missed his normal time (man has been at that school for many years). I again brushed it off and went to busy myself.

So… if the lunch was a *lunch*, my follow up reactions sure were sending a hard no.

Anyway, a few weeks pass, I go and talk to him out of the blue about some struggles I’d been having, he’s really nice and empathetic about it, reassures me that I’ve made a positive impression on everyone on our team, he said: « That’s why I was so happy you said yes to lunch, because I was like, I like her, I want to get to know her, » and then called me mysterious and like Stevie Nicks. Hm.

That might have thawed things because he started coming to check up on me a bit. I took care of some baby chicks for him while he was away and he called me a « good step-mother » and out of the blue called me by my full first name in a teasing way, which I don’t use at work. Not sure how he found it.

Then, he went out of his way to go all the way across campus with a broken ankle to fix my broken tables (and winked at me).

Another day, he came into my room, asked me if I was quitting, and said that it was like « we’re getting a divorce » because I’m moving buildings next year.

Probably the two most interesting pieces of information are how he very obviously checked me out when I was wearing a new dress, and how when I told him I was super tired, he brought it up again later and asked if I had a date the previous night.

Lately, however, he has been a bit hot and cold. Sometimes, he will pop into places where I am, as well as others and interact with us in some plausibly deniable way (I think), such as randomly popping in and chatting with my students about what they’re working on. Sometimes, he will look at me out of the corner of his eye but not say hi, or not greet me except to give short, one worded retorts to my quips. Sometimes, he will catch my eye and smile at me as he passes into his room. Sometimes, he is busy or doesn’t seem to want me to come into his room. Today, his hands were shaking when he came over to help me with something. Maybe he just has shaky hands.

He hasn’t asked me to another lunch type of thing, but he has made soft references to getting coffee, and even offered to bring me one (which I turned down out of pure practicality— I already had one).

Anyway, I’m running out of time with this person near me, and I want to decide what to do. Is this flirting? Is this just normal platonic coworker behavior, and I have daddy issues? Is he making fun of me? Am I bad at flirting and thus giving mixed signals?

Would love some perspective.

I’m going on holiday this summer and flying by myself (first time) and I’m planning to message my crush and basically confess right before I get on my flight
Thing is I’ve never actually talked to her before and like we’ve never interacted
So I’m not really sure what to do or if it’s even the right thing to do because I’m only doing it to counter the risk of crashing (iykyk) and I’ve liked her for a year and a half but never done anything and I really want to just get it over with and I don’t even mind if I get rejected

My crush said yes but now I have no crush so I must leave. Good luck everyone

The yearning is only getting worse, and it seems the only way to get relief is to shoot my shot. But with how much I hurt right now, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I get rejected. However the pain from being rejected would probably be finite in time, whereas I'll suffer as long as I don't have closure.

Every time I think about asking her out, I get a video in my feed about a woman's frustration with her male friend expressing romantic interest in her. It makes me feel incredibly guilty and lose all motivation because of fear she'll resent me.

I guess I'm showing you all this back and forth in real time so that you can either give me the final push I need or tell me clearly if it's a bad idea

I told my best friend I have a crush on him and he was obviously flattered, but made it clear he doesn’t feel the same way. When I told him, he deadass checked himself out in the mirror and said that he was shocked. Him being shocked was shocking to me because I feel like he’s done things that have made me think that he could possibly feel the same way. His reaction kind of made me feel like he was using my vulnerability as an ego boost. Like, I understand feeling flattered that someone likes you, but the way he reacted was just so bizarre to me. Does anyone have advice on how I can move forward or have any of you maintained a friendship after confessing? How did it go?

This has happened twice now the past year.

I develop a crush. I know she likes me in return. It feels amazing just to see her. I can tell she feels it too. Yet I don't act. She gives me chances to make a move, but I don't take them. Then things just slowly die down. Then I feel empty and disappointed in myself for doing nothing.

I don't like this feeling. It's just an emptiness now. With each crush that I don't act on the more I accumulate "what ifs" that live rent free in my head. I only develop a crush like once every 2 years, so it's not often. Which makes it hurt more when I let it slip by.

I have a gym crush. When i see her now I just feel disappointed. I can tell the energy shifted because of my inaction. I can tell she felt disappointed & annoyed that I didn't approach despite the chances she gave me. We don't look at each other all the time like we used to. Yet when I don't see her at the gym I think "maybe she switched gyms or moved. I lost my opportunity forever", and I feel sad. It sucks either way.

Crushes are exciting. Then they just feel shitty when it goes nowhere for whatever reason.

I’m going on holiday this summer and flying by myself (first time) and I’m planning to message my crush and basically confess right before I get on my flight
Thing is I’ve never actually talked to her before and like we’ve never interacted
So I’m not really sure what to do or if it’s even the right thing to do because I’m only doing it to counter the risk of crashing (iykyk) and I’ve liked her for a year and a half but never done anything and I really want to just get it over with and I don’t even mind if I get rejected

he already confessed to me but we’ve been in silence and he already tried to kiss me once but i kinda freaked out and he decided not to. we both like each other and i wanna kiss him next time i or he comes over but idk if i should

And how did it go when you did confess?

Today at 12 a.m, a time when I absolutely should be asleep but am unfortunately not, I get a reel from my crush asking which of 4 categories my previous crush falls under.

Like, my previous crush, one I’ve talked to him about.

So obviously I watch it and respond within a minute.

And then… no response back. 😀

What was the purpose.

Why do I entertain this.

We are in COLLEGE; so WHY do i feel so immature?!

Someone break the spell, let me have my peace 🙏

WTFFFFFFFF 💔

Basically my whole frnd grp knows i dont date. Never have, and won't for a long time due to personal reasons. I think one of my best frnds from a long time likes me. He says platonic shit all the time and sends shit like " liking someone u cannever have" bruh. Tell me guys of reddit, how do u react lol.

a person’s inconsistent behavior is genuinely so torturous 😭 i feel like they’ll like me one day b/c of their attention and the next day I’m disregarded

it makes me feel like I over-romanticized everything & that I must have developed a cognitive disability & must have imagined it all? i swear im more sane than this