r/yumeshippersunite

i'm really glad that i finally found a yumeshipping community that is thoroughly open minded & accepting, which is odd because i feel like the basis of yume shipping itself relies on being pro fiction ;–; the space here also just feels more mature & non judgemental which is very lovely

although i've been self shipping pretty much ever since i got into fandom as a kid, i've been steering clear of yume shipping communities because of how hostile it can be. a lot of my self ships aren't even really what u would consider 'dark', but seeing how other people can't be normal about not policing others it gets really exhausting to see!

to be honest bc of that, i'm not fully in the know about the yume shipping culture, i understand the main surface stuff, but is there anything in particular i should know more about?

i have seen people get CRAZY emotionally attached and dependant on their f/os there, invalidate their doubles all the time, and yet... nothing happens? mods don't care, other members don't care, they just treat it as normal

once i saw someone over there claim seeing doubles having serious-ish relationships [marriage, fankids, big shrines etc] with their f/o genuinely traumatized them because they were so dependent on said f/o and everyone there treeated it as completely normal

every once in a while when i take a peek at r/yumeshipping the majority of what i see is super dependent and/or toxic yumeshippers

am i missing something here?

He's the embodiment of perfection while I'm ugly, fat, too lazy to use my brain that's relatively good and I spend all my free time in my bed playing video games or crying instead of trying to become worthy of him

I feel like a place to make little posts about my love would be fun! What sites do people use for such things?

I'm personally very open to sharing when it comes to my f/os, so that's not my problem. But when I see people shipping my f/os with other characters in their media it really triggers me and I hate it. I don't like feeling angry/sad every time I see someone disagree with who I think is the "best ship" because I know that everyone is different, everyone likes different things, I truly don't expect everyone to agree with or conform to my opinions. But knowing all that doesn't stop the emotions. I just hate this one specific ship with one of my f/os and a lot of the time the fans of it are very rude and dismissive because it's the most popular ship in the fandom atm.

I was just hoping anyone might have tips on how to let it go without feeling it so personally when, again, I logically understand people like different things and my preferences aren't the "one true way" or whatever. I just feel like these people have too much power over my emotional state by expressing their own opinions and I want to change it.

Dumb question I thought of.

Ramona: How loving and caring she is, her hair, how soft she is, her eyes, her clothes.

Lynette: her bionic arm, how attached she is, her opaque glasses, and how she sings.

Is there anyone else not emotionally exclusive? Or am I just an outlier?

You see, my primary SO is Meg Griffin. She deserves all the love she can get, and so if someone else makes her happy (not just me), then I'm genuinely happy. She has suffered enough. I won't let my own emotions and potential jealousy get in the way of her living her life and feeling comfort.

LOOK! My f/o isn’t rlly that common for other ppl to yume with. He’s kind of a controversial character to selfship with because of his age and backstory.
So y’know, when I was 14 and getting called out on Insta for self shipping with Ortho Shroud, I kind of thought I was the only one. And I did feel a bit special cause I felt like no one rlly loves him like I do cause most of the fandom sees him as “little brother” or “my son”.

But I did stumble on another Ortho self shippers page today. They started posting ortho selfship content last month. And I don’t know why but I feel bad. I’ve loved ortho for almost 4 years and had to go through posts and msgs of ppl who didn’t like me because of that. Ppl who saw me differently all because I love a fictional android boy.

I’ve spent money on him, not just on merchandise, but on art comms and on special occasions. Most of my family and friends know that I just love him. I love him a lot.

I don’t want to think too much abt it. I just kind of wanted some sort of outlet to let this all out

Haii, I've been self shipping for years but recently started interacting more with the community since yumeshipping became more popular, but I've not been feeling good enough to be in the community per say? Everyone all seems super lovely dovey which is very sweet but the whole community seems to be about how much you can love your f/o, but I'm aceflux and aromantic and pretty much only experience an aesthetic based attraction. Does anyone else feel left out too? I've actually yet to see other aroace yumeshippers!