u/Murky-Top-1527

I got married through AM about a month ago. We got introduced 2 years ago through mutual family friends. We hit it off quite well and bonded so well that people used to speculate that it was a love marriage.

Before, During and even after 1 month of our marriage, I felt super loved by my husband. Like that guy adored me. And I was so much in love with him.

2 days ago, I somehow found out that my husband's family took 30 L in dowry from us.

For my family, it's a huge amount. I knew that my parents were giving something like 5-7L that I somehow couldn't talk them out of but they insisted it was for us to buy stuff for our future home. My In-laws also talked about giving us stuff. So, I decided to let it go.

Now, I find out that everyone basically lied to me and on top of that, MY HUSBAND KNEW EVERYTHING.

For 2 days, I can't process what I'm feeling. I feel sad, betrayed and disgusted even looking at my husband. I can't bring myself to talk to him.

He keeps asking me what's wrong. Bringing me stuff I like. Trying to make me laugh. But I just have this idk how do I describe it, hollow type of feeling. I don't want to talk to him. I have already fought with my parents about the lie but I can't bring myself to talk to my husband. Something has just changed. IDK what to do.

I got married through AM about a month ago. We got introduced 2 years ago through mutual family friends. We hit it off quite well and bonded so well that people used to speculate that it was a love marriage.

Before, During and even after 1 month of our marriage, I felt super loved by my husband. Like that guy adored me. And I was so much in love with him.

2 days ago, I somehow found out that my husband's family took 30 L in dowry from us.

For my family, it's a huge amount. I knew that my parents were giving something like 5-7L that I somehow couldn't talk them out of but they insisted it was for us to buy stuff for our future home. My In-laws also talked about giving us stuff. So, I decided to let it go.

Now, I find out that everyone basically lied to me and on top of that, MY HUSBAND KNEW EVERYTHING.

For 2 days, I can't process what I'm feeling. I feel sad, betrayed and disgusted even looking at my husband. I can't bring myself to talk to him.

He keeps asking me what's wrong. Bringing me stuff I like. Trying to make me laugh. But I just have this idk how do I describe it, hollow type of feeling. I don't want to talk to him. I have already fought with my parents about the lie but I can't bring myself to talk to my husband. Something has just changed. IDK what to do.

I got married through AM about a month ago. We got introduced 2 years ago through mutual family friends. We hit it off quite well and bonded so well that people used to speculate that it was a love marriage.

Before, During and even after 1 month of our marriage, I felt super loved by my husband. Like that guy adored me. And I was so much in love with him.

2 days ago, I somehow found out that my husband's family took 30 L in dowry from us.

For my family, it's a huge amount. I knew that my parents were giving something like 5-7L that I somehow couldn't talk them out of but they insisted it was for us to buy stuff for our future home. My In-laws also talked about giving us stuff. So, I decided to let it go.

Now, I find out that everyone basically lied to me and on top of that, MY HUSBAND KNEW EVERYTHING.

For 2 days, I can't process what I'm feeling. I feel sad, betrayed and disgusted even looking at my husband. I can't bring myself to talk to him.

He keeps asking me what's wrong. Bringing me stuff I like. Trying to make me laugh. But I just have this idk how do I describe it, hollow type of feeling. I don't want to talk to him. I have already fought with my parents about the lie but I can't bring myself to talk to my husband. Something has just changed. IDK what to do.

I suddenly had to change home so my correspondence address is incorrect in my OTR. My permanent address is correct.

Will it affect my application & attempt??

How can I change it?

So, I have my wedding next month and I am in a dilemma. So help me out here.

I always wanted to wear a saree for my wedding even Jaimala. Something South Indian temple wedding style. My family is from North India where everyyyyyyyyyone wears Lehenga for Jaimala and Saree for wedding.

Now, me and my fiance have a considerable height difference. He looks way bigger than me and I'm kind of short and slim like 5 ft.

My parents think saree won't suit me for jaimala and I should buy a lehenga as it looks good on me and saree makes me look thin. So lehenga won't show that much of a size difference plus it'll be easier to carry.

But I just cannot feel happy in trying any lehenga. Even if it looks good.

My logic is it's a waste of money as one time wear plus it doesn't feel unique to me.

What should I do? Should I listen to my parents as they genuinely know what looks best on me and play it safe with lehenga? Or should I just go with saree even if I don't look as good as in lehenga and it's a risk????

Need ideas for a "bride baraat" where my family reaches the venue with lots of dance, music and happiness. We plan on having it one day before the wedding when we move into the hotel.

It'll be a day baraat in June end.

How can I make it fun and exciting?

Need ideas for a "bride baraat" where my family reaches the venue with lots of dance, music and happiness. We plan on having it one day before the wedding when we move into the hotel.

It'll be a day baraat in June end.

How can I make it fun and exciting?

Can someone please suggest some MUAs in the range of 10-25k for only wedding i.e. bridal.

Wedding is in July first week and I'm absolutely clueless here.

The wedding would be in Bihar. Also, do we have to pay the MUAs travel expenses too?

Pata hai aaj kya hua

I saw my fiance's gallery today because he was trying to show me something and I half expected it to be filled with his work photos but mannnnnnnn!!!! That baby has his entire gallery filled with random photos of me.

We are in LDR and connected through videocall doing random stuff. And he literally takes pictures of anything I do. Any weird expressions I make, just me walking around, me dancing, me cooking, doing dishes, sleeping plus the times we have met, childhood photos from my home. Just anything.

I also takes lots of random photos of him but yaaaaawwwwrrrrrrr it's nowhere near his collection. I love that baby bacchaaaaaaa so muchhhhhhhh!!!!!! uwu 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

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Asking for a friend

Well so, some sh*t happened and I was not able to prepare for this attempt at all. I have given 1 attempt till now. I want to skip this one but my family is adamant on me taking this attempt whatsoever so I have to give it. (Please don't come at me for this. Don't wanna go into nitty-gritty of why they want me to, my life my choice, why am I not refusing.......I just have to give it. I'll do my best in the next one)

I'm scoring around 50-60 in mocks and I honestly do not know what I have prepared.

Help me atleast make it to a decent score. I have no hope of clearing this one but I atleast want to give my best in the next few days.

What all I can do to increase my score in prelims.

May sound silly but well that's life. Sh*t happens.

I may not be able to break all the patriarchal rituals during my wedding but I'm working my azz off to get rid of as much bullsh*t as I can.

So after so many fights and pulling a lotttttttttttt of drama, I managed to finally visit my in-laws house before marriage today. YAYYYYYY!!!!

I come from a pretty conservative community and my parents were too rigid on not letting me visit my in-laws house. That's the norm here, girls don't go to in-laws' place before marriage. Nobody supported me.

Fought A LOT!! Manipulated the situation to the max. Used every trick I could think of.

Fiance was totally ok but then again his parents weren't. So we both idk how but somehow managed to create the situation where first his parents gave in and invited me. Then my parents agreed after so much drama.

Now, I just returned from their place and I am sooooooooo happy.

I know I won't be able to bring big changes and have an "equality waali shaadi". I'll probably have to sit and suffer through all the rituals that'll make me feel inferior in some way. My family will surely behave like the typical "I'm at your service 24*7" ladki waala.

But atleast I won once. One very small win after so many fights and losses BUT I WON GUYS. I feel like crying that I atleast managed to make a small dent 😭 .