r/ThirtiesIndia

You'll be shocked to see the dowry related cases and it's happening till date even in educated society. You should be ashamed if you are asking for dowry.

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Played a lot of video retro games in childhood. Now, playing them again.

Graphics - 10%

Enjoyment- 100%

Which one was your favorite?

Have you gone into AM with this thought?

I turned 33 today.

And honestly, if someone had met me in my early 20s, they would never have imagined I’d end up with this.

Because back then, I was a complete mess.

Never the “promising kid.”

Always average.

I’ve been in boys hostel since class 5, so I learned very early how to survive alone.

How to manage things myself.

How to hide emotions and act normal even when life wasn’t.

I joined a BTech college in Bhubaneswar for the dumbest reason possible:

my friend got admission there.

That was my level of planning in life.

Engineering was chaos.

Alcohol.

Smoking.

Weed almost daily.

Sleeping at 4 AM.

Waking up at 2 PM.

Missing classes.

No routine.

No ambition.

No direction.

I somehow got placed in an IT company with a 3.6 LPA package.

Joined only because Indian families need the sentence:

“Beta job pe lag gaya.”

For 2 years I just existed.

Office.

Trips.

Weekends.

Drinks.

Smoke.

Repeat.

The only good thing I did during those years was start investing early.

Somewhere, that slowly changed how I thought about life.

Then came the “I’ll crack CAT easily” phase.

Biggest overconfidence of my life.

I left my job thinking one year was enough.

Didn’t crack.

Then Covid came.

My sister faced serious health issues and multiple hospital rounds.

At the same time, I went through a HORRIBLE breakup.

That phase broke me completely.

For months I couldn’t eat properly.

Couldn’t focus.

Couldn’t explain to people what I was feeling.

Meanwhile friends were getting promoted, earning well, moving ahead in life.

And there I was:

gap years increasing,

confidence decreasing,

pretending everything was okay.

I genuinely felt like I had ruined my own life.

But somewhere, I still believed God had a plan.

So with whatever energy I had left, I gave one final attempt.

And somehow, cracked an IIM.

MBA changed me.

Not academically.

As a person.

For the first time, I started believing maybe I wasn’t useless after all.

Placements were brutal.

Rejections hurt.

But eventually I got into fintech.

Life slowly started becoming stable.

Around that time, I also looked at myself properly for the first time.

113 kg.

Unhealthy.

Smoker.

Bad habits everywhere.

That scared me.

So slowly, I changed my life.

Quit smoking completely.

Started reading.

Meditation.

Gym.

Journaling.

Clean diet.

Wake up at ~5.

Sleep at 11.

Just small habits repeated daily.

Today I’m 91 kg.

Health is improving.

Mind is calmer.

Life feels lighter.

Last year, I got married.

Arranged marriage.

And honestly, I got lucky.

After years of chaos, having someone peaceful beside you changes everything.

Financially too, things are good now.

Combined Monthly Income : 4 + lpm post tax

We invest together now and dream of achieving FIRE by 45-50.

But honestly, the biggest achievement at 33 is not money, MBA, or career.

It’s peace.

Because there was a time I truly believed I was a failure.

And no, this is not one of those “everything is perfect now” stories.

Life still has problems.

Still has stress.

Still has responsibilities, fears, uncertainties and battles I’m not even mentioning here.

Maybe those stories are for next birthday 😃

But one thing I’ve learned through all these years is this:

If your intent and intentions are right, life somehow slowly starts falling into place.

Not immediately.

But gradually.

At least that’s been my experience so far.

So if anyone in their 20s or 30s feels lost right now:

life can change very slowly… and then all at once.

Happy 33rd to me.

Hey y'all! Mention something you've Learned in your 30s, say a Skill, or Whatever you think has Added Value to You or your Life.

Also, Casual AMA if Anyone's Interested.

Let's hear them!

P. S.: Ignore the Money. 😝

Life has been tough lately, took a short trip.

This year started with a rough patch and an unrepairable loss.

Needed a small pause from everything for a bit.
Some good food, good views, and quieter days helped more than I expected :)

Mandi he market me isliye socha crime and punishment padha jaaye....

Russia ki bhukmari or Mera diet coke thoda poetic ho sakta he

Trying out watermelon cocktail with a bit of vodka

I work in a oil rig,

By me 🫣

So I wore my kit after 9 months because last year I got injured and then moved to Indore, but recently came back to Delhi and took my lifeline with me🫶🏻🤎