r/ThirtiesIndia

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To be clear my partner and I make decent money to lead a comfortable life. However, I feel like our expenses are just going up and we’re starting to feel the pinch. leisure things in particular are becoming almost unaffordable.

Something as basic as my kid’s diapers used to cost like 1.5k for a 90 piece pack. That’s now over 2k. My dog who has a lot of allergies is on veterinary food that costs like 8k a month. This was only about 5k last year. Our kid is not in school yet, but that will be another expense soon because school fees for kg these days is higher than my complete college fees. Then we have the usual stuff- petrol, gas, water and electricity bills that are sky high. Real estate prices just keep going up even if people aren’t buying and if you want to rent- good luck finding a decent apartment in a gated community for less than 50k minimum.

Coming to the more leisure things and stuff right off the top of my head- Whey protein prices are bloody insane. I remember the whole truth and ON costing like 3.5k. Now they’re almost 5k or more. WTF? If you want to go on a vacation, the flight charges to places like Vietnam that used to cost around 12-14k one way costs like 25k-40k one way now and airlines want to hike up the prices further??? If you look at domestic- the prices are as high as international. So, that looks difficult too. When do we ever get any respite from these crazy high prices? Our salaries are not increasing fast enough to keep up.

I know this is everyone’s condition and there’s not much we can do about it. And I also acknowledge that I’m privileged and better off than many in this country for whom even basic stuff may be inaccessible. I’m not trying to be an ungrateful snob. But I’m just so sick of this. It’s like we just can’t breathe anymore without a new expense coming up.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Increasingly it has become very very hard to stay focused on my job, and i am starting to hate it.. it feels stupid (its a BS job), and meaningless compared to raising my kid and actual world problems. The toxicity is worse, and i have put fown my papers. Now taking interviews for the same role in a different company feels equally horrid.

Is this a common thing in 30s? How do i deal witg this sluggishness?

Excel feels like hell and "circling back" feels pointless..

Wishing you all well!

Hello all

is it normal to have loss of excitement after reaching age of 28-29. Earlier doesn't matter what happened in the day, still most of the days were fine. Even doing nothing didn't feel guilty. After crossing this age, even after doing something productive, don't feel any excitement or something happy. Minor sense of achievement is there that last only for few min.

Now all days look same. Earlier even doing same thing regularly also felt different sometimes but that's not the case any more.

Is it normal? Also, people currently in 40s, was it same when you were at this age or is this a current generation issue or is it self personal issue?

It feels that life is teaching me another lesson. I am going through a breakup where my bf left me to pursue his own ambitions. We could not find a middle ground to continue our relationship. I had dreams of setting up a home with him. He asks me what do you want, while he was wanting me to give away my stability of years. I spent this many years of relationship around him and lost people who i called friends. Everyone has got families. Unfortunately families dont even like to hang out with a single woman of 34 yrs old. I had to remove those friends as they hurted me and stopped inviting me after they got married and had family. I was never close to my own family and it feels to me for some of us, we are not bound to find love that stays. I am afraid that i will get bitter and become unlikeable. He is going to follow lifetime of opportunity (big dream), while i dont know what my dream is and what do i want from my life. TLDR: how do you move on in your 30s post breakup? How do you find your dream and ambition? Or rediscover yourself.