ENFJ Mentor is EVERYTHING for this ENTP
Hi I am about to gush 🥰🤓
I am ENTP female with a lot of life experience that broke my Fe open. I have met an ENFJ who is decades older. We are a magical platonic alliance that I did not know was possible. I see him as a father figure - protector. He stepped into that role effortlessly.
To me he is 10,000 feet tall. The mutual respect and care is insane. I want to protect him in different ways and show care and love and give him Ti to help ground him when he's emotionally down. I speak truth to him and boss him around. But he speaks truth to me and bosses me around when necessary also. I always take his advice and wisdom seriously. It's like treasure. And I know when he gets firm that it's important and for my good.
We are in awe of each other. It is 100% platonic I call him grandpa and he calls me granddaughter. But it's the kind of love where i will actually visit him in the nursing home when it comes to that lol i make jokes about his age. I really really adore him. He triggers my ENTP loyalty one hundredfold. He is a diamond in the rough. I adore even his flaws.
We had instant chemistry when we met. But slowly became closer over time. it seems to get deeper and deeper. We seem to know how to give each other the reassurance we both need in the friendship. We can be vulnerable and fumble through the dynamic and we both give each other lots of grace. My appreciation for him has no end. He is safe.
We have so much in common film taste, music taste, sense of humor, I make him think - he calms me down. The banter is out of this world we keep exact rhythm time and pace with one another. We both read people super well but from a different lens so we love to compare notes. We love laughing together.
We both have the ability to over-give but we don't abuse that in each other - instead we appreciate and nurture it.
I call him my spiritual grandfather.
I am not used to being so seen, understood and embraced, led and respected without ulterior motives.
I don't think he is used to being seen and deeply cared for by others and I am expressive so i constantly tell him the good attributes i see in him. I make him blush and cry!
He feels safe to confide in me so much so that it surprises him! I think he senses I cherish what he shares and will keep it safe.
I think he is used to doing that and being that for others. Would you say that's common for you guys as ENFJs? I love to do things for him that show my care.
He is developed, effortlessly competent and super humble. He has my respect, which for me as ENTP is the gateway to love. His moral compass is excellent.
You ENFJ's are truly amazing people! I have always liked you guys, even ones who were not super healthy I've liked and admired. I just have respect for you guys. You seem to have an effortless professional competence about you. I really love it.
somehow - the enfj's ive met bring out a protective instinct in me. It's like i want to use my strength to keep ENFJ safe. Enfj's tend to ground me also but in a different way.
And now I feel like i have met a super-developed golden ENFJ! WOW! He has so much ✨wisdom✨
I just wanted to share this here because my heart is exploding with joy!
It's like I am so beyond honoured and humbled that this wise ENFJ elder has bonded to me.
Thank you for reading lol! Just HAD TO SHARE THIS!!!!!!