u/According_Effect_763

Kinda long but I’ll skip back story unless asked. Yesterday I (25F) asked my bd (37M) to bring his girlfriend of 8/9 months to dinner. He thinks I’m overreacting, trying to stir things up, and just be controlling and my family thinks I am meddling but really just push for no contact between us and my friends think I have handled the situation good and way better than I used to. When I asked him to bring her to dinner or ask her if she’d even come he immediately got defensive because his lies were exposed. Here are the screenshots from how I met her, and what he told me so I didn’t think I needed to speak with her since he pretty much got sneakier with how and who he brought her around because he knew it would get back to me. We broke up when my daughter turned 3 months and the next month she is cuddled up with my daughter. She princely was a friend of a friend, then someone he was having sex with, and now to certain people they’ve been dating for 8/9 months but to me she is just a friend and I’m stepping over our agreement (which is also in the messages) please let me know if I’m crazy? A jerk? Controlling? Or just reacting fine… 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

The texts are background and where I may have started to be the AH but I feel justified in my approach. Anyways this last Monday he let it slip to a group of people we both know that he has been in a relationship with the girl (S) for 8/9 months. I asked him yesterday for a sit down and now that I said they are dating he is still denying it. He got very defensive and stated I didn’t need to be meddling in his relationships whether fucking or not. I do not care who he’s fucking - if you ask for more background on our relationship I will answer - I just care about who is consistently around my under 2 yo daughter. I have literally seen her cuddled up with my daughter and now there are more pictures of it to which he denies. I do not have them since he was showing our mutual friends on his phone. Anyways he doesn’t think someone who is consistently around our daughter that he’s having sex with doesn’t concern me - is he correct and I’m being dramatic/overrbearing? Am I making it seem like I want him back? I asked for a dinner before the end of next week (which is his time with our daughter) and he said he may not be able to do it because it’s none of my business and she’s tried before and I refused. Which I did because as far as I knew she was J and Is mutual friends - friend, not his which is when the texts were sent. When I found out that was a lie.