Slow pace or just no interest?
Hi everyone,
I met this girl at the beginning of March on Hinge (we’re both 25 and she’s a few months older than me). Our first date was pickleball and a walk at an outdoor mall which was super fun but we didn’t hold hands, did a side hug and didn’t kiss (didn’t expect one so didn’t think too much of it). Second date was a walk in the hills (we live in SoCal) with her roommate, who did kinda wander off on her own, and even then we didn’t hold hands, kiss or show any kind of physical contact. Fine. Whatever. Maybe it’s just a slow pace? Third date we did a craft (just the 2 of us) at her place which was again super fun and played card games with her roommate. At the end, small hug, no kiss or anything further. Okay nice, fun time, again whatever, didn’t overthink it. Fourth date was her first time at mine and she came with her roommate because I wanted her to meet my friends at an event one of them was having. But before the event we got food with her roommate and I went on a beach walk with her (her roommate wandered off and wasn’t present for this) and didn’t hold hands or show any physical contact. She also kept referring to her roommate as a “chaperone” while we were on this walk. Alarm bells were getting louder. We go to the event and it’s actually super fun, we got a littleeee touchy but again nothing special and I asked my friend after what he thought and he said one of our mutual friends (mine and his) didn’t even know me and this girl were seeing each other (I guess the affection wasn’t obvious). After the events her and roommate came back to mine and left, we exchanged a hug, no kiss. We’ve hit 2 months of seeing each other and haven’t even held hands on a walk and have only exchanged hugs. We’ve been texting every single day since the beginning of March and have created a joint playlist and other cute things (I gifted her her favorite flower and gave her and roommate some honey from my family farm in Texas), and I really like it but for some reason I feel like she’s too afraid to let go of her roommate. I want to talk about it but I don’t want to overstep because I know how much her roommate means to her. I have no idea what to do to stop this from becoming a really good friendship. It’s gotten to the point where I’m scared to ask her to call me or FaceTime me (we’ve never done this) or even ask to hang 1on1 because I don’t want her to think I’m trying to pry her away from her roommate. This is my first ever “relationship” experience.
TL;DR: Been on 4 dates with a girl over 2 months and dates 2-4 have involved her roommate and we’ve never held hands or kissed.